I would be SO mad! Like @mommaswizz said, my DH and I are also very private and don't use social media. We have warned our families that there will be serious wrath if they post TMI about our child on the internet. I'm sorry girl, you have every right to be mad!
I told my 14 year old sister from the beginning that I didn't want her in the delivery room. I told my mom I didn't want my sister in the delivery room. My sister was upset about it but I was like, deal with it. It's new for me and she kind of gets under my skin sometimes (she's just very teenagey) anyway, my mom and sister live an hour and a half away and they're coming to stay with me on Saturday so my mom can be here for my induction on Sunday if it comes to that. So I'm like, "are you going to leave her at home alone?" Cause I know she won't. My mom said my sister can wait in the waiting room. Like, you know an induction can take HOURS/DAYS, right??? I'm not so heartless. So now somehow my 14 year old sister is going to be in the delivery room. I'm so annoyed.
ETA: I'm gonna call my mom back and tell her to leave my sister in Jersey and then when I have the baby, she and my dad can come down together. They're all gonna be pissed at me for not wanting to include her but I don't care. I'm crabby today.
I told my 14 year old sister from the beginning that I didn't want her in the delivery room. I told my mom I didn't want my sister in the delivery room. My sister was upset about it but I was like, deal with it. It's new for me and she kind of gets under my skin sometimes (she's just very teenagey) anyway, my mom and sister live an hour and a half away and they're coming to stay with me on Saturday so my mom can be here for my induction on Sunday if it comes to that. So I'm like, "are you going to leave her at home alone?" Cause I know she won't. My mom said my sister can wait in the waiting room. Like, you know an induction can take HOURS/DAYS, right??? I'm not so heartless. So now somehow my 14 year old sister is going to be in the delivery room. I'm so annoyed.
ETA: I'm gonna call my mom back and tell her to leave my sister in Jersey and then when I have the baby, she and my dad can come down together. They're all gonna be pissed at me for not wanting to include her but I don't care. I'm crabby today.
Don't feel bad. This is your show, it has nothing to do with making sure no one gets their feelings hurt.
@Sammy K I'm a total people pleaser but I did call my mom and told her to leave my sister back home. We'll see what she does. I know this will come back to bite me
@Sammy K I'm a total people pleaser but I did call my mom and told her to leave my sister back home. We'll see what she does. I know this will come back to bite me
Just stress that this a medical procedure and not a show or a bonding event for everyone in the family.
Maybe tell your mom, if there is any push back, "I need you on my side for this. Having her there will make it harder on me"?
The delivery will be longer and harder if you're stressed. That's why so many hospitals are making delivery rooms like resorts!
I can't take the "I don't want an iv or monitors" comments on the appointments thread. Seriously?!! Then give birth in your closet and save yourself the inconveniences of modern medicine.
Please when someone asks me if I plan to go naturally I respond with "it's been a very sober 9 months, labor is no time to start turning down free drugs" I'm obviously half joking, but seriously, I'm taking the drugs lol
Yeah then don't go to the hospital. I wouldn't want the liability of being that persons nurse. Id AT LEAST consent to intermittent monitoring.... For the love....... There's a reason that the survival rate of babies way back when wasn't high..... Cliche but true
@Mommaswizz@klkonwi YES! Thank you! I was thinking along the exact same lines as the both of you! Go have your baby in a river, then. And I would hate to be a medical personnel at that delivery, afraid all the time that my patients are in danger and me not knowing, and then probably getting sued when something goes wrong. [-(
@NotISaidtheCat I would be livid if my MIL or anyone did that also! Glad it got resolved because I was going to suggest to "report" the picture on Facebook claiming it wasn't there's (which its technically not since it's your baby). I would be the total bitch to do that.
I'm super pissy right now because I woke up with a sore throat and I thought it would go away.....nope. I now have a sore throat and my nose is runny. I swear if I am sick for my induction on Saturday I'm going to lose it!
Every time I read "I trust my body can do this without drugs" I laugh and bite my tongue. That was me, and boy did I learn. There's a reason maternal and fetal mortality rates have dropped with modern medicine. And while you might survive a natural birth, it might be the worst experience of your life.
Whoever was the person who said no one has ever regretted an epidural was right. But I know a lot of FTM who did it without drugs that want ALL of the drugs for #2.
Also, anyone that says they had an easy labor or it wasn't that bad makes me want to punch them. I know we're all different, blah blah blah but I don't want to hear about your delivery orgasms.
Popping out a child....The last thing on my mind would be a orgasm. To those who disagree, awesome good for you. I just can't fathom why....how...wtf!!! My mil wants to be in the room. I'm definitely going to try my best to avoid that. She's just going to stress me out. I told her if she says anything stupid to stress me out then I'm kicking her out. Hearing her voice stressed me out. I love her but I love the thought of as much peace as possible while giving birth more.
I am trying for a birth with the least amount of intervention, but I definitely agree there is absolutely no reason to deny intermittent monitoring. It's not invasive, poses no risk, and doesn't affect your mobility, which is my only gripe with constant monitoring. But my hospital even has a wireless monitor they can strap to you if you want to roam the halls or something, making constant monitoring not even bad. There are interventions, and then there are precautions/observation.
I'm annoyed because my husband isn't even going to take a full week off when baby is born. Here's why..... Our friend came over last night and told him not to because he was "bored" at home when he took a week off with their child. Hey dude.... I don't give a shit if you were bored. Thanks for convincing my husband not to help me for a week. Ugh. @Mandisclark I'm with you on the breakdown. Cramps dull and annoying all yesterday and TMI bloody show last night........ And still haven't gotten stronger or done shit since. And no more anything on the toilet paper. It's such a mind tease.
I'm annoyed because my husband isn't even going to take a full week off when baby is born. Here's why..... Our friend came over last night and told him not to because he was "bored" at home when he took a week off with their child. Hey dude.... I don't give a shit if you were bored. Thanks for convincing my husband not to help me for a week. Ugh. @Mandisclark I'm with you on the breakdown. Cramps dull and annoying all yesterday and TMI bloody show last night........ And still haven't gotten stronger or done shit since. And no more anything on the toilet paper. It's such a mind tease.
Are you effing kidding me??
STAB.
And hell no. How did this one friend just convince him of this out of the blue? Jerk face.
I'm going to show my husband this meme when he wakes up! I always love you @Westypet ! Always cracking me up. Yeah needless to say I'm pissed and what if I have a cesarean ? Yes my sister is coming for a few days but I'll still need his help getting my ass in and out of our freakishly tall bed to pee .....
Also anyone else find it ironic that the hormone we are filled with is called relaxin when that is the VERY last thing I'm able to do right now. Hips feel like someone took a hammer to them. I am over this. My mom keeps texting me saying," just rest your eyes and lay around and relax" ha..... Relax!!!?!?
I'm going to show my husband this meme when he wakes up! I always love you @Westypet ! Always cracking me up. Yeah needless to say I'm pissed and what if I have a cesarean ? Yes my sister is coming for a few days but I'll still need his help getting my ass in and out of our freakishly tall bed to pee .....
Just let him know that it's not a vacation! It's not supposed to be fun...it will be a ton of work for both of you!
Also anyone else find it ironic that the hormone we are filled with is called relaxin when that is the VERY last thing I'm able to do right now. Hips feel like someone took a hammer to them. I am over this. My mom keeps texting me saying," just rest your eyes and lay around and relax" ha..... Relax!!!?!?
Happy to help in the gif department. *preens*
YES!!! Relaxin? Nope. Not relaxin' at all.
And to add... I feel like the women in our lives have crazy hindsight. They WISH they got more rest for labor and raising a newborn, but couldn't, so they put that on us at the end. How the hell am I supposed to sleep with 8494 symptoms annnnd the anxiety of "what the hell did I wipe off of my virginia? MP? Bloody Show? Pee? Leaking water?" paired with "contraction? RLP? Cramping? Have to pee pain? Horrific gas pain?"
You try to get to "relaxin" when you're a ticking time bomb.
And add making sure baby is moving enough every 10 minutes...... you can't relax. Impossible! It's good were getting our rants out this morning early [-X
I just reread the rules of the board, since an admin bumped them, and they totally reflect that people need to use the Search function AND wait 72 hours between joining and posting, so people get a feel for the board before jumping in.
I know.... Is it sick of me that I was praying she came back to have some defense of her use of "gooch" lol....... I knew it was fake but I was so wishing it wasn't! Lol
@klkonwi what?! DH's homie was bored? First off - marriage, that guy ain't doing it right. And second, even if he WAS bored, isn't that what time off work is usually for? To have time to be purposefully lazy and bored? Not saying he should have been purposefully lazy and bored during this episode of time off, but normally yes, vacations are times we plan to do nothing and enjoy the hell out of it.
So I've been at my parent's house for nearly 2 weeks now. It sucks and this is exactly what I was trying to avoid by coming too soon. It's small, hot, buggy, and there is nothing to do. I keep thinking how I could've been in my own apartment at the beach all this time. But FI is having a ball- he's been golfing with my step dad, watching soccer and basketball games with my dad, fishing, just basically living it up while I sit here in a pool of my own sweat. He got up this morning to go golfing and left without taking the dog for a walk first, resulting in said dog jumping on my head until I got up to take him. Not a happy overdue pregnant lady. And LO is most definitely not cooperating since FI has to be out of town for work tomorrow, Saturday and Sunday, and I will be 41 weeks on Friday... So any way it pans out he will either not be here to labor with me or have to leave me in the hospital or the day we bring LO home. Great timing. And my mom won't shut up about controlling my anxiety and stress. I think I've done excellent up to this point but I can only take so much!
Eta: forgot to say I am going to freak out on the next friend who texts me asking is the baby here yet then giving me genius suggestions to get him to come, when NONE OF THEM HAVE KIDS OR KNOW WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT.
Re: Angry Pregnant Ladies...
ETA: I'm gonna call my mom back and tell her to leave my sister in Jersey and then when I have the baby, she and my dad can come down together. They're all gonna be pissed at me for not wanting to include her but I don't care. I'm crabby today.
Maybe tell your mom, if there is any push back, "I need you on my side for this. Having her there will make it harder on me"?
The delivery will be longer and harder if you're stressed. That's why so many hospitals are making delivery rooms like resorts!
Uuuuuuuggghhhhh :-L
That is all.
#-o
Edited, 'then' vs 'them'
I'm super pissy right now because I woke up with a sore throat and I thought it would go away.....nope. I now have a sore throat and my nose is runny. I swear if I am sick for my induction on Saturday I'm going to lose it!
Whoever was the person who said no one has ever regretted an epidural was right. But I know a lot of FTM who did it without drugs that want ALL of the drugs for #2.
Also, anyone that says they had an easy labor or it wasn't that bad makes me want to punch them. I know we're all different, blah blah blah but I don't want to hear about your delivery orgasms.
Our friend came over last night and told him not to because he was "bored" at home when he took a week off with their child.
Hey dude.... I don't give a shit if you were bored. Thanks for convincing my husband not to help me for a week. Ugh.
@Mandisclark I'm with you on the breakdown. Cramps dull and annoying all yesterday and TMI bloody show last night........ And still haven't gotten stronger or done shit since. And no more anything on the toilet paper. It's such a mind tease.
STAB.
And hell no. How did this one friend just convince him of this out of the blue? Jerk face.
Yeah needless to say I'm pissed and what if I have a cesarean ? Yes my sister is coming for a few days but I'll still need his help getting my ass in and out of our freakishly tall bed to pee .....
Hips feel like someone took a hammer to them. I am over this.
My mom keeps texting me saying," just rest your eyes and lay around and relax" ha..... Relax!!!?!?
YES!!! Relaxin? Nope. Not relaxin' at all.
And to add... I feel like the women in our lives have crazy hindsight. They WISH they got more rest for labor and raising a newborn, but couldn't, so they put that on us at the end. How the hell am I supposed to sleep with 8494 symptoms annnnd the anxiety of "what the hell did I wipe off of my virginia? MP? Bloody Show? Pee? Leaking water?" paired with "contraction? RLP? Cramping? Have to pee pain? Horrific gas pain?"
You try to get to "relaxin" when you're a ticking time bomb.
Sweet, sweet validation.
I knew it was fake but I was so wishing it wasn't! Lol
@Westypet you're on a gif'ing roll this morning!
Eta: forgot to say I am going to freak out on the next friend who texts me asking is the baby here yet then giving me genius suggestions to get him to come, when NONE OF THEM HAVE KIDS OR KNOW WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT.