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help with older kid

kmama37kmama37 member
in October 2015 Moms
9 year old boy. We have tried everything to get him to stop hitting people. What r some out of the box suggestions to help? We've taken away everything spanked time outs praised him above all belief for good behavior talked to him about his feelings. He just don't stop hitting. Hits my best friends 4 year old and the other day at the park pushed down and took a little girls toys. (This is my friends story but I figured this might be a good place for help)
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  • bbiutmcphbbiutmcph member
    kmama37 said:
    9 year old boy. We have tried everything to get him to stop hitting people. What r some out of the box suggestions to help? We've taken away everything spanked time outs praised him above all belief for good behavior talked to him about his feelings. He just don't stop hitting. Hits my best friends 4 year old and the other day at the park pushed down and took a little girls toys. (This is my friends story but I figured this might be a good place for help)
    HOnestly I think you need to try to find out what is making him act out in anger. Are there sudden changes in his life? Something happen recently?  Also when dealing with a wrong action it's about consistancy.  For us losing privelages is our go to consistant punishment.  We do not spank, and time outs didn't work.  


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  • ellasnowellasnow member
    There may be an underlining cause for the hitting. Its not about the kids hes hitting but he may be frustrated with something else in his life. Is he bothered at school or home or places he goes during the day. In the morning track his behavior. For instance: maybe he is happy in the morning and he goes to school and after school hes frustrated and takes it out on someone. Maybe the problem is going on at school. Sometimes kids at that age need to talk about whats frustrating in there lives (a safe place without being afraid to get yonked into timeout) sometimes kids need an outlet like sports for their frustrations...it makes u think about the game and tuckers you out so your too exhausted to push or hit someone. I would try to challenge him and get his mind engaged elsewhere and towards something productive...and the behavior may just fade away in due time.

    Just some ideas. I worked as a behavioral specialist and sometimes it can be a frustration and the child needs a healthy and stimulating outlet for his/her energy to focus on. Something they can be proud of :)
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