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Why is my husband not pampering me enough?

I feel like my husband is not pampering me enough.  He thinks cause he cooks and works that's it.
I get no affection, or kisses, no sweet texts, beg for a kiss before I leave for work and always saying I love you first.
I feel like I'm in this pregnancy alone.  I feel like I'm the only one first time excitement of new baby because my husband has kids with his ex.

Re: Why is my husband not pampering me enough?

  • Oh, are we supposed to expect those things? Teasing!!!!! My DH and I have been together 20 yrs and affection continues to elude us for the most part. Romance on his part? Absolutely missing. I married a rock (dependable, not creative). I do have it in mind that if I were to offer the affection happily - waddle over (if pg) and grab him if he's on his way out without a kiss - it would work better than asking him to do it - when I am usually annoyed. I am reading the book "Playful Parenting" and it applies to marriage also. If you could be playful about it "OK, darling, I want to PRETEND you are excited about this baby" you might break through the crud more easily. I say that b/c I am finally getting more sleep and feel I might be able to do this myself. Easy talk, one day I'll walk this walk. ;)

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  • my DH is/was much the same way.  But he's been that way for the most part.  I kind of married a Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory. 
    TTC #1 Since 4/2010, Cycle 30
    Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant :p
    Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
    4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
    7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
    IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
    FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
    4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
    FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
    FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
    1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB :), 2nd u/s 146bpm
    baby girl born 5/10/13

    TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
    Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28. 
    IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
    IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
    IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
    FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
    FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!!  Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!

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  • My hubby has kids with ex and I sometimes feel I'm alone with my first baby excitement. I know he is happy but it is different for him it seems. Prolly just my paranoia.
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