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November 2015 Moms
VexyMommy
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Me and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
VexyMommy
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So today has been freaking awful. I get that there are ways that it could be worse (I'm desperately trying to keep perspective.) but it pretty much feels like today just needs to be a nightmare that I wake up from asap.
My boyfriend and I broke up today during couples counseling. We've been having problems for a while (hence the counseling) and things have gotten better, but not good. Since we found out about Sprout we've both been dealing with additional anxiety and me with massive hormonal issues. I gave him an ultimatum and he decided he wouldn't go along with it. I'm not going back on it since I gave it for a reason. It's something I've realized that I require to continue in this relationship. It's about what house we move to, but it's become a symbol of me being able to have a say in our relationship. (That's not our only issue btw. I wouldn't throw a relationship away over just a house.) So that's 5yrs of my life, the father of this child and the man that has raised my older daughter that is no longer going to occupy the same place in our lives.
We haven't discussed it since our session this morning because we had my daughter with us and we don't talk about things like this in front of her. They dropped me off at work. My daughter going to my mother's this weekend though so we will discuss how to move forward this evening and tomorrow.
While at work, I got a phone call that I did not pass my 1hr sugar test. The one that they typically don't give women this early because, "no one really gets diabetes this early in their pregnancy." I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy. I know the drill. You fail the first test and then go back to do the 3hr test which you also fail and a few days later they tell you you've got diabetes. I'm pretty much in skip the middle man mode and saying I've got diabetes at this point. It sucks for lots of reasons. The one I'm most stuck on now (trivial in the scheme of things) is that I don't want food right now and the only food that I'm not completely opposed to is carb heavy and now I can't do that.
I really, really, really want to go somewhere and just cry. I'm at work though and I can't do that. I figured I'd write/rant to you guys instead. Sorry to be such a drama mama.
My boyfriend and I broke up today during couples counseling. We've been having problems for a while (hence the counseling) and things have gotten better, but not good. Since we found out about Sprout we've both been dealing with additional anxiety and me with massive hormonal issues. I gave him an ultimatum and he decided he wouldn't go along with it. I'm not going back on it since I gave it for a reason. It's something I've realized that I require to continue in this relationship. It's about what house we move to, but it's become a symbol of me being able to have a say in our relationship. (That's not our only issue btw. I wouldn't throw a relationship away over just a house.) So that's 5yrs of my life, the father of this child and the man that has raised my older daughter that is no longer going to occupy the same place in our lives.
We haven't discussed it since our session this morning because we had my daughter with us and we don't talk about things like this in front of her. They dropped me off at work. My daughter going to my mother's this weekend though so we will discuss how to move forward this evening and tomorrow.
While at work, I got a phone call that I did not pass my 1hr sugar test. The one that they typically don't give women this early because, "no one really gets diabetes this early in their pregnancy." I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy. I know the drill. You fail the first test and then go back to do the 3hr test which you also fail and a few days later they tell you you've got diabetes. I'm pretty much in skip the middle man mode and saying I've got diabetes at this point. It sucks for lots of reasons. The one I'm most stuck on now (trivial in the scheme of things) is that I don't want food right now and the only food that I'm not completely opposed to is carb heavy and now I can't do that.
I really, really, really want to go somewhere and just cry. I'm at work though and I can't do that. I figured I'd write/rant to you guys instead. Sorry to be such a drama mama.
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Re: Me and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day
As far as the relationship goes, that's unfortunate but I understand you wanting to stick to your guns on the ultimatum. Definitely take some time to talk it through this weekend but it things are getting heated pause the conversation until you're at counseling and have a mediator. Good luck.
*hugs* I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a rough day.
My husband and I having been having some difficulties lately too, and are hoping to start counseling soon (the only reason we haven't yet is that I can't get a hold of the one I want to go to!) Separating/getting a divorce is my biggest fear lately so I can only imagine how horrible you must feel. I cried for 2 days straight when he first told me that he didn't think we were working as a couple, so I can understand that much.
I'm sorry I don't have any advice. I'm here to listen though. *more hugs*
Good for you for standing up for what you want. You're setting a good example for your daughter. I'm sure it's tough to think that way now. But you've got to put you and your kids first.
I failed my 1 hour a few weeks ago too. By 2 damn points. I still have to eat with in minutes of waking up or I puke so my midwife is giving me a month to take the 3 hour. It sucks though. I hope you start feeling a little better.
We are here for you.
Wanted to share this video - maybe it'll make you feel better even if only for a minute
When a 3 year old is asked about monsters:
Good for you for sticking to your guns, from what you posted on here the last few weeks it really sounds like you gave 100% and tried to make it work. Rough now but I'm sure you will be happier on the long term.
I'm sorry about your testing...maybe the 3hr will surprise you
Hope you feel better! I'm joining in the creepy Internet group hug! >:D<
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
I know telling you this doesn't make your problems all better. I just hope you remember how awesome you are and I'll be sending positive thoughts your way. I hope everything works out to be what is best for you, your daughter and your baby.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this. Thinking of you!
Baby Boy born on 1/14/13
It sucks that your day is so crappy but I find it very impressive that you are putting your foot down and doing what is best for you and your family.
I'm praying for you and hope things get better for you.