Honeymoon baby!!! ?????

avann30 · June 2015

Hi, my fiancé and I are getting married July 25 2015. I will be ovulating. We don't use any hormonal BC, just the tracking and withdrawal methods. We were noticing that on our honeymoon I will be 3 days before my ovulation. we have considered TTC before but wanted to wait until after the wedding for values sake. The things concerning us right now (besides labor lol) is our jobs and if I would stay home or work. Everyone says we aren't ready for a child, were 23 years old. We own our own home and have 3 vehicles. I have finished my college career. We have lived together for 2 years. I'd love to hear some thoughts on what others have to say. I know it isn't garunteed* that we will conceive but there is a chance and I don't want to ruin our honey moon with a "pull out honey" if we decide that a honey moon baby wouldn't be an issue. We've considered leaving it up to God to decide. Anyone else have this issue? Thanks in advanced.

nlwz123 · June 2015

avann30 said:

Hi, my fiancé and I are getting married July 25 2015. I will be ovulating. We don't use any hormonal BC, just the tracking and withdrawal methods. We were noticing that on our honeymoon I will be 3 days before my ovulation. we have considered TTC before but wanted to wait until after the wedding for values sake. The things concerning us right now (besides labor lol) is our jobs and if I would stay home or work. Everyone says we aren't ready for a child, were 23 years old. We own our own home and have 3 vehicles. I have finished my college career. We have lived together for 2 years. I'd love to hear some thoughts on what others have to say. I know it isn't garunteed* that we will conceive but there is a chance and I don't want to ruin our honey moon with a "pull out honey" if we decide that a honey moon baby wouldn't be an issue. We've considered leaving it up to God to decide. Anyone else have this issue? Thanks in advanced.

QFP. You can't possibly know what day you are going to ovulate in the future, so I wouldn't rely on that. I think it's best to first get your job sorted out and really consider your financial situation. "Pull out honey" will definitely not ruin your honeymoon--my honeymoon was great and we weren't trying to conceive a child.

nlwz123 · June 2015

Also, owning a house, having a car, and finishing college does not necessarily mean you are ready for a child. We had all of those things for several years before we started actively trying. You will know when you are mentally ready when you aren't consulting strangers online to see if you should or shouldn't.

gravcass · June 2015

You're married, have been with each other a while, and are financially stable. Any "advise" people give you now is from their own experiences and have no relation to you whatsoever. Your experiences are not theirs. Do what feels comfortable and right to you. If you feel you are ready then go for it!

I have been told that I have not been married long enough and that I'm of the perfect pregnancy age within the same night (by the different people of course) Only you and your partner know what you want your relationship and future to look like:)

mommygrams0730 · June 2015

See the thread titled "do you think there is an ideal time" and read the responses people have given in their experience.

Sorry can't link, I'm mobile.

Eta: fixed name of title in my post.

avann30 · June 2015

Thank you both for your responses.

avann30 · June 2015

I'm mobile too. The app is a little confusing yes?

MamaBish · June 2015

What exactly are you asking? If we think you should try or not?

If that is what you are asking, I would say no. If you feel the need to ask others if you are ready, then you are not ready.

If you feel ready but are unsure, you should wait a bit.

P.S. why would telling him to pull out ruin your honeymoon? We used condoms on our hm and it certainly didn't ruin it. Don't put so much pressure on yourselves

StarbucksShip · June 2015

avann30 said:

Hi, my fiancé and I are getting married July 25 2015. I will be ovulating. We don't use any hormonal BC, just the tracking and withdrawal methods. We were noticing that on our honeymoon I will be 3 days before my ovulation. we have considered TTC before but wanted to wait until after the wedding for values sake. The things concerning us right now (besides labor lol) is our jobs and if I would stay home or work. Everyone says we aren't ready for a child, were 23 years old. We own our own home and have 3 vehicles. I have finished my college career. We have lived together for 2 years. I'd love to hear some thoughts on what others have to say. I know it isn't garunteed* that we will conceive but there is a chance and I don't want to ruin our honey moon with a "pull out honey" if we decide that a honey moon baby wouldn't be an issue. We've considered leaving it up to God to decide. Anyone else have this issue? Thanks in advanced.

I agree with what every previous poster said. However, I also love laying out things to consider, and there's a few things you didn't mention:

Do you and your future-spouse have 401k plans and/or IRAs established?
Could you contribute to your retirement savings easily after a child? Many young Americans are believed to be behind in savings and Social Security isn't a "sure thing" anymore.
If you did chose to stay at home do you have a plan for your retirement income?
Do you have 3 - 6 months emergency savings?
Have you been taking prenatal vitamins or met with a doctor to establish that any possible pre-baby prep has been addressed? This includes bloodwork, vaccinations, talks about medications and identifying any factors for a high-risk pregnancy.
Who owns your home and in case of death would the property transfer to the other? What about other assets? Have you discussed much about estate planning? Morbid, but important. The second I got engaged my parents gave me Estate Law 101.
Are you comfortable with your debt-to-income ratio?

Those are not things you HAVE to do before trying for a baby, but I think they're pretty serious and important since they'll impact you later in life. They're also things that I think a lot of younger engaged couples overlook.

avann30 · June 2015

I feel ready. I'm simply asking what a honeymoon baby would be like? If any others have had a honeymoon baby? Is there any reason to wait, I mean a baby is a baby right? Since we wanted to wait until after the wedding I was wondering if the honeymoon would be too soon LOL. As far as the withdrawal method I don't suppose it would ruin anything we just feel more intimate without it. I'm sorry for any confusion in this post and I value all of the replies I've gotten, thank you all. I don't by any means mean that a baby is an easy thing at all. I'm just wondering what the difference of having a baby right after marriage or waiting a pros and cons type of thing. We wanted to wait till after the wedding to try, is 4 hours after too soon to try? That's what I meant. Thank you all again for the responses and the future ones to come! Again, I apologize for any confusion on my part.

juliehollz13 · June 2015

Ditto everything the above posters said. You guys seem to be much better off financially than most people when they have kids, however, since you had to ask for re-assurance it may be a sign you're a little hesitant to try for a baby right away.

Here's a few things to cosider if you DO decide to try on your honeymoon

1) you don't know how long it will take you, even women with regular cycles sometimes try for 6-12 months before conceiving.

2) you mention staying home, this is an issue if you do plan to conceive right away. I would suggest waiting until after you're married and getting on your husbands insurance (you have 30 days from the day you get married for him to add you and if you're already pregnant there's a chance that since its a "pre-existing condition" they wont cover you if you go pregnant before the benefits kicked in). If you do get pregnant on your honey moon, you'll have to stay with your current job until you give birth so you have insurance, then you'll have to add the baby to HIS insurance once it's born but if you quit after you have a baby you'll have to wait for enrollment period on husbands insurance for you to have coverage. Not sure if that all made sense, basically, look into how having a baby will affect your medical coverage. Just my 2 cents.

avann30 · June 2015

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you.

I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

Lulucooks · June 2015

avann30 said:
I feel ready. I'm simply asking what a honeymoon baby would be like? If any others have had a honeymoon baby? Is there any reason to wait, I mean a baby is a baby right? Since we wanted to wait until after the wedding I was wondering if the honeymoon would be too soon LOL. As far as the withdrawal method I don't suppose it would ruin anything we just feel more intimate without it. I'm sorry for any confusion in this post and I value all of the replies I've gotten, thank you all. I don't by any means mean that a baby is an easy thing at all. I'm just wondering what the difference of having a baby right after marriage or waiting a pros and cons type of thing. We wanted to wait till after the wedding to try, is 4 hours after too soon to try? That's what I meant. Thank you all again for the responses and the future ones to come! Again, I apologize for any confusion on my part.

I think you might be over thinking the "when" of starting a bit.... so long as you are not having sex in front of your guest it doesn't matter. You may even be too tired to do anything that night, I dunno. Never had a wedding, but that seems to be something that happens.

juliehollz13 · June 2015

avann30 said:

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you. I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

1 other thing to think about when deciding if you want to stay home or work would be to look into daycare costs in your area and see if it's even worth you working. Decent daycare in our area that aren't fancy but are still nice and clean with qualified staff are around 300 per week, somce of the fancy ones are $1,400 per month.

nlwz123 · June 2015

Lulucooks said:

I feel ready. I'm simply asking what a honeymoon baby would be like? If any others have had a honeymoon baby? Is there any reason to wait, I mean a baby is a baby right? Since we wanted to wait until after the wedding I was wondering if the honeymoon would be too soon LOL. As far as the withdrawal method I don't suppose it would ruin anything we just feel more intimate without it. I'm sorry for any confusion in this post and I value all of the replies I've gotten, thank you all. I don't by any means mean that a baby is an easy thing at all. I'm just wondering what the difference of having a baby right after marriage or waiting a pros and cons type of thing. We wanted to wait till after the wedding to try, is 4 hours after too soon to try? That's what I meant. Thank you all again for the responses and the future ones to come! Again, I apologize for any confusion on my part.
I think you might be over thinking the "when" of starting a bit.... so long as you are not having sex in front of your guest it doesn't matter. You may even be too tired to do anything that night, I dunno. Never had a wedding, but that seems to be something that happens.

Psh, I would've been totally ok with just going to sleep after our wedding day. That shit is exhausting.

StarbucksShip · June 2015

avann30 said:

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you. I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

Nothing I'll say should be seen as financial advice for anyone, but just tips for learning more. Please check with an attorney, financial planner, and HR. eta: this is also not the end all of options, just the most common ones.

401k accounts are tax-deferred savings offered by employers in the private sector. Public sector and non-profits have something similar but it could be called a 403b, etc. I strongly recommend asking your HR or supervisor for a rundown of your benefits. Some offer profit-sharing, or ESOPs. Few employers are offering old school pensions anymore. It USED to be that you had to chose to enroll in a 401k. Now some employers, or states, mandate everyone is automatically enrolled and you have to opt-out. Easiest way to check if that's happening to you? Look at your paystub. Any deductions should be marked down. Check all past employers too. Old 401k accounts are always yours but the money does not always move!

Not every company offers these retirement options, though. If your employer doesn't have these benefits you'll need to look into opening your own accounts (IRA and Roth IRA). Either way you go your youth works for you (assuming civilization will continue until you retire). More time to save, more time for investments to grow. Also, now that I think about it, check your company's maternity/FMLA policy and see if you get any short-term disability benefits.

My Dad gave me "On My Own Two Feet" and it was really helpful on getting me started. Very basic and straight up acknowledges that women tend to get the short end of the stick in retirement. Between lower pay and breaks in a career many women won't be able to save as aggressively as they should.

I hope this helps inspire you to get started on your retirement! I personally think it's crazy fun.

KristieA · June 2015

Just my 2 cents...

Having a child will shape your life. It could help you to grow closer to your partner or it could put stress on your relationship. It will give you the opportunity to be a mom, but it will shut other doors for you. When you have a child things are harder, your life isn't about you any more, it is about taking care of and raising that child.

For me, I had a lot of stuff I still wanted to do after the age of 23. I travelled. I got a chance to change jobs. I did two masters degrees. And when I met my husband and we married, I took time to get to know him before we started thinking about our family. We are 32 and starting now. It's not ideal but it was our choice.

You have to make your own, but I would ask yourself if you have done everything YOU want to do before having your children?

Like I said, just my 2 cents.

RiverSong15 · June 2015

juliehollz13 said:

avann30 said:

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you.

I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

1 other thing to think about when deciding if you want to stay home or work would be to look into daycare costs in your area and see if it's even worth you working. Decent daycare in our area that aren't fancy but are still nice and clean with qualified staff are around 300 per week, somce of the fancy ones are $1,400 per month.

This depends on where OP lives. In my city, we're looking at $1,600/month minimum. The daycare associated with H's work is $2,000/month WITH an employee discount. I was shocked when we looked into this, and it's part of the reason we waited another year to start trying.

OP, you should consider all your expenses and how those would change with a baby. Who will put the baby on health insurance? What's the added premium? What are the copays like, because you will be at the doctors office a lot before and after birth. Things like that.

From reading your post, it seems that you may not have thought things through entirely, which is something I would strongly recommend. A month would be too soon for me to get my ducks in a row to start trying immediately after the wedding, especially in the hectic time right before a wedding! But ultimately the decision is between you and your FI.

For me personally, H and I have been married almost 5 years, and we've lived having this time together as just the two of us. I wouldn't trade that in for anything, especially at the age you are. You have time to figure out what you really want, no need to rush into anything. Good luck.

ShallowSeas · June 2015

Everyone has given you great advice so I'm not going to echo it. Just make sure you have things situated with your job if you don't plan on quitting. You have to be at a job for 12 months to qualify for FMLA. A lot of employers don't offer maternity leave or pay, so make sure you either have money saved to supplement your income or make sure you have STD to use.

MamaBish · June 2015

avann30 said:

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you. I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

I liked the gummy prenatals, they are easier on the stomach (pro tip - take them right before a meal). I like the VitaFusion Prenatal Gummies

StarbucksShip · June 2015

MamaBish said:

avann30 said:

This is the kind of reply I was looking for. Things to consider. Thank you. I have an appointment for the obgyn about this. It's on the 7th so that will impact our decision a lot. The home would go to either of us if one of us passed away. If we both passed away, I'm not sure. Something to look into. How do we start a 401k? Great thing to start! We do have some savings yes. Prenatal vitamins are something I need to get. Which kind are the best? We have changed our eating habits to accommodate healthy living in the chance we did conceive. Thank you again!

I liked the gummy prenatals, they are easier on the stomach (pro tip - take them right before a meal). I like the VitaFusion Prenatal Gummies

Only downside to the gummies is you wanna eat 'em like candy.

(or go out and buy a huge pack of gummy fruit)

Snoflakes4eva · June 2015

avann30 said:

Hi, my fiancé and I are getting married July 25 2015. I will be ovulating. We don't use any hormonal BC, just the tracking and withdrawal methods. We were noticing that on our honeymoon I will be 3 days before my ovulation. we have considered TTC before but wanted to wait until after the wedding for values sake. The things concerning us right now (besides labor lol) is our jobs and if I would stay home or work. Everyone says we aren't ready for a child, were 23 years old. We own our own home and have 3 vehicles. I have finished my college career. We have lived together for 2 years. I'd love to hear some thoughts on what others have to say. I know it isn't garunteed* that we will conceive but there is a chance and I don't want to ruin our honey moon with a "pull out honey" if we decide that a honey moon baby wouldn't be an issue. We've considered leaving it up to God to decide. Anyone else have this issue? Thanks in advanced.

Why does "everyone" think you aren't ready for a child?

avann30 · June 2015

Because they think that we need to spend time together after marriage. We've lived together since the day we met and have over come obstacles. I have never felt more confident that this man will be an excellent husband and father to our children. Almost 2 years in, I think we have spent enough time together to know, but people say things change when you get married?? I just want to be ready for whatever comes. We are strongly leaning towards not preventing and not trying, which in most cases ends with a baby. We hope God blesses our marriage and decides when is the right time for us to have kids, I also realize that the human body, after the age of puberty, is baby making ready, with that being said, how much can we rely on letting God decide?

avann30 · June 2015

Thank you again to everyone and their responses.

StarbucksShip · June 2015

avann30 said:

Because they think that we need to spend time together after marriage. We've lived together since the day we met and have over come obstacles. I have never felt more confident that this man will be an excellent husband and father to our children. Almost 2 years in, I think we have spent enough time together to know, but people say things change when you get married?? I just want to be ready for whatever comes. We are strongly leaning towards not preventing and not trying, which in most cases ends with a baby. We hope God blesses our marriage and decides when is the right time for us to have kids, I also realize that the human body, after the age of puberty, is baby making ready, with that being said, how much can we rely on letting God decide?

Not trying to be mean when I say this: Not every woman or man is "baby making ready" after puberty. And as much as God may love them, there may never be a baby in their future. I've known plenty of cousins who had similar beliefs and were devastated when their expectations weren't met. I believe that most healthy couples have a 20% chance of conceiving per cycle.

If you're temping, keep on trucking. It'll give you a better understanding of your body. Grab the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" as well. If you search YouTube for "The Great Sperm Race" it'll put conception itself into stark perspective while giving a great homage to 300. I don't think God would be offended* if you took an interest in your body or the science of conception.

*At least, I hope not.

Mamabeagle · June 2015

purrbucket said:

avann30 said:

Because they think that we need to spend time together after marriage. We've lived together since the day we met and have over come obstacles. I have never felt more confident that this man will be an excellent husband and father to our children. Almost 2 years in, I think we have spent enough time together to know, but people say things change when you get married?? I just want to be ready for whatever comes. We are strongly leaning towards not preventing and not trying, which in most cases ends with a baby. We hope God blesses our marriage and decides when is the right time for us to have kids, I also realize that the human body, after the age of puberty, is baby making ready, with that being said, how much can we rely on letting God decide?

Not trying to be mean when I say this: Not every woman or man is "baby making ready" after puberty. And as much as God may love them, there may never be a baby in their future. I've known plenty of cousins who had similar beliefs and were devastated when their expectations weren't met. I believe that most healthy couples have a 20% chance of conceiving per cycle.

If you're temping, keep on trucking. It'll give you a better understanding of your body. Grab the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" as well. If you search YouTube for "The Great Sperm Race" it'll put conception itself into stark perspective while giving a great homage to 300. I don't think God would be offended* if you took an interest in your body or the science of conception.

*At least, I hope not.

Hey, God gave us the brains to figure out all this sciency stuff, if we weren't supposed to use any of it that's kind of a dick move...

MagicMikki · June 2015

Ugh. Another one of these "are we ready?"/"should we do it?" posts. When you have to ask internet strangers if you're ready, or if it's too soon, then I suppose the answer is no you're not ready, and yes it's too soon. If people who actually know you think you're not ready, then you're probably not ready.

But others have already provided you with this insight, so I'll sit back.

However, I've noticed a pattern with gals on here asking this question... If you've made it here, you've already made up your mind. No one here is going to help you with that decision, considering you've already made it.

And yes, many people have become pregnant on their honeymoon; many people were probably TTC on their honeymoon and we're not successful and it was ok; and I'm sure many people have also used the pull out method on their honeymoon and that did not ruin it. Does this really change anything or mean anything for you and your husband to be? Probably not.

lalala2004 · June 2015

I really hope this doesn't come off as rude, I'm just honestly curious.

When you say you want to wait until after marriage to have a baby for "values sake" what do you mean by that? Do people that have children outside of marriage lack "values"? A lot of people with values related to this would generally mean "Christian values" and the reason for not having children until after marriage would be related to not having sex until marriage. You're not doing that, so I'm just kind of curious what you mean about the values. Not trying to be judgmental at all, I'm just curious about your reasoning for this.

avann30 · June 2015

No. Because it's just our personal values for us and our family. Nothing wrong with children outside of marriage. Just our personal choice. I didn't mean to offend anyone. I'm sorry about that.

Again, it's okay to question others values and the answer I have is that it is our own personal choice. We do have sex out of wedlock and we do live together and that is something that we will have to deal with between God and us. We are by no means and never will be perfect. Yes, we actively sin. That may make us seem like a joke to some because we want to wait to be married before we have kids and we already live together and have sex. In our minds we wanted to make sure that we were the right for each other. We do however have the responsibility to admit that we sin and try to do better. We still hope and try. However, no one is perfect.

Every person in our families have had wonderful children outside of marriage. Every single one. I suppose that we just have an idea that we would like to make the full commitment to each other before having a child. Just our choice. Nothing wrong with people who don't feel that way. I realize that marriage is more than just walking down the aisle. I know though, that if we can make it as far as we have then our commitment will be strong. That is why I am marrying this man.

I don't think - as far as me seeking strangers advice- that that is the wrong thing - that is what this website is for. Comfort and advice. For people that have been in the same situation or have advice to offer. So I apologize for annoying certain people. Or offending anyone. Thank you for understanding. I am thankful for the advice. I am also thankful for the advice that came off harsh, because we need that too. Both are critical to thinking through the whole decision, thoroughly. I guess that's what led me here, to the bump, to see all points of view. What I have gathered is some wonderful, somewhat hurtful advice. Both of which I needed to hear. Thank you all for the responses.
I don't want this reply to sound defensive. Although I've read it time and time again and it is coming off that way. I am truly grateful for all replies and advice. I'm sorry if I offended anyone.

lalala2004 · June 2015

I wasn't at all offended, just genuinely curious. I appreciate your honest answer!

avann30 · June 2015

I appreciate your questions. Honestly. It's stuff like that we need to be thinking about.

benix4183 · June 2015

Not trying to be rude, talking about values, I understand values in relation to this topic, is not having sex until marriage, having sex, living together and waiting to have babies after the wedding is wrong in the first place. Not the proper values. I think you are not ready for a baby yet. Asking online strangers about being ready means you are not sure you ready. Take your time and let things fall into places in God's own time. Congrats on your marriage.

MamaBish · June 2015

benix4183 said:

Not trying to be rude, talking about values, I understand values in relation to this topic, is not having sex until marriage, having sex, living together and waiting to have babies after the wedding is wrong in the first place. Not the proper values. I think you are not ready for a baby yet. Asking online strangers about being ready means you are not sure you ready. Take your time and let things fall into places in God's own time. Congrats on your marriage.

Even though you say you are not trying to be rude, this bolded sentence is in fact, rude. What is "wrong" to you is not always wrong to someone else. They're not hurting anybody.

You seem like a religious person (full disclosure, I am not) so I wish to point out something I thought was important (correct me if I am wrong); aren't you supposed to not judge people? Saying someone does not have the proper values seems pretty judgy to me... js

KLake42 · June 2015

In reality, there are a whole lot of people who just can not manage sex on their wedding night. Plan for food, hydration, sleep. And go wild the next night.

avann30 · June 2015

Mama Bish, that wasn't my response. I never said that anyone's values are wrong. Please don't think that I implied that at all!!! I did respond to the post you are responding to. In that response I stated that it is okay to question others values. I also stated that people who don't feel the same as I are not wrong. It's just our personal choice. Thank you for your understanding.

lalala2004 · June 2015

avann30 said:

Mama Bish, that wasn't my response. I never said that anyone's values are wrong. Please don't think that I implied that at all!!! I did respond to the post you are responding to. In that response I stated that it is okay to question others values. I also stated that people who don't feel the same as I are not wrong. It's just our personal choice. Thank you for your understanding.

benix4183 who was being rude to you.

MamaBish · June 2015

avann30 said:
Mama Bish, that wasn't my response. I never said that anyone's values are wrong. Please don't think that I implied that at all!!! I did respond to the post you are responding to. In that response I stated that it is okay to question others values. I also stated that people who don't feel the same as I are not wrong. It's just our personal choice. Thank you for your understanding.

Oh no worries, I wasn't responding to you, I was responding to the person I quoted. You weren't rude

concreteayngel · June 2015

DH and I decided to wait a year after the wedding to start trying and I'm so glad we did. What's the rush? Spend the time enjoying your husband. Of course there is nothing wrong with having kids right away, but I feel like those couples do miss out on all the special times you could be having with just you and your spouse. They say that the first year of marriage is one of the hardest, so why make it harder by adding pregnancy and a baby to the mix? It also gave us the opportunity to travel together without worrying about traveling with kids, or babysitters, or whatever. I love spending quiet evenings alone with my hubby, throwing a few beers backs, watching our shows together, all the uninterrupted newlywed sexy times...Also, don't make the mistake of assuming you'll get KU right away. Sure it could happen. But even with my perfectly regular cycles and good health, I'm on my 6th cycle TTC. You just never know.

Everycol0r · June 2015

benix4183 said:
Not trying to be rude, talking about values, I understand values in relation to this topic, is not having sex until marriage, having sex, living together and waiting to have babies after the wedding is wrong in the first place. Not the proper values. I think you are not ready for a baby yet. Asking online strangers about being ready means you are not sure you ready. Take your time and let things fall into places in God's own time. Congrats on your marriage.

Grammar is your friend, because, what?

avann30 · June 2015

So, we've decided. We would like to wait for children until we've enjoyed some time as a married couple and prepared a bit more. Thank you for all the help and advice. Do they have a Prep TTC board here?

nlwz123 · June 2015

avann30 said:

So, we've decided. We would like to wait for children until we've enjoyed some time as a married couple and prepared a bit more. Thank you for all the help and advice. Do they have a Prep TTC board here?

Lots of people that aren't currently trying to conceive or will be in the near future stick around on this board.

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