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Snoopylovesbelle · May 2015

Lets hear'em ladies

I can't wait for colder weather...I'm so freaking hot

Miliska · May 2015

I think having a sip of wine here and there during pregnancy isn't worse than having an occasional cold meat sandwich or having a bite from my DH's beef tartare at the restaurant.

Monilee1017 · May 2015

Going on vacation on Saturday to a beach house with my in laws, but I'm not a big fan of the ocean. I would rather be on a lake then an ocean any day.

mollyj931 · May 2015

Monilee1017 said:
Going on vacation on Saturday to a beach house with my in laws, but I'm not a big fan of the ocean. I would rather be on a lake then an ocean any day.

Yes!! I can sit on a beach but am not a huge fan of swimming in the ocean.
We swim in the lake every weekend in the summer.

danasphillips · May 2015

I think gender/sex reveal parties are obnoxious. No one cares about the sex of your baby as much as you do (and you probably care too much if you are throwing a party). I'd be annoyed if I was asked to attend one, especially if someone is also going to have a shower.

mimers07 · May 2015

Monilee1017 said:
Going on vacation on Saturday to a beach house with my in laws, but I'm not a big fan of the ocean. I would rather be on a lake then an ocean any day.

I couldn't agree more. I grew up going to Lake Winnipesaukee in NH every summer, and I just don't understand how anyone could argue that the ocean is better. I love lake life. Plus I have an irrational fear of the ocean. It's so dark and deep and you have no idea what's swimming around beneath you. Eeek! It gives me the creeps just thinking about it!

Paige6410 · May 2015

WineBaby122 said:
I think gender/sex reveal parties are obnoxious. No one cares about the sex of your baby as much as you do (and you probably care too much if you are throwing a party). I'd be annoyed if I was asked to attend one, especially if someone is also going to have a shower.

Yes! It seems very attention seeking and obnoxious. It's a moment that's special for me and DH to experience as a couple. At my work, there was a gender reveal party on Mother's Day and I side eyed it hard.

I don't see anything wrong with having a second baby shower as long as 1) People plan it FOR you, you don't plan your own, ever, and 2) If you are having a child of a different sex and/or its been 5+ years since your first shower.

Monilee1017 · May 2015

I was invited to go to a gender reveal party where you had to pay for your own food!!

claireloSC · May 2015

Monilee1017 Wow, that's pretty tacky.

carlyhammond · May 2015

I'm ... Well, my sisters are planing a gender reveal party for me.
It's not supposed to be big like a shower it's actually supposed to be small for close family/friends.
No gifts are to be given either.
It's just a gender reveal. That's how they are supposed to be, but of course people blow them out of proportion and invite a small third world country.

Mine will be tasteful.
I'm actually doing it because chances are my SO won't be able to go with me to the ultrasound and I wanted us to be able to find out together. So the gender reveal will be a day we are both off .

But, everyone has their own opinions- I'm not mad- just defending them a little.
If I wasn't having a party then I was going to keep the gender a surprise.

carlyhammond · May 2015

Oh, totally forgot my UO :
I HATE it when people tell me "oh you just wait *insert something horrible here*, it's going to happen"

Example: oh you just wait, your butt is going to get so big!
Oh you just wait, you are going to be at a table and you are going to want to vomit (I'm a waitress)
Get the drift?

I know it's going to happen- I don't need people making me feel worse than I already do. K. Thanks.

monaclemere · May 2015

I judge people that drink alcohol when pregnant. Even if it's just an "occasional sip" and even if it's when you're practically due. No one knows how much alcohol causes things like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, so why risk it? Why is it so hard to refrain for a few months? If you're that desperate for drink, maybe you have a problem.

That being said- I eat anything and everything while pregnant. In moderation, of course.

danasphillips · May 2015

monaclemere said:
I judge people that drink alcohol when pregnant. Even if it's just an "occasional sip" and even if it's when you're practically due. No one knows how much alcohol causes things like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, so why risk it? Why is it so hard to refrain for a few months? If you're that desperate for drink, maybe you have a problem.

That being said- I eat anything and everything while pregnant. In moderation, of course.

Actually, studies show that kids who meet the criteria for FAS are born to mothers who consume large amounts of alcohol during pregnancy.

I take sips because I like the taste, not because I want to get hammered. I can assure you that lunch meat poses a larger risk than a sip of wine. Not that you can't eat lunch meat- I have it on occasion.

Miliska · May 2015

@monaclemere Do I have a tartare problem if I can't refrain myself from having a bite while pregnant? Raw eggs are pretty bad...

Monilee1017 · May 2015

My doctors said there is nothing wrong with eating deli meat as long as you microwave it

monaclemere · May 2015

@WineBaby122
Actually:
https://www.faslink.org/safedrnk.htm

@Miliska tartare away! Like I said, I won't drink while pregnant, but I will eat what I want.

@Monilee1017 I've heard that before, but I think it crap. Who wants to eat hot lunch meat?? Yuck.

bananers · May 2015

I'm about to go get myself a Mediterranean sandwich for lunch. Turkey meat AND feta. Think my baby will be born with two heads?

mollyj931 · May 2015

bananers said:
I'm about to go get myself a Mediterranean sandwich for lunch. Turkey meat AND feta. Think my baby will be born with two heads?

That sounds delicious

cyanope · May 2015

This one may get me flamed...but I roll my eyes when women on TB correct other women for using the term "gender" (instead of sex) before a baby is born. I understand the difference, so you don't have to educate me. But I also understand that some people believe that certain gender traits are inherent (and not culturally learned). So I'm fine with using them interchangeably.

Snoopylovesbelle · May 2015

I had a gender reveal party with my first. I planned it myself and there were no gifts. I was so excited and thought it was fun and a nice way to surprise everyone.

bkc92 · May 2015

We're doing a gender reveal, but it's going to be super low key. And we are going to find out at the ultrasound before. It's not even going to technically be a party... We have a family dinner with my husband's extended family every weekend, and we're going to bake a pink cake if it's a girl and bring it as a dessert.

We're only doing one if it's a girl though, because my husband's family has all boys. Like all boy cousins and all brothers. So it'd be a big deal in his family if we had a girl.

Paige6410 · May 2015

I have another one.
I completely feel for people who have struggled with IF issues, and losses, ect. It's a shame that anyone should have to go through that, and I honestly couldn't imagine the heartache it must cause.
With that said, I'm allowed to be mad/upset/fed up with being sick as a dog all day and night. Me bitching about how horrible I feel has nothing to do with not being grateful and not appreciating and loving my LO. It's not a slap in the face to other people, and it would be nice if everything didn't get taken so personally and out of context.

kmcc14 · May 2015

I don't think that people should post in public forums if they can't handle the fact that not everyone is going to agree with them. That seems to be an UO around here. . .

themattawedding · May 2015

I hate it when other mothers try to tell me how pregnancy is...

OMG you are going to get SOOOOO SICK for a while and bloat like a whale or when you go into labor your going to tear from one hole to another and need 340958349095 stitches!!! Don't forget the Daddy stitch or you won't enjoy sex anymore....

Here's one that was told to me last week....

"You're going to HATE being pregnant, it sucks so much - but just keep thinking about the end, you'll have an adorable baby afterward"

OMG STFUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!!!!!

danasphillips · May 2015

monaclemere said:
@WineBaby122
Actually:
https://www.faslink.org/safedrnk.htm

@Miliska tartare away! Like I said, I won't drink while pregnant, but I will eat what I want.

@Monilee1017 I've heard that before, but I think it crap. Who wants to eat hot lunch meat?? Yuck.

Yeah, what I said is right there under the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. You specifically said FAS in your original post. If you want to talk about how small amounts of alcohol may affect kids in other ways, then that's a different discussion, as there are those who argue both sides. But a study done in 2010 followed kids whose mothers had 1-2 glasses of wine a week while their children were in utero all the way up until they were 5 years old and found no developmental delays or other issues. But I can't believe you eat lunch meat. I mean, why risk it, right?

BlueWaffleSpeshul · May 2015

Well, I see the UOs over here are starting off with a bang. I think we can safely say J16 won't be boring.

(just peeking in because I see some ladies I lurve as TTGP grads around these parts)

Edited because the Waffle can't seem to remember which board I am passing through.

monaclemere · May 2015

WineBaby122 said:

monaclemere said:
@WineBaby122
Actually:
https://www.faslink.org/safedrnk.htm

@Miliska tartare away! Like I said, I won't drink while pregnant, but I will eat what I want.

@Monilee1017 I've heard that before, but I think it crap. Who wants to eat hot lunch meat?? Yuck.

Yeah, what I said is right there under the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. You specifically said FAS in your original post. If you want to talk about how small amounts of alcohol may affect kids in other ways, then that's a different discussion, as there are those who argue both sides. But a study done in 2010 followed kids whose mothers had 1-2 glasses of wine a week while their children were in utero all the way up until they were 5 years old and found no developmental delays or other issues. But I can't believe you eat lunch meat. I mean, why risk it, right?

I guess I should've been more specific than just stating "like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome". I'm not ok with my child having any Neurobehavioral deficits or IUGR or any other possible related problems because of my choice to drink while pregnant. But if you're ok with that, by all means have another drink

>-

To each his own UO...

themattawedding · May 2015

When I was a server I was almost fired for refusing to serve an OBVIOUSLY pregnant lady alcohol. In NM you can serve pregnant people if they want alcohol, but I didn't want to because I think it's wrong... Soooooooo after a huge argument I just found a different server to serve that table because I wasn't going to budge and apparently neither was she.

I also judge pregnant women that smoke or sit closely around people that are smoking. 2nd hand smoke kills too.

Monilee1017 · May 2015

I judge pregnant women who eat ice cream, you know after what just happened you can never be too careful!

Monilee1017 · May 2015

Just kidding, I eat deli meat cold, ice cream, cheese and will be eating seafood a whole bunch next week. I don't drink because well, I don't when I'm not pregnant. I think to each their own. It syour child and you have to live with whatever choices you make for next 18 years. I only care if you are putting your child in clear danger.

J3sp · May 2015

carlyhammond said:
Oh, totally forgot my UO :
I HATE it when people tell me "oh you just wait *insert something horrible here*, it's going to happen"

Example: oh you just wait, your butt is going to get so big!
Oh you just wait, you are going to be at a table and you are going to want to vomit (I'm a waitress)
Get the drift?

I know it's going to happen- I don't need people making me feel worse than I already do. K. Thanks.

This is all I heard throughout my first pregnancy! Especially from my SIL's. My first was super easy. No nausea no nothing, but it was still, "oh you just wait it gets worse." it never did so jokes on them

J3sp · May 2015

mollyj931 said:

bananers said:
I'm about to go get myself a Mediterranean sandwich for lunch. Turkey meat AND feta. Think my baby will be born with two heads?
That sounds delicious

I think I want to go do this to a hamburger right now! While watching the movie.

danasphillips · May 2015

monaclemere said:

WineBaby122 said:

monaclemere said:
@WineBaby122
Actually:
https://www.faslink.org/safedrnk.htm

@Miliska tartare away! Like I said, I won't drink while pregnant, but I will eat what I want.

@Monilee1017 I've heard that before, but I think it crap. Who wants to eat hot lunch meat?? Yuck.

Yeah, what I said is right there under the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. You specifically said FAS in your original post. If you want to talk about how small amounts of alcohol may affect kids in other ways, then that's a different discussion, as there are those who argue both sides. But a study done in 2010 followed kids whose mothers had 1-2 glasses of wine a week while their children were in utero all the way up until they were 5 years old and found no developmental delays or other issues. But I can't believe you eat lunch meat. I mean, why risk it, right?

I guess I should've been more specific than just stating "like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome". I'm not ok with my child having any Neurobehavioral deficits or IUGR or any other possible related problems because of my choice to drink while pregnant. But if you're ok with that, by all means have another drink >-

To each his own UO...

Oh, give me a break. Any doctor will tell you that a sip of wine is not going to hurt your fetus. You know what they can't say the same for? Lunch meat and all other food where listeria is commonly found. Those foods are not actually something where "everything in moderation" applies. You don't have to eat an entire package of lunch meat or whole carton of ice cream to get listeria. Once teeny tiny bite of the wrong slice or scoop one time during pregnancy and you are screwed. I'm obviously not saying not to eat any of those things, just that your logic is flawed.

By your reasoning I could also say that you have a problem if you really can't abstain from lunch meat while you are pregnant.

And yeah, I'm totally cool with my child having neurobehavioral issues from a sip of wine on occasion... In the same way you are probably okay having a miscarriage because you ate a piece of lunch meat.

Do you see how ridiculous your last comment sounded?

ChipMonster · May 2015

On the pamphlet given to me by my midwives about going into labour, they suggested to have a glass of wine to relax if you go into labour during the day.

monaclemere · May 2015

WineBaby122 said:

monaclemere said:

WineBaby122 said:

monaclemere said:
@WineBaby122
Actually:
https://www.faslink.org/safedrnk.htm

@Miliska tartare away! Like I said, I won't drink while pregnant, but I will eat what I want.

@Monilee1017 I've heard that before, but I think it crap. Who wants to eat hot lunch meat?? Yuck.

Yeah, what I said is right there under the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. You specifically said FAS in your original post. If you want to talk about how small amounts of alcohol may affect kids in other ways, then that's a different discussion, as there are those who argue both sides. But a study done in 2010 followed kids whose mothers had 1-2 glasses of wine a week while their children were in utero all the way up until they were 5 years old and found no developmental delays or other issues. But I can't believe you eat lunch meat. I mean, why risk it, right?

I guess I should've been more specific than just stating "like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome". I'm not ok with my child having any Neurobehavioral deficits or IUGR or any other possible related problems because of my choice to drink while pregnant. But if you're ok with that, by all means have another drink >-

To each his own UO...
Oh, give me a break. Any doctor will tell you that a sip of wine is not going to hurt your fetus. You know what they can't say the same for? Lunch meat and all other food where listeria is commonly found. Those foods are not actually something where "everything in moderation" applies. You don't have to eat an entire package of lunch meat or whole carton of ice cream to get listeria. Once teeny tiny bite of the wrong slice or scoop one time during pregnancy and you are screwed. I'm obviously not saying not to eat any of those things, just that your logic is flawed.

By your reasoning I could also say that you have a problem if you really can't abstain from lunch meat while you are pregnant.

And yeah, I'm totally cool with my child having neurobehavioral issues from a sip of wine on occasion... In the same way you are probably okay having a miscarriage because you are ate a piece of lunch meat.

Do you see how ridiculous your last comment sounded?

I said from the beginning, I don't drink because I feel the risk is too great. I eat what I want because I feel the risk is minimal. I don't know of anyone with a lunch meat addiction, so there's that. I'm also a NICU nurse and a mom of two, so this isn't my first rodeo.

You seem defensive just because I don't agree with your choice. You do what you feel is best. It's your body and your kid. But this is an Unpopular Opinion thread. Drink all you want, I'll eat my hoagie and silently judge [-X

xomeredith · May 2015

I hate people asking me how I'm feeling and when I answer with being tired they say, "it gets worse. You'll be tired for the next 20 years." 2 weeks ago I was running a fever and had a bad cold and I asked to go home early and some people said, "if you can't handle a cold, you'll never make it though labor" I get it! Pregnancy and labor are exhausting and it could be worse, but jeez. Be a little optimistic.

My pregnancy might not be the exact same as yours. It might be worse, it might be better. But don't tell me a crazy amount of negative. Tell me some positive stuff too!

keshakdavis · May 2015

My husband is deployed so I'm trying to think of a way to tell him when the time comes. Maybe send the ultrasound pic to him so that he will know before I do because I'll have the doctor make sure not to let me know. Idk. I just want to be able to involve him as much as I can. Any ideas?

ChelseyBels · May 2015

WineBaby122 said:
I think gender/sex reveal parties are obnoxious. No one cares about the sex of your baby as much as you do (and you probably care too much if you are throwing a party). I'd be annoyed if I was asked to attend one, especially if someone is also going to have a shower.

I got in "trouble" for going on a date with my hubs instead of attending a gender reveal party 2 months ago. \:D/

KaraEpp16 · May 2015

bananers said:

I'm about to go get myself a Mediterranean sandwich for lunch. Turkey meat AND feta. Think my baby will be born with two heads?

Aahhhh I want all the feta. And subway. Ridiculous but true SO says he'll bring me subway after I give birth hahahaha.

SisterSunshine · May 2015

I've decided officially I'm not giving up my one cup of coffee a day. So.

KaraEpp16 · May 2015

SisterSunshine said:

I've decided officially I'm not giving up my one cup of coffee a day. So.

My midwife said it was fine to have one cup!

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