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Trying to conceive first baby!!! ANY advice would be greatly appreciated!
kimharvey321
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I am very new to this whole baby blogging stuff, so bear with me.. Anyways, my husband and I are both young, I am 20 and he is 23, almost 24. Now before you start jumping on our case about being too young, let me tell you a bit about the two of us. We have been together since high school, almost 5 years now (I married my high school sweetheart in Dec 2014!). My husband is active duty Air Force and is currently in school to get his degree. I may be 20, but I live as if I am 25-30 (that is not to be offensive to anyone). I graduated high school with my AA and have two more semesters until I have my bachelors. Eventually, I plan to attend PA (physician assistant) school. I have always been very school oriented. Neither my husband nor I are into partying and doing what most people our age do; in other words we're very responsible. I work as a nanny for the most incredible 5 year old boy; I've worked with kids since I was 10 from babysitting to being a nanny to working in a daycare. In high school, I took a 3 year early childhood class that taught me so much about kids and even motherhood. My husband and I own a very nice house, have now for almost 2 years. We have 3 fur babies (all dogs). We have incredible health and dental insurance (military). Our bills are always paid, we are fantastic at budgeting, and both of our credit scores are really good. We own two cars that are both less that 3 years old. I'm sure I am leaving something out but you get the point. I'm not trying to "brag" or be narcissistic, I am just trying to explain where we are in life and give you an overview of our lifestyle because I know we are young to be having a baby (trying to at least) and I don't want to be seen as "that young couple who are irresponsible and popping babies out". We were going to wait until I graduated to start trying, but we recently went through a tragic life experience that made us want to try now (I'm very close to graduating anyways). My mother-in-law unexpectedly passed away in April of this year at only 44 years old. We still do not know why she passed, we're still waiting for the toxicology report to come back. After this, we realized life is too short and things like this happen. Now our kids will grow up never knowing one of their grandmothers and we just don't want to wait any longer. Life can come and go with the blink of an eye, and it can be very tragic, as it was for us. So long story short, we are steady on our feet and have all the necessities (house, insurance, transportation, family support, knowledge, educational backgrounds, etc.) to raise a healthy, happy baby.
More about conceiving... I came off of birth control in March after being on it for about 7 years (I was on it at a young age to control my menstrual cycles and cramping). March and April I had a normal period (23rd of each month) . My period missed in May and so far in June. The past couple of days I've been feeling like it's going to come (abdominal twinges/cramps), but nothing yet.. I have taken a couple pregnancy tests but they all came back negative. The last one I took was June 12 (I think) and it was negative. So, I am almost positive my period hasn't shown because of coming off the oral bc (which was ortho tri-cyclen lo). I recently started taking prenatal vitamins (vitafusion prenatal gummies and Nature Made prenatal multi +DHA). It's been frustrating because once we decided we were going to actively start trying, my period doesn't show for two months! But once it shows, we are definitely going to be getting busy! Any advice or tips on conceiving or if you've gone through anything like what I am dealing with, a no-show period, please comment!
Thanks!
Re: Trying to conceive first baby!!! ANY advice would be greatly appreciated!
1) If you're not already temping, get on that and buy a copy of Taking Control of Your Fertility.
2)Try not to symptom spot, it will drive you crazy.
3)Load up on opks, hpts, and patience. 4)Google cervical mucus until you nearly lose your dinner.
5) Have lots of sex!
There's more, but thems the basics.
Your cycle length is determined by the day you ovulate. The day you ovulate may vary a lot from cycle to cycle and woman to woman. The time period after cycle day 1 until the day you ovulate is called the follicular phase. The follicular phase could be 8 days or 60 days, although the 'norm' is more like 12 to 24 (don't quote me on that).
From the day you ovulate to your next period is called the luteal phase and it is between 10-16 days on average. However, an individual woman's luteal phase doesn't vary by more than a day or two.
Say, for example, your normal luteal phase is 12 days. If you ovulate on day 12, then you'll get your period on day 24. If you ovulate on day 25, then you'll get your period around day 37.
This is why temping is awesome, it will tell you when you ovulated and therefore when to expect your period and when to test.
You should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by toni weschler. New edition coming July 7th! Do the tutorials on fertility friend and download the app. Buy wondfo opks from an authorized seller. But a mabis thermoneter and start temping.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
First BFP on 2/6/2016!
I like 3rd or 4th the TCOYF book and the FF app.
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
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2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as there are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
You'll find that most people here agree that charting temps actually helps make the whole process less stressful as their are no questions about when/if you ovulated, if your timing was good, or when you should expect your period. Without that you're just flying blind which leads many people to question every little twinge and worry about being 2 days "late." Also, just because you haven't had your period yet doesn't mean you can't start trying. You may get lucky and catch your first O after coming off the pills. Since its been a longer cycle at this point, it may be too late, but no reason not to hold off.
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Agreed. I have charted for 6 years. Sometimes ttc. Sometimes trying to avoid. I would be really stressed if I didn't temp and therefore didn't know what part of my cycle I was in.
And, although, unlikely with such a long cycke, you could ovulate any time, so you can try now and don't have to wait for AF.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
I'm 7 weeks pregnant and we are still so surprised to be having a baby so soon.
We were actively trying for 2 months.
I downloaded the Ovia app and tracked my period and symptoms throughout cycle. It gave me a clear indication of when I would be fertile. I took Folic Acid and ate a pineapple core on my fertile days. I don't know where I read this or if it's a load of rubbish but worth a try.
I have had issues with period and ovaries previously and anticipated 6-12 months of TTC.
I also lay on my back with legs elevated after intercourse.
Good luck x
Please whatever you do, don't lay on your back after intercourse. It doesn't help the swimmers (they already know where they are going) and you are at higher risk for UTI (by not peeing afterwards). A UTI would for-sure set you back a month.
They aren't expensive, so might as well!
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Oh my gosh THIS. For sure don't lay on your back with your feet up!! The one time I got KU we had a quickie and then I literally had to run to catch a train - those swimmers are meant to swim, no special position required!
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Hmmm...some thoughts...
-- you don't have to convince us of your maturity with material goods or other impressive things. These are merely outwardly check marks. You could have all of it (and a bag of chips) & STILL not be ready to have a baby.
-- you don't need our (or anyone else's) permission to procreate.
This is not a blog, but a forum (discussion) . So part of it is dealing with a variety of personalities, responses & views.
Some of which you may not agree with or like to hear.
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Agree with everyone who has already said temp and use FF. It will save you from questioning when to expect AF.
It isn't stressful, and I did it while dealing with a constantly sick DS who ended up having 2 febrile seizures this year.
January didn't get my temping done, February started temping while NTNP, and got a BFP in March.
Unless you want to risk getting a UTI, no one here ever recommends laying around after sex.
Pick up a copy of TCOYF, and definitely read all the stickie posts at the top of the discussions page. Also search for the post'If you could tell a newbie anything"
Good luck!!
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Read this...and all the other lessons. It will explain it. https://www.fertilityfriend.com/courses/lesson.php?p=1;7;760442;78f2
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Now, I'm feeling some cramping in my lower right side of abdomen.. I'm on cd8, and only 2 days post-AF. Any ideas as to what it could be? And no, I am not indicating pregnancy haha I'm thinking it could be ovulation but I'd think it's too early for that. So idk, any ideas?!
Not entirely sure yet. I just started testing yesterday at 10 DPO. (AF due this Sunday) yesterday I had a faint line but it was almost invisible- I may be seeing what I want to see. I'm going to re test tomorrow and through the weekend as needed until a better line or until AF shows. Will July be your first month?
It could be anything.
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TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
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And yes baby #1 for us too!! All my family has gotten PG super fast, like first month TTC. We'll see if I too follow in their footsteps that would definitely be lucky though. Keeping my FX for you too!!!
I married my highschool sweetheart to. He was my first everything. Amazing feeling isn't it? Bring able to literally grow with them? We did the whole long distance thing for college. It was awful but so worth it. We went to great colleges have degrees and amazing jobs. On paper my husband and I appeared ready for a long time. I get annoyed with questions of when we are going to have kids, why we don't already. Blah blah blah. I'm 27 so I have time... I'm not worried. Yes, I've been with my husband since I was 14 (you do the math) and I've had many many amazing years with him. But now.. We are done with college! We make great money and finally have time and money to travel and actually BE with each other. Before our lives were school, school, school, study maybe see each other on weekends. That is reality!! But this is the first time we have had NO responsibility other than work. I really want to embrace that time with my husband and I hope you get that time with yours before you can't do it. My husband is more to me then someone helping me being a child in this world. He is my partner, my life and my best friend. Yes, we are probably going to start TTC around December, after our honeymoon/anniversary. Just make sure you take time with your husband before doing this. You are very young and "almost being done with school" isn't enough. There is more to it in life.
So if you still feel you have accomplished those things then go for it. If not, my suggestion is to put TTC on hold and BE with your husband. Just you and him because you won't get it ever again.
^This has been discussed at great length on this board, so if you could check the search feature at the bottom of the page you should get back all kinds of results.
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