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Random insensitive joke

PyraknightPyraknight member
in September 2015 Moms
This will be my second child and I've heard this joke twice "nobody cares about the second child". I know it's a joke (a poor one) and it doesn't really bother me that much, but I tend to be superstitious and am worried because the first time someone made the joke, I miscarried shortly after. So now that someone else made the joke again with this baby, I can't help but freak out a bit. I just need to hear someone say it'll be ok. Even if no one else cares about baby number two, I loved baby number two and am very much in love with baby number 3.
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  • jizzypuffjizzypuff member
    It is a very messed up joke so many people said that to my mom constantly when she was pregnant with me. She always told me how frustrated it made her. But you don't need their validation its not a superstitious thing. Plus superstions only hold as much weight as you give them. Try not to hold those two situations together :) you'll be fine.
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  • cjstats87cjstats87 member
    I care very much for my precious 2nd baby and 3rd and if there is a 4th or 5th! I'm sorry you had to go through a loss, I hope you can separate their insensitivity from the excitement you have for your babies! I cannot stand it when I say something about the kids being a handful and someone says "and there's another on the way." Why yes there is and yes it doesn't change the fact I love these nuggets and can't stand when they do ___! Lol!!
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  • ktbkittenktbkitten member
    That is a mean thing to say! I am on my second kid and no one has said anything like that to me. IDK what I would say but there is a nasty comeback lurking around just for them. Try not to let it get to you though. I am sure that things will be fine. 
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    People are so rude. Ignore the haters, embrace your beautiful new baby and have positive thoughts only
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  • shaunnar053shaunnar053 member
    Omg!!! That's SO rude. I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. If it makes you feel any better, my family keeps joking that this baby will be a girl (he's definitely a boy) because of a stupid "pencil test" one of my extended family members insisted on doing on me at a family get together (after REPEATEDLY telling him I didn't want to do it and that I already knew the baby is a boy)..

    The person who did the stupid "test" didn't even do it the right way lol. Then proceeded to tell EVERYONE at the party (including my parents) that I was wrong about it being a boy and that my baby is a girl (after two ultrasounds with a clear as day penis). The worse part is, he 100% BELIEVED he proved the ultrasound wrong LOL! It's no fun for your child to be the pun of a stupid joke, it's ANNOYING as hell actually. I feel your pain.
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  • shelbyddshelbydd member
    I've never heard anyone say that. Why anyone would think it's funny anyway I really don't get. I know that the initial excitement for first timers might be different (first kid, first grandkid, etc. when it's all new and kind of foreign) But it's certainly no less important or special. Please don't let those comments get to you. It's not bad luck, it's just someone with a mean spirited sense of humor. And I'm sure they aren't intentionally being mean, they probably don't even realize what a negative thing that is to say. That and they have a crap sense of humor.
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  • MousemamaMousemama member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how devastating miscarriages can be. Don't worry, though. It wasn't a jinx, just really crappy timing. Your sweet baby will be just fine and (obviously) loved and cherished. Next time someone makes that terrible joke, just look them in the eye and say, "Why would you say such a heartless thing about someone's child? Is that supposed to be funny?"
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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    This is my sixth and while others may not seem to care as much as my first girl and my first boy, I do care. We thought my fourth baby was a girl until week 30 and once we found out that he was a he everyone went from disappointed in "yet another girl" to elated like it was my first baby all over again. I wasn't that way; just other people.

    Doesn't matter if you have two or twenty - they're each very precious. Ignore the stupid, ignorant comments.
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  • folc4evernadayfolc4evernaday member
    Everything will be okay and the second child and third and fourth are just as loved and wanted as the first. Whoever came up with this saying is a rotten human being.
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