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rant away, ladies! let's hear it.

kwaldykwaldy member
in November 2015 Moms
So since I have a rant, I'll be happy to hear all of you ladies' rants.

So maybe I'm being selfish, and you're welcome to tell me I am, but this is my first baby. When building our registry, DH told me not to put a stroller or combo travel system on the list because he already has a stroller in the garage. This has happened with a lot of other things too... bottles/baby toys/etc. My stepdaughter is 5 and he saved a lot of her stuff from when she was a baby. That's cool and all... but he won't even let me remotely look at travel systems because "we don't need it," although my mom already told me that she would like to bless us with one.
Like I said before, this is my first baby. Baby showers only happen when you're being welcomed into motherhood and maybe I'm being greedy, but I feel like by him telling me that we don't need to get any new things, I'm being a little bit jipped out of the tradition of it all. I know that I won't get this experience again and it's just hurting my feelings.
God I sound like a selfish b....
Not to mention, I'm concerned with if the carseat we get end getting (one of the only things DH is letting us get new) will fit in the stroller or not and with how clean a stroller can really be after sitting in a garage and/or storage for the past five years.

Anywho... what is bugging you ladies today? Thanks for letting me vent.
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    edited June 2015
    I've previously posted about this but I'm still pissed. My health insurance is a nightmare right now. I have insurance but I'm being forced into Medicaid (unless they deny me) due to the marketplace bs. I'm not sure If I will get to keep my OB and my policy will change when I am out of town and 2 weeks before my schedules anatomy scan. So I'm going to be scrambling at 18 weeks to find a doctor to take medicaid if my doctor won't accept it so I can get the anatomy scan. The last person that should have a lapse in healthcare coverage is a lady halfway through a twin pregnancy halfway across the country from her doctor!

    edit: my angry spelling sucks!
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  • FavoritemandmsFavoritemandms member
    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.
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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    dogsombrero said:
    I've previously posted about this but I'm still pissed. My health insurance is a nightmare right now. I have insurance but I'm being forced into Medicaid (unless they deny me) due to the marketplace bs. I'm not sure If I will get to keep my OB and my policy will change when I am out of town and 2 weeks before my schedules anatomy scan. So I'm going to be scrambling at 18 weeks to find a doctor to take medicaid if my doctor won't accept it so I can get the anatomy scan. The last person that should have a lapse in healthcare coverage is a lady halfway through a twin pregnancy halfway across the country from her doctor!

    edit: my angry spelling sucks!
    Can you speak with your doctor's office now to see if they take Medicaid?  Most places won't take NEW patients with it, but often will allow current patients to stay on with the practice. 
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  • BlueWaffleSpeshulBlueWaffleSpeshul member
    Favoritemandms said:
    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.
    This would make me stabby, and I'm not even pregnant. The girl next to me at work plays her music without a headset and puts almost all of her calls on speakerphone. Nope nope nope.
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    BlueWaffleSpeshul said:


    Favoritemandms said:

    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.

    This would make me stabby, and I'm not even pregnant. The girl next to me at work plays her music without a headset and puts almost all of her calls on speakerphone. Nope nope nope.

    Gah that would drive me bonkers. My phone ringing gets me on edge sometimes and that's not even a constant thing.
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  • FavoritemandmsFavoritemandms member
    kwaldy said:
    Favoritemandms said:
    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.
    This would make me stabby, and I'm not even pregnant. The girl next to me at work plays her music without a headset and puts almost all of her calls on speakerphone. Nope nope nope.
    Gah that would drive me bonkers. My phone ringing gets me on edge sometimes and that's not even a constant thing.
    Lol, I get super annoyed by stupid stuff like that too. I have my cell phone notifications on silent and I shoot DH a dirty look every time his phone makes a noise.
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  • skayser7skayser7 member
    Sick and tired of the same person at work asking me literally everyday how my boyfriend is doing, and if we are getting excited, how I'm feeling! She has never met my boyfriend so it's annoying when she tries to give me advice to tell him too. Normally I just brush it off and say "good, yes we are excited, and doing fine today" (even if I'm not). Ugh it's just frustrating!! Oh and I had to limit my mom to asking me how I was feeling to once a week because she was obnoxious about it lol
    Thanks for the rant lol
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  • FlashparadeFlashparade member
    My children are bugging the crap out of me! Ever since I got pregnant and my Dad passed I have had little to no patience for their shenanigans. I am freaking out about adding another one to the brood.
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  • emzcatemzcat member
    I've had the worst day emotionally. Found out my boss out in her 30 day notice. SO decided not to consult me before saying our step daughter could leave when I'd made her favorite dinner and was looking forward to having a family dinner (she has been staying with friends). Then the MIL comes over to get the daughter and gets all my dogs riled up. I've voiced several times today that I have a massive headache but we let one out to see her and leave the other two inside so they're jealous and won't stfu. I go to the door and I'm like "could we not? I really do have a headache!" And slam the door. Then I see this huge stove pot on the back porch, that I don't even want! But god forbid we tell his mother we don't want something. She'll just ask sixty times until you don't even care if you want it any more, you just want her to stfu. Now SO and I aren't talking.

    Sorry for the language.
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  • SoFlaMommie1128SoFlaMommie1128 member
    Not necessarily a rant, more of a "what would you do if you were me" question to the group. I'm up for a promotion at work, my boss recommended me for it over a month ago. She knows I'm pregnant; however, I haven't shared my news officially with the company/HR. Do you think I should wait until the promotion officially comes through before letting them know? And, if I wait until after the promotion, does it potentially look bad?

    Meanwhile, I haven't told coworkers I'm pregnant and have been doing everything in my power to hide it, although it's becoming more difficult the bigger I get.

    I've been with the company for years, and plan on returning after maternity leave. Appreciate any thoughts/suggestions you have on this.
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  • MadBloomMadBloom member
    OP I think it's a justified rant! It's so exciting to go to the store and walk the aisles testing out different strollers. If you're planning on more babies I'd say you guys should look at strollers that convert to doubles to get around the whole, "we have a stroller" thing.

    My rant is boring so I'll just yell this. WTF TRAFFIC?!
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  • WeirdAliceWeirdAlice member
    I feel like I'm trapped inside the house, I live with my bf and his family and he is gone almost 24/7 well I would stay at my gmas to spend time with her and he would get really mad at me for wanting to leave and stay there even tho he went to stay with at Night, the last 2 days he has found any excuse possible to try and get me to stay there.. you get mad at me for staying then you basically try to push me into going.
    Btw i get I'm pregnant not disabled thing, but I gave had some serious leg complications and he doesn't ask me to go with him as much as he claims he does. I hardly know he left till I see the car gone anymore.

    COME BACK AND LET ME LOVE YOU is all I want to yell at him haha.
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  • lyankowilyankowi member
    I got really mad at my coworkers music today. It was really loud and she plays crap. I had to turn up my music and I sit next to another dept (big office 5 different speciality Dr's in it) I told the girl I sit next too if my music is loud please tell me to turn it down I will not be offended. But the other coworker would bite my head off if I asked her to turn it down.
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    VexyMommy said:

    @kwaldy You don't sound like a selfish bitch at all.  It is frustrating to have your first child get hand me downs when you have people offering to give you new things.  What is your SO's reasoning for not getting rid of his daughter's things?  Can you talk to him (calmly when you're not upset) about how it makes you feel that by forcing you to reuse things that he and his ex received you're not getting what you are entitled to?  It would be like giving him your old boyfriend's clothes to wear. 

    I think his biggest concern is that he spent a lot of money on some of these things with my SD. And yes I understand that babies aren't cheap... but I've gotten hand me downs my whole life and it just sucks that I'm getting caught in this situation right now too. I feel like when I bring it up, he's going to feel like I'm acting like an entitled, spoiled brat and that's not it at all... it's just kind of hard to get excited when he talks about the baby using all of the things that he got for my SD with his ex. For me, I'd rather not think of the time when he was with her, and that makes it hard...
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    MadBloom said:

    OP I think it's a justified rant! It's so exciting to go to the store and walk the aisles testing out different strollers. If you're planning on more babies I'd say you guys should look at strollers that convert to doubles to get around the whole, "we have a stroller" thing.

    My rant is boring so I'll just yell this. WTF TRAFFIC?!

    Traffic blows!! I hope you don't have a long commute or anything or that would be awful

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  • duckinovenduckinoven member
    @SoFlaMommie1128 hi, lurker here from D15. I agree with PP on not disclosing. Your boss is probably giving you that warning for your benefit if she already knows you're with child. Let the promotion come thru and then share as necessary! Hate that we have to think that way when expecting, but it's often the most nimble and savvy rather than most deserving that move up.
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    @VexyMommy so I calmly brought it up to him and he said that he thinks it's ridiculous that we would have people spend money on things we already have, instead of giving us things we may need.
    To be honest, aside from maybe a nice swing and baby clothes/diapers, under his assumption that we can reuse nearly everything of SD's, we won't have anything to put on a registry.
    He got a little annoyed with me and he got sassy and said "well if you want your 'new mommy' stroller then you can have it... but we're going to need something else and you'll regret asking for something we already have." I promise I didn't ask my mom for a stroller. She mentioned that it is something that her and my grandma wanted to pitch in for together and this whole situation is just making me upset.
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  • AmyReneTAmyReneT member
    Favoritemandms said:

    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.

    This makes me laugh because I too just got moved next to the two loudest ladies on the floor. They sit right next to each other and pretty much yell talk at each other ALL.DAY.LONG.
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  • kmkrushikmkrushi member
    kwaldy said:

    @VexyMommy so I calmly brought it up to him and he said that he thinks it's ridiculous that we would have people spend money on things we already have, instead of giving us things we may need.
    To be honest, aside from maybe a nice swing and baby clothes/diapers, under his assumption that we can reuse nearly everything of SD's, we won't have anything to put on a registry.
    He got a little annoyed with me and he got sassy and said "well if you want your 'new mommy' stroller then you can have it... but we're going to need something else and you'll regret asking for something we already have." I promise I didn't ask my mom for a stroller. She mentioned that it is something that her and my grandma wanted to pitch in for together and this whole situation is just making me upset.

    I'd look at it and inspect it before you completely rule it out. It could be that it is a really nice stroller that maybe. Maybe some of the other stuff will need to be replaced, maybe the stroller is needing to be replaced anyway. You never know though.

    I know you want stuff that's new, but don't rule out what you have available until you look at it. I don't think you're being selfish, but there are lots of things that will be needed for the baby.
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  • MargaretC5MargaretC5 member
    kmkrushi said:

    kwaldy said:

    @VexyMommy so I calmly brought it up to him and he said that he thinks it's ridiculous that we would have people spend money on things we already have, instead of giving us things we may need.
    To be honest, aside from maybe a nice swing and baby clothes/diapers, under his assumption that we can reuse nearly everything of SD's, we won't have anything to put on a registry.
    He got a little annoyed with me and he got sassy and said "well if you want your 'new mommy' stroller then you can have it... but we're going to need something else and you'll regret asking for something we already have." I promise I didn't ask my mom for a stroller. She mentioned that it is something that her and my grandma wanted to pitch in for together and this whole situation is just making me upset.

    I'd look at it and inspect it before you completely rule it out. It could be that it is a really nice stroller that maybe. Maybe some of the other stuff will need to be replaced, maybe the stroller is needing to be replaced anyway. You never know though.

    I know you want stuff that's new, but don't rule out what you have available until you look at it. I don't think you're being selfish, but there are lots of things that will be needed for the baby.
    Another option if the items are in good condition, is could you sell them at a consignment shop to help offset the cost of new. But from what you said that may be a hard sell to your H.
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  • agerstneragerstner member
    I yelled at the mailman yesterday... Not my classiest moment BUT he has POUNDED on my door 3x this month and every time scares the crap out of me and all the kids. I've had guests over when he does it too and they are always like "WTF??". So yesterday he did this while my two toddlers were napping and I'd had enough, so I let him know lol.
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  • SoFlaMommie1128SoFlaMommie1128 member
    I really appreciate it, @Squirtgun and @duckinoven
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  • sophieaxxsophieaxx member
    People telling me to stop buying baby stuff, fair enough we will have a baby shower but all I've got is baby grows I left outfits until after baby shower as that's what you expect people to get, it may look a lot but it's a variety of sizes. Like my feeding equipment I got the brand I want on offer. Feel the need to explain myself. I did say there are a lot of things we need which I can write a wish list for people all they have to do is ask what we need or buy pretty outfits, instead of making me feel like crap for being excited haha I have a bit of a shopping addiction anyway
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  • mdibiasiomdibiasio member
    edited June 2015
    @SoFlaMommie1128 I was in the same situation and was also nervous, but made the decision to share. I am happy to report my promotion still went through with no issues. I still hear your concerns and think you should do what you feel most comfortable with given your company and any fears you may have of being discriminated (although it is illegal, there are certainly ways to disguise it). Best of luck!
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  • FavoritemandmsFavoritemandms member
    AmyReneT said:
    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.
    This makes me laugh because I too just got moved next to the two loudest ladies on the floor. They sit right next to each other and pretty much yell talk at each other ALL.DAY.LONG.


    ***forgive me because TB is insisting I'm stuck in a quote box for now.

    I love this - my co-worker calls the hummer and the woman next to her "The Twins". They're about 50-ish and awkwardly go to the bathroom together all the time, plus when the hummer is making her breakfast, her buddy just stands in the kitchen watching her. Our kitchen is teeny tiny and this means no one else can use the coffee maker, get something out of the fridge, etc because the buddy has to stand RIGHT in anyone else's way. I'm sure I'm be privy to many exhilarating conversations in the days to come. Happy to share rants on the matter anytime @AmyReneT!
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  • ktrimble8807ktrimble8807 member
    My "wonderful" in laws have not asked me how I have been doing or feeling since I was like 5 weeks pregnant and now I am 18w and 2d... but then will post all over fb about how blessed they are to have their first grandchild in the family.. Meanwhile its not even their first one... wtf?! 
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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    ktrimble8807 said:

    My "wonderful" in laws have not asked me how I have been doing or feeling since I was like 5 weeks pregnant and now I am 18w and 2d... but then will post all over fb about how blessed they are to have their first grandchild in the family.. Meanwhile its not even their first one... wtf?! 

    Wait I'm so confused! It's not their first but they're saying it is?
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  • FavoritemandmsFavoritemandms member
    kwaldy said:
    My "wonderful" in laws have not asked me how I have been doing or feeling since I was like 5 weeks pregnant and now I am 18w and 2d... but then will post all over fb about how blessed they are to have their first grandchild in the family.. Meanwhile its not even their first one... wtf?! 
    Wait I'm so confused! It's not their first but they're saying it is?
    Yeah...wut??
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  • brossi359brossi359 member
    Here goes nothing... Rant of forever. 1. I am so sick and tired of my in laws calling my baby theirs, forcing themselves to bring food to my reveal party and trying to control my entire pregnancy. I HAVE MY OWN MOTHER AND HUSBAND TO HELP! (their very overbearing) 2. MY CHILD will not be left in the care of his mother because she has an addiction problem, theres never going to be enough change to ease my mind. The house is filthy and when my child is there I do not want to have to worry about the baby laying in dog pee! ( there is no talking to this woman either)  3. F my OB's office for messing up my anatomy scan & never scheduling it. 4. I WANT TO POOP! and 5. it is taking everything out of me to not quit my job. I am the only one who picks up the slack of the other 3 and I am exhausted. I am tired of being the scape goat for every one in this office and when I finally speak up of course it is my fault anyways, or the hormones are way to out of control as I am told. ( I REALLY WISH FINDING A BETTER JOB WHEN PREGNANT WAS EASY) sorry for the rant... I am on the verge of having a full blown break down at this point.
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  • cbolton19cbolton19 member
    Favoritemandms said:

    Just found out, when my office gets restructured, I have to sit RIGHT next to the hummer. Can't freaking wait.

    Ahhhh. I feel your pain. I sit in an office with a guy (that used to be friends with my husband, got me the job, it's messy and no good) that literally groans while he works, alllllll day. When he isn't groaning, he is slurping his drinks or his food. When that isn't happening, he has his music so loud in his headphones that I can hear it too, and he talks/cusses/sings to himself. It is torture every single day. We are moving offices, and I am keeping my fingers crossed that I can get my own office when we do (so I can pump when I get back from maternity leave). Ugh.
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  • ktrimble8807ktrimble8807 member
    Favoritemandms said:
    kwaldy said:
    My "wonderful" in laws have not asked me how I have been doing or feeling since I was like 5 weeks pregnant and now I am 18w and 2d... but then will post all over fb about how blessed they are to have their first grandchild in the family.. Meanwhile its not even their first one... wtf?! 
    Wait I'm so confused! It's not their first but they're saying it is?
    Yeah...wut??

    My brother in law knocked up a girl and because they aren't together anymore say that the child has no relation to them now...

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  • jamiem522jamiem522 member
    I'm sorry your hubby won't let you have a shower. That just sounds so stupid to me-especially if you aren't making it co-ed! It's your first baby and having time to celebrate that is awesome! Even if he feels like you're already a mom and don't get one, it's been 5 years! I would tell him that you want to do things differently and that's okay. There's no harm in looking and registering and if you get one that you like better, great! Maybe compromise by selling older stuff that you don't want to use!
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