UO Thursday

Squirtgun · June 2015

I didn't see one started yet, so I'll be the brave one to start this week...

I think that this might be the most unpopular opinion I could possibly have on this board, but I feel like I should come clean with y'all:

Taco Bell grosses me out.

modanz1 · June 2015

Squirtgun said:

I didn't see one started yet, so I'll be the brave one to start this week... I think that this might be the most unpopular opinion I could possibly have on this board, but I feel like I should come clean with y'all: Taco Bell grosses me out.

This makes me feel sad for you. But along those lines...I think Chick-Fil-A is average at best.

SamanthaAshley820 · June 2015

I absolutely HATE McDonalds.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

I think it's tacky to create a GoFundMe for yourself. I constantly see them on my Facebook timeline like, "help me pay for college" "help pay my medical bills" "help pay for my moving expenses" etc etc. Since when did it become socially acceptable to ask for handouts?? Now, if a friend or family member creates one for you, that's one thing (I guess), but personally, when major expenses come up I know it's my own responsibility to handle them.

But, apparently, this is an unpopular opinion because I see them ALL THE TIME.

dogsombrero · June 2015

I like my MIL. I suggested they move closer. They are on the west coast and have kids/grand kids in the Midwest. FIL owns his own wealth management company and can work from anywhere.

VexyMommy · June 2015

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

ETA: Le sigh. When you want to edit egregious grammar issues, but you've already been quoted.

urby87 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*

MoRay05 · June 2015

@Squirtgun I agree. I really wanted a mexican pizza after all the Taco Bell talk but couldn't bring myself to eat their meat. I had to make my own which turned out to be pretty close!

sarahsnowball · June 2015

@jjr1214 I too feel very self conscious about my bump already. I feel like it's far too early for a real bump (I was 20+ weeks before I looked like this with DS and I'm only 15+2) and I know that a lot of my 'bump' is actually left over baby weight from last pregnancy.
This definitely feels like an UO when I see so many ladies on here so excited to get their bump. I'm just not ready for mine!

rox7777 · June 2015

I don't understand half the etiquette crap that goes along with being pregnant: with my first we weren't anywhere near family so I didn't have to worry and this time I just don't care. I know some things I find personally tacky, but as far as rules, I've never been much for those.

My mom is buying my glider and my MIL badly wants to throw a BBQ/baby shower and I personally will not have anything to do with planning or inviting people. I'm not making a registry and I've already bought the travel system, crib, a few outfits and the diaper bag. If people give gift us things I will be polite and write thank you cards, but I'm not making any requests other than feed me food.

kmd91 · June 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things.

In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

SamanthaAshley820 · June 2015

My SO wants to go out this weekend and make a million registry's to get the bags of coupons and free stuff...and I figured why the hell not. I'm not looking forward to store hopping...and I refuse to give anyone any information on registry's seeing this is my second child. And I wouldn't normally do it...but he read you get free "gift bags" in a parenting/pregnancy book for guys that I got him...

kwaldy · June 2015

UO: the term "babymoon" makes me cringe every time I see/hear it.

mmk29 · June 2015

SamanthaAshley820 said:
My SO wants to go out this weekend and make a million registry's to get the bags of coupons and free stuff...and I figured why the hell not. I'm not looking forward to store hopping...and I refuse to give anyone any information on registry's seeing this is my second child. And I wouldn't normally do it...but he read you get free "gift bags" in a parenting/pregnancy book for guys that I got him...

I made one for the coupons

Favoritemandms · June 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

My mother is not comfortable hosting my shower and appearing gift grabby. My MIL feels that it is my mother's sole responsibility to throw said shower. That's fun. I honestly want to tell them both to go scratch and have the thing without me.

Elyse1384 · June 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Elyse1384 · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

VexyMommy · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

I don't quite understand why you're this bent out of shape about it. No one attacked you or even mentioned your name. . . You are completely entitled to your opinion and I'm not criticizing you for having it. It's just not the social norm in my social circles.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

Out of curiosity, where are you from? I'm from Ohio, and all these rules would seem ludicrous & unnecessary to most people I know. And you're not crazy for having a differing opinion. Obviously, your culture/background is just different. People are going to side eye you & everyone else for everything, so there's not much of a point in caring what other people think.

Personally, I apologize if my particular opinion has offended you or made you think that you're being called a jerkface. We're just from different circles, who look at this topic a lot differently.

kmd91 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things.

In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

I don't quite understand why you're this bent out of shape about it. No one attacked you or even mentioned your name. . . You are completely entitled to your opinion and I'm not criticizing you for having it. It's just not the social norm in my social circles.

And I'd just like to throw out there that this is being discussed in the UO thread presumably because we are all aware that we are in the minority in this. Go to any thread that ever existed about baby showers and it's clear that TB overwhelmingly is quite strict and set in baby shower etiquette. I don't think anyone is knocking following the typical etiquette of the groups you are a part of. Just simply acknowledging that that isn't the way all social groups operate.

DogLoverX3 · June 2015

I love my mom and mother in law. I'm very lucky to have both wonderful women in my life

Elyse1384 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

I don't quite understand why you're this bent out of shape about it. No one attacked you or even mentioned your name. . . You are completely entitled to your opinion and I'm not criticizing you for having it. It's just not the social norm in my social circles.

I'm actually mocking this entire thing although I understand tone is difficult to pick up on in written form. To get bent out of shape I would need to be emotionally invested in something and on this subject, I am not. I am merely sharing an opinion. That is kinda the point.. isn't it?

CarrieOct15 to help her understand why I personally have this opinion. The context of that thread was brought to this thread and I'm merely reiterating what I stated there, just as you (and others) are reiterating here what was stated there. No harm in that as I see it. This is a UO thread.. isn't it? I seem to be in the minority there, so if anything this should be my UO. Talk about topical.

mmk29 · June 2015

So I recently got back the energy and desire to start cooking dinner again. I went to the grocery store and did an actual for the week grocery shop and spent 250 dollars. WTF self? Why is it a choice between eating healthy for LO or saving money for LO?

Elyse1384 · June 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

Out of curiosity, where are you from? I'm from Ohio, and all these rules would seem ludicrous & unnecessary to most people I know. And you're not crazy for having a differing opinion. Obviously, your culture/background is just different. People are going to side eye you & everyone else for everything, so there's not much of a point in caring what other people think.

Personally, I apologize if my particular opinion has offended you or made you think that you're being called a jerkface. We're just from different circles, who look at this topic a lot differently.

I didn't take it that way at all! I actually thought we had reasonable, mature back and forth on the other thread. I merely brought my point here as it was the same subject as the other thread and I like to chime in on this board (whether a popular opinion or not). A lot of the N15 sentiment seems to be "do what you want", so if anything I find my opinion on this particular subject to be in the UO camp which is fine. Differing opinions make the world an interesting place.

VexyMommy · June 2015

This is an unpopular opinion that I consider common sense. Read a book on pregnancy or look something up before asking a ton of questions about it. It doesn't seem too difficult a concept, but apparently it's beyond some people's ability to comprehend.

CarrieOct15 · June 2015

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

Elyse1384 said:

Elyse1384 said:

CarrieOct15 said:

kmd91 said:

urby87 said:

VexyMommy said:

I've literally never heard of the belief that a baby shower is to welcome the mother into motherhood before coming to The Bump. I (and everyone else I've asked) is under the impression it's a welcoming party for the baby.

Although I understand the reasoning now that I've seen the explanation, I had also never heard of baby shower etiquette before TB.

Same. And I get some of the etiquette, but for the most part, I don't get why people get in a tizzy about it. *shrug*
All of this 100%. I firmly believe that the etiquette surrounding showers varies either regionally or by friend/family group. So, if you come from a group where this etiquette is strongly pushed I totally understand why people are so bothered by it. However, what I don't understand is how some people don't understand that in certain groups, these "terrible etiquette" things are completely the norm. I've been to a bay shower for someone's 5th baby and no one batted an eye or mentioned it was weird. We all just wanted to celebrate the baby and go shopping for cute baby things. In fact, I would say among the people I know it is considered even more rude to decline a shower than any of the things people on TB treat like the worst thing ever.

I'm really glad I'm not the only one out of the baby shower loop. Like I mentioned in another post, around here they are just parties to celebrate a baby, and nobody cares who throws it, if there's a registry or not, when it is, etc etc. My mother & sister are throwing mine, and I have offered to help in any way that I can. Apparently in some circles, even that is tacky. Lol

So I'm just curious, would all of you ladies throw yourselves a bridal shower if you were engaged? Just like some of you can't fathom how anyone could find baby showers thrown by the expectant mom to be tacky, I can't fathom how you see that it is not. I've stated numerous times that this is MY OPINION. All one need do is look up the origins of a baby shower. My entire circle of family, friends and acquaintances feel the same way about showers. Call us traditionalists if you want, but there are other formats where I feel an expecting or new mother can still have "that time" to celebrate that doesn't need to be a baby shower.

I guess sharing a requested opinion just makes me a jerkface. Oh well! Forget sharing my UO today... apparently I am the UO. Good... I was tired of those drive by "guess the gender" posters stealing my thunder.

Oh and I'll just leave this here since apparently I'm crazy for having this opinion...

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/baby-shower-etiquette.aspx

Out of curiosity, where are you from? I'm from Ohio, and all these rules would seem ludicrous & unnecessary to most people I know. And you're not crazy for having a differing opinion. Obviously, your culture/background is just different. People are going to side eye you & everyone else for everything, so there's not much of a point in caring what other people think.

Personally, I apologize if my particular opinion has offended you or made you think that you're being called a jerkface. We're just from different circles, who look at this topic a lot differently.

I didn't take it that way at all! I actually thought we had reasonable, mature back and forth on the other thread. I merely brought my point here as it was the same subject as the other thread and I like to chime in on this board (whether a popular opinion or not). A lot of the N15 sentiment seems to be "do what you want", so if anything I find my opinion on this particular subject to be in the UO camp which is fine. Differing opinions make the world an interesting place.

Okay I'm glad you didn't take it that way! Tone is hard to interpret online, so it's hard to tell. And actually, your opinion isn't the UO one. The majority of women on TB follow shower etiquette. I think the women chiming in that they have never heard of these rules (myself included) are in the minority. At least, that is what I have picked up around here.

Favoritemandms · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

This is an unpopular opinion that I consider common sense. Read a book on pregnancy or look something up before asking a ton of questions about it. It doesn't seem too difficult a concept, but apparently it's beyond some people's ability to comprehend.

VexyMommy, you seem irritated today. Is something wrong?

(J/K I love you)

VexyMommy · June 2015

Favoritemandms said:

VexyMommy said:

This is an unpopular opinion that I consider common sense. Read a book on pregnancy or look something up before asking a ton of questions about it. It doesn't seem too difficult a concept, but apparently it's beyond some people's ability to comprehend.

VexyMommy, you seem irritated today. Is something wrong?

(J/K I love you)

Lol. Too busy at work this week to put as much thought into my answers as I usually do. Typically I edit the sass level down at least once before I post.

mmk29 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

Favoritemandms said:

VexyMommy said:

This is an unpopular opinion that I consider common sense. Read a book on pregnancy or look something up before asking a ton of questions about it. It doesn't seem too difficult a concept, but apparently it's beyond some people's ability to comprehend.

VexyMommy, you seem irritated today. Is something wrong?

(J/K I love you)

Lol. Too busy at work this week to put as much thought into my answers as I usually do. Typically I edit the sass level down at least once before I post.

Please stop editing, your sass level is perfect today.

dogsombrero · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

Favoritemandms said:

VexyMommy said:

This is an unpopular opinion that I consider common sense. Read a book on pregnancy or look something up before asking a ton of questions about it. It doesn't seem too difficult a concept, but apparently it's beyond some people's ability to comprehend.

VexyMommy, you seem irritated today. Is something wrong?

(J/K I love you)

Lol. Too busy at work this week to put as much thought into my answers as I usually do. Typically I edit the sass level down at least once before I post.

Leave the sass. I like it!

AnnamariauDoris · June 2015

Burned my hand while ironing a shirt for DS and food still hates me. I crave for everything get nauseous out of everything...16w3d and still sleepy and tired off the charts...baby moved second tri here. I know his sex ....but i still suffer in hunger because I can't eat, feel like shit ...no glow...and we got fucked out of our deposit from our ex landlord....and it's been 1 m since my nails seen polish...uff...need energy...

Just trying to change the subject...

mmk29 · June 2015

AnnamariauDoris said:

Burned my hand while ironing a shirt for DS and food still hates me. I crave for everything get nauseous out of everything...16w3d and still sleepy and tired off the charts...baby moved second tri here. I know his sex ....but i still suffer in hunger because I can't eat, feel like shit ...no glow...and we got fucked out of our deposit from our ex landlord....and it's been 1 m since my nails seen polish...uff...need energy... Just trying to change the subject...

One month? Jeez, mine haven't seen polish in years. It's actually kind of sad

I'm sorry about your deposit, that totally blows. I've learned to always take pictures before leaving after being royally screwed over once and being told there was nothing they could do.

Sydvicious08 · June 2015

Am I the only one who wants to keep quoting the etiquette discussion to see how small the writing can get??

My UO. I hate food right now. I'm one of "those moms" this pregnancy. I've lost 6 lbs (I'm 18 weeks). Food is just so unappealing, there are days I am gagging from hunger before i eat...

actually, now that I wrote it down...it's not an opinion...i might need help...

AnnamariauDoris · June 2015

mmk29 said:

AnnamariauDoris said:

Burned my hand while ironing a shirt for DS and food still hates me. I crave for everything get nauseous out of everything...16w3d and still sleepy and tired off the charts...baby moved second tri here. I know his sex ....but i still suffer in hunger because I can't eat, feel like shit ...no glow...and we got fucked out of our deposit from our ex landlord....and it's been 1 m since my nails seen polish...uff...need energy...

Just trying to change the subject...

One month? Jeez, mine haven't seen polish in years. It's actually kind of sad

I'm sorry about your deposit, that totally blows. I've learned to always take pictures before leaving after being royally screwed over once and being told there was nothing they could do.

Not the damage is the problem. We had an agreement: we pay the bills to the day and he gives our deposit back. We had to loan some money because my salary is much smaller now that i'm on leave and DH had no overtime last month because of little work. We are getting our shit together this month but still hard with moving and all. And the landlord said that he needs time that he doesn't have the money now. Well that is just amazing. He called us to tell us to pay up because they will cut his utilyties but hey... it seems that it was just our problem. We have time to wait after our money. And about my nails....i worked as a nail tehnician: acrylic,gel and natural...so I feel embarassed. .

Edit because if i misspelled some words...english is my fourth language so I totally apologize ...

urby87 · June 2015

AnnamariauDoris said:

AnnamariauDoris said:

Burned my hand while ironing a shirt for DS and food still hates me. I crave for everything get nauseous out of everything...16w3d and still sleepy and tired off the charts...baby moved second tri here. I know his sex ....but i still suffer in hunger because I can't eat, feel like shit ...no glow...and we got fucked out of our deposit from our ex landlord....and it's been 1 m since my nails seen polish...uff...need energy... Just trying to change the subject...

One month? Jeez, mine haven't seen polish in years. It's actually kind of sad I'm sorry about your deposit, that totally blows. I've learned to always take pictures before leaving after being royally screwed over once and being told there was nothing they could do.
Not the damage is the problem. We had an agreement: we pay the bills to the day and he gives our deposit back. We had to loan some money because my salary is much smaller now that i'm on leave and DH had no overtime last month because of little work. We are getting our shit together this month but still hard with moving and all. And the landlord said that he needs time that he doesn't have the money now. Well that is just amazing. He called us to tell us to pay up because they will cut his utilyties but hey... it seems that it was just our problem. We have time to wait after our money. And about my nails....i worked as a nail tehnician: acrylic,gel and natural...so I feel embarassed. .

I write a nail blog, and I feel the same way. I just took off last week's mani and put a fresh one on today, but it had been quite a while since I had a proper polish before that!

AnnamariauDoris · June 2015

Well i have the cleaned and all...just can't find the mood to put on polish.....but i'm in sleeping mood 24/7 so... with my first son I bought my first gel nail kit with everything and youtube learned how to put them. I had made a full gel pedichure to myself out of gel with sparkles and different models on them in week 39 of pregnancy...now....it took me a month to cut my natural nails and did that just because I was hurting myself and hitting everyone and everything around me with them....and my feet just didn't fit in some shoes so had to cut my toenails to

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lulamagoo · June 2015

My UO, I have zero desire to watch Game of Thrones. There I said it.

kwaldy · June 2015

lulamagoo said:
My UO, I have zero desire to watch Game of Thrones. There I said it.

Blasphemy! Lol

Flashparade · June 2015

Probably a pretty UO considering the amount of "gender" posts but I think gender reveal parties are extremely selfish and egotistical. A baby shower I get, but I highly doubt your friends and even some family are THAT excited about what the sex of your baby is. I'm pretty sure they would be fine with finding out via phone call or after the birth. Just another excuse to make something all about me me me and disguise it as being about the baby.

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