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Unwanted opinions

jenb0203jenb0203 member
in October 2015 Moms
hey, sorry if this seems like a rant. Ever since I got pregnant my issues with privacy have gotten more intense. I feel like this is something wonderful that is happening between me and my husband. I was hesitant to tell anyone about the pregnancy because honestly I don't really want to hear about what I am eating, what they ate when they were pregnant. What they went through with doctors etc. etc. This need to keep my personal life private is especially important while I am at the office. I am here to do a job not chit chat about the baby moving. May make me sound like I am being selfish but honestly I don't care. My husband and I are in this together, not the nosey nellies at the office.

I know they are just excited, but a smile is plenty contact for me.

Anyone have recommendations on how I can end an unwanted conversation tactfully?
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  • jenb0203jenb0203 member
    Thank you @bbiutmcph I will try your suggestions. However it is still the office and just not a
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    It seems that when a woman is pregnant, the public think her body and her choices are theirs to opine about. It doesn't stop once baby's out, either.

    Just ignore the comments that bother you and realize that most of them are just trying to be helpful. I agree with @bbiutmcph on how you can respond.

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  • brandypinky22brandypinky22 member
    I haven't told my office for this same reason. When it's too obvious to hide anymore I plan to just say "this isn't the right place to discuss that." And walk away. If they think I'm rude that's fine, I think their questions are rude. I will share my due date and the sex but no one at work needs to discuss my breasts or lady parts.
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  • jenb0203jenb0203 member
    Thank you @MamaOwl15 and @brandypinky22 These are all really great ideas. I am glad I am not the only one that thinks the office is not the right place to discuss. I plan to use all your suggestions.
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  • CupcakesandquiltsCupcakesandquilts member
    I felt the same way with my last pregnancy. People ask such personal questions and make inappropriate comments. I never figured out a polite way to respond. Good luck!
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  • cgummiecgummie member
    When we got engaged, we only told immediate family. No one else, for over 4 months. We got a lot of questions and side eyes, but I told everyone that we are keeping our info private (except the date and venue) and most people shut it. I've done the same with this pregnancy. Only sex and due date have been revealed.
    The majority of people backed off when I said, "it's private". Plain and simple.
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  • mrsdhouse89mrsdhouse89 member
    There are three of us pregnant at work and we are all pretty open with each other, BUT I consider a lot of the people I work with to be friends. I spend more time with them than I do family- I know personal details about their life too. I've never had anyone really give their opinion in a negative or unwanted way though.
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