Does anyone else feel like they are losing connection with their partner? I feel like my boyfriend is drifting away when he should be getting closer. He says im being different but I feel like it's him. Maybe this is all just in my head and my hormones are talking. Is anyone else having trouble?
Re: Baby daddy problems?
Ladies,
Remember, your other half in this can't really see any physical differences due to the pregnancy. Therefore, they are not able to relate to how you're feeling most times. I know this is a really hard time for some of us, but I think the guys will turn around once physical symptoms of pregnancy start to show themselves and they can also have more involvement (feeling kicks, etc).
SparklesC - try to stop talking about the pregnancy with them. You may not realize it, but I'm sure that your pregnancy is the topic most discussed (and for good reason - you're excited). For this reason, I continue to come here!!! This is my outlet to discuss my feelings and thoughts and excitements with fellow MTB and not to over talk baby with DH. It's actually become something we share in now. He'll ask me how the ladies are doing and I'll dish to him the drama. It's cute how excited he gets.
@svnna94 I'd say you are right, your DH can make his own lunch for a few weeks while you are sick. That's completely ridiculous. I'm not made to cater to my husband, we have a partnership. If he was sick, I would pick up his slack. Morning sickness doesn't last forever.
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@SparklesC I do offer to make him something easy the night before such as a sandwich but he acts like he's too good for sandwiches. I give up.
@Kelley421 Thank you! I've been trying to get that point across to him, that whenever he's sick, I dote on his every need, but when the tables are turned he treats it like such a chore. Id almost rather just not even ask for the help!
@NenaB54 believe me, I've explained, he just didn't want to hear it. he's like I'm not going to wake up 30 mins earlier to make lunch when you could just help me out, ugh stubborn man I have! Like I said in previous responses, it's probably my fault because I spoiled him with it before. I used to just whip up leftovers from the night before but lately I haven't been cooking at all, so that option is out. I can understand from all off your perspectives, this probably sounds so pathetic. :-<
When you have been up every hour for months with a crying colicky newborn (my second baby)??
Or everyone is sick with the flu for 4 days and you are taking care of yourself and your kids (a few months ago at my house)??
It sounds like a serious talk about responsibilities and helping out is in order. Pregnancy is tough, I get it. I'm dealing with frequent nausea while caring for a 5 & 2 year old. But the actual kid part is harder. Thank god my husband has always stepped up and known taking care of the house and kids is also his part responsibility.
Good luck!
If he thinks that you're being unreasonable/difficult/lazy etc through the pregnancy, he's not going to like it at all when baby arrives! You guys better prepare for high amounts of sleep deprivation, teething cries, illness crying etc. babies cry for any and every reason they have because they cannot talk, they cannot communicate and they need you for EVERYTHING!! And if he thinks for half a second that whenever that baby falls asleep you're going to have the energy to get up and cook every meal and wash every dish and sweep every corner of every floor...he's delusional. You are going to want to sleep and relax and rest as soon as that baby calms down and closes its eyes. And just because the man has a job doesn't mean he can't help around the house! He would have to do both if he didn't have you to help out. How would he survive if he didn't have you? Too good for a sandwich?? Ridiculous! He is not defenseless, and he's definitely not too good for a sandwich. If he doesn't want to eat a sandwich then he must not be very hungry! I have never met a man in my life who will turn down a sandwich if hungry.
First of all, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this right now. I am genuinely heartbroken for you and your daughter. And you're right, you should never be anybodys second choice when you have chosen to make them a priority! And maybe he should be putting all the effort that he is investing in this woman into trying to fix the relationship and remember why he fell in love with you to begin with. How is he supposed to appreciate you and have a love to share with you if he's focusing on another woman? How is he supposed to be the best dad he can be when his priorities are in an outside relationship? Seems to me he definitely does not have his priorities straight. As stressed out as he might be, there is no reason for him to abandon you and your daughter at a time like this. I will say this though, at least you have figured it out And know the situation sooner rather than later. I'm sure it would I'm sure it would be even more heart breaking to find out there is another woman in the picture later on. In my personal opinion, and this is just me, if he's going to treat you like an option or like you are some sort of backup plan if things don't work out with this woman, kick his ass to the curb. Get a lawyer, talk about your rights, figure out what financial support you'll be qualified for. This baby is not his priority, you are not his priority, your daughter is not his priority, and that's not fair to any of you guys and I don't think he deserves the "month to figure it out". If you would've just need a break because he stressed, by all means that's a little bit more understandable, but because he wants a break because you might be interested in another woman? Gtfoh! What a jerk move! Again, I am so sorry you have to go through this but I'm telling you right now you deserve a hell of a lot better than what he is providing you.
Your relationship models for your children how romantic relationships work. Model for them that their partner should be a real partner (50/50) in & out of the house.
Also, 200 bucks says that this girl gets pregnant if she's not already. This guy is into making babies-- not raising them.
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