Hey all, I am 6w6d based on my LMP.... My fiance and I had a missed miscarriage last November at 8 weeks. It was truly devastating as I had no cramping/bleeding, etc. I felt perfectly fine, so it was really sad. I had a D&C then flew to Australia to meet my fiances family and had to pretend like I was alllll good (we had kept it under wraps so there was no use in telling our saga first time meeting the folks!). Anyways, we are pregnant again and ironically going to Australia while at 11 weeks. My pregnancy feels sooo much different this time around, heavy nausea, exhaustion, generally feeling lousy, major food aversion, etc. My first appt is on Monday, June 1st at 7w4d ... Trying to remain confident that there is a heartbeat and a healthy baby inside of there. I'm wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me? I've been reading a lot of the posts about PGAL in general, but the missed miscarriage is odd in that you have no idea anything is wrong until the ultrasound.
Thanks xoxo
Re: Pregnant After a Missed Miscarriage?
Even with a success under our belt, the first experience was so awful that we're still broken and almost didn't even go for a second child (quit while we're ahead?!).
But we didn't feel our family was complete so here we are again! We had a great u/s last week at 6w6d and we go back again next week at 9w. I'm relieved we had one good u/s, but will feel better after we pass our loss milestone.
I hope everything goes smoothly for you and you get your rainbow baby!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
I want to get pregnant as soon as possible. Do i need to wait for three cycles?
Ladies, i am praying that all of you have a very healthy pregnancy. I love you and wishing you all the best.
All this said, I am a math & data-minded person and I think that we can all find some solace in the cold hard numbers here. Namely: studies suggest that at least 25% of pregnancies result in miscarriage. The vast majority of these are due to chromosomal abnormalities that are the result of purely random chance. The likelihood of one such purely random chance happening twice in a row is therefore greatly diminished. This is just a pure probabilities problem -- think about it: the likelihood of flipping a coin and it landing on heads is 0.5. The likelihood of flipping a coin and it landing on heads twice in a row is 0.25 (0.5 * 0.5). So treating this like a math problem, the likelihood of a miscarriage the first time was 25%, but the likelihood of a miscarriage twice in a row is 6.25% (.25*.25). And the studies I have found with real couples show even more promising results, suggesting that fewer than 5% of real couples experience two consecutive miscarriages in a row. All this is to say, when I feel scared or panicked that that nightmare could happen again, I just consider that our odds are actually better with our rainbow babies than they were with our prior pregnancies (we went from 25% chance to a 5% chance of miscarriage). So the data gives us all a lot to be optimistic about!
@MaeHunter Thank you for the math, I've been throwing that around in my head a lot too. And then I see the posts where mom saw the heartbeat once and came back and it wasn't there, that's where I'm at now...wow this pregnancy thing is REALLY TOUGH!
@pinkiepinkypink I am so sorry for your loss