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September 2015 Moms
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Rant away! Need to let off steam, feel free to do it here!!
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I'm at my wits end and I know even when I'm not I still need to vent, so I figured we could all use a place to let out some frustration!
For me it's about a girl I used to be friends with, we were super close all through high school but towards the end of HS she started making awful choices. She did stupid things and lied about horrible things to be "cool". That being said I never once gave up on her or bashed her, I was her biggest support through every back choice and stupid decision. But the moment one of her many short term flings decided he didn't like me or thought I was too "goody-goody" she'd drop me and not speak to me until said short term fling broke her heart. Eventually last summer I'd had enough and cut her out, I told her I was done that I wasn't going to keep trying to be kind to her if I was just gonna get dropped for the next boy toy that walked by! So we haven't spoken (officially anyway) in over a year now, but some how she still ends up in and out of my life. anyway, shes tried to frame him for spray painting cop cars, luckily the police 1) had no proof of it being him and 2) someone had a video of her boyfriend doing it. There's been a few other things I could list but I see this is getting kinda long. So anyway were building a case to file for a no-contact restraining order, well I was telling a mutual friend of ours about said case and she informed me I should see if I can get my
Ultrasound pictures back.... I had no idea what she was talking about and she told me that she's been running around telling everyone she's pregnant but the ultrasound picture she's been showing people has MY name and info on it!! She apparently got it when she was staying a few nights with my best friend, she's good friends with her brother and I'd given her a two of my ultrasounds as a gift when I named her the the godmother. Now I feel horribly violated, like every shred of privacy I have is gone. I don't even know how to go about getting my ultrasounds back! Or what she was planning to do when it came time to "give birth"... Honestly I don't even feel safe without my fiancé home anymore...
TLDR?: that's okay long story short my ex best friend from high school stole my
Ultrasound pics and is telling everyone they're hers...
WHAT ABOUT YOU LADIES? Got any angry rants or just need to vent? Let it all out!
For me it's about a girl I used to be friends with, we were super close all through high school but towards the end of HS she started making awful choices. She did stupid things and lied about horrible things to be "cool". That being said I never once gave up on her or bashed her, I was her biggest support through every back choice and stupid decision. But the moment one of her many short term flings decided he didn't like me or thought I was too "goody-goody" she'd drop me and not speak to me until said short term fling broke her heart. Eventually last summer I'd had enough and cut her out, I told her I was done that I wasn't going to keep trying to be kind to her if I was just gonna get dropped for the next boy toy that walked by! So we haven't spoken (officially anyway) in over a year now, but some how she still ends up in and out of my life. anyway, shes tried to frame him for spray painting cop cars, luckily the police 1) had no proof of it being him and 2) someone had a video of her boyfriend doing it. There's been a few other things I could list but I see this is getting kinda long. So anyway were building a case to file for a no-contact restraining order, well I was telling a mutual friend of ours about said case and she informed me I should see if I can get my
Ultrasound pictures back.... I had no idea what she was talking about and she told me that she's been running around telling everyone she's pregnant but the ultrasound picture she's been showing people has MY name and info on it!! She apparently got it when she was staying a few nights with my best friend, she's good friends with her brother and I'd given her a two of my ultrasounds as a gift when I named her the the godmother. Now I feel horribly violated, like every shred of privacy I have is gone. I don't even know how to go about getting my ultrasounds back! Or what she was planning to do when it came time to "give birth"... Honestly I don't even feel safe without my fiancé home anymore...
TLDR?: that's okay long story short my ex best friend from high school stole my
Ultrasound pics and is telling everyone they're hers...
WHAT ABOUT YOU LADIES? Got any angry rants or just need to vent? Let it all out!
Re: Rant away! Need to let off steam, feel free to do it here!!
Second my vent, I need it. But The babies dad doesn't text me during the day, We only talk when we see each other. I just feel secondary. I should be a main part of his life because I'm carrying his baby. He's normally very sweet with me. Always so hot and cold. He also still texts his ex and is always playing soccer instead of making plans like he used to. He and I have been getting closer but as always 2 steps forward 1 step back.
My cousin has my charger and won't text me back so I can get it back. And I'm so close to having to buy a new one. How hard is it to shoot me a text that you're busy?
And I'm about to go tomorrow to try for the 4th time to take my CNA, I keep missing the cut off.
Sorry for it being so long, Just feeling like I'm always second to people and feeling so discouraged. I'm always last. Thanks for letting me vent here!
ETA the bit about adoption because WTF is up with that
As for my vent.. I had the bright idea to offer up my house for my baby shower. My wonderful SIL is hosting and doing a crazy amount of stuff for it, of which I am eternally grateful. However, the closer we get to the day of (July 18th) the more I am stressing out about it. Why did I want to have it at home? I'm really beginning to question that. It's home, I'm comfortable here! But now I'm worried about getting my house in freaking show condition for all these people that are coming. And what about those carpet stains?! Oh god the stains. We got a puppy last year and while she is totally house broken now and I cleaned the heck out of all those spots she had accidents, there will forever be stains!! And I have to board both of my dogs because they won't know what the heck to do with so many people around. And I'm stressing about all that and then.. wait.. what if nobody comes? It's like a 2 hour drive for a lot of friends and family. Will they really drive that far? Okay I'll stop.
@emmamohn21 that sounds awful! Ultimately no one can dictate what you do with YOUR child. But no one should tell you can't do it. Honestly maybe it'd be good to get out of that house it doesn't sound like the heaviest environment. What about your family? Any possiblity of being able to stay with them until you can find a small place of your own? And though I don't know you for what it's worth I believe you and your SO are gonna be wonderful parents! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
@shelbydd think of it this way you won't have to drive anywhere or have to worry about lugging the gifts to and from and all that. Plus it'll be a more comfortable environment since its your environment! As for the stains I doubt anyone's gonna be spending long periods of time staring at your carpeting, and if they do again I doubt they'll judge you for it. It's family and friends and they're coming to support you not judge your home. If your really worried about cleaning ask your host and your hubby to Come by the day before and lend a hand! I'm sure they'll be glad to help! Oh and id like to add our showers are on the same day
We went on our hospital tour and the nurse asked my daughter if she knew if she was having a brother or sister (we decided not to share the sex with anyone, including her) she responded with "I'm having a brother" OMG we are having a girl and she's telling everyone she wants a brother, how upset is she going to be when her baby sister comes out? Ever since then, I've been trying to warm her up to having a sister without telling her. Then to top that off, my husband told me on the way home that there was something he was not so excited about when the baby comes...the nurse that gave the tour said that if the mom has a c-section, then when the baby is born, the baby gets handed to the father or support person. In which he said he wants to ease into holding the baby. He also told me the last time he remembers holding any baby was about 20 years ago (when his oldest niece was a baby). Am I the only one who is ready for this baby?
I'm tired of my mom telling me how large I am. Last week, she compared me to my sister, who had twins. Sunday, she asked me if I was sure I just had one in there.
Out of concern she bought me a bunch of maternity clothes two sizes too big, then was surprised when they were too loose.
She has always treated me like the "fat" daughter even though I have never been over weight. I have a different body type from her so I have never been, and never will be, rail thin. I'm ok with that, but she isn't and can't drop the subject. Anyhow, I'm tired of being told how huge I am. End rant, carry on....
Now, to top it all off, my grandfather fell again yesterday morning. He is not hurt thank God, but they are keeping him a day or two at the hospital just to be sure everything is okay. Then they are transferring him to a rehab facility in town so he can build his strength back up. My grandmother called the paramedics to come help him get him back up and they decided to take him in, which was fine with us. He needed to be looked at, but they were complete jerks about it because they felt my mom and my aunt weren't doing a good enough job taking care of my grandparents. Now they are trying to get protective services involved because of that. Argh.....can I just go crawl in a hole somewhere?
@lemondroplife I wanted a brother, and I even remember asking my aunt who was babysitting me when my sister was born if she was sure it was a girl... She's now one of my biggest pains in the butt, but also one of my best friends and allies!
We have to paint our house's exterior. It is an old house and it's three stories so it's big and expensive.
Well our tax return, that will pay for this expense of painting, was filed back in March and we still do not have our refund. Two weeks ago the IRS sends a letter saying they want to give us HALF of what we are owed and it'll be another 4-6 weeks. DH calls. Turns out they're trying to illegally give us a credit that negates the credit we actually qualify for just so they have to pay out less.
So now the city cites us and is taking DH to court because we have peeling paint. On a house we were ALREADY going to paint this summer, before they cited us. So we will probably have a fine on top of the expense of paying someone to paint this old house. And yet our money still hasn't been give to us by the IRS.
I'm like in a catch 22, twilight zone. I cried for two days straight when DH got the court summons. He could get a criminal record, a misdemeanor! All because we can't afford to paint a house in their 30-day time limit! We aren't criminals!!!
His sisters never plan anything. So its like pulling teeth. His one sister gave us a 3 hour window to do fathers day that she is free. So I suggested that we just pick up food, such as fried chicken and sides and we even offered to pay. She sent back a rude comment that her dad deserved better than fast food. I just told her my husband requested this as he didn't want to miss all the time with the family while cooking.
Of course no answer.
The funniest part....his dad if given a choice of where to eat would pick a truck stop every time!
I'm over wasting energy on planning things for his family.
If my fiancé does not roll over our of the middle of the f**king bed in gonna kill him... I can't scoot over anymore without being on the damn floor and I JUST WANT TO SLEEP ~X(
We have 50/50 custody of DHs kids. So, we only see them half the time anyway (2 weekdays, every other weekend). My in-laws call and say "hey, come out to the ranch on Saturday and hang out". Great. We can do that. It's Father's Day weekend, kids should see a grandfather.
Two days later, they call and say "why don't we pick up the kids from the ex wife on Friday and you guys can get them back late on Saturday night?"
Here's the thing: DH has been working such long days the last few times the kids have been at our house, that he's seen them for a grand total of about 2 hours. Also, the kids spent 2 nights at the grandparents house last week.
So now MIL is all cranky at DH because he said that we would all come out on Saturday and that would be it.
I'm so annoyed with his parents for feeling like their grandchildren should spend all their time out at the ranch when their son is working so much that he doesn't see them. And when he can, they think the kids should be with them!!!
(They live an hour away off about 3 dirt roads...sometimes they can't get out because of rain/snow...)
I just want them to get that these kids aren't theirs to steal away on a whim...
She's been banished outside, and I'm not sorry.
Side note- sloppy hubs woke me up once trying to put his feet on my face.... Gurg!!! I need a vacation. By myself.
Anyway of that wasn't bad enough (and it is, it so is) I rearranged my whole schedule this week to take today off so I could go support a friend who was doing something really big and really courageous today. I spent most of the morning alternating between tears of pain and tears of frustration.
My rant is about my evil SIL. I've mentioned her before so I won't go into as much detail, but she cheated on my BIL with his best friend, then left him n her kids to go live 13 hours away. Well he went to take the kids to see her a few weeks ago, and when he came back, told us that 1. She slept with his buddy over 10 times, not the 2 times she originally said, and 2. He's moving up there to be with her, as they reconciled. I know it's his life n his relationship, but how does she screw up and run off and then get to be the one who gets what she wants??? (She's wanted to move away for years now). Worst of all, we helped raise their three kids (they both worked nights so we had them overnight on a pretty regular basis), and now I feel like we will hardly ever see them again :'(