Scary Mommy PSA - Oh Please!

Elyse1384 · June 2015

OK so let me start by saying that I love reading the Scary Mommy blog posts. They're usually spot on and so perfectly aligned with my sense of humor. This was the first one I've read that actually bothered me and I just had to share. Here it is - https://www.scarymommy.com/multi-kid-shopping-carts-are-for-families-with-more-than-one-kid/

To all the STMs who agree with her...sorry, but I'm totally snagging the car shopping cart for my awesomely crazy train 14 month old who is obsessed with them. It occupies him and allows me to get my shopping done.

To all the FTMs, when your LOs come of age to enjoy the magical experience that is the car shopping cart, go for it! Don't look back. Despite the wretched experience of trying to navigate that SOB through the aisles and crowd of shoppers, it is beyond worth it and you can actually complete your shopping trip without having to head out of there without half the things you need.

mmk29 · June 2015

Although I may annoy a few multi-child mothers with my use of this cart, trust me when I say that 99.9% of the other shoppers thank me. My DS is a DEMON in the super market. I actually try at all costs not to take him there, but sometimes its unavoidable and that shopping cart is the only thing that saves me.

pink*sheep · June 2015

I have avoided it for no other reason than I just personally don't want to push that behemoth anywhere. Fortunately for us, DS never was problematic in stores.

rox7777 · June 2015

Unfortunately for me, my son might be the only two year old that hates those things. I've even tried the little mini ones at the mall. Maybe having a little brother to sit with him will make it more entertaining? For now I rely on sending my husband to the store and movies I've downloaded to my phone. Oh, and opening 20 snacks in the store, because my kid is a demon too.

Barker2+1 · June 2015

I am a SaHM and I gotta say it doesn't bother me when the car cart is gone I actually prefer not using it. My kids fight over who is the driver and then you stop to actually compare two items or look for an item they magically jump out like they are practicing for a Chinese fire drill. I prefer bribery. My kiddos know if we make it through the store we will either stop for ice cream or get a prize on the way out. They also know if they push me too far I have left the store without buying what we need and that means that all that is left at home is the stuff they don't like. So it is really in their best interest to obey and behave.

dogsombrero · June 2015

Ugh not sure what I'm going to do when the twins are born. Do they make carts that can hold 2 car seats and a toddler?

For me when the time comes I will need a giganto cart so not having one would be turd. That said until the kids are in school I'll be a Sahm so I could go at 9 am on Tuesday.

mmk29 · June 2015

@Barker2+1 I can't wait until my son is old enough to bribe. I feel like we're right on the edge of it now. We're currently in the I'm going to pick up everything, throw a temper tantrum, Possibly throw what was picked up, and smack you in the face if you pick me up stage.

Elyse1384 · June 2015

dogsombrero said:

Ugh not sure what I'm going to do when the twins are born. Do they make carts that can hold 2 car seats and a toddler? For me when the time comes I will need a giganto cart so not having one would be turd. That said until the kids are in school I'll be a Sahm so I could go at 9 am on Tuesday.

Not that it will help in the newborn/baby stage, but I think Target has those 4 seat carts. Now those I would NEVER take with just my DS. Then again, there isn't a cool looking toy strapped to it, so no issues there! My cousin has 4 kids (including a set of twins). She hated grocery shopping, but she used to wear one of the twins and put the other in the car seat. Good luck - I feel for you there!

Pontot31 · June 2015

I always hope those carts are gone! I hate pushing them. My DD loves them.

Pontot31 · June 2015

dogsombrero said:
Ugh not sure what I'm going to do when the twins are born. Do they make carts that can hold 2 car seats and a toddler?

For me when the time comes I will need a giganto cart so not having one would be turd. That said until the kids are in school I'll be a Sahm so I could go at 9 am on Tuesday.

Look into carriers for twins. You can wear both of them so you're hands free. And you get a bonus workout!

Elyse1384 · June 2015

Pontot31 said:

I always hope those carts are gone! I hate pushing them. My DD loves them.

Seriously! My DS is obsessed and it is hysterical to watch a 14 month old turning the wheel every time I take a corner (my goodness they pick up so much so early on!), but when I am approaching the store and realize he sees an available car cart I can't help but groan and mutter under my breath. It's a double-edge sword. I know I will get my shopping done, but I dread pushing that boulder with no cornering capabilities around the store.

amh0411712 · June 2015

OK so let me start by saying that I love reading the Scary Mommy blog posts. They're usually spot on and so perfectly aligned with my sense of humor. This was the first one I've read that actually bothered me and I just had to share. Here it is - https://www.scarymommy.com/multi-kid-shopping-carts-are-for-families-with-more-than-one-kid/

To all the STMs who agree with her...sorry, but I'm totally snagging the car shopping cart for my awesomely crazy train 14 month old who is obsessed with them. It occupies him and allows me to get my shopping done.

To all the FTMs, when your LOs come of age to enjoy the magical experience that is the car shopping cart, go for it! Don't look back. Despite the wretched experience of trying to navigate that SOB through the aisles and crowd of shoppers, it is beyond worth it and you can actually complete your shopping trip without having to head out of there without half the things you need.

You know. I work my ass of not to judge you, but when you snag the last cart, and I am forced to push TWO carts around to get groceries for the week I really hope you sneeze and pee your pants and have to return later. Seriously. This ish pisses me off. I try so hard to understand, and normally when it's a handful of things I don't mind using one cart and putting everything underneath (until I'm super pregnant. Then I wish a fart that's not a fart on you). But when I have a lot of groceries to get and can't use a two seater cart, it really makes things difficult. You try pushing and pulling carts on a narrow aisle. Your not entitled to it because your kid throws a fit. Take the opportunity to work through it, talk to them about what your buying. Use it as a time to teach sign for the fruits and food your buying, let them help you pick which bundles of bananas. My 2.5 year olds know better and have since they were 6 months old. I can't say my words or glares at you won't get any nicer when LO3 is here and I have to go grocery shopping with my twins and newborn.

amh0411712 · June 2015

dogsombrero said:
Ugh not sure what I'm going to do when the twins are born. Do they make carts that can hold 2 car seats and a toddler?

For me when the time comes I will need a giganto cart so not having one would be turd. That said until the kids are in school I'll be a Sahm so I could go at 9 am on Tuesday.

Honestly when they were this little, nothing really worked well other than pushing a double stroller and then pulling the cart behind me. It got significantly easier once they could sit up and could go in a cart.

Carrying both of them was too much work.

rox7777 · June 2015

I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.

lulamagoo · June 2015

We use the car cart on random occasions so that it is not expected. I hate pushing them.
I don't judge anyone with only one child in them.

jasbaby2 · June 2015

The ones at our stores for the most part don't have extra seats. I think they have a couple giant ones which you couldn't pay me to push around the store. I really don't see a problem with moms with one kid taking them though. they are grocery carts and whoever gets there first and grabs one gets it. I can understand why a mom with more children would be irritated if there were none left but the reality is there are no rules associated with grocery carts.

amh0411712 · June 2015

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.

Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*

Elyse1384 · June 2015

First of all, my DS is 14 months old. He says 2 words at this stage so trying to explain to him that women like you deem him less worthy as he only has one body is absurd. Second, how rude of you judge my parenting and my child. Teach him how to act in public? I'm an excellent mother and my son has an awesome disposition. You assume he throws tantrums and no where on this thread did I say that. That said, he starts wiggling in my arms with pure excitement when he catches a glimpse of an available car cart and I absolutely will NOT deprive him of that.

Also, I never judge another parent when a child has a meltdown so shame on you if you do. Children at that age don't have the same degree of control over their emotions that adults do. I have worked with many children over the years. Some are just young and don't understand how to control their emotions while others have troubled households and some have special needs. You never know someone's situation.

I (like you) have decided to have more than one child, but that does not entitle us to special privileges over single child households. Many kids love those carts - that is why stores stock them. It is not my (or anyone else's) problem that you decided to have multiple kids. I'm sorry, but you need to deal with the consequences of that decision. I'm not saying that as an attack as I also want a few kids myself. Children are true blessings and we would love to have several. You know what that means? Logistical challenges and grocery shopping is one of them. Women with multiple kids successful grocery shopped for years without 2 seater cars and they survived.

amh0411712 · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

First of all, my DS is 14 months old. He says 2 words at this stage so trying to explain to him that women like you deem him less worthy as he only has one body is absurd. Second, how rude of you judge my parenting and my child. Teach him how to act in public? I'm an excellent mother and my son has an awesome disposition. You assume he throws tantrums and no where on this thread did I say that. That said, he starts wiggling in my arms with pure excitement when he catches a glimpse of an available car cart and I absolutely will NOT deprive him of that.

Also, I never judge another parent when a child has a meltdown so shame on you if you do. Children at that age don't have the same degree of control over their emotions that adults do. I have worked with many children over the years. Some are just young and don't understand how to control their emotions while others have troubled households and some have special needs. You never know someone's situation.

I (like you) have decided to have more than one child, but that does not entitle us to special privileges over single child households. Many kids love those carts - that is why stores stock them. It is not my (or anyone else's) problem that you decided to have multiple kids. I'm sorry, but you need to deal with the consequences of that decision. I'm not saying that as an attack as I also want a few kids myself. Children are true blessings and we would love to have several. You know what that means? Logistical challenges and grocery shopping is one of them. Women with multiple kids successful grocery shopped for years without 2 seater cars and they survived.

So I need to take control over the fact that God gave me twins? WOW. Just wow.

I never said your child was less worthy, what I said was your attitude that your owed to do what you want without worrying about consequences that affect others is absurd.

If I can do my shopping in one cart I do it - because others need those carts too. Not just me. Not just moms of one kid. It's called being a citizen in a community - just like vaccinating, you do things to help others.

Lord help the world with all of this entitlement people feel they are owed.

ETA - I edited that to correct my irrational wording - I said use it as an opportunity. My kids didn't speak until after 2 - walking around the grocery store teaching them sign, and words helped a lot.

I try my hardest to not judge people - I don't know if the kid has a behavioral issue, or a handicap and needs a multi seater cart. I don't know what that mom dealt with that day.

But when I ask for the same respect? I'm told I need to deal with the consequences of having more than one child? And then when I'm frustrated because I would like to utilize something that my grocery store has gotten for moms of more than one kid, I'm told that I need to get over myself because people have been doing it for decades without them?

That makes sense...

cfletch88 · June 2015

We use the car cart every time. Honestly I have never even thought of feeling guilty for using it with my one child. I just think about getting in and out of the grocery store without loosing my mind.

rox7777 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*

As a military wife, I'm well aware of the struggles that come with being a single mom for 9+ months. I spent the first year raising my son alone in South Korea while my husband was missions or in the field. I think it's unfair to judge any mother for their choices because you never know their struggle. Yes, I'm very lucky to have my husband home now, but had you asked you would have known that struggled on my own for quite a while as a military wife/mostly single mom.

Elyse1384 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:

Elyse1384 said:

First of all, my DS is 14 months old. He says 2 words at this stage so trying to explain to him that women like you deem him less worthy as he only has one body is absurd. Second, how rude of you judge my parenting and my child. Teach him how to act in public? I'm an excellent mother and my son has an awesome disposition. You assume he throws tantrums and no where on this thread did I say that. That said, he starts wiggling in my arms with pure excitement when he catches a glimpse of an available car cart and I absolutely will NOT deprive him of that.

Also, I never judge another parent when a child has a meltdown so shame on you if you do. Children at that age don't have the same degree of control over their emotions that adults do. I have worked with many children over the years. Some are just young and don't understand how to control their emotions while others have troubled households and some have special needs. You never know someone's situation.

I (like you) have decided to have more than one child, but that does not entitle us to special privileges over single child households. Many kids love those carts - that is why stores stock them. It is not my (or anyone else's) problem that you decided to have multiple kids. I'm sorry, but you need to deal with the consequences of that decision. I'm not saying that as an attack as I also want a few kids myself. Children are true blessings and we would love to have several. You know what that means? Logistical challenges and grocery shopping is one of them. Women with multiple kids successful grocery shopped for years without 2 seater cars and they survived.

So I need to take control over the fact that God gave me twins? WOW. Just wow.
I never said your child was less worthy, what I said was your attitude that your owed to do what you want without worrying about consequences that affect others is absurd.
If I can do my shopping in one cart I do it - because others need those carts too. Not just me. Not just moms of one kid. It's called being a citizen in a community - just like vaccinating, you do things to help others.
Lord help the world with all of this entitlement people feel they are owed.

ETA - I edited that to correct my irrational wording - I said use it as an opportunity. My kids didn't speak until after 2 - walking around the grocery store teaching them sign, and words helped a lot.
I try my hardest to not judge people - I don't know if the kid has a behavioral issue, or a handicap and needs a multi seater cart. I don't know what that mom dealt with that day.
But when I ask for the same respect? I'm told I need to deal with the consequences of having more than one child? And then when I'm frustrated because I would like to utilize something that my grocery store has gotten for moms of more than one kid, I'm told that I need to get over myself because people have been doing it for decades without them?
That makes sense...

First of all, my statement you put in bold you took completely out of context. You had twins and then opted to have another child. If having multiple kids is so problematic for you, why have a 3rd? You made a decision to have a few kids (kudos as I said - I want a few myself). You were blessed with twins and now this baby. Yes, you should definitely take ownership of that decision as I take ownership of my decision to have more than one child. As someone who lost a baby who would have been my son's twin, I again take offense to your statement. I wish we had been blessed with twins. Twins are hard... flat out hard, but they are just as much a blessing. As I said, DH and I love children and want a few ourselves. You are coming off as angry and entitled. You are making some pretty bold assumptions about me, my parenting and my son in your comments. You are being hypocritical in saying "I don't want to judge others", but you were so quick to judge me on this thread. You don't get to dictate use of available grocery store carts. Those carts are made for children be it a family with 1 child, 2 children or 10! You don't see adults without kids going after them for a reason... they are meant to attract children. What sane person wants to push that awkward cart around the store. I do it because it makes my son happy and at 14 months he deserves happiness. That hardly makes me someone who doesn't care about others. I wouldn't let my son be destructive, hurtful, insensitive or cruel, but I certainly will let him use a cart intended for his demographic... a child.

BlueWaffleSpeshul · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

OK so let me start by saying that I love reading the Scary Mommy blog posts. They're usually spot on and so perfectly aligned with my sense of humor. This was the first one I've read that actually bothered me and I just had to share. Here it is - https://www.scarymommy.com/multi-kid-shopping-carts-are-for-families-with-more-than-one-kid/

To all the STMs who agree with her...sorry, but I'm totally snagging the car shopping cart for my awesomely crazy train 14 month old who is obsessed with them. It occupies him and allows me to get my shopping done.

To all the FTMs, when your LOs come of age to enjoy the magical experience that is the car shopping cart, go for it! Don't look back. Despite the wretched experience of trying to navigate that SOB through the aisles and crowd of shoppers, it is beyond worth it and you can actually complete your shopping trip without having to head out of there without half the things you need.

Haven't finished reading yet, but this was a huge debate back in the old days on Parenting. It was comical.

BlueWaffleSpeshul · June 2015

Did not using the car carts really get compared to vaccinating your children? Now that's a new one that never came up in the Parenting debate.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

Personally, I've never looked at one of those car-carts & thought, "those are for parents with two children." I look at them & think, "those are for kids". They have two seats in case you have two children, not because they are MEANT for parents with two children. They are meant for kids. I'm sure logistically it's difficult to grocery shop with multiple babies, but I don't think that means you're entitled to something special.

Elyse1384 · June 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

Personally, I've never looked at one of those car-carts & thought, "those are for parents with two children." I look at them & think, "those are for kids". They have two seats in case you have two children, not because they are MEANT for parents with two children. They are meant for kids. I'm sure logistically it's difficult to grocery shop with multiple babies, but I don't think that means you're entitled to something special.

Baby shower "etiquette" be damned @CarrieOct15

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

Personally, I've never looked at one of those car-carts & thought, "those are for parents with two children." I look at them & think, "those are for kids". They have two seats in case you have two children, not because they are MEANT for parents with two children. They are meant for kids. I'm sure logistically it's difficult to grocery shop with multiple babies, but I don't think that means you're entitled to something special.

Baby shower "etiquette" be damned @CarrieOct15

Lol!! Heck yeah we did!

ash413 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*

I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

amh0411712 · June 2015

ash413 said:

I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option. Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more. I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm ..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled. I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids. The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money. I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!

And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?

Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare · June 2015

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!

And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?

Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

rox7777 · June 2015

SAMs and Costco have the regular carts with two seats. Just for future reference. AND Walmart has those fancy blue things where you can seat multiple children, come to think of it, so does target. I personally note these things for when I do have days where taking two kids is a must.

mmk29 · June 2015

@amh0411712 common curtesy is first come first serve in those circumstances. I'm sorry but I'm not going to deprive my son something he loves, and is made for children's pleasure, because of the off chance you may show up behind me and someone took all of the other carts. Also those "straps" absolutely do not work with my son. I never put him in the front of a cart because of safety concerns, which will outrank your dissatisfaction with me every single time.

amh0411712 · June 2015

HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

ash413 said:

I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option. Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more. I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm ..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled. I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids. The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money. I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.
I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare · June 2015

amh0411712 said:
HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

Well I would have let you have the cart but you said you judge people right away and wishing sharting upon them.

I don't believe shart wishing is common courtesy. You're judgemental attitude is having an impact on me.

rox7777 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:
HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.
I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

If I used these carts this probably wouldn't be an option. I could imagine the tantrum that would ensue if I asked my two year old to get out of the cart so your children could get in it. Toddlers are not rational.

ash413 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:
HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

*****quote fail*****

I fail to see how you thought attacking, and calling everyone with 1 child entitled was going to be productive.

You don't get dibs on a toy (because let's be honest that's what the race car carts are) just because you have more kids. If you wanted to be sure to get one, get to the store when it opens.

jasbaby2 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option. Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more. I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm ..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled. I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids. The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money. I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

For this issue to even present itself all the carts you want have to be gone, you have to have 2+ kids with you AND the carts have to have been taken by people with one kid and not simply by other parents with 2+ kids. Does this happen often? I really wouldn't know.

I can understand why it would be irritating not to get a cart that accommodates your family. that would be a pain in the butt, unfortunately there aren't any rules associated with those carts so they are fair game. I don't agree that not taking those carts with one kid is common courtesy nor do I think its a generally accepted practice. In all seriousness, and I don't know how flexible your schedule is, but if I were you I'd do everything possible to visit the store at non peak hours.

mmk29 · June 2015

amh0411712 said:
HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

I would like to point out you openly said that you judge us and called us entitled. Yet you're mad because you don't have one and you know nothing about our circumstances or the medical state of child/mother that may be a good reason why that mother has the cart. Judge away, share your perspective, but maybe a little less condemning next time will get your further.

gumby22c · June 2015

amh0411712 said:
HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

amh0411712 said:

ash413 said:

amh0411712 said:

rbradshaw77 said:
I have a whole new respect for twin moms. Seriously? Two newborns and grocery shopping?! We would never eat again. I've already told DH he can keep the toddler on the weekends and I'll do the grocery shopping with the baby in a carrier.
Not everyone has that option.

Example my husband will be gone. So when someone takes the multi kid cart, I'm stuck not only wearing a newborn but now pushing two kids in two carts to get food to last us for a week or more.

I think the thing the irritates me the most on this topic is the attitude of "I want to use it, who cares about moms with more than 1 kid." I've encountered this behavior for 2 years now and it's really old. And it makes you (the general you, not you specifically) more of an @$$ when you stare at me for pushing two carts. I didn't get a choice to use the multi kid cart, because your 1 kid is using it. Not everyone has an opportunity to go grocery shopping solo. Some of us are single parents, or some of us have husband's who works weird schedules, or some of us have husband's who are deployed. *stepping off soap box*
I'm
..someone needs an internet break. You are acting upset that all this parents with 1 child are acting "entitled" bit your post comes off as extremely entitled.
I am just going to put it out there there is nothing to indicate those are only for multiple kids. Some stores have carts where you can put 2 kids instead of 1 on the top part near,mom, obviously for multiple kids.
The car carts though I think are more to appeal to kids, because if kids are happy and not screaming, mom shops more and spends more money.

I am sorry you had twins, and I can definitely see how that presents more challenges. However, that does not mean you get priority over other kids for the fun carts.

Hey guess what, don't be!
And who deemed you mom of the board who dicates who gets internet breaks?
Clearly this issue has always been a debate. Will I use this cart when I need one baby strapped in? Absolutely not. It's about common curtsey. Point blank.

I hope I take the last double cart while you watch me push my one child around in it

And I hope you shart yourself.

Seriously - all I was trying to do was bring some attention to common curtosy, and that while we all have hard days sometimes you can really have an impact on someones day when you say "oh hey, you can have this cart". Kind of like paying it forward at the starbucks line.

Just a different perspective yall

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Maybe you should have offered that perspective from a less judgemental place. Because holy shit, get off your high horse. You are letting your situation completely take over offering another point of view.

And I hate to be all "u don't know my lyfe", but you aren't the only military wife to ever raise multiple children alone while the spouse is gone. As @rbradshaw77 pointed out, several of us have been there done that as well. You don't win extra life points for that.

rox7777 · June 2015

If you want to get a good cart and avoid long lines and crowded stores, I highly recommend doing your shopping around 9am on a Monday or Tuesday. As someone that has a toddler that has a mega meltdown any time we step foot in a store, I can promise you the aisles will be empty, there will be plenty of carts and there will be no lines. It's a great way to avoid snarky looks as your toddler screams bloody murder and grabs things out of the cart to throw.