This has to be said to all

lexismith91 · June 2015

We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days. Its a free world and you can post whatever you want on whatever day you want as many times as you like, do what makes YOU happy.Most people who talk mess don't have a picture. I don't either, but you will never catch me talking bad about anyone, you never know what someone is going through personally. Some of you will never talk like that in person anyway.

Pontot31 · June 2015

You had to post this twice with 2 different titles?

doodleoodle · June 2015

I completely agree that some people on this forum can come across harsh and insensitive. But why would you do this to yourself? People have posted things like this in the past and it didn't change anything, the OP got torn apart, the threads got shut down and people carried on about their day as they normally would have.

The people you are referring to will clearly never change the way they're using this board. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Maybe you could start your own private group?

lakesideknitter · June 2015

Again, cool story, bro.

VexyMommy · June 2015

This is not facebook. Yes, we are a community but just like you wouldn't go up to random strangers in public and ask them about your ultrasound pictures or take your shirt off to show them your bump it's not done here. Especially (as is usually the case) in a person's first post. People are also refusing to use the search or do any research on their own. Books and the entire rest of the internet exist for questions such as, Is throwing up normal in pregnancy? A question that I've literally seen asked here.

I enjoy helping people and answering questions, but you've got to do at least a little bit for yourself or no one is going to continue answering people on this board who have valid questions, concerns, or need a community to pull together for them when they have a scare or loss.

Pontot31 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:
This is not facebook. Yes, we are a community but just like you wouldn't go up to random strangers in public and ask them about your ultrasound pictures or take your shirt off to show them your bump it's not done here. Especially (as is usually the case) in a person's first post. People are also refusing to use the search or do any research on their own. Books and the entire rest of the internet exist for questions such as, Is throwing up normal in pregnancy? A question that I've literally seen asked here.

I enjoy helping people and answering questions, but you've got to do at least a little bit for yourself or no one is going to continue answering people on this board who have valid questions, concerns, or need a community to pull together for them when they have a scare or loss.

This 100%.
We are here for support and feedback when it's needed. What we aren't here for is answering the same damn question 5 times a day.

Read the rules. Lurk for a day and see the way things work. Every board has an order. Learn where you fit into that. Contribute to posts. Help others. Once you put that support out there you will get it back. But don't expect to be an AW and have us all fawn over you.

DrMommaDVM · June 2015

@VexyMommy that's a great way to put it.

mamavbs · June 2015

Allllll of thissssss.

No one here (that I've seen) went to medical school. People specifically train for a long time to be able to answer a lot of the questions asked daily and repeatedly on here. This isn't a place to ask a serious medical question, we can't tell you why you're bleeding or what genitals your child has... However- this is a place to ask and search if someone's had a similar experience to you and therefore you can find the support you need from that.

It is irritating to log on and see the same questions asked a million times, imagine turning on your TV and seeing the same programme all day every day. The search feature is quick and easy and at this stage in our pregnancies- most of these questions have been asked before now. Plus there are 3/4 sticky posts AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE for the sex of your baby. You have to look right at them in order to press "new discussion".

I would argue the opposite to you, maybe try and look at it from the other side. I'm commenting on this because I DO CARE, and I'd like as many women as possible on here to see this forum as fun and useful. And in order to enjoy it fully, you do have to be considerate and try to abide by the rules and general courtesies.

Ceridwen77 · June 2015

lexismith91 said:
We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days. Its a free world and you can post whatever you want on whatever day you want as many times as you like, do what makes YOU happy.Most people who talk mess don't have a picture. I don't either, but you will never catch me talking bad about anyone, you never know what someone is going through personally. Some of you will never talk like that in person anyway.

VexyMommy · June 2015

babycfitz said:

Hey, all of you really awful women who can't stand the fact that someone may have just found the boards, may be scared about their pregnancies and may have no one in their lives who they can talk to about all the changes they're experiencing? You're the worst kind of people. How dare you come on here and make these women feel terrible for being excited and posting questions or things you don't like. Guess what? KEEP SCROLLING. You don't own these boards, and if you think someone should know that sex is different from gender or you want to make someone feel bad for being excited to find out if they're having a boy or girl, then just don't freaking comment. It literally affects your life in no way whatsoever, but you're sitting behind your keyboards and making already vulnerable women feel worse. And for all of you who keep referencing rules? Here's one I found for you: "But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it." Every single woman on here has every right to share her excitement, share her fears, and try and reach out to others. If that's not what you want to happen here then GO AWAY. I don't even care about these boards. I've posted a handful of times and don't plan on posting again. But I couldn't sit here and let these arrogant second and third time moms sit here and tear down people who are excited and have questions without having my own say. You all seriously need to look at your lives and reevaluate your priorities if you have nothing better to do than tear down other people. God, you people really are the freaking worst.

You've made a total of 9 replies here and at least 1 has been a complaint. Perhaps participate in the community and instead of whining about it engage with it. Answer some questions give some help and then your opinion on the community will be valid.

Peony1982 · June 2015

babycfitz said:

Hey, all of you really awful women who can't stand the fact that someone may have just found the boards, may be scared about their pregnancies and may have no one in their lives who they can talk to about all the changes they're experiencing? You're the worst kind of people. How dare you come on here and make these women feel terrible for being excited and posting questions or things you don't like. Guess what? KEEP SCROLLING. You don't own these boards, and if you think someone should know that sex is different from gender or you want to make someone feel bad for being excited to find out if they're having a boy or girl, then just don't freaking comment. It literally affects your life in no way whatsoever, but you're sitting behind your keyboards and making already vulnerable women feel worse. And for all of you who keep referencing rules? Here's one I found for you: "But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it." Every single woman on here has every right to share her excitement, share her fears, and try and reach out to others. If that's not what you want to happen here then GO AWAY. I don't even care about these boards. I've posted a handful of times and don't plan on posting again. But I couldn't sit here and let these arrogant second and third time moms sit here and tear down people who are excited and have questions without having my own say. You all seriously need to look at your lives and reevaluate your priorities if you have nothing better to do than tear down other people. God, you people really are the freaking worst.

Ceridwen77 · June 2015

@babycfitz is preaching to people to be nice, while name calling and slamming others. So far she's the only one in this thread who violated the TOU. Oh, the irony.

DrMommaDVM · June 2015

babycfitz said:
Hey, all of you really awful women who can't stand the fact that someone may have just found the boards, may be scared about their pregnancies and may have no one in their lives who they can talk to about all the changes they're experiencing? You're the worst kind of people. How dare you come on here and make these women feel terrible for being excited and posting questions or things you don't like. Guess what? KEEP SCROLLING. You don't own these boards, and if you think someone should know that sex is different from gender or you want to make someone feel bad for being excited to find out if they're having a boy or girl, then just don't freaking comment. It literally affects your life in no way whatsoever, but you're sitting behind your keyboards and making already vulnerable women feel worse. And for all of you who keep referencing rules? Here's one I found for you:

"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."

Every single woman on here has every right to share her excitement, share her fears, and try and reach out to others. If that's not what you want to happen here then GO AWAY.

I don't even care about these boards. I've posted a handful of times and don't plan on posting again. But I couldn't sit here and let these arrogant second and third time moms sit here and tear down people who are excited and have questions without having my own say. You all seriously need to look at your lives and reevaluate your priorities if you have nothing better to do than tear down other people. God, you people really are the freaking worst.

"The worst kind of people"
Yes, definitely. I mean there are war lords and child sex traffickers and dog fighters and rapists and whatnot...

But yeah people on TB are, like, totes the worst!

Anyway, how many Felicias can we say bye to today?

mamavbs · June 2015

@babycfitz nothing in my reply was specific to any one person or group of people's. It was trying to introduce the other side of the OP's argument. Which is healthy, I see her POV and was expressing mine. You've just called everyone on this thread awful people. That doesn't exactly "build me up". That's mean and offensive.

FilbertTree · June 2015

As a newbie to the boards I'd like to point out that it's the moms on here like @VexyMommy and @Ceridwen77 that make me want to come back and keep posting. I like that people aren't mollycoddled on here, but if you genuinely need the support it's here in bucketfuls. Maybe this isnt the fluffy bunnies and rainbows board you want and need to support you during your pregnancy. Thats fine, but instead of complaining about the established "feel" of these boards, go and find another community thats a better fit for you. There are so many pregnancy forums online that you're sure to find one that suits.

LSRoo · June 2015

babycfitz said:
Hey, all of you really awful women who can't stand the fact that someone may have just found the boards, may be scared about their pregnancies and may have no one in their lives who they can talk to about all the changes they're experiencing? You're the worst kind of people. How dare you come on here and make these women feel terrible for being excited and posting questions or things you don't like. Guess what? KEEP SCROLLING. You don't own these boards, and if you think someone should know that sex is different from gender or you want to make someone feel bad for being excited to find out if they're having a boy or girl, then just don't freaking comment. It literally affects your life in no way whatsoever, but you're sitting behind your keyboards and making already vulnerable women feel worse. And for all of you who keep referencing rules? Here's one I found for you:

"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."

Every single woman on here has every right to share her excitement, share her fears, and try and reach out to others. If that's not what you want to happen here then GO AWAY.

I don't even care about these boards. I've posted a handful of times and don't plan on posting again. But I couldn't sit here and let these arrogant second and third time moms sit here and tear down people who are excited and have questions without having my own say. You all seriously need to look at your lives and reevaluate your priorities if you have nothing better to do than tear down other people. God, you people really are the freaking worst.

Lsager424 · June 2015

@EllaStaxx I love you and all of your Lucille Bluth memes. Please keep them coming!

Lsager424 · June 2015

And because one good turn deserves another...

Ivyblue92 · June 2015

amanda97531 said:
I completely agree that some people on this forum can come across harsh and insensitive. But why would you do this to yourself? People have posted things like this in the past and it didn't change anything, the OP got torn apart, the threads got shut down and people carried on about their day as they normally would have.

The people you are referring to will clearly never change the way they're using this board. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Maybe you could start your own private group?

So you'd rather people sugar coat things than be honest? Come on.. Look we may not all like the responses we get but fact is we all have different opinions on topics. Let's face it's not not all unicorns & Rainbows but so what welcome to the real world. If people actually took the time to lurk & read post people wouldn't get so irate with having to repeat themselves all the the time

CEB37 · June 2015

Here's my response to your other post.

This is the problem with society today. Life is not only about doing what makes YOU happy. People need to have consideration for others. They also need to work and do things they may not like to do, it's not all fun and games and glitter and rainbows. You can't only do what makes you happy.

You can't be completely self absorbed and post only when you are trying to get attention and expect to be a part of this community. It's just not going to work here. TB has an established population and it's not going to change to meet your needs, if you don't like it, find a community that meets your needs, but don't complain because you didn't take the time to learn about the ebb and flow of this board/community as a whole.

blams05 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

This is not facebook. Yes, we are a community but just like you wouldn't go up to random strangers in public and ask them about your ultrasound pictures or take your shirt off to show them your bump it's not done here. Especially (as is usually the case) in a person's first post. People are also refusing to use the search or do any research on their own. Books and the entire rest of the internet exist for questions such as, Is throwing up normal in pregnancy? A question that I've literally seen asked here.

I enjoy helping people and answering questions, but you've got to do at least a little bit for yourself or no one is going to continue answering people on this board who have valid questions, concerns, or need a community to pull together for them when they have a scare or loss.

Can we just make Vexy our Mod?

dogsombrero · June 2015

Wow I go out with a friend the first time this pregnancy and miss this peach of a thread. So so late to the party. All I can say to the OP is I think a different forum would be better for your needs.

scw89 · June 2015

Huh?

Elyse1384 · June 2015

You are all so terribly terribly awful and the worst people ever. It only just so happens that you're the most involved members of the board, always showing support to women going through problems or a loss and starting threads applicable to all (not just AW threads). Now let me go back to lurking and never contributing to threads started by those in need of support or camaraderie when dealing with shared growing pains.

babycfitz, while you're posting rules it seems you decided to ignore some yourself...

DO use (some of) the 72 hours between registration and posting in the community to get familiar with the forums.
DO use our Community Search [https://global.thebump.com/search/default.aspx] to find curated collections of information and articles by staffers, doctors and experts, as well as posts by other Bumpies on the topic you have a question about.
But please don't ask if we think you’re pregnant or post your pee stick -- these are other members just like you, not doctors. Each woman’s pregnancy is unique and while Bumpies have great info and emotional support, only your medical professionals can confirm a pregnancy or diagnose issues. (NOTE:I think we can safely apply this rule to asking for US analysis to determine the sex of the baby????? Yup...)
DO welcome constructive disagreement and refrain from getting upset if someone is of a differing opinion. Healthy and respectful debates thrive on The Bump, and disagreement does not constitute harassment.
Please don't... Personally attack other members (Ouch... pretty sure you did that to these ladies)

And lastly...

DO check out the other forums, too! The Bump is a large and diverse community with a lot of lively boards and conversations. You’ll find the one for you!

jscasher · June 2015

OP, look. Go to ANY other thread that doesn't involve "guessing the gender" or "look at my baby bump photo" and 9 times out of 10 you'll find everyone being supportive and interacting with each other.

Don't presume to judge or act like you know who WE are based on our Internet conduct. Saying we're the worst people ever? Do you have any idea who we are? I don't know you. I may disagree with your post or say it's been discussed already recently, but I'd never presume to know who you are as a PERSON and call you a horrible human being.

So take a look in the mirror and see who is REALLY being the "bully" here.

abrink63 · June 2015

@lexismith91 "We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days."

I hope you understand that the women guilty of this are not those that are giving constant feedback and support to the moms-to-be that are in need.

The guilty party are those that are continuously posting drive-by AW (short for Attention Whore, in case you didn't get that memo) posts and then leaving. What are they contributing? Absolutely nothing. Who are they supporting? Absolutely no one.

mamavbs · June 2015

These kinda threads always go SO well, don't they? :-)

VexyMommy · June 2015

abrink63 said:

@lexismith91 "We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days." I hope you understand that the women guilty of this are not those that are giving constant feedback and support to the moms-to-be that are in need. The guilty party are those that are continuously posting drive-by AW (short for Attention Whore, in case you didn't get that memo) posts and then leaving. What are they contributing? Absolutely nothing. Who are they supporting? Absolutely no one.

lol. I actually thought AW stood for the fact that we are supposed to Oooh and Aaah over the person who posted it or go Awww over the topic.

thegingeravenger · June 2015

Because lecturing grown women in their behavior is received so well. I can only truly speak for myself in the end, but the women (myself included) that I believe you're trying to talk down to are very supportive as a whole. If this was a real life meet-up deal, we WOULD say it to your face. I'm very big on say something dumb and get a dumb answer. When you sign up for TB you have a 3 day or so trial period where you are a ghost on the public boards. You can read, but not post and getting to know the community and using the search function are actively encouraged. Most people when told to please use the search function, will. Others decide that they're better than that.

urby87 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

abrink63 said:

@lexismith91 "We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days." I hope you understand that the women guilty of this are not those that are giving constant feedback and support to the moms-to-be that are in need. The guilty party are those that are continuously posting drive-by AW (short for Attention Whore, in case you didn't get that memo) posts and then leaving. What are they contributing? Absolutely nothing. Who are they supporting? Absolutely no one.

lol. I actually thought AW stood for the fact that we are supposed to Oooh and Aaah over the person who posted it or go Awww over the topic.

I thought the same until I saw it in the glossary.

cbolton19 · June 2015

VexyMommy said:

abrink63 said:

@lexismith91 "We all have to come to the conclusion that a lot of people don't care about others these days."

I hope you understand that the women guilty of this are not those that are giving constant feedback and support to the moms-to-be that are in need.

The guilty party are those that are continuously posting drive-by AW (short for Attention Whore, in case you didn't get that memo) posts and then leaving. What are they contributing? Absolutely nothing. Who are they supporting? Absolutely no one.

lol. I actually thought AW stood for the fact that we are supposed to Oooh and Aaah over the person who posted it or go Awww over the topic.

Oh! I love this! You are so nice! I always enjoy what you have to say. : )

doodleoodle · June 2015

Ivyblue92 said:

amanda97531 said:
I completely agree that some people on this forum can come across harsh and insensitive. But why would you do this to yourself? People have posted things like this in the past and it didn't change anything, the OP got torn apart, the threads got shut down and people carried on about their day as they normally would have.

The people you are referring to will clearly never change the way they're using this board. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Maybe you could start your own private group?
So you'd rather people sugar coat things than be honest? Come on.. Look we may not all like the responses we get but fact is we all have different opinions on topics. Let's face it's not not all unicorns & Rainbows but so what welcome to the real world. If people actually took the time to lurk & read post people wouldn't get so irate with having to repeat themselves all the the time

That's actually not what I said at all. I said some people may come across negatively but they're not going to change so get over it, pretty much. You seem defensive. I'm sorry if you took my comment in any other way than it was intended.

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kmkrushi · June 2015

Damn I go to the doctor and miss all this. I'm definitely going to Taco Bell for lunch now!

scw89 · June 2015

Is this what you're looking for?

doodleoodle · June 2015

ScarReallyDidIt said:
So, anyone want a taco?

ALWAYS!

VexyMommy · June 2015

scw89 said:

Is this what you're looking for?

That is my favorite gif ever.

CEB37 · June 2015

ScarReallyDidIt said:
So, anyone want a taco?

I went out for tacos and shit hits the fan.

VexyMommy · June 2015

It's been kind of a shitty week so far on the boards. More drama than usual.

Lsager424 · June 2015

ScarReallyDidIt said:

So, anyone want a taco?

All I want to do is eat all the time. Arrrgh.

FilbertTree · June 2015

VexyMommy said:
It's been kind of a shitty week so far on the boards. More drama than usual.

You know, I had been wondering if it was always this batshit crazy around here... Guess I picked a good week to join the convo, huh?
O/T, but where can I find this fabled glossary with all of the acronyms and abbreviations? I've figured out most by not being an idiot, but a couple are stumping me...

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