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  • Thank you for this thread! I'm a ball of nerves...what kind of literature do you suggest to prepare for PG, birth, and first year? What were your favorites?
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  • Thank you for this thread! I'm a ball of nerves...what kind of literature do you suggest to prepare for PG, birth, and first year? What were your favorites?

    Weirdly, I learned a lot about safety things from Baby Bargains. Especially about car seats, costs related to car seats, crib safety, and SIDS. Honestly, my BMB was super active and I learned so much from them, too.
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  • mrs3615 said:
    How easy was breastfeeding for you and what kind of pump did you use? Totally jumping right in- thank you all for being ahhhhmaaaaazZziiiiinnnngggg

    Breastfeeding actually came easy for me, despite everyone saying the C-section would make it more difficult.  My baby was premature and had failure to thrive, though, so we had to supplement a little bit with formula in addition to the breastmilk until my supply was strong enough and he gained enough weight to go to full breastmilk.  I credit my success to the nurses at the hospital.  They had the system down pat:  Breastfeed, then have hubby give pumped milk while I pump to make sure every drop is drained from the breast (the key to good milk volume) then give Similac Advance.  Repeat every 2 hours in the beginning, even waking him through the night. 

    As far as the pump, my insurance paid for mine (check with your insurance company - some are required to under the affordable care act, I think).  It was an Ameda Truly Yours.  I had no problems with it.  Worked great.  The Ameda milk storage bags are junk though.  Lansinoh makes better bags that don't leak like the Ameda ones.

  • How did you choose a crib/car seat/stroller? I started browsing online and got totally overwhelmed with the options and this research I feel like I need to do before I can even begin to decide.

    When choosing a stroller, I read lots of online reviews and made sure to take the size of my trunk into account (I drive a little civic so a lot of the strollers were too big).  I also took into consideration weight because I'm only 5' tall and didn't want to be picking up this big heavy thing to throw in my trunk especially while recovering from a csection.

    I ended up going with the Britax travel system because the bucket infant carseat clicks right in so easily.  It also has some kind of foam rubber wheels so they never go flat and it glides really easily even in the slushy new England winters.  It folds down with the touch of a button and unfolds just as easily.  Strongly recommend it.  I'll be getting the ride-on attachment for my toddler so he can stand on the back like a skateboard and ride along while I'm pushing the new baby. 


    The crib was an easier decision.  It mostly came down to price.  I was even willing to look at used ones, as long as they weren't drop-sided (recalled), recalled for another reason, or ugly.  I was adamant about getting a new mattress though.  you never know what gross mildew or mold could be lurking in the innards of a used mattress.  In the end, we chose an IKEA crib, and bought the bedroom furniture to match.  We love it.  It's made really well and really wasn't that hard to put together.  We get tons of compliments on it.  I think the styles is called HELMES, and the color is GRAY/BROWN but I could be wrong.

  • bookqueen said:
    Oh I have a question too, thanks to @strlitemiss! For those who baby wore, what is your favorite/recommended wrap, carrier, or whatever?? We didn't do it for my son, but I definitely want to this time!

    I loved the K'tan in the early months - super easy to use and held baby well - and it only cost me like $35 new. It won't fit baby past 7 or 8 months though.

    Now, we use a hand-me-down hard-structured carrier for long hikes and a hand-me-down soft-structured carrier for traveling.  I don't even know the brands.

  • How did you choose a crib/car seat/stroller? I started browsing online and got totally overwhelmed with the options and this research I feel like I need to do before I can even begin to decide.
    We picked a travel system so the car seat dictated what we got. (We simply based it on safety ratings for the car seat). While the car seat was great--Chicco Keyfit, that particular stroller wasn't the greatest. Naps were challenging because DD's legs were left dangling. There wasn't a spot for her feet to rest. Later on we got the Joovy Zoom 360, which we LOVE. The seat is positioned a little higher and the handle is higher (I'm 6'0"). We're going to get an adapter for the infant car seat. I tend to use carriers and wraps more than anything, but the jogging stroller is great for when kiddos get bigger, too!

    For the crib, it was based on reviews and price. We liked the look of it and it went well with the furniture I had from when I was a baby. I would have preferred white, but I wasn't emotionally prepared to refinish everything to match. No complaints about it. It's the Da Vinci crib. It's a convertible crib, which worked well for the toddler bed, but when DD outgrew the toddler bed, we upgraded her to a different bed altogether. I doubt we'll use it past the toddler bed stage this time, mainly because we have an awesome queen mattress we'll use when Baby #2 is bigger. (We like having a bigger bed for DD, who has a full, so we can lie in bed with her and read stories, comfort her if she has a bad dream, etc.) When we were shopping we were looking at what the convertible crib looked like as a full size bed & that was playing a big factor also, but as it turns out, it really didn't matter!
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  • The crib was an easier decision.  It mostly came down to price.  I was even willing to look at used ones, as long as they weren't drop-sided (recalled), recalled for another reason, or ugly.  I was adamant about getting a new mattress though.  you never know what gross mildew or mold could be lurking in the innards of a used mattress.  In the end, we chose an IKEA crib, and bought the bedroom furniture to match.  We love it.  It's made really well and really wasn't that hard to put together.  We get tons of compliments on it.  I think the styles is called HELMES, and the color is GRAY/BROWN but I could be wrong.
    ^I was looking at IKEA's site. We're finally getting one this fall and I'm SO EXCITED. It's already built, so I guess now they're in the hiring/training/stocking phase. I can't wait for it to open! I was wondering if their cribs were any good, so thanks for this!
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  • nicosh8 said:

    How far along did you go before purchasing maternity clothes? Do you buy your current size just in maternity and it gives your belly room to grow?
    Or am I going to have to purchase new clothes every couple of months? Sorry I don't know why maternity sizes are so confusing to me!

    I bought maternity pants at 10 weeks!! So much more comfortable than wearing my regular pants with the belly band or the rubber band trick. I didn't buy maternity shirts till a few weeks later. I usually bought maternity shirts that were the same size as I normally would wear. Except for undershirts I had to buy in like and XL because they were the only ones that would fit over my big belly. I wore lots of maxi skirts and dresses by the third tri because most shirts wouldn't cover my belly. I found a lot of clothes on sale and didn't spend too much cause I knew I wouldn't be wearing them for too long.

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  • mrs3615mrs3615 member
    edited June 2015
    bookqueen said:

    I didn't buy any maternity clothes, LOL. I lived in yoga pants and baggy shirts.

    Love the sound of this!! I might be wearing this getup already.... As in.... Right now!
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  • I didn't breastfeed my first. I mentally couldn't get over the idea. With my second we made it 4 months and it was great! It sucked at times, especially at night when I just really needed a break but there was nothing my husband could do to help.

    Crib we got a set that came with a dresser. We went based off of look and $$. Carseat with my first I just went for cost effective with good reviews. With my second we nixed the infant seat almost right away and went with a convertible seat that could hold from 4lbs to 40 (i think is the max). It has been great! I love it and while it was more expensive, we don't have to keep paying to upgrade his seat as he grows through the stages. I plan to pick up another very similar for this baby.

    We were gifted a stroller with my first and like it. It's a jeep and does well when we go places, but it's a little bigger than I like. We really don't use it as much because I tend to wear my youngest. We had a moby wrap and I hated it! Then we tried one of the infantino sash wraps at Walmart and that has probably been my favorite. We also have an ergo type that we just started using and it's nice, but harder to get on and off by yourself. 

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  • mrs3615 said:

    bookqueen said:

    I didn't buy any maternity clothes, LOL. I lived in yoga pants and baggy shirts.

    Love the sound of this!! I might be wearing this getup already.... As in.... Right now!
    Hahahaha. We moved to Texas, so I'm living in spandex shorts and tank tops for as long as possible.
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  • bookqueen said:
    Oh I have a question too, thanks to @strlitemiss! For those who baby wore, what is your favorite/recommended wrap, carrier, or whatever?? We didn't do it for my son, but I definitely want to this time!
    We used a Baby Bjorn, but it killed my back and what I've read now says it's not recommended for baby's hips. Baby's have a normal bend at the knee and many carriers leave their legs dangling. I loved the Sleepy Wrap we had for DD. I found once I got the hang of it, it was easy and she loved snuggling close. Admittedly, I didn't use it much when she got bigger. 

    I'm planning to buy the Boba carrier this time, as well as a mesh wrap one that can be used in water (found on Etsy). We still have the wrap. Really jumping on board with more babywearing this time. I had the luxury of doing a lot of sitting around holding DD last time, but since we have DD already who keeps us busy and moving, I'm thinking babywearing will allow for that closeness on-the-go!
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  • bookqueen said:
    DHs company has a "healthy pregnancy program" and we are enrolled! The benefits are great, they cover the cost of some breast bumps and also, as a welcome gift, they send you this book!!!!!!!!!
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  • How far along did you go before purchasing maternity clothes? Do you buy your current size just in maternity and it gives your belly room to grow? Or am I going to have to purchase new clothes every couple of months? Sorry I don't know why maternity sizes are so confusing to me!
    I bought maternity pants at around 10 weeks last time around.  I got big early and didn't fit in my work clothes anymore.  I suggest getting a "Belly Band" - It's this thing that will help you stay in your regular clothes for a little longer.  It just goes up and over your pants to hold them together when they won't button anymore. 
    Also, I had some of the early pregnancy pants with just the small stretchy band and I had some of the late-pregnancy pants that have the band that goes all the way over the belly.  This time, I'll probably go straight from the belly band to the full front panel kind because I swear those under the belly pants were only comfortable for about a month before I got too big and they started rolling down on me.  The full panel ones were like wearing pajamas to work.  I *may* have worn them for 6 months after giving birth just because they were so comfy and I had no desire to try to squeeze my fluffier tummy into my pre-pregnancy pants.

  • nicosh8 said:
    How far along did you go before purchasing maternity clothes? Do you buy your current size just in maternity and it gives your belly room to grow? Or am I going to have to purchase new clothes every couple of months? Sorry I don't know why maternity sizes are so confusing to me!
    Last time, I didn't give myself many options with maternity and I really did need them. As a result, I didn't really feel that comfortable in my own skin. This time around, I want to feel good so along with keeping up with a workout plan and eating better, I plan to put more of an effort in my clothes to feel put together...at least for work and going out. At home, it's yoga pants, pajama bottoms and tank tops/shirts. 

    Like regular clothes, sizing varies by brand, but typically it's your pre-pregnancy size. For pants, I preferred the over the belly variety since the demi waisted stuff didn't want to stay up as well. If you get versatile stuff that expands with you--the fitted shirts that are ruched on the side work great, you shouldn't have to continuously buy new stuff. I'd just get key staple pieces.
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  • All I have to say regarding maternity clothes is don't let yourself be uncomfortable! If you feel restricted in your regular clothes go get some maturity pants they are soooooo comfy! I started wearing maternity pants between 9-10 weeks with #1. Best decision ever ;)

    Agreed! I loved maternity pants! So comfy.

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  • Anyone cloth diaper? I was reading about it and noticed it might be something to look into.. Also I was told once that because im so short (5 feet exactly) labor will be harder and more painful. Not sure how much truth there is to that.. Thought I'd ask that as well lol
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  • bookqueen said:
    Oh I have a question too, thanks to @strlitemiss! For those who baby wore, what is your favorite/recommended wrap, carrier, or whatever?? We didn't do it for my son, but I definitely want to this time!
    We used a Baby Bjorn, but it killed my back and what I've read now says it's not recommended for baby's hips. Baby's have a normal bend at the knee and many carriers leave their legs dangling. I loved the Sleepy Wrap we had for DD. I found once I got the hang of it, it was easy and she loved snuggling close. Admittedly, I didn't use it much when she got bigger. 

    I'm planning to buy the Boba carrier this time, as well as a mesh wrap one that can be used in water (found on Etsy). We still have the wrap. Really jumping on board with more babywearing this time. I had the luxury of doing a lot of sitting around holding DD last time, but since we have DD already who keeps us busy and moving, I'm thinking babywearing will allow for that closeness on-the-go!
    Interesting, I thought the baby bjorn was the best but I have seen so many other popular options out there too. I guess I'll keep looking. Also something that husband can wear but that won't kill his back would be helpful too!
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  • Has anyone taken fish oil supplements? If so which ones did you think worked best and do they help?
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  • Anyone cloth diaper? I was reading about it and noticed it might be something to look into.. Also I was told once that because im so short (5 feet exactly) labor will be harder and more painful. Not sure how much truth there is to that.. Thought I'd ask that as well lol
    I did cloth diaper, but not much or for long because no one in my dang family would use them. If I did it again, I would get different ones. I got the Bum Genius Elementals that had the many layers to them. They were good, but I think next time I'd get the ones that you can stuff, if you like. (I was really into the all-in-ones because when I did the research, it was my first trimester and I let it overwhelm me). I let stuffing be too much, but, when it came time to overnights, it would have been nice to do some extra stuffing for my son. There are tons of helpful guides and posts related to cloth diapering. Back then the Cloth Diapering board had many helpful links and tips. Plus cloth diapering mommas always seem to be willing to help newly CDing moms get into it. 
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  • tboslet said:

    Has anyone taken fish oil supplements? If so which ones did you think worked best and do they help?

    There's fish oil in my prenatals!
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  • Anyone cloth diaper? I was reading about it and noticed it might be something to look into.. Also I was told once that because im so short (5 feet exactly) labor will be harder and more painful. Not sure how much truth there is to that.. Thought I'd ask that as well lol
    Me, me! Love it. We're doing a slightly different system this time, but it worked out well last time, despite a few problems with the quality of the diapers we had. (Going with a different brand.) We did pocket diapers last time, but decided to do all-in-two's this time around. The main advantage is fewer covers needed because they can be used a few times before needing a wash. It's less to carry in the diaper bag, too. 

    Confession: I already bought ours. There was a coupon code, I was in the midst of the 2WW so I needed something to keep me busy :) I read great things about Thirsties Duo Wraps so that's what we got. I bought a mix of inserts since we only had one type last time and I don't know what fabric will work best for us. (We're also doing cloth wipes this go around!) 

    Now one issue that came up previously was for day care, if you're using it. We were very lucky to have the care provider that we did, who was willing to use our diapers, but some facilities were less open to the idea. Definitely make sure that if you're going to use childcare, that they're OK with cloth. 

    Check out Nicki's Diapers!

    RE: Labor. I've never heard of that! I'm 6'0" and had to be induced. I wasn't progressing because I was tensing up prior to epidural. I think everyone is different for labor, but I don't think height has much of a connection with labor or pain/progression, but I'm curious if anyone else has been told this.
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  • AggieKimAggieKim member
    edited June 2015
    bookqueen said:
    Has anyone taken fish oil supplements? If so which ones did you think worked best and do they help?
    There's fish oil in my prenatals!
    Same here. Or, really, its a second DHA pill, but part of my prenatal package. I'm not sure I can tell what works best or not, but I've taken them since my first pregnancy. I get the One a Day prenatals. That being said, there are a ton of good ones out there. Those just happen to be the ones I take. I would definitely get something marketed as prenatals, though, as different vitamins have different concentrations of vitamins, and some vitamins you do not need a ton of while pregnant (if only I could remember the one I'm thinking of, but, alas, nope). 

    Edited because I went back and read the whole post 
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  • tboslet said:
    bookqueen said:
    Oh I have a question too, thanks to @strlitemiss! For those who baby wore, what is your favorite/recommended wrap, carrier, or whatever?? We didn't do it for my son, but I definitely want to this time!
    We used a Baby Bjorn, but it killed my back and what I've read now says it's not recommended for baby's hips. Baby's have a normal bend at the knee and many carriers leave their legs dangling. I loved the Sleepy Wrap we had for DD. I found once I got the hang of it, it was easy and she loved snuggling close. Admittedly, I didn't use it much when she got bigger. 

    I'm planning to buy the Boba carrier this time, as well as a mesh wrap one that can be used in water (found on Etsy). We still have the wrap. Really jumping on board with more babywearing this time. I had the luxury of doing a lot of sitting around holding DD last time, but since we have DD already who keeps us busy and moving, I'm thinking babywearing will allow for that closeness on-the-go!
    Interesting, I thought the baby bjorn was the best but I have seen so many other popular options out there too. I guess I'll keep looking. Also something that husband can wear but that won't kill his back would be helpful too!

    Yeah, that's what I thought, too. Maybe they've changed their designs, but all I've been reading is anti-Baby Bjorn. They're not the most ergonomic choice on the market for sure. Here are a couple sites: 
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  • mrs3615 said:
    How easy was breastfeeding for you and what kind of pump did you use? Totally jumping right in- thank you all for being ahhhhmaaaaazZziiiiinnnngggg
    Breastfeeding went fine for me. I never had issues but even when nothing goes wrong it's still not easy. And it hurts!!! I used a Medela Freestyle, which I loved because I could pump and walk around the house. I bf'd both kids until 6 or 7 months. I would have tried to go a year but by that point I had been back to work a while and it was tough to keep up pumping. Plus they were eating table foods as well.




  • g8trkimg8trkim member
    edited June 2015
    How did you choose a crib/car seat/stroller? I started browsing online and got totally overwhelmed with the options and this research I feel like I need to do before I can even begin to decide.
    I asked friends what they were using and also went to BRU and felt them out for myself. The online reviews were helpful too but you can tell some of them were a little inflated.

    EDIT because I overlooked the crib question. We got whatever was on display at Target. It was cute and affordable. I would not recommend spending a lot of money on a crib. They will bite it! Our Target crib has held up well through DS and DD and is still in good shape to use for the next baby. I've had friends spend thousands of dollars on baby furniture which just seems crazy.




  • AggieKim said:
    All I know is I tried the Moby wrap with my son and he hated it! But he was a little picky, too. Since I almost never go anywhere, I didn't pursue any other carriers very hard. I just carried him around my house myself.
    I hated that thing too! We live in South Florida so summers here are brutal and all that fabric made baby and I so sweaty.




  • g8trkim said:
    AggieKim said:
    All I know is I tried the Moby wrap with my son and he hated it! But he was a little picky, too. Since I almost never go anywhere, I didn't pursue any other carriers very hard. I just carried him around my house myself.
    I hated that thing too! We live in South Florida so summers here are brutal and all that fabric made baby and I so sweaty.
    I know it is so very useful for others, so I don't like dissing it...but I just guess I never wrapped myself right, either, because it inevitably caused my shirt to pull up and show off my lovely muffin top. When that look is in style next, I might feel more comfortable using it. I'll probably still play around with it for this one, just for fun, to see if it might get more successful, but YouTube videos are NEEDED.
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  • Anyone cloth diaper? I was reading about it and noticed it might be something to look into.. Also I was told once that because im so short (5 feet exactly) labor will be harder and more painful. Not sure how much truth there is to that.. Thought I'd ask that as well lol

    I cloth diaper it's amazing.I am 4'11" and with my son I was induced without pain medication so I call b.s. on that.

  • Pregnancy brain - myth or fact?!
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    Pregnancy brain - myth or fact?!

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  • I was afraid of that answer :) I feel like it's already starting.
  • HBirdieHBirdie member
    edited June 2015
    mrs3615 said:
    How easy was breastfeeding for you and what kind of pump did you use? Totally jumping right in- thank you all for being ahhhhmaaaaazZziiiiinnnngggg

    @mrs3615: I didn't pump much so I used the hand one they gave me at the hospital. So I can't give you a rec there, but I will say that I love my BF relationship with DS. He's 20 months and still BFing actually. It was definitely hard the first few days (my milk didn't come in until day 5, I believe?), and the nurses in the hospital all had different advice that wasn't very helpful, but we had a LC come to our house the day after we got out of the hospital and she was amazing. Everything changed after she came and it was awesome. I would really encourage you to get all the help you can, because even though it's hard at first, once you get used to it and your baby gets good at latching, if you keep your supply up, it's awesome. That being said, there is NOTHING wrong with formula feeding or doing a mix of both, or pumping... whatever works for YOU and your baby is what you should do. :)


    How did you choose a crib/car seat/stroller? I started browsing online and got totally overwhelmed with the options and this research I feel like I need to do before I can even begin to decide.
    @jennymack79: I researched the stroller more than anything. I got a BOB Revolution and I'm very happy with it. I think you should decide what features are important to you, read lots of online reviews and get yourself to a store where you can push some around and see what they feel like to you. Carseat-wise, all carseats being sold in stores pass the same safety standards so it's up to you what kind of look and fit you want. Consider the size of your car. I actually think picking a convertible carseat is more difficult and important than picking an infant seat, which they'll grow out of quicker than you imagine. :)

    ETA: Forgot crib. We just walked into the baby store and picked the cutest one, haha. I'm no help there.
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