Ugh I need to vent on my husband. He just pissed me off to no end and went to bed so now I'm just staring at the wall angry. This is our first child and I got him a Father's Day card. Well at 1:51am I realized it was officially Father's Day and got excited and wish him a happy Father's Day. His response? With an attitude "thanks." I gave him a weird face and was said what was that for? He then gave me another attitude and said "I've been waiting 2 hours for you to say that." Are you kidding me?? UGH I'm so angry. I didn't deserve that. We were playing games for a long time and I didn't realize the clock stroke 12. I can't believe he's honestly annoyed right now, I just want to cry
This is silly and it bothers me that's it's still bothering me lol. We had our baby shower today which my MIL hosted at our house (my husband and I live with her) however my MIL had been having a rough day thinking about my FIL who passed away and how he wasn't here for this event and was just not in the best of spirits. Well my Aunt who was in attendance has a bad habit of not catching on and being a bit self involved (she lost her husband 9 years ago) kept bringing up things to do with my father in law passing and such which was making my MIL more upset. Needless to say after they had gone I apologized to my MIL and tried to explain that my aunt just doesn't catch on to things and that I was really sorry. Well at that moment my sister in law who has a bad tendency to make blunt and/or unnecessary comments at times walks by and says "yeah your really bad about that too must be a family trait... Just sayin." And walks away. Wth?? I generally am pretty aware of people and their feelings so I always try to be sensitive to those around me. Or at least I thought I was? It really hurt my feelings she would make a flippant comment like that. It also bothered me that my MIL just sat there and said nothing. Granted I know that's her daughter but it still hurt my feeling. I also do realize her mind was on other things but it's not the first time my SIL has made flippant comments and she's just sat there and let her say things that I think would normally be considered uncalled for. It's worse too because overall I really love my SIL and MIL but sometimes when they are together they get into a sort of "mode" that I just don't always enjoy being around. Thanks for the thread I needed to get that out since it's apparently still bothering me. I guess I can chalk it up to hormones lol
My rant is my DH family, every other day, they change the shower date. Worst of all, they have yet to ASK ME if any of those dates work for me?!!?!?! I'm consistently moving shit around, canceling plans, moving my family shower because they chose the same day, then expected me to have both practically at the same time, towns apart, just to find out the day changes again!!! Very frustrating and I'm about to say not to worry about it. It's so stressful. They have great intentions but horrible communication skills. LOL
My rant I guess is just about being pregnant in general...and my fiancés unsupportiveness in it all! I am so sick of hurting all the time...I have issues with my bones and joints (my knees and such) and have the beginnings of what will be arthritis when I am older. Before I got pregnant I would take OstioBiFlex for it and an Aleve when I had flare ups, well since becoming pregnant I have not been able to take either and I just HURT!!...my lovely Fiancé thinks it is for some reason okay to mock me for this when I am trying to roll over in bed and cry out in pain because my hips hurt and I can't lay on either side for more than 30 minutes in addition to my shoulders, elbows, wrists, fingers, toes, knees and ankles going numb if I lay on one side for to long...and the normal pregnancy backaches!! Also if he makes one more comment on my eating habits right now I'm gonna choke him!!...I am constantly hungry and feel like I eat all the time. Iam very self conscious about the weight I have gained/will gain and it's like every time I put food near my mouth he has something to say...I was sitting there eating the other day and couldn't find the kitchen towel and his comment was, "are you sure you didn't eat that too?" Omg I could have slapped him!! And then the icing on the cake..I went to the jewelry store yesterday to try and have my engagement ring stretched a little as it has been so tight I can't take it on and off easily...well I get there and was so swollen they had to CUT it off of me!!!!....I about had a nervous breakdown in the middle of the store! I have so much fluid and have been swelling so bad...I come home from work and my ankles are almost the size of my calves! Now I don't get my ring back for 2 weeks and they are having to go up 2 sizes!! Sorry this is so long but I really appreciate the opportunity to let that all out!...I was just laying in bed this morning crying and got on here and found this post! Thanks ladies!
So glad I came across this post because I am feeling very annoyed today.. Now my rant just seems silly compared to most of these but I'll say it anyways.. Why is it so impossible for people to RSVP to things!! I sent out baby shower invitations almost a month ago and today was the RSVP date and out of the 70 people we sent out invites to we heard back from less then 20.. You are all grown people how hard is it to get back to someone, even if the answer if no at least have the curtesy to get back to someone!
Rant part 2: Now I know it's summer and people treasure the weekends but when I ask you if you can come and your answer is "well I'm away most weekends so I dunno" I really want to tell you to F off.. You really can't take a few hours out of your Sunday to spend time with your family, or I've gotten the "well since these people aren't going I'm not going to go, I won't know anyone" oh I'm sorry is this a high school party last time I checked your like 50 and YOU KNOW ME! I'm the only person you have to know to be invited!
@odelay omg, you poor sweet lady! Your husband needs a good kick in the pants! What a jerk! Has he not done any research of what is going on w your body? I read my husband the symptoms and baby progress every week/ found a really easy and short to the point dad book for him to read. It's not fair to have to explain everydetail if your changes and symptoms!!! I bring my groceries in too. But lol, I have to take a snack break before or during. It's pathetic but it's alot of work! I'm so sorry he isn't being more compassionate! I would be so pissed off. I hope things get better or that when the baby comes he is alot more helpful! !!
Thank goodness for this post! So my husband and I lost our first child at 10 weeks last October. We then found out on Christmas that his brother and wife were pregnant. They showed no consideration for how hard it was to find out as she held up a prego test on FaceTime. Well, unfortunately, she lost her first child a few weeks later at 7 weeks in January. My husband and I found out on New Years that we were prego again and did not share the news until we were 14 weeks and had the 2nd dr appt that everything was ok. Also, we just registered at 27 weeks and sent out invites this week as well. So my husband and I find out yesterday that my SIL and BIL who lost the baby in January are pregnant again, happy for them overall, BUT she already registered!! She's only 8 weeks and her name comes up when you search for my registry. Feeling hurt and that she just wants the attention. She has not dealt with the miscarriage and I think is trying to forget by completely focusing on this one but seriously?!?! There are no plans for a shower for her, half the family doesn't even know! My husband and I were so scared to tell people when we got pregnant again and here she is announcing at 8 weeks!! Ugh! Rant over...
So my rant today is about my stupid house! My husband bought the house in January of 2011 and I moved in June of 2012... It is now June 2015 and the upstairs still looks like a frat house aside from the bathroom (which had to be gutted a year and a half ago because the toilet was sinking through the floor) and the baby's room! In our room the walls and the ceiling are the same hideous shade of periwinkle, and there are holes in the walls that have been patched from when the house was rewired. The guest room ceiling needs to be repaired from a leaky roof which was fixed this spring and also has patched up holes from the rewiring! I've been wanting to get this all done for years, and my husband just keeps putting it off... He built his stupid greenhouse but I can't get my bedroom painted! I am very grateful to have a roof over my head, it's just frustrating because everything takes him forever to get done!
So I know nothing I am experiencing is unique...and tons of mamas have way more going on than me. (Perspective right?)
But, today I found out I have gestational diabetes. This is on top of gestational hypertension, an issue with the cord, and an issue with the placenta.
It's just a lot to try not to over think. Honestly, the diabetes scared me more than anything, as I know the long term risks of diabetes later on.
I broke down when the nurse told me. It was high enough after the 1 hour test I don't even have to do a 3 hour test.
OK end rant. I did schedule my 4 d ultrasound. Maybe seeing my little one will help relax me some.
The baby's father and I aren't together but we had been working on being better friends and the end goal eventually was communicated to hopefully work out the kinks so that we could be together. Or so I thought. He reveal got a new puppy for free and I love him to death he's the cutest border collie ever. Well I go over Monday's and Wednesdays to feed the dog at his house he shares with two roommates who are very responsible guys. I go to his room where the puppy is in a cage during the day while he is at work. Which is why I go over and play with him or take him with me for a few hours to feed him and instead I find his ex gf in his bed. So add my hormones and the obvious lies I've been told and that's the day I've had. Sorry had to get that off my chest. Just been a less than amazing day. But the baby and I are okay and we will stay that way. Needed to vent, thanks ladies
Called my mom to see if she could watch my kids while I went in for the results of my 3 hour glucose test. I got to her house and found out she was going with me. Before leaving I grabbed a soda to drink and she instantly went on a rant about me eating right.I tried to ignore it.
I got to doctor and found out that I failed the 3 hour test too ! My mom started to tell the doctor all the bad stuff I had eaten over the last couple days which by the the way was only A slice of cake and a coke! She's freaking out and stressing me out as if I'm going to die tomorrow! She went on another rant about how I have to start eating right. Which I don't think I eat that bad. I don't eat 5 meals a day but it's not like in sitting back shoving burgers, fries and Twinkies in my mouth for every meal! On top of all of that she told me that the GD could make my baby be born with a huge head( she was very adamant about it) I understand that she is a diabetic but that doesn't mean that I will forever be one or that she knows everything about how diabetes and how it relates to me !
So I know nothing I am experiencing is unique...and tons of mamas have way more going on than me. (Perspective right?)
But, today I found out I have gestational diabetes. This is on top of gestational hypertension, an issue with the cord, and an issue with the placenta.
It's just a lot to try not to over think. Honestly, the diabetes scared me more than anything, as I know the long term risks of diabetes later on.
I broke down when the nurse told me. It was high enough after the 1 hour test I don't even have to do a 3 hour test.
OK end rant. I did schedule my 4 d ultrasound. Maybe seeing my little one will help relax me some.
Your situation sounds similar to mine! I failed the one hour by more than 50. Do yea I've been freaked out! Praying that we both figure this out and not let it get the best if us!
@Crook251 thanks! I started checking my blood sugar at home last night. Definitely not where the numbers should be, but not nearly as bad as after the test. I was really scared when I saw the number. I feel like it will be manageable hopefully. At least next week I get to do a 4d ultrasound to see the baby before my next appointment. So a little something positive to go with figuring out how we are going to treat it.
Message me if you ever need to rant. Trust me, hubby was trying to motivate me to exercise last night and debating treatment guidelines. So I just told him I wasn't ready to talk about it yet. We agreed one more day to accept and then we will attack it.
I'm feeling kinda guilty.... So fiancé and I were cleaning through old boxes of stuff trying to find his birth certificate that he misplaces *sigh* and we found and old cell phone of his. Well last night after got called into work I was peaking through it to see what my fiancé was like before I met him and I happened to find some old texts. I wasn't mad at what I read since they were from long before I met him but I noticed the number looked framiliar and when I checked his phone I saw it was a girl he talks to quiet frequently, and I've had issues with her over stepping boundaries in the past as well but never said anything other than to tell him she'd made me uncomfortable in those circumstances and every time he'd tell me "we're just friends we've only ever been friends don't worry she's just a silly girl". Well awhile back we drifted apart and he barely spoke to me. Anytime I tried to open up to him or talk to him he'd brush me off and I'd fine calls and texts to her where he just poured his soul out, and at one point shed told him to leave me and come live "happily ever after" with her. I was furious and told him I'd had enough that she made me uncomfortable and I wanted it done with, after I'd calmed down he talked me and told he wouldn't stop talking to her and I had nothing worry about and blah blah blah so I let it go.
Wellll the only reason I let it go was because I believed they'd never been romantically involved just to find out they had and he lied about it. Well I asked him about it this morning and he admitted he lied about it because he thought id tell him they can't talk if he'd told. One) I've never been like that. I may get jealous but I'm level headed enough to not be THAT jealous or cruel. And two) he has three or four other friends that are ex's that I'm beyond fine with and even talk to regularly now!! So where he got that is beyond me. I was so hurt and upset over all of it that I had a huge breakdown and he said he'd block her and he wouldn't talk to her. I told him he didn't have to, that again it was the past and I was only hurt he felt he had to lie to... Well he said he already did because my comfort was all that mattered (well since he got caught anyway). Well I just checked his phone and she's not blocked on anything so he lied AGAIN! And to top it off there was a text from her saying I love you too but the rest of the texts were deleted so I didn't see what she was responding to, but I hit my wits end and messaged her myself telling her I was no longer comfortable with their friendship and from here on out I wanted her to have no part of our lives. She fought me on it but I told her that that was final to me.
But here's the thing is now I feel guilty cause she's not the one that lied to me he is... And I hate being controlling and saying who he can and can't talk to... Did I do the right thing?
My husband used all the toilet paper so we're out. I'm too uncomfortable to go out right now and he REFUSES to go get more...I could kill him right now I'm so mad!
Our new home is finally finished and we are moving in this weekend.. With that said moving while pregnant just blows! I'm so overwhelmed and annoyed with everyone and everything. I've been trying to pack a few things here and there but most of the things we have we use so they can't really be packed till last minute. Movers are coming Saturday and we just got boxes this week, and now DH really thinks (because I'm currently not working, going back Monday) I'm expected to pack Everything except his "man room" he's going to take care of that. It's 90 outside I'm 29wks pregnant and lifting and bending and trying to keep my cats out of the boxes as I put stuff in them is just exhausting, so tonight I lost it and told him he had to help me or it just wasn't going to get done. So we start packing the kitchen and now he's complaining I'm too slow! Oh sorry I'm wrapping our dishes and glasses before throwing them in boxes, I didn't know we were loaded and could replace them if they broke! And I'm trying to be some what organized and put like items together and he's just throwing stuff wherever it fits! Now don't get me wrong I love him dearly and he is an amazing husband that would do anything for me and his soon to be son.. But right now I just want to punch him in the face haha
My Rant! Round ligament pains are the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life. How come no one told me about this before I got pregnant!!!!
So... My sister is visiting from the US. We just moved abroad three months ago and we're still adjusting, unpacking, living with the in laws, figuring stuff out. It's a bit too soon for her to come visit but she is not the type to think about others too much. In addition, our grandma is in the hospital from cancer complications, and my cousin had her baby a few days ago. People don't have the time to take care of a visitor properly right now. My sister landed in the midst of all this with her new boyfriend posting all over facebook about how much *fun they're having in Europe*. Except yesterday, the situation looked like this: DH rushed from work (we have one cat atm) so we could take them somewhere nice. We ended up having after dinner coffee in an awesome cafe that put out deep wicker chairs into the cloisters of an old church, and there was a theater troop practicing dancing and walking on stilts in the courtyard to amazing violin music. It was an amazing, warm evening and all my sister could do was sit there on her phone and look incredibly bored and ask 'are we going home after this?' and 'we're going to the car right?' with a pouty face. I just want her to go home!!! I feel like a terrible sister, but someone asked me the other day if she was 17 and going through teenage angst, and I sadly had to say, alas no, she's almost 27... she just acts like a spoiled teenager... Ugh, got that off my chest!!!
The mail lady is afraid of my dog because he barks... And wags his tail... With a toy in his mouth... So she has started leaving the mail on a bench on my porch which is literally five steps from the mailbox. Well we had a horrible storm and if I wasn't as quick as I was my mail would've been blown all over the front lawn!
Also said storm was on Tuesday and has left my parents with out power and their street impassable. Every other street in their neighborhood has their power back and cleaned up but them! Their are wires and trees all over the street.
@alleecats I am so pissed at your fiance reading your post. You are engaged, this is not something you should be dealing with when you are engaged....especially pregnant! Do not feel bad! He should be the one that feels bad! I haven't had these same issues with my husband but we have had issues and the one and only thing that helped us through these issues is communication. I had to learn how to not hold ANYTHING in. If you cant trust him you are always going to have that hanging over your head. You have to get to the bottom of this so you can move on! You should be focusing on baby not an ex girlfriend. I hope everything works out for you and that woman is out of your lives forever!
squigles28 - I feel you on gestational diabetes. I usually have a great sense of humor over all things pregnancy related but when my dh tried (bless) to make light, I pretty much lost the plot.
IT will be fine. We will get through it, but it's another pain in the a$$ to have to deal with it. Hugs to you xxx
Varicose veins. 8-| With my son, I got one and it never really faded. I noticed this morning another one has popped up in the same area. Anyone else have this lovely side effect of pregnancy?
I'm feeling kinda guilty.... So fiancé and I were cleaning through old boxes of stuff trying to find his birth certificate that he misplaces *sigh* and we found and old cell phone of his. Well last night after got called into work I was peaking through it to see what my fiancé was like before I met him and I happened to find some old texts. I wasn't mad at what I read since they were from long before I met him but I noticed the number looked framiliar and when I checked his phone I saw it was a girl he talks to quiet frequently, and I've had issues with her over stepping boundaries in the past as well but never said anything other than to tell him she'd made me uncomfortable in those circumstances and every time he'd tell me "we're just friends we've only ever been friends don't worry she's just a silly girl". Well awhile back we drifted apart and he barely spoke to me. Anytime I tried to open up to him or talk to him he'd brush me off and I'd fine calls and texts to her where he just poured his soul out, and at one point shed told him to leave me and come live "happily ever after" with her. I was furious and told him I'd had enough that she made me uncomfortable and I wanted it done with, after I'd calmed down he talked me and told he wouldn't stop talking to her and I had nothing worry about and blah blah blah so I let it go.
Wellll the only reason I let it go was because I believed they'd never been romantically involved just to find out they had and he lied about it. Well I asked him about it this morning and he admitted he lied about it because he thought id tell him they can't talk if he'd told. One) I've never been like that. I may get jealous but I'm level headed enough to not be THAT jealous or cruel. And two) he has three or four other friends that are ex's that I'm beyond fine with and even talk to regularly now!! So where he got that is beyond me. I was so hurt and upset over all of it that I had a huge breakdown and he said he'd block her and he wouldn't talk to her. I told him he didn't have to, that again it was the past and I was only hurt he felt he had to lie to... Well he said he already did because my comfort was all that mattered (well since he got caught anyway). Well I just checked his phone and she's not blocked on anything so he lied AGAIN! And to top it off there was a text from her saying I love you too but the rest of the texts were deleted so I didn't see what she was responding to, but I hit my wits end and messaged her myself telling her I was no longer comfortable with their friendship and from here on out I wanted her to have no part of our lives. She fought me on it but I told her that that was final to me.
But here's the thing is now I feel guilty cause she's not the one that lied to me he is... And I hate being controlling and saying who he can and can't talk to... Did I do the right thing?
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I had an x like that, we were young/not engaged or pregnant so it isn't exactly the same situation, but I can relate so much! Tell him to see how he would feel if the situation was reversed. Maybe that will open his eyes? Also, I'm a firm believer in the "it might not be technically cheating BUT if you feel like you have to lie and hide it from me...then you probably shouldn't be doing it!"
I ended up cutting things off with him, but like I said, the circumstances were different! Maybe counseling could help, or a trusted third party to help sort things out? You had every reason to be upset! I agree with you about the fact that he was the one in your relationship and that she didn't lie to you, BUT she knows about you so she is in the wrong. He needs to understand what he did was wrong, then he needs to work on slowly earning your trust back!! Once again, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.
After running around a store with my potty training toddler yelling "POTTY POTTY!!!" and not able to find the potty, found this sign: "CASHIER HAS BATHROOM KEY" Ran all the way back to the front of the store to get the key and all the way BACK to the bathroom with said toddler in my arms...and got peed on for my trouble. Now she's hysterical because she had an accident and we both need a change of clothes. :-(
Oh my gosh @aleecats! I'd be furious with both of them because they are both in the wrong! And I'd especially be pissed about the love you too text because apparently he said it to her first. After something like that, my trust for my SO would be gone and trust is a hard thing to gain back! I don't have any advice for you but good luck to you and hopefully things will all work out whether it's with each other or being apart and co-parenting this baby.
This is gonna be a long whiney rant just to warn you all!
So last summer I lived with my boyfriend of 2 years and we planned on driving to Vegas to get wedding band tattoos and get married. We got to the chapel after our tattoos and I lost my ID! We drove home then we both lost our jobs and things got hard and they didn't last long after that. He decided to move out of town for work (which I found out through Facebook) and then left and I moved back in with my parents. 2 days later I was in emergency because I had to have an emergency gallbladder removal and he never even asked how I was or anything-.- so I recover and time passes of us still talking and saying that maybe I should move out there with him because of all the job opportunities, then we could get married and start a family so I have my IUD taken out (and for all the medical reasons too). But, no he decides he doesn't want any "distractions" right now. So I left him alone and we didn't talk at all, I started going on dates with someone else and as soon as he finds out BAM he's calling me asking when I can move out there with him and that we should start our family.... So I say okay, maybe a new start for us is just what we need and after months of trying I kept getting negative pregnancy tests, which was really heartbreaking! My boyfriend was just being so clingy after he realized that I too could find someone else if things didn't work out so he was just smothering me all the time.Then my grandma starts deteriorating fast and I move home and she dies of cancer. He moves back too after a while and all the added stress of not getting pregnant, his clinging, and my grandmas passing just had me on edge all the time so on night I just blew up and broke up with him and he tried for a week to come and see me and talk to me but I was just done. Then 1 week later I got some heartburn(I hadn't had any since my gallbladder removal) and sure enough, I just knew I was pregnant. When I went to speak to him to tell him he was so angry with me for thinking I could just come back after ignoring him all week and he got even more upset when I said I was pregnant. I tried leaving and he wouldn't let me until we talked it out. I told him that I didn't need him I could do this all on my own. He suggested that we got back together and I said no because I don't think that we needed to force ourselves into that. More months went by and we decided to give it another chance after all. Then I found out he was texting another girl saying that he and I weren't together and that he made plans to take her out that night so I told him that we did not have to be a couple and that I wouldn't take him out of the babies life just because we weren't together and he said no that he wanted to be with me he was just freaking out. So we tried again, last chance. Then my mom tells EVERYONE how she's not going to be a grandma and that I'm a disappointment. Thankfully she's come around, because we found out I'm having a girl. But now my mom keeps saying things like "can you just have the baby and move out so I can adopt her" uh no. Then my great grandma has a heart attack in Mother's Day, my step dad finds out he has another 18 year old daughter from a one night stand before he and my mom started dating and he has a heart attack on Father's Day, my great grandma falls and breaks her hip the day after, and I have not been able to sleep more than 3 hours a day for about a month so my stress level is through the roof. Then I Come to find out there have been multiple girls that my bd has been texting and talking through my whole pregnancy.
After that I just walked out of his house and didn't say a word, he hasn't tried to contact me at all, which is a good thing. but it hurts to know that he had every opportunity to say he wanted to just be friends because I asked him so many times if he was sure, and he still didn't have the balls to say it.
Anyway, he's not going on her birth certificate because there's NO WAY I will ever have shared custody with him to where he an be alone with my daughter.
Oh also I've bought everything she needs crib, bath, bouncer, cradle, bassinet, clothes, EVERYTHING. And he thinks because he put in $200 for her $300 stroller that he deserves for her to have his last name, lol NOPE.
I've even told his mom, grandma, and aunts that he will not be on there and they were all crying but I'm not sorry because he had every opportunity to make things right and he didn't.
Ugh longest rant ever, it did feel good to just let it out though lol
Some A-hole in the office spilt their coffee and didn't clean it up and I slipt and fell in it this morning. Baby and I are ok but it really pisses me off someone was so careless
DH is taking the kids to mountains for some camping this morning. These children do not naturally wake before 7:30 in the summer...unless you tell them that they'll be getting up early. Then they're up at 5:30. Asking lots of questions.
Where is DH?
In the bathroom!
But it's okay! Because not only are DH and the kids up, but so is the kitten with wild, crazy eyes and the 26 week old baby bouncing on my bladder. And now me.
::sigh:: all I want is to sleep! Without questions! Or little kitten pounces on my face!
Normally, I'd really want to go to the mountains too...not so much this go around.
Our new home is finally finished and we are moving in this weekend.. With that said moving while pregnant just blows! I'm so overwhelmed and annoyed with everyone and everything. I've been trying to pack a few things here and there but most of the things we have we use so they can't really be packed till last minute. Movers are coming Saturday and we just got boxes this week, and now DH really thinks (because I'm currently not working, going back Monday) I'm expected to pack Everything except his "man room" he's going to take care of that. It's 90 outside I'm 29wks pregnant and lifting and bending and trying to keep my cats out of the boxes as I put stuff in them is just exhausting, so tonight I lost it and told him he had to help me or it just wasn't going to get done. So we start packing the kitchen and now he's complaining I'm too slow! Oh sorry I'm wrapping our dishes and glasses before throwing them in boxes, I didn't know we were loaded and could replace them if they broke! And I'm trying to be some what organized and put like items together and he's just throwing stuff wherever it fits! Now don't get me wrong I love him dearly and he is an amazing husband that would do anything for me and his soon to be son.. But right now I just want to punch him in the face haha
This was us two weeks ago. I packed up everything but his clothes. I kept complaining that I have too much stuff and wanted to throw it all away. We only had a one bedroom apartment and moved into his 4 bedroom house that was previously rented out. He's never moved with anything more than a few boxes--- not a fully loaded kitchen or all my classroom supplies. He was a serious butthead! Next time, everything gets sold and he's buying me new stuff so I don't have to hear it.
Ugh. OK, so my husband offered to make me breakfast. It's noon and he just went to the store. I'm sick now from waiting to eat. And because I am watching my carbs, I know my sugar will be high from having to eat a snack now and breakfast in a bit. I appreciate him making me food and buying food and all that. But I'm on a limited food schedule. And he's being grumpy about it too. I'd rather just eat oatmeal and be done. I know. I'm spoiled by him. It's more just that he doesn't realize how hard it is to sit and wait until lunchtime to eat and that I worry about everything I put in my mouth now and its timing.
My rant - I'm jealous of DH. He works from home, makes his own hours and generally has the flexibility to exercise, do gardening, etc during the day. I work full-time in a corporate environment that requires 50+ hour work weeks, extensive travel and business dress. Our two children go to school about 25 minutes from our house and I have to drop them off and pick them up everyday because the time it takes my DH is too long for him to waste and it's kind of on my way to work. By the time I get home at 6pm I feel like I've lived 3 days in 1 and he's all happy and relaxed. I'm sick of working, really sick of non stop traveling (esp flying while pregnant) and sick of being stuck in a corporate environment so I can provide the health benefits. I could never be a SAHM but I could totally use a year off from work (while kids are at school!). End rant.
@LaurenNewph I feel your pain! I too have an amazing greenhouse in my backyard but can't get my husband to put away his laundry, let alone move the furniture so we can start the nursery. My 6 year old has been more of a help than DH lately. Good luck!!!
(Took me for ever to find this post) So I have a neighbor in my building that is an opera singer and she practices in her apartment. She lives two floors above me and keeps her windows opened. Me being an artist myself I understand how much work goes in to creating something and how many hours it takes to perfect it. But! OMG she sounds like a dying cat/wolf from where I am sitting and it's so annoying!!!! I am trying to concentrate myself on my painting and all I hear is Oooo, ooo, OOOOOOOOH, uuuuu, ooooooOooooOOO, YUuuu for hours on end. Don't take me wrong. If you stand next to her she sounds absolutely lovey but pass a few walls and out the window that sound is unbearable!
I'm so glad someone bumped this thread back up! I've been needing it!!
My fiancé and I have been fighting like crazy, and the thing is is he is bipolar and he's been without medical insurance so it's gone u medicated for a few months now. It's made fighting really bad, the smallest things piss him off and they always escalate to an extreme. I've been trying to be supportive of him knowing how hard it is for him being off his meds (thank the good lord he goes in this week to see his doctor and get medicated again finally!!) but he's said some really hurtful things lately that I can't forgive or let go of.
For one, last month while fighting he told me I was the reason he started smoking again and I was the reason he's unhappy. I took it kinda hard (obviously and started crying, which since I've been pregnant I cry ALOT). He told me that crying wverytime we fight is pathetic and it's just my way of manipulating him... It's not I cry when my feelings get hurt. Since then I've had trouble letting guard down and crying in front of him; and if I do I feel worse.
Then last Thursday I pushed his buttons (I admit I didn't help to de-escalate the situation) and he got so mad at me he told me he hates being around me, and that I stress him out and that he doesn't like living with me. When he calmed down a little he asked me if I ever doubted we we're meant to be together and I answered honestly no, to which he told me that I shouldn't lie and he's not going to that he has doubted it...
Since then we just haven't been the same. Like I said I'm trying to be understanding since I suffer with mental illness too and I know he's not like this at all when he's medicated! But I'm kinda sick of being the punching bag. And a lot of the things that have been said aren't things I can just brush off and forget, things always blow over and we move on but I can feel a change in our relationship. *sigh*
My landlady! She lives next door and is always up on our business! She wants to have the entire exterior of the house repainted the week I'm due and it will take three weeks! I can't imagine me inside the house hiding with all the windows shut, no AC in the hottest month, dogs constantly barking at all the strange men outside and me trying to figure out how to deal with a newborn baby!
I'm over my husband's family. Bunch old hens being intrusive and expecting to.just slide into my business without hardly knowing me. Even though it's been over 10 years with my husband and not much effort to get to know me, suddenly I'm supposed to just be so accommodating just because they decide to come visit? I'm so not in the state of mind to be playing hostess and having them come stay with us while I'm exhausted! I let my mother in law and her sister stay one night but that's it, they were sent off to the other Aunts house for the 2nd night. Is it so terrible that I didn't want them to stay? Part of it is because my husband works the weekends and at night, so I get stuck all alone, talking and talking, forcing conversation and it's exhausting for me! Uggg!!! But then I just look.like a bratt, but they can be as brash and say rude things to me and make intentional pokey bad jokes and I'm not allowed to be annoyed. Grrrrrr!!!!!
Re: Rant away! Need to let off steam, feel free to do it here!!
Rant part 2: Now I know it's summer and people treasure the weekends but when I ask you if you can come and your answer is "well I'm away most weekends so I dunno" I really want to tell you to F off.. You really can't take a few hours out of your Sunday to spend time with your family, or I've gotten the "well since these people aren't going I'm not going to go, I won't know anyone" oh I'm sorry is this a high school party last time I checked your like 50 and YOU KNOW ME! I'm the only person you have to know to be invited!
End rant... For now
But, today I found out I have gestational diabetes. This is on top of gestational hypertension, an issue with the cord, and an issue with the placenta.
It's just a lot to try not to over think. Honestly, the diabetes scared me more than anything, as I know the long term risks of diabetes later on.
I broke down when the nurse told me. It was high enough after the 1 hour test I don't even have to do a 3 hour test.
OK end rant. I did schedule my 4 d ultrasound. Maybe seeing my little one will help relax me some.
I got to doctor and found out that I failed the 3 hour test too ! My mom started to tell the doctor all the bad stuff I had eaten over the last couple days which by the the way was only A slice of cake and a coke! She's freaking out and stressing me out as if I'm going to die tomorrow! She went on another rant about how I have to start eating right. Which I don't think I eat that bad. I don't eat 5 meals a day but it's not like in sitting back shoving burgers, fries and Twinkies in my mouth for every meal! On top of all of that she told me that the GD could make my baby be born with a huge head( she was very adamant about it) I understand that she is a diabetic but that doesn't mean that I will forever be one or that she knows everything about how diabetes and how it relates to me !
Sorry so long.! But I feel better!
Married: December 19, 2009
Married: December 19, 2009
Message me if you ever need to rant. Trust me, hubby was trying to motivate me to exercise last night and debating treatment guidelines. So I just told him I wasn't ready to talk about it yet. We agreed one more day to accept and then we will attack it.
I wasn't mad at what I read since they were from long before I met him but I noticed the number looked framiliar and when I checked his phone I saw it was a girl he talks to quiet frequently, and I've had issues with her over stepping boundaries in the past as well but never said anything other than to tell him she'd made me uncomfortable in those circumstances and every time he'd tell me "we're just friends we've only ever been friends don't worry she's just a silly girl".
Well awhile back we drifted apart and he barely spoke to me. Anytime I tried to open up to him or talk to him he'd brush me off and I'd fine calls and texts to her where he just poured his soul out, and at one point shed told him to leave me and come live "happily ever after" with her. I was furious and told him I'd had enough that she made me uncomfortable and I wanted it done with, after I'd calmed down he talked me and told he wouldn't stop talking to her and I had nothing worry about and blah blah blah so I let it go.
Wellll the only reason I let it go was because I believed they'd never been romantically involved just to find out they had and he lied about it. Well I asked him about it this morning and he admitted he lied about it because he thought id tell him they can't talk if he'd told. One) I've never been like that. I may get jealous but I'm level headed enough to not be THAT jealous or cruel. And two) he has three or four other friends that are ex's that I'm beyond fine with and even talk to regularly now!! So where he got that is beyond me. I was so hurt and upset over all of it that I had a huge breakdown and he said he'd block her and he wouldn't talk to her. I told him he didn't have to, that again it was the past and I was only hurt he felt he had to lie to... Well he said he already did because my comfort was all that mattered (well since he got caught anyway). Well I just checked his phone and she's not blocked on anything so he lied AGAIN! And to top it off there was a text from her saying I love you too but the rest of the texts were deleted so I didn't see what she was responding to, but I hit my wits end and messaged her myself telling her I was no longer comfortable with their friendship and from here on out I wanted her to have no part of our lives. She fought me on it but I told her that that was final to me.
But here's the thing is now I feel guilty cause she's not the one that lied to me he is... And I hate being controlling and saying who he can and can't talk to... Did I do the right thing?
Our new home is finally finished and we are moving in this weekend.. With that said moving while pregnant just blows! I'm so overwhelmed and annoyed with everyone and everything. I've been trying to pack a few things here and there but most of the things we have we use so they can't really be packed till last minute. Movers are coming Saturday and we just got boxes this week, and now DH really thinks (because I'm currently not working, going back Monday) I'm expected to pack Everything except his "man room" he's going to take care of that. It's 90 outside I'm 29wks pregnant and lifting and bending and trying to keep my cats out of the boxes as I put stuff in them is just exhausting, so tonight I lost it and told him he had to help me or it just wasn't going to get done. So we start packing the kitchen and now he's complaining I'm too slow! Oh sorry I'm wrapping our dishes and glasses before throwing them in boxes, I didn't know we were loaded and could replace them if they broke! And I'm trying to be some what organized and put like items together and he's just throwing stuff wherever it fits! Now don't get me wrong I love him dearly and he is an amazing husband that would do anything for me and his soon to be son.. But right now I just want to punch him in the face haha
Also said storm was on Tuesday and has left my parents with out power and their street impassable. Every other street in their neighborhood has their power back and cleaned up but them! Their are wires and trees all over the street.
squigles28 - I feel you on gestational diabetes. I usually have a great sense of humor over all things pregnancy related but when my dh tried (bless) to make light, I pretty much lost the plot.
IT will be fine. We will get through it, but it's another pain in the a$$ to have to deal with it. Hugs to you xxx
I ended up cutting things off with him, but like I said, the circumstances were different! Maybe counseling could help, or a trusted third party to help sort things out? You had every reason to be upset! I agree with you about the fact that he was the one in your relationship and that she didn't lie to you, BUT she knows about you so she is in the wrong. He needs to understand what he did was wrong, then he needs to work on slowly earning your trust back!! Once again, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.
After running around a store with my potty training toddler yelling "POTTY POTTY!!!" and not able to find the potty, found this sign: "CASHIER HAS BATHROOM KEY" Ran all the way back to the front of the store to get the key and all the way BACK to the bathroom with said toddler in my arms...and got peed on for my trouble. Now she's hysterical because she had an accident and we both need a change of clothes. :-(
Oh my gosh @aleecats! I'd be furious with both of them because they are both in the wrong! And I'd especially be pissed about the love you too text because apparently he said it to her first. After something like that, my trust for my SO would be gone and trust is a hard thing to gain back! I don't have any advice for you but good luck to you and hopefully things will all work out whether it's with each other or being apart and co-parenting this baby.
So last summer I lived with my boyfriend of 2 years and we planned on driving to Vegas to get wedding band tattoos and get married. We got to the chapel after our tattoos and I lost my ID! We drove home then we both lost our jobs and things got hard and they didn't last long after that. He decided to move out of town for work (which I found out through Facebook) and then left and I moved back in with my parents. 2 days later I was in emergency because I had to have an emergency gallbladder removal and he never even asked how I was or anything-.- so I recover and time passes of us still talking and saying that maybe I should move out there with him because of all the job opportunities, then we could get married and start a family so I have my IUD taken out (and for all the medical reasons too). But, no he decides he doesn't want any "distractions" right now. So I left him alone and we didn't talk at all, I started going on dates with someone else and as soon as he finds out BAM he's calling me asking when I can move out there with him and that we should start our family.... So I say okay, maybe a new start for us is just what we need and after months of trying I kept getting negative pregnancy tests, which was really heartbreaking! My boyfriend was just being so clingy after he realized that I too could find someone else if things didn't work out so he was just smothering me all the time.Then my grandma starts deteriorating fast and I move home and she dies of cancer. He moves back too after a while and all the added stress of not getting pregnant, his clinging, and my grandmas passing just had me on edge all the time so on night I just blew up and broke up with him and he tried for a week to come and see me and talk to me but I was just done. Then 1 week later I got some heartburn(I hadn't had any since my gallbladder removal) and sure enough, I just knew I was pregnant. When I went to speak to him to tell him he was so angry with me for thinking I could just come back after ignoring him all week and he got even more upset when I said I was pregnant. I tried leaving and he wouldn't let me until we talked it out. I told him that I didn't need him I could do this all on my own. He suggested that we got back together and I said no because I don't think that we needed to force ourselves into that. More months went by and we decided to give it another chance after all. Then I found out he was texting another girl saying that he and I weren't together and that he made plans to take her out that night so I told him that we did not have to be a couple and that I wouldn't take him out of the babies life just because we weren't together and he said no that he wanted to be with me he was just freaking out. So we tried again, last chance. Then my mom tells EVERYONE how she's not going to be a grandma and that I'm a disappointment. Thankfully she's come around, because we found out I'm having a girl. But now my mom keeps saying things like "can you just have the baby and move out so I can adopt her" uh no. Then my great grandma has a heart attack in Mother's Day, my step dad finds out he has another 18 year old daughter from a one night stand before he and my mom started dating and he has a heart attack on Father's Day, my great grandma falls and breaks her hip the day after, and I have not been able to sleep more than 3 hours a day for about a month so my stress level is through the roof. Then I Come to find out there have been multiple girls that my bd has been texting and talking through my whole pregnancy.
After that I just walked out of his house and didn't say a word, he hasn't tried to contact me at all, which is a good thing. but it hurts to know that he had every opportunity to say he wanted to just be friends because I asked him so many times if he was sure, and he still didn't have the balls to say it.
Anyway, he's not going on her birth certificate because there's NO WAY I will ever have shared custody with him to where he an be alone with my daughter.
Oh also I've bought everything she needs crib, bath, bouncer, cradle, bassinet, clothes, EVERYTHING. And he thinks because he put in $200 for her $300 stroller that he deserves for her to have his last name, lol NOPE.
I've even told his mom, grandma, and aunts that he will not be on there and they were all crying but I'm not sorry because he had every opportunity to make things right and he didn't.
Ugh longest rant ever, it did feel good to just let it out though lol
Where is DH?
In the bathroom!
But it's okay! Because not only are DH and the kids up, but so is the kitten with wild, crazy eyes and the 26 week old baby bouncing on my bladder. And now me.
::sigh:: all I want is to sleep! Without questions! Or little kitten pounces on my face!
Normally, I'd really want to go to the mountains too...not so much this go around.
And because I am watching my carbs, I know my sugar will be high from having to eat a snack now and breakfast in a bit.
I appreciate him making me food and buying food and all that. But I'm on a limited food schedule. And he's being grumpy about it too. I'd rather just eat oatmeal and be done.
I know. I'm spoiled by him. It's more just that he doesn't realize how hard it is to sit and wait until lunchtime to eat and that I worry about everything I put in my mouth now and its timing.
So I have a neighbor in my building that is an opera singer and she practices in her apartment. She lives two floors above me and keeps her windows opened. Me being an artist myself I understand how much work goes in to creating something and how many hours it takes to perfect it.
But!
OMG she sounds like a dying cat/wolf from where I am sitting and it's so annoying!!!! I am trying to concentrate myself on my painting and all I hear is Oooo, ooo, OOOOOOOOH, uuuuu, ooooooOooooOOO, YUuuu for hours on end.
Don't take me wrong. If you stand next to her she sounds absolutely lovey but pass a few walls and out the window that sound is unbearable!
My fiancé and I have been fighting like crazy, and the thing is is he is bipolar and he's been without medical insurance so it's gone u medicated for a few months now. It's made fighting really bad, the smallest things piss him off and they always escalate to an extreme. I've been trying to be supportive of him knowing how hard it is for him being off his meds (thank the good lord he goes in this week to see his doctor and get medicated again finally!!) but he's said some really hurtful things lately that I can't forgive or let go of.
For one, last month while fighting he told me I was the reason he started smoking again and I was the reason he's unhappy. I took it kinda hard (obviously and started crying, which since I've been pregnant I cry ALOT). He told me that crying wverytime we fight is pathetic and it's just my way of manipulating him... It's not I cry when my feelings get hurt. Since then I've had trouble letting guard down and crying in front of him; and if I do I feel worse.
Then last Thursday I pushed his buttons (I admit I didn't help to de-escalate the situation) and he got so mad at me he told me he hates being around me, and that I stress him out and that he doesn't like living with me. When he calmed down a little he asked me if I ever doubted we we're meant to be together and I answered honestly no, to which he told me that I shouldn't lie and he's not going to that he has doubted it...
Since then we just haven't been the same. Like I said I'm trying to be understanding since I suffer with mental illness too and I know he's not like this at all when he's medicated! But I'm kinda sick of being the punching bag. And a lot of the things that have been said aren't things I can just brush off and forget, things always blow over and we move on but I can feel a change in our relationship. *sigh*
Okay rant over!