I had one for my first I just feel very uncomfortable with a bunch of people buying me stuff most of it I didn't want or need. I'm on my sixth child now and I have never had another one. I noticed people still send me gift cards and things anyways without me asking or when the babies born they come visit and bring some diapers and I am fine with that. I do sign up with three or four registries just to get the free stuff but I don't link any of my friends or family to them. I just like the coupons and swag.
Invite and if they don't show that's their choice, who wouldn't want to come celebrate your beautiful baby. If you don't invite them, they get mad. If you do, they might have an opinion. Can't make everyone happy!
My husband's cousin (uncle's turtle, monkey's mom....lol) is throwing her own shower for her third girl (her youngest is 1 1/2). Which I think is extremely tacky. She registered for so much crap and is expecting people to buy only off of her registry. Needless to say, we're not attending. Love living hours away so we have an excuse.
My opinion on it is that every baby does deserve a celebration, no matter how you do it. If someone throws you a shower, that's cool. If you don't have one, that's cool too.
I will say, in the topic of registries in general, that I get upset by too many extra really big ticket or luxury items. I had a friend with a wedding registry where they registered for an entire guest bedroom set including mattress and bed frame, headboard, dresser, night stand the whole guest bedroom in addition to all of those things for their own master bedroom. I felt that was pretty ridiculous. They also registered for a George Foreman grill, food dyhdrator, deep fat fryer, popcorn popper ect ect, in essence they just went down the small kitchen appliance aisle and registered for one of EvErYThInG. Another couple had a $250 crystal 4x 6 picture frame on their registry. That upsets me personally. For me gifts for bridal showers, weddings, baby shower/sprinkle/sips/whatever are too help out with getting the necessities together. A $250 crystal 4 x 6 picture frame is NOT a necessity! Or even just a fun extra! If you already have everything you could possibly need that a $250 crystal picture frame makes the list, even I, who am not normally judgmental will side eye that nonsense. I will gladly buy diapers, Tupperware, a sheet set, some dishes, bottles, baby clothes, chip in towards a crib or a changing table, anything a new couple or new parents or a new baby needs but when I see an entire guest bedroom suite or a $250 crystal frame on a registry I frequently just stick a couple of 20's in a card and call it good.
I'm down to cerebrate, I'm down to help out, I am not down to fill your house with luxury items.
Since baby is due at the beginning of football season, and we host football parties almost every weekend we will probably have our normal party- that way people can meet our new little cheerleader. We are still discussing doing a diaper keg, but we aren't picky with diapers to say you can only bring huggies or pampers. I feel this would go over fine with our friends since they normally chip in for the beer anyways.
Diaper party definitely ok. It's just men getting together to drink and have fun but bringing diapers. To me that's more of an excuse for your husband to hang out with his buddies anyway! Nothing wrong with that. And for you, you could call it a baby sprinkle as opposed to shower . Just fewer people and is definitely acceptable on your second or third child.
Every baby deserves to be celebrated. I'm currently working on my third girl and my mom wants to throw a 'shower' of sorts for my husband......a guys camping trip or something. That being said, even with my third girl, there are still things we need......diapers, clothes (they're different season babies) a pack n play etc. My sister tried to throw me a shower for my second baby one, to which literally 2 people showed up. I was heartbroken. Not because I didn't get gifts or whatever, but because to me that said no one gave a rats ass about my baby simply because she wasn't born first. I struggled with those feelings for the entire first year of her life with things family said or how they would treat the girls differently. So, whether it's your first baby, 10th baby, first of one gender or you are really good at making one specific gender; please, do something to celebrate the life you're growing inside you. They're no less a miracle because they weren't born first! Also, there's even a page in baby books where you can chronicle guests who went to the baby shower and gifts babies recieved.....why would you only fill out one childs baby book? would you only celebrate one child's birthday? Doesn't make sense in my mind.
Am I the only one that thinks a sip n see is a bad idea? I just can't imagine a bunch of potentially sick people being around my newborn. Not everyone is up to date on shots for pertussis and flu. I limit who can come over, at least for the first month. I will have enough problems with my oldest starting K before the baby is born.
@J1D I just want to clarify on the topic of registries. Registries are simply a list of items a bride and groom or parents to be plan on furnishing their home with or outfitting their nursery with. It is by no means a mandate that anyone purchase those items. It's simply to say if you need gift ideas, this is what we like, plan on having on our home, etc. I don't think it's fair to judge the items on someone's registry and what you described seems pretty standard.
I just noticed smtn funny ...so many diff names for the same thing...a home or venue filled with those that want to either celebrate that your a parent for x amount of times or that want to see new baby.. Y does the name matter? I noticed a lot of ppl are hung up on what its being called...how's this don't call it anything ...rules are brinh smtn or don't bring smtn ..ooo and just if you don't know I'm making a list of things the baby will need look at it or not ! At the end of the day all those that love you and are close to you will see baby... Some will bring gifts and some won't. If you choose to have them all at once yay if you chose to have them one at a time yay... But y are calling diff ones tacky and others not? You can have a sip and see w 20 ppl and a bb shower with 10?!???!
Girl you do what you want to do! Nothing wrong with people throwing you a second shower. Some people need to relax a little and stop being so harsh about silly things that really just don't matter that much. If you're friends or family want to do this for you then why not let them? A shower is a loving gift I never think twice about it when someone has a shower for their second baby.
I'm in the same boat as you. 2 girls, boy on the way. We are having a third child because we are financially ready and knew it was 50/50, we'd either have most things or not. We prepared and do not expect any handouts. With that said, I believe everyone should do what ever they damn well please and if anyone thinks it's wrong or tacky they do not need to participate or attend. I don't get why this topic is such a big deal. If you get an invite and you think it's unjustified, RSVP "no".
@J1D I just want to clarify on the topic of registries. Registries are simply a list of items a bride and groom or parents to be plan on furnishing their home with or outfitting their nursery with. It is by no means a mandate that anyone purchase those items. It's simply to say if you need gift ideas, this is what we like, plan on having on our home, etc. I don't think it's fair to judge the items on someone's registry and what you described seems pretty standard.
Also, completion discounts!!!
If $250 crystal picture frames are pretty standard in your world, then we live in waaaayyyyy different worlds!
Fair enough about the completion coupon. But again, if I understand it correctly, they get you 10%? 15%? off. Even if it's 25%-50% off, in my world that $250 crystal picture frame is still a bit excessive. If one is financially well off enough to spend $125+ on a tiny crystal picture frame just for funsies, I don't see where they would actually need help with the necessities.
But if that's standard in your world than, cool. Rock on.
@BrooklynBroussard@CEB37 before I joined here I've never heard of a registry before, no one around here that I know of ever made one. I don't feel the need for one, I read about it, looked into it. But people around here don't really know what it is.
@BrooklynBroussard@CEB37 before I joined here I've never heard of a registry before, no one around here that I know of ever made one. I don't feel the need for one, I read about it, looked into it. But people around here don't really know what it is.
Now that's something I've never heard of! Someone who's never heard of a registry. Here registries are standard. Not necessarily everyone uses them, but everyone knows what they are.
It's crazy how different it is for everyone depending on where you live
So, when you get married or have a baby shower there, people just guess about what to buy you?
@BrooklynBroussard@CEB37 before I joined here I've never heard of a registry before, no one around here that I know of ever made one. I don't feel the need for one, I read about it, looked into it. But people around here don't really know what it is.
Now that's something I've never heard of! Someone who's never heard of a registry. Here registries are standard. Not necessarily everyone uses them, but everyone knows what they are.
It's crazy how different it is for everyone depending on where you live
So, when you get married or have a baby shower there, people just guess about what to buy you?
Yeah pretty much ! I live in a small island in Canada Nova Scotia, the population is something like 95000 altogether so some stuff I hear about on here I've never heard about it before. Like registries, push presents.. Etc.
@amberrmariee20 my first husband's family lived in a tiny tiny tiiiiiiinnnnnny farming community. When his parents had a reception for us out there, we had a registry from our wedding/reception here but no one went off it- at all. Everyone just brought basic kitchen or bath stuff or a few dollars in a card. It was really fun to be so very surprised by each and every gift. And we got the really cool heartfelt gifts like handmade afghans and such I loved those handmade gifts!
@J1D yea it's crazy how many things differ from place to place. What's considered normal somewhere is considered outrageous somewhere else. I love hearing about where everyone lives ! It's so crazy different !
I've seen a few wedding registries where people asked for crazy things like TVs etc! Like really??? A 1000 dollar TV?! No way. Wedding gifts and babyshower gifts can get very expensive even buying a bunch of little things so I tend to side eye people when I see those types of things on registries. For baby showers I tend to go more with necessities more so than clothes only because I know people will get tons of clothes but not always the essentials like bottles, shampoo/creams, thermometers, etc. I also agree with @FrozenMommy about the sip and see, definitely don't want a bunch of people passing my baby around during cold/flu season.
Am I the only one that thinks a sip n see is a bad idea? I just can't imagine a bunch of potentially sick people being around my newborn. Not everyone is up to date on shots for pertussis and flu. I limit who can come over, at least for the first month. I will have enough problems with my oldest starting K before the baby is born.
Yes!!! Maybe because I'm a Ftm I'm more nervous but the idea of being bombarded in my home or somewhere else with all these people wanting to touch my newborn really brings out the mama bear in me! No way, not a chance. I'm fine with visitors but not all at once. My friends went to a party with their 2 week old baby girl and when they got home they realized she stunk of other people's perfume and cigarettes. Just gross!
@krysta6, that's terrible! I had a strict rule around my first, NO smoking before hand if you want to see the baby. I was actually just down the street at a neighbors, and another neighbor had her less than a month old baby with, around filthy dirty kids that wanted to touch the baby. Even with washing their hands, they were still nasty, including mine. Grossed me out so bad.
I say it's totally fine as long as you don't register and leave it up to the guests to buy whatever they like for the baby. I'm on my 6th child and have turned down baby shower for me cause I already have everything plus for baby but I am making one for my friend who is on her 7th but literally has nothing for this baby because of losing her house.
Re: Is it wrong to have a shower/Diaper Party for 3rd child, first boy?
If the goal is to celebrate the baby, why not have a sip and see instead of a shower?
My opinion on it is that every baby does deserve a celebration, no matter how you do it. If someone throws you a shower, that's cool. If you don't have one, that's cool too.
That upsets me personally. For me gifts for bridal showers, weddings, baby shower/sprinkle/sips/whatever are too help out with getting the necessities together. A $250 crystal 4 x 6 picture frame is NOT a necessity! Or even just a fun extra! If you already have everything you could possibly need that a $250 crystal picture frame makes the list, even I, who am not normally judgmental will side eye that nonsense. I will gladly buy diapers, Tupperware, a sheet set, some dishes, bottles, baby clothes, chip in towards a crib or a changing table, anything a new couple or new parents or a new baby needs but when I see an entire guest bedroom suite or a $250 crystal frame on a registry I frequently just stick a couple of 20's in a card and call it good.
I'm down to cerebrate, I'm down to help out, I am not down to fill your house with luxury items.
Also, completion discounts!!!
If $250 crystal picture frames are pretty standard in your world, then we live in waaaayyyyy different worlds!
Fair enough about the completion coupon. But again, if I understand it correctly, they get you 10%? 15%? off. Even if it's 25%-50% off, in my world that $250 crystal picture frame is still a bit excessive. If one is financially well off enough to spend $125+ on a tiny crystal picture frame just for funsies, I don't see where they would actually need help with the necessities.
But if that's standard in your world than, cool. Rock on.
It's crazy how different it is for everyone depending on where you live
So, when you get married or have a baby shower there, people just guess about what to buy you?
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