How to handle tantrum?

lovinnmommy · May 2015

My daughter is 19 months old and we have tantrums on a daily bases for the littlest things. How can we handle tantrums in our house hold?

Bigboobsmcgee · May 2015

Toddlers are fun aren't they?!

Some of the tantrums we just ignore or, try to redirect/distract if possible. I walk away A LOT.

I make sure not to let tantrums frazzle or upset me and bring any more attention to the negative behavior. Just know that tantrums are perfectly normal and they only get worse as your LO gets older so figure out how to handle them now. People always told me that 3 is worse than 2 and now I believe them.

gigglesgufaw · May 2015

I find tantrums especially frustrating because they cannot tell u why they are bothered. I agree that the best thing is to try to distract the LO. But if at all possible, try to find the humor in the situation. I try to laugh when my DD is crying over silly things like not wanting to stop having fun when I need to change her diaper, I say to her, "Well, I am sorry that you are a party pooper- get it, caused you've pooped in your diaper!" It helps me to calm down and look for ways to be silly and get my DD to laugh instead of cry.

rspalding001 · May 2015

I try to redirect as much as possible. Focus her attention on something else if possible. Our DD is just now a year and a half. I also try to talk to her about it, even if she is yelling and screaming... let her know I understand why she is upset (assuming I know why). Hugs help (assuming they let you hug them). If I am lucky enough to get a hug in I try to do deep breathing exercises to help calm her down... hold her against my chest and inhale and exhale deeply (and somewhat noticeably so she hears what I'm doing) if Im lucky it calms down her breathing too which helps with the emotions. Above all be patient and try not to let it effect your emotions negatively because they will pick up on your stress. Good Luck!

CGless · May 2015

My 14 month old throws himself on the floor and cries when we tell him no. We are trying to put him on his chair and keep him there until he's done crying and then he can get out. It only works sometimes though.

cattlebride · May 2015

We either redirect or ignore the tantrum especially if she didn't get hurt. Usually she cries it out and gets distracted doing something else after a couple of minutes. If we are in public usually take dd out to the car or hold her an walk a not until she falls asleep. Lol it seems most of the tantrums at our house are directly related to, its time for her nap.

cerafina205 · May 2015

Ignore or redirect.

SharonB222 · May 2015

First I reflect their feelings - "Wow, I can see you are very upset that you didn't get the [object]." Then depending on personality if redirection doesn't work, I leave DD be (she's independent - "come get me when you've calmed down") or playfully love on DS (likes to connect - "oh, look how very, very angry you are!"). Like pp says, I sometimes notice "you are tired/hungry" and it's off for nap or food to resolve the mood. Although yesterday DD said, "Mommy, I am very grouchy, I didn't get my nap" - but turns out she had taken a nap so she was just plain grouchy.

TaylorCristene · May 2015

One thing I have started doing is I made Calm Jar. You take a water bottle (I chose a Smart Water bottle), and fill it about 3/4 of the way with hot water. Then, I put in a bottle of glitter glue and some extra glitter. You shake it up and watch the glitter settle. If you want it to move faster, add more water. If you want to slow it down, add the clear tacky gel glue. So far, (the last week), it has worked wonders! She will be in the middle of a tantrum, I will shake the bottle up and hand it to her, and she just calms, sits down, and watches it!

Stephorse · May 2015

Just speaking calmly to reassure and then transition to something else. That seems to work right now for our 16 month old. It's a little harder with the 2.5 yr old, but you just have to remain calm and transition.

asanchez356 · May 2015

I love this idea!! Very clever

SharonB222 · May 2015

I'm reading the book "Playful Parenting". It hasn't addressed tantrums yet, but I am sure it will. So far worked fabulously to avert a sibling dispute (over the preferred stroller).

Megan3086 · June 2015

I have a two year old and the tantrums have been in full force latley. I did find some help in reading The Happiest Toddler On the Block. There are some good techniques in there. Toddlers are basically little cave people. LOL I do try to redirect if i can. We are at the stage where it is a tantrum that is just completley out of control and she is breaking rules or not listening a little time out helps.....both of us....

Good luck toddler years are fun adn crazy!

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