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September 2015 Moms
J0C0TX
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Stolen from another board... push presents yay or nay?
J0C0TX
member
Firstly - let me start with I'm not particularly keen on the phrase "push present" - I mean if you're me - I didn't push and won't with #3 (well I tried with dd1, but we'd be still trying if I didn't have surgery!) - I did a C-section, so am I then deemed unworthy?
Secondly - yes - your baby being born and you and baby being healthy are the best gifts out there... stuff isn't important and I think the momma's on this board agree on that
Thirdly - sometimes it's nice to get something sweet/meaningful that someday you can pass to your child as - when you were born we wanted commemorate it and this is now yours...
Fourthly - it can be a tradition in families to do a gift for mom when the baby is born or culturally
In our house... we don't do "push presents" per se. All mine have been or will be born within 6 weeks of our wedding anniversary, so my dh got me something a little more special each time (pendants with the girls) for those anniversaries and they will go to the girls when they turn 16. That's the plan. For this anniversary (10) I don't know what dh has planned or is planning and it's on him if he chooses to do something or not 
I know I have the best gift regardless - him... though things that sparkle are fun too 
but to me they're only fun if there are no expectations... if i'm asked for ideas... it would be rude not to help the poor man out but I don't give hints! that's not fair
Re: Stolen from another board... push presents yay or nay?
What I actually want is a sweet little note from my husband and a small thought. Gonna start with the hints now. He gets sooooo happy when he finds out something that makes me happy :x
My DH got me a ring with her birthstone but that was 2.5 months after she was born on our anniversary.
But I'm not opposed to getting a gift to celebrate the birth.
What is up with all the gifting? If someone gets me a gift I'm grateful but all these different situations where gifts are supposed to be given is getting totally out of hand.
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I think this was asked a long long time ago on the board and most people felt like having their baby is the only gift you need, which is true of course. But I am always in the mood for new jewelry. Not sure what DH will do this time.
On the other hand, the hospital I'm delivering at offers spa services in room, and since I'll be hospitalized for 5 days (c-section), I might take advantage of a massage and mani/pedi!
ETA, I told my husband I was gonna get treated like Beyoncé up in there! LOL!
ETA - hijack away. I love when threads go on fun tangents
Although each momma has her own room that you stay in for the birth/recovery/hospital stay I don't think my hospital has been renovated since I was born in it lol you do get unlimited juice though.. That's a perk, right? :P
Flash forward he didn't do anything for me for Mother's Day (again I told him not to I didn't want anything) but with Father's Day coming I got him a really special gift so now he's upset that he didn't do anything for Mother's Day and he's decided he suddenly likes the push present idea. My sister spoiled the surprise though on accident and told me he's ordering me a pressed spoon ring with our little girls name on it!
I wouldn't have asked and the fact that he remembered I used to collect spoon rings when I was younger and is bringing that back for means the world!
The only "push present " I want the day he's born is one for big brother who's 2. I want him to feel special since a baby isn't the easiest" gift" to understand haha
Push presents aren't common where I'm from, I had actually never heard of them before being on this board, so it's definitely nothing that I would ever expect from DH, or anyone for that matter, and I can guarantee he'd never think of anything like that either. However, since this is our last baby, I have mentioned that I want a mother's ring or necklace or something with my 3 kids' birthstones in it but I want it to be something I'm going to love and want to wear all the time so I will help pick it out and will let it be my Christmas/Birthday gift, Anniversary gift or next year's Mother's Day gift from him (depending on when we go to pick it out..lol). I have also said that I want to get a tattoo for my kids so that'll be something I'll be looking into down the road, too.
The only thing I wanted after delivery of my 2nd baby was a Subway sandwich so DH could do that for me again this time and I'd count that as my push present.
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This time he is looking at diamond earrings for me. All of this jewelry will be passed down to the girls when they get older.
I have never demanded or requested jewelry from him, well bedsides my engagement ring. He did all of this because of his love for me and our DD. he has already told me his plans and has had me lookin in stores when I find something I like to let him see what it is.
But it is up to him if he wants to purchase it and how much he spends because it's all his idea.
I know that not everyone can afford sparkle and that perhaps it shouldn't be asked for but with sentiment like that does it really matter? If it's flowers, jewellery or something else I like to think that the above sentiment is what any partner who buys a gift for mummy is thinking. Whether they say it or not.
2. For whatever random reason, push presents are super popular here. Hubby thinks it's an incredibly dumb and ridiculous practice, and I tend to agree that I don't need anything, but my friends and coworkers have already asked me what I "asked for" for my push present. How bizarre!! Then I just kind of shrug and they have all these ideas... I have a family birthstone necklace picked out, but I already set aside my own money to order it once baby is here (and I'm 100% on the birthstone he needs). But otherwise, I totally agree that the precious little baby is my "push present" (also agree the name itself is annoying).