Why is it always "How've you been feeling?"

slwseb14 · June 2015

Every time I see someone for the first time, or after awhile, they always ask how I'm feeling. Then I just give them a vague answer instead of telling them how miserable I've been and how much I dislike pregnancy. I just don't know what to say! I want to be too honest, but I don't want to scare anyone! Lol

cristinapage72 · June 2015

Get used to it. I remember getting so annoyed by that question, that I just started saying "good" to avoid people's follow up questions. Unless it's someone who was recently pregnant - in those cases, I was a little more open, in case they had any advice.

slwseb14 · June 2015

Yup.. That's what I figured. Thankfully my best friend is a few months ahead of me so we are totally open and honest with each other so that's nice. I'm just annoyed already with that question

ammnam14 · June 2015

Yesss I'm so sick of that question! I know they have good intentions, but it's so annoying!

rain0831boww · June 2015

I keep it to "good". They keep looking at me to go further into detail but I just give them a blank stare after that. I know family and friends care and sometimes they don't know what to ask so I understand.

BostonBaby1 · June 2015

Asking b/c they care. It's always nice to have ppl who care, even if it does get frustrating. If you feel close to them, you might say, "good but pregnant." ;-)

lynettieLoo · June 2015

I've actually been really blessed with this pregnancy and haven't really had any bad symptoms. So when people ask and I tell them that I feel great, they just look at me like there is something wrong. Gets on my nerves, they think just because they felt horrible their entire pregnancy that I should.

AlejandraN2 · June 2015

I think it's nice when someone asks you how you're feeling. I mean what else are they going to ask you? How's your gas? How's your back? I usually just say, tired but good. But it's nice to have someone care

yl1m32015 · June 2015

Yes, every single person, every single time. I tell them I feel wonderful. They care and it's nice. Personally, I love talking about my pregnancy and appreciate that anyone cares enough to ask.

The second question everyone asks is, "boy or girl?!" And then I explain it'll be a surprise!

The questions will get old, but pretty soon all the questions will be about baby snd no one will give a crap about mommy lol. So just soak it up for now.

kanda0820 · June 2015

My mother-in-law asks me that every single time I see her. I'm getting tired of it too.
I have other family on the other hand that don't even like to acknowledge that we're having another baby.

ealiska · June 2015

Just thinking of my best friend's pregnancy a couple years ago-just wait until people start telling us how big we are! She was ready to strangle some people:)

MegStark · June 2015

I'd much rather get this question than the "what do you think you're having" or "are you doing a repeat c-section" and "how long do you plan to breastfeed" etc. "How are you feeling?" is the one that doesn't bother me.

Hawaiianmama17 · June 2015

It's probably "annoying" until nobody asks anymore..then we would see posts that say " nobody cares about my pregnancy or how I'm feeling" I know because that was me!! My mom was driving me crazy with that question and now she doesn't ask ... And my thoughts are .. Hmmm I guess she doesn't care.. I agree with pp .. It's nice to have people care about how you are feeling..

CArden74 · June 2015

I've been so honest! Most times it has been, "Pretty crappy actually. But I guess the ends justify the means." Thankfully, the past week or so I have been able to say, "Soooooo much better."

CArden74 · June 2015

Only we pregnant checks would get annoyed at ppl for showing an interest or concern. Pregnancy makes us such twats. I love it. haha

RSB1982 · June 2015

I think people asking this are honesty concerned and maybe even curious so I don't mind the question. Women that have been pregnant before immediately begin comparing their experience to mine after I tell them the usual, 'not too bad, I've been better, but can't complain too much'. I honestly haven't had it too bad so far so maybe that's why I don't mind the question. Now the 'oh my, you're getting so big', that will drive me insane. I may not leave the house for those last three months!

ketobaby · June 2015

I get this as well. Ive been honest about it though. It can get awkward because people don't know how to respond afterwards

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dp1320 · June 2015

at the end you'll get it even more... people will say "how are you feeling" expecting you to respond with I'M IN LABOR!!! As if you'll forget to tell them when you have a baby.

GardenMama116 · June 2015

When people ask me how I'm feeling, I either tell them I'm still alive or on a roller coaster I can't get off of. No sugar-coating it here. I think I've even replied with 'I don't know why women volunteer to do this more than once.' If they don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question.

Marchmellow2 · June 2015

I think it's sweet when people ask me. Every single person asks and I like it. It shows they care. I'm very honest too. Except recently with the bad news, I've been avoiding people like the plague until I get the amnio. Before the bad news though I would tell people how exhausted and shitty I felt lol.

MEMichelson · June 2015

It gets really old being asked this over and over and over. Lately I've just been answering with 'pregnant' 'I feel pregnant'. Honestly I'm not going into how tired or sore I feel. Also I'm now starting to show so I've had people ask my stomach vs making eye contact with me when they ask - at least for now people are wanting to touch me....that will be a whole different story then - I don't like when people touch me

czirbs · June 2015

For most people, I just answer with "fine" and then change the subject, unless they've been pregnant recently, similar to a previous poster. The last time I shared lots of information with my mother and MIL, they each went and shared everything I said with a bunch of other people that I DIDN'T want said information shared with, so now they're both included in the "fine" response category as well.

CArden74 · June 2015

Next time say, "my uterus hurts, my placenta is thickening and my libido is so that I considered humping a door knob this morning." Bet they won't ask again.

CArden74 · June 2015

Giggles

ColoradoHiker · June 2015

I appreciate when people ask, and most of my friends at work don't ask all the time, mostly just if I bring up the baby. When I am asked, I tell the truth!

kmkaull2 · June 2015

Enjoy the attention. It will be all about baby soon enough. :-)

juju0925 · June 2015

So over that question. How do you think I feel, I'm pregnant.

ammnam14 · June 2015

@CArden74 You are my favorite person.

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CArden74 · June 2015

@audriannamaria Hahaha! Thanks!

raq_2020 · June 2015

Hmm I don't mind this question and my answer is never the same, sooo I think it's a valid question. I also don't get the "how do you THINK I feel?!" response because I would rather someone ask me than to assume they know how I'm feeling...? Actually, I think I would be highly annoyed if everyone just assumed I was experiencing whatever feelings they associate with pregnancy. LET ME TELL YOU ALL THE THINGS I'M FEELING!

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion. I like when people care enough to ask how I'm feeling!

However - unsolicited advice, UGH. I could vent for days about how much that irritates me!!

mlr7710 · June 2015

This is funny to me lol my sister always answered it brutally honestly (she was uncomfortable, miserable and hated everything except for growing a healthy baby). She felt she wasn't prepared because everyone paints the picture that pregnancy is so magical and "you're glowing". It's making me laugh just thinking how honest she was lol

groovylocks · June 2015

Yup. This completely sucks, I hear you.

When people ask, the best thing to say is "Fine. How are you feeling?"

It's a closed answer but more than that, it's dangerous.

CArden74 · June 2015

I have, on multiple occasions, replied with, "Whoever said pregnancy is magical, was obviously smoking crack."

QueenCarlissa · June 2015

I get annoyed from a different perspective cause everyone asks me like I'm supposed to feel a different way but I literally feel great the only thing that caused me discomfort is my back pain and I don't think that's a mouthful to say so if it's hurting at the time I say it. But I also say great because I know other women literally have terrible pregnancies. I never once got sick or anything just hungry and sleepy and cravings that's all. I'm happy I am having a good pregnancy my SO has to put up with the emotions though lol

mrs14678 · June 2015

I want to answer something snarky like, "Fine. How are YOU feeling?" Haha!

hummingbird35 · June 2015

When someone I'm close to asks, I tell them about my poopy troubles. They usually change the subject.

slwseb14 · June 2015

I've just become brutally honest too. I want everyone to know that pregnancy isn't always as great as some people make it out to be. Lol

alisoninda · June 2015

While I tire of that standard question, I realize they asking because they care. However, they also really only want to hear a positive response -- so i always say great, even if my emotions have been in the toilet that day. And yes, I often do respond with, "Great! How about you?" I'm not spilling the beans on weird bodily functions and crying bouts to everyone I see, so if the inquirer is looking for juicy details, it's a nice way to keep the discussions light.

Jess0813 · June 2015

Its fine when people ask and they actually care. Not that they are just asking because its polite. My grandmother used to ask me and as soon as i started to tell her she would interrupt me or tell me i wasnt feeling that way. So i just started to respond with ...fine.