Skip own baby shower??

bheltne · June 2015

I'm almost 37 wks and have been having a lot of rib displacement, causing extreme pain and difficulty sleeping. I'm supposed to travel 3-4 hrs to my last baby shower this weekend and just not sure if it'd be worth it. Don't know what to plan on doing. Thoughts??

mrs1374a · June 2015

Yikes, if you're really not feeling up to it (which I can totally sympathize) then you need to make a call ASAP to let whoever know.

virginiaunicorn11 · June 2015

"Just not sure if it'd be worth it."

Too hard to judge with the info here, but... I'd think if someone is throwing a party in your honor and people are bringing you gifts, it would be pretty darn rude not to show up, especially this late in the game. Rib pain and trouble sleeping at 37 weeks is pretty normal... My vote is pull yourself together and find someone to drive you. Sorry you're not feeling well, but from what's here, sounds like you need to suck it up and go.

delujm0 · June 2015

virginiaunicorn11 said:
"Just not sure if it'd be worth it."

Too hard to judge with the info here, but... I'd think if someone is throwing a party in your honor and people are bringing you gifts, it would be pretty darn rude not to show up, especially this late in the game. Rib pain and trouble sleeping at 37 weeks is pretty normal... My vote is pull yourself together and find someone to drive you. Sorry you're not feeling well, but from what's here, sounds like you need to suck it up and go.

This exactly. It sucks that you're not feeling well but unless you're physically giving birth, there's no excuse to not show up to an event being thrown in your honor for the purpose of people graciously giving you gifts.

mollyanne01 · June 2015

You'll feel crappy at home or at the party, either way. I agree with the others...go! It might even take your mind off of the misery.

ElRuby · June 2015

Unless the doctor has ordered bed rest it would be extremely rude not to go.

rolson8947 · June 2015

I would definitely go. If people are willing to come and bring your little one gifts then I would just suck it up and go (not trying to be mean). In the long run you will be glad you did and it just means that little one will just have more things he/she needs. Go go go

Zeuskay01 · June 2015

I personally would feel a million times worse staying home knowing I completely blew off a party that someone took their time out to plan for me. I would take some Tylenol and hit the road.

devyns2nd · June 2015

Presents always make things better.

KaLikeAWind · June 2015

I get feeling crappy, I'm sure we all can identify with that. But I would still go. This party is being thrown in your honor, with the purpose of gifting you things for your baby. As others have said, maybe going will get your mind off your miseries. Also, someone planned this event, and the guests went thru the trouble of buying a gift and making time in their schedules to attend. I would go, if I were you. Put your brain into 'I'm going to enjoy myself for at least a little while, damnit! mode and you may trick yourself into enjoying yourself.

Have fun!

agapeflower117 · June 2015

I just turned 37 weeks today and would freak out if I had to be 3-4 hours away from my hospital in case I go into labor early, you're brave! I do agree with the others that going will probably make you feel better...at least you'll get some yummy food and some nice swag out of it!

Sparklydelite · June 2015

Get a good buddy for the ride (fill her in on the way you feel, and what you are trying to accomplish), some tunes and a piklow for the car, take some Tylenol, and make the most of the adventure. The party is in your honor and you will fell better to go rather than not go. The bad vibes from skipping it might haunt you later on. Go and let them spoil you!!!!! You deserve it!!!

krystleshel · June 2015

Let the hostess know to keep games/party time shorter, but go.

Poppy1099 · June 2015

I wish someone would have thrown me a shower!! Please go and enjoy it bc not everyone gets them!

KaLikeAWind · June 2015

Poppy1099 said:

I wish someone would have thrown me a shower!! Please go and enjoy it bc not everyone gets them!

Also, this. I also didn't get a shower. Not everybody gets them, so please go enjoy it and be thankful

MJMum524 · June 2015

You have to go unless you are giving birth. Period.

rpazzaam · June 2015

Wow, someone is throwing you a 4th baby shower and you don't think it wouldn't be totally rude don't to show...I didn't have one and unless I was in labor I would go. Smh.

walshbunnie · June 2015

My question is why did you agree to a shower so far from home at such a late date in pregnancy when it is so likely for you to be extremely uncomfortable and potentially go into labor? This late in the game it would be extremely rude to cancel your own shower without a doctor insisting that you stay home.

MaliKaela · June 2015

Just throwing it out there... I was having bad rib pain when I tried to sleep. It was like he moved more up into my rib cage after a couple hours of laying down. I got one of those stretchy ace bandages and wrapped it firmly around the lower part of my ribs, probably right above/slightly on the top of the uterus. It helped me a lot. I think maybe it restricted the baby being able to squeeze up there? Or maybe it was just the extra support. ..It itched a lot but it saved me during the last month.

I would go to the shower too but I totally get where you are coming from!

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