I think I may end up being one of those mom's who doesn't have an instant connection with my baby. I'm not super excited and girly about being pregnant and having a baby. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. I'm just more pragmatic about the whole thing than most people seem to be. I feel like a mutant and am starting to wonder if I need counseling.
You do not need counseling! I think a lot of women feel that way, especially with the first. We just don't want to be judged so we don't talk about it. I didn't feel truly bonded with DD for a couple of months. She's 21 months now and the light of my life!
Oh! So speaking of Pitbull- I had an ex who was *obsessed* with him. He would watch his music videos over and over, then talk about how he wished his life was like the videos (I guess he wanted to sing in the middle of the desert?) Spent all his time trying to convince everyone he was just like Pitbull.
My lunch, all from my school's cafeteria: slice of pizza, a "side salad" that was the size of my head, BBQ chips, fruit punch, and then I bought TWO chocolate bars from a kid fundraising. Smart little bastard knew to go to the pregnant lady...three days in a row.
And dinner tonight is BWW. Skinny bitches can bite me. Hey, I probably taste delicious!
I think I may end up being one of those mom's who doesn't have an instant connection with my baby. I'm not super excited and girly about being pregnant and having a baby. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. I'm just more pragmatic about the whole thing than most people seem to be. I feel like a mutant and am starting to wonder if I need counseling.
You do not need counseling! I think a lot of women feel that way, especially with the first. We just don't want to be judged so we don't talk about it. I didn't feel truly bonded with DD for a couple of months. She's 21 months now and the light of my life!
It is so surreal going to the hospital with this big belly and then coming home (still with a big belly) but also with this new little stranger person. Even though this little person spent his/her entire life inside of you until then, you still don't know them. It can take a while. I'm surprised that I never cursed once during labor and delivery, and I think the first thing I said when I saw her was, "She looks like my dad."
I'm also not overly excited about it. I didn't contribute on the "how did you tell SO?" threads, because both times, we both basically knew I was pregnant before I took the test, and it was like, "Well, I took the test and it's positive. All right then." We didn't do any jumping up or down or anything.
I do get excited by watching videos like this one (link below) and when the baby starts to really move around in there.
I'm hoping that now that I've been through it, I'll handle it a little better - like knowing what to expect... I feel like when I was pregnant with DS I never even really thought there was a baby in there...the idea of going to the hospital and a baby coming out of me was just not fathomable in my mind. Now that I realize how it all goes and been through it all with DS the past year...I hope that I get my act together a bit more and enjoy this pregnancy more as well lol
I think I may end up being one of those mom's who doesn't have an instant connection with my baby. I'm not super excited and girly about being pregnant and having a baby. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. I'm just more pragmatic about the whole thing than most people seem to be. I feel like a mutant and am starting to wonder if I need counseling.
I totally get this! We dealt with Infertility for over 3 years, and all that I wanted was to get pregnant. Now that I am, I feel so neutral to everything. I don't know if it is just trying to protect myself from the possibility of something happening, or what, but I have been feeling super guilty! I keep waiting for something to happen for me to get excited, and it is just not happening.
DH and I are doing genetic testing in two weeks and had decided that we were also going to find out sex at that time. Then we visited his friends who didn't find out and they guilt/shamed him for wanting to know and now he's on the fence and therefore made the decision that we can just wait until the 20 week scan to find out, if we even want to.
Since when does DH's preference decide what we're absolutely doing? Sorry honey, it doesn't work that way and dear wifey knows how to play hardball. I fully plan having them do a full panel at the genetic testing including the sex of the baby. They don't have to tell us when we first get the results, but then I'll absolutely call a few days later and find out ... whether I tell husband after I find out is still up in the air.
This is what happens when you try and dictate big decisions with a pregnant woman.
I think I may end up being one of those mom's who doesn't have an instant connection with my baby. I'm not super excited and girly about being pregnant and having a baby. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. I'm just more pragmatic about the whole thing than most people seem to be. I feel like a mutant and am starting to wonder if I need counseling.
I totally get this! We dealt with Infertility for over 3 years, and all that I wanted was to get pregnant. Now that I am, I feel so neutral to everything. I don't know if it is just trying to protect myself from the possibility of something happening, or what, but I have been feeling super guilty! I keep waiting for something to happen for me to get excited, and it is just now happening.
I feel the same way. The doctors tell me there is a little person in my body, but I forget 95% of the time. I literally don't think about being pregnant except when I get ready for a dr appointment or remember that I shouldn't have that delicious Jimmy Johns Turkey Tom that I want everyday (and, let's face it, will probably have my first day into the second trimester).
I am practical and literal and steady to a fault. I will definitely be disconnected at first.
I'm right there with you, girl! I've been telling my husband since Day 1 that I will never be someone who loves being pregnant. For me, it's a means to an end. We really want a family and I know that pregnancy is something that needs to happen if we want to form a family by traditional means (not adoption, though that's something we've discussed for later) but I have yet to connect with the actual process. That could be because I've never been pregnant before -- and maybe that'll all change when I can start to feel kicks and more is going on ... but right now I definitely feel like an alien who isn't in control of her body and cannot wait for seven months from now when I actually have a little human in front of me to connect with.
Right now I hate everyone younger, skinnier, and prettier than I am. HATE. With the passion of a thousand fiery suns. Which makes no sense, since A. I am not a jealous person normally (I'm a belly dancer for Pete's sake, I've been watching gorgeous women shake their hips for years) and B. I have SO who seriously would not notice if all the Victoria's Secret models walked right by us completely naked, so it's not like I'm being compared to these other women or need to feel threatened.
I am the same. It's driving me nuts!!! I am also a belly dancer!
I am a teacher and I have assignments from 3 weeks ago that I am just starting to grade. I also have work that kids turned in late, of which parents are asking about, kids are asking about, and I cannot stay awake long enough after 3:30 to grade. I definitely don't have time during the day bc the kids are going bananas. Sorry, not sorry.
I know it's really early to be worrying about this, but I really want to breastfeed. My FFFC is that I understand and enjoy how my breasts function in, um, other scenarios. I'm slightly nervous breastfeeding will be weird because of that?!
Basically another Bump user in this group that you get paired up with who is responsible for posting about your delivery/baby since you'll be a little busy and vice versa.
I didn't miss booze last pregnancy like I do this time. I just want a glass of wine. UGH
And labor buddies? Has anything happened w ours? Or is it just the spreadsheet with all the peeps?
You didn't have an almost two year old who is allergic to sleep last time
But I also miss it more this time around. DH has mentioned/joked around about getting a real margarita slushy machine after I have this baby. I asked him if that would be my "push present." He's like, "Uh, sure, ok." Hahaha
I know it's really early to be worrying about this, but I really want to breastfeed. My FFFC is that I understand and enjoy how my breasts function in, um, other scenarios. I'm slightly nervous breastfeeding will be weird because of that?!
It feels so different. It's like having bottles attached to you. One thing is when you feel engorged, it can hurt, and getting the baby on there or a pump is like when you have a zit that hurts so bad and is such a relief when you relieve that pressure.
I get having a due date/username/etc spreadsheet but to be assigning labor buddies (well, they'll be assigning them in Aug) seems a bit premature to me. This discussion didn't even start in my previous BMB until after we were all in the 3rd tri. Maybe I'm just a Debbie downer but a lot can happen between now and then...it's still SO early!
Labor buddies? A little early for that in my opinion. Maybe it's because I'm just taking this pregnancy one day at a time.
My FFFC is that I have not washed my hair in 10 days. I know, I'm disgusting (don't judge), being sick and tired is no excuse, I've just been sooo lazy.
In my defense though I have curly hair which I can't wash everyday anyway or it dries out, so really it's only been 5 days since I wash every other day.
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With my first pregnancy i didn't really connect with what was going on till I felt the baby kick. I also wasn't visibly excited but after we got some scary news at the 20 week scan most of that excitement turned into anxiety. Everyone feels the connection differently. This time round I mostly forget I'm carrying another child since I'm chasing my 21 month old. But then I look down to my growing pouch and I sort of can't miss it.
I guess my FfFC is that I probably have missed bed time too often? I try to see girlfriends at least once every 2 weeks for dinner or drinks in the city and hubby does bath time and bed time. There have been some weeks that he may have had to do it 2-3 times if I had plans or had to work late. I hate missing it but I do also want to get together with friends. And hubby and I took a 2 night trip last year when she was 8 months and a 3 day trip just last week. She had such a blast with my parents she didn't even realize we were gone. I missed her terribly but we definitely needed the time away.
We threw the column for labor buddies in our spreadsheet just to be proactive I think, but I believe the plan was to wait until waaay later to actually assign...
Ooohoohohh! I thought of another fffc! I have completely and utterly ignored everything I've read about changing to cleaner beauty supplies and not using face wash with salicylic acid.
I do not like being pregnant. I want to be a mom and realize how blessed I am to be pregnant but this experience is not fun for me like it seems to be be for a lot of you ladies.
Re: FFFC - 5/29/15
Yes, I am so embarrassed I dated him.
Jamie
Jamie
I feel the same way. The doctors tell me there is a little person in my body, but I forget 95% of the time. I literally don't think about being pregnant except when I get ready for a dr appointment or remember that I shouldn't have that delicious Jimmy Johns Turkey Tom that I want everyday (and, let's face it, will probably have my first day into the second trimester).
I am practical and literal and steady to a fault. I will definitely be disconnected at first.
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I don't know where else to post this so I'm just posting it here: Jan '16 is already doing labor buddies...
And labor buddies? Has anything happened w ours? Or is it just the spreadsheet with all the peeps?
saw this and it made me giggle
But I also miss it more this time around. DH has mentioned/joked around about getting a real margarita slushy machine after I have this baby. I asked him if that would be my "push present." He's like, "Uh, sure, ok." Hahaha
Jamie
Yet another way that I explained things to DH.
Jamie
My FFFC is that I have not washed my hair in 10 days. I know, I'm disgusting (don't judge), being sick and tired is no excuse, I've just been sooo lazy.
In my defense though I have curly hair which I can't wash everyday anyway or it dries out, so really it's only been 5 days since I wash every other day.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15