June 2015 Moms
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kcave21
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so as I get closer to my C-section date (23rd) I am becoming more and more nervous about having 2 children and starting over at the newborn stage! Any advice from moms with multipule kids would be awesome 
Re: nervous
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12587252/older-siblings-adjustments-and-problems#latest
They are BOTH great threads to utilize.
So... That is why redirects to other threads happen. The support is there, but nobody wants to repeat themselves over and over and over again when there are a bunch of separate threads all talking the same thing.
We don't just randomly pop on here.
ETA and yes, not opening the thread is exactly what happens. And the OP doesn't get the benefit of the advice of the roundtable discussion that is already occurring elsewhere
And she's been here long enough to know how this works. Which is outlined in the Guidelines set by The Bump admins. Read them. They stress the importance of the Search function.
Also, I'm sick and tired of the "be supportive or be silent" attitude. Everyone does not need a freaking participation trophy. You don't get Community support by showing up and creating your own rules. You get it by looking around and participating in an appropriate manner. Cripes.
@Kcave21 I am a ftm so I cant relate to the whole starting over but I would just say stay positive and try and think about the blessing youll soon be holding in your arms and you've already done this twice so you've got practice and as well youll be able to add another addition to the family. What a gift
to everyone else, I do believe this site is for support and information and just to see where other women are and for us to share in all the things that motherhood and pregnancy brings. That being said, I do think that not everyone will agree and people will not be supportive of each other all the time, that's human nature. BUT why be rude, if your reading something you don't agree with then keep on scrolling. I get this is the internet and people are more likely to say things or react in ways they wouldn't in real life or face to face with someone but come on, I mean I don't agree with what a lot of women on here talk about and I roll my eyes at a lot of the comments and such, but I don't take the time to be rude and down on those people. Just keep scrolling or move on to the next comment or thread.
I haven't had my baby yet...........
Leave it to people who never contribute anything worthwhile to say "WAH THERE'S NO SUPPORT HERE".
And seriously we need mean mom bingo boards... or play the mean mom drinking game (after we all deliver of course). I'm gonna pull these threads up and take a sip:
Every time we're told the person is never coming back/ deleting 'this app" lol
Every time we're told we're mean (drink double if the "meanie" was actually just directing the person to a more appropriate thread)
Every time we're told we need to be supportive
Every time the poster asks if their "darkening anal" is normal (FINISH YOUR DRINK FOR THIS ONE)
Every time we're asked if they should call their doctor
Every time if someone is wondering if they're in labor
Every time the person posts a question that is addressed in another thread on the first page
Every time someone calls a "meanie" rude or sarcastic
Please feel free to add other suggestions. This momma is gonna need a cocktail once this baby is born :-)
ETA: I'm already adding new rules.
Those are all sarcastic and rude.
Those are all sarcastic and rude.
Disagree. They are honest answers. OP constantly starts new threads and they (the regulars) have had this discussion with her at length. But, this is the song that never ends. The regulars are "rude" and "unsupportive" yet they are the people who contribute on a daily basis. That makes no sense.What is this high school? "the regulars"? no one on here, I don't care if you have been using this site for a day or for a year no one is better or more valid than anyone else.
marked by or given to using irony in order to mock or convey contempt.
rachelkaylene most of those are not sarcastic at all, they're explaining where the poster could find the most helpful information for her question. Why would people want to post their experiences in detail again when they already shared in another thread less that 24 hours ago. She's clearly not getting information on her question from this hilarious thread now. She would have done much better to take the suggestion and get the answers she needed on the other active thread.
Now for the sarcasm!! Ride off into the sunset white knight!!
Issues arise when posters new or old, (and this thread is actually a great example of this because OP has been around for a long time so it goes to show that no one is discriminating based on how "new" a poster is) completely and unapologetically ignore the way the community operates.
Those are all sarcastic and rude.
To me these all sound like honest feedback comments. If you want sunshine and rainbows for every comment you're not going to find it here. This is not an ego stroking, hand holding, and saying everything is going to be ok kind of place IF you don't use common sense (kinda like the real world). If you take a moment to look around at the various threads or take the advice of others on which threads to actually find what you're looking for, or God forbid actually use the search bar....these people when sensitive feelers would not be so hurt. If you participate using fore mentioned common sense, this place is awesome for support, feedback, and comradely.Forgive me for being so blunt. I'm just feeling 39+ weeks pregnant with irregular contractions. I left my filter back in the second trimester.
Just as an example: if you had taken the time yesterday to look around the community, you would have seen that we were all participating in SUPPORTING our moms who have experienced a loss of a child by not posting between 3-4 pm. You posted multiple times during that time period on threads that were right below the one that read HOUR OF SILENCE. Yet you chose to ignore this, which many people in our community would find RUDE and UNSUPPORTIVE, to use your terms.
I appreciate that most have a no nonsense attitude. I also like that they are very real with their responses. Yes this is a public forum where people come for support. Yet as some PP have mentioned, there are threads that are used regularly where everyone contributes. This is what makes us a community! You can't just continually pop up with personal concerns and expect feedback without contributing to the group. It's like showing up to a potluck party empty handed and expecting people to feed you.
they ARE treated the same here. they are directed to threads that will actually help them and give them answers, what the other posters who people claim are unsupportive and mean are doing is being helpful. the OP is constantly making her very own threads that are unmecessary seeing as the answers she wants are in other places. she needs to look around. just as the new posters do.
its like walking into class late and getting mad at the professor when they dont stop the entire lesson to catch you up.
Edit: forgot like 3 words
swizz and i were apparently typing at the same time.