LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
Wasn't much left to add, but my brothers are 14yrs and they certainly know what touch is appropriate and which isn't. I have two little girls both needing their diapers changed, I grabbed one and without thinking asked one of my brothers to change the other girl. He looked at me like I had grown two heads and said he didn't know how, he never had changed them, and that he didn't want to change a little baby's diaper. Thinking on it, it wasn't awful of me to ask, but probably not appropriate and he knew that, and stopped me. I grew up in a very religious household as well, not Quiverfull though. However we weren't allowed to date or be alone with the opposite sex. Period. We still all knew what appropriate touch was. Josh Duggar needed actual, professional help. And so did his victims.
It makes me think of all the times that TLC producers have asked the girls to describe why they dress "modestly" and the answers are all about not tempting the male gaze. In that context how does a girl make sense of this abuse? I can guess it has to do with blaming herself, questioning if her shirt was too low or skirt too high that particular day. How does the convo with the abused go to determine whether it not she was "at fault"? Ugh...
Wasn't much left to add, but my brothers are 14yrs and they certainly know what touch is appropriate and which isn't. I have two little girls both needing their diapers changed, I grabbed one and without thinking asked one of my brothers to change the other girl. He looked at me like I had grown two heads and said he didn't know how, he never had changed them, and that he didn't want to change a little baby's diaper. Thinking on it, it wasn't awful of me to ask, but probably not appropriate and he knew that, and stopped me. I grew up in a very religious household as well, not Quiverfull though. However we weren't allowed to date or be alone with the opposite sex. Period. We still all knew what appropriate touch was. Josh Duggar needed actual, professional help. And so did his victims.
I don't think it's inappropriate to ask a teenager to change a diaper...
I am a Christian, and I have been abused. That being said, there are so many things wrong with this, and I am already in a pissy mood because of recent Bump events and because I don't feel good, so this just really tops the cake. I am sick and tired of people putting their own spin on Christianity for their own sick, sad little agendas. This is so wrong.
Re: Duggars Scandal
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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Wasn't much left to add, but my brothers are 14yrs and they certainly know what touch is appropriate and which isn't.
I have two little girls both needing their diapers changed, I grabbed one and without thinking asked one of my brothers to change the other girl. He looked at me like I had grown two heads and said he didn't know how, he never had changed them, and that he didn't want to change a little baby's diaper. Thinking on it, it wasn't awful of me to ask, but probably not appropriate and he knew that, and stopped me.
I grew up in a very religious household as well, not Quiverfull though. However we weren't allowed to date or be alone with the opposite sex. Period. We still all knew what appropriate touch was. Josh Duggar needed actual, professional help. And so did his victims.
It makes me think of all the times that TLC producers have asked the girls to describe why they dress "modestly" and the answers are all about not tempting the male gaze. In that context how does a girl make sense of this abuse? I can guess it has to do with blaming herself, questioning if her shirt was too low or skirt too high that particular day. How does the convo with the abused go to determine whether it not she was "at fault"? Ugh...
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I am a Christian, and I have been abused. That being said, there are so many things wrong with this, and I am already in a pissy mood because of recent Bump events and because I don't feel good, so this just really tops the cake. I am sick and tired of people putting their own spin on Christianity for their own sick, sad little agendas. This is so wrong.