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Worst Symptom of Pregnancy...

SrhbgrSrhbgr member
in October 2015 Moms
So, I don't know about you guys, but the worst symptom of my pregnancy has nothing to do with my pregnancy. It's not the morning sickness, exhaustion, or swollen limbs. By far the worst symptom of pregnancy is the unsolicited advice. Sometimes it's just totally off the wall and I'm thinking you are on the same level of crazy as everyone who thinks you can drown your unborn child by taking a bath and other times it's just downright offensive. Like thank you for assuming that I'm willingly putting my child in danger, you obviously love him so much more than I do. I've been pretty fired up about some of this ridiculousness lately and now I want to laugh about it. So tell me what is the most ridiculous piece of unsolicited advice you've had tossed in your face lately?
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  • carlymarie021carlymarie021 member
    Oh my god. Why are people so weird ???????? Sometimes you just have to be like REALLY ?? That just came out of your mouth?! Whoever is giving u unwanted advice and is being rude cut them out of your life and avoid them. I had to do that with a family member. I feel so much better.
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    Ok, laugh definitely achieved! Keep em coming, I love stories about stupid people. 
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  • amberrmariee20amberrmariee20 member
    My worst pregnancy symtom is waiting 9 months to meet my little cutie !! I'm so impatient (: !
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  • webbh14webbh14 member
    My worst symptom is the morning sickness
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  • gabrielafrnqyepezgabrielafrnqyepez member
    Worst symptom for me is the darkening of skin. So I am finding dark patches every where I saw a few on my tummy, they look like birth marks, I found some on my legs and now on my hand btwn my thumb and pointer and the !ark flows all the way from my thumb up the side of my hand ....wdh any one else have this?





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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    Ha! Now that is one I have never heard before. Just WOW!
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  • anorthroanorthro member
    People have been pretty cool to me, though the guy in charge of maintenance in our building came into our lab today and started talking loudly about periods and how I'm going to have to push an 8-pound baby out of my vagina.  That was embarrassing.  Oh, and my advisor thinks I'm disabled now: he said he could used some help with a survey and asked me to join him at the bog we work in, but then hesitated and said "that is, if you can still go out in the field."  Um...yeah, I can still walk 5 minutes from the car to the bog.  It's not like we're power lifting out there.  
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  • beckles112beckles112 member
    katanasai said:

    I had a person tell me that I needed to avoid any sexual contact because she read that the baby could get pregnant. I couldn't decide if she was actually serious or not, and I'm still not sure. I just mumbled something about needing to pee and walked away. 

    Hahaha!!! I almost choked when I read this. I sincerely hope she wasn't serious. Although, I've heard people say some pretty stupid things so it wouldn't be surprising if she were.
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  • lanaloulittlelanaloulittle member
    I've been getting unsolicited advice for years. I babysit my niece and nephew regularly and we go out to do things. I look a little young to have a 5 yo and 3 yo, so the old ladies go crazy giving me advice. Now that I'm starting to look pregnant, oh good lord. It's like a free for all when they see me with the kids.
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  • BoonhildeBoonhilde member
    I cannot stand unsolicited advice during pregnancy. It's always some asinine advice too. And just as bad are the strangers who come over and just launch into their birth stories, with waaaaaaay TMI.

    But then it keeps going after the baby is born! I had my 1-year-old at Walmart during the winter and this little old lady clerk passive-aggressively told my SON "Your mom needs to keep your ears covered or you're gonna freeze to death." I didn't respond; she wasn't talking to me. But she was stationed by the sliding door and while it was cold there and outside I don't think my son was going to DIE from his ears being exposed to a California winter for 2 minutes! It was probably 50 degrees outside!
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  • FatPonyFatPony member
    I'm not getting stupid advice, just people recounting their pregnancies. Ummmm, did I ask how big you got with  your second kid? No, cuz I don't give a shit.
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  • brandypinky22brandypinky22 member
    My husband and I drink a lot if different beers socially. We go to a lot of events and have a monthly beer club. We have a couple that we are friends with that are 100% tea toddlers and don't understand that someone can have a few drinks and not be a raging alcoholic, they also think that if every time someone drinks they are going to get super drunk. When I told them I was pregnant the first thing out of this guys mouth was "you know you can't drink beer anymore, right?!" Of course at this point I was in my second trimester. Thank goodness he told me and saved my babies life ;-)
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  • zaclinazaclina member
    Baby/pregnancy advice is hysterical. I find I really don't mind as I just nod and take a mental nap (ask my DH, I'm super good at that). For me its a cousin that has always been patronizing, I just tense up when she talks sometimes. I did have some people mention I shouldn't have drank any alcohol while we were trying to get pregnant after I was already three months along. Thanks for that.

    About the baby getting pregnant: RUN WITH THAT! Tell them you're scared about a Russian nesting doll situation (stole that from a Tv show). ;;)
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  • audreyb12audreyb12 member
    I haven't gotten any stupid advice yet but I've had people tell me how my pregnancy is gonna be. When I first told my MIL and SIL they said "oh you're gonna get so sick with morning sickness. It's awful. You're not to that point yet but you'll get there. It'll happen I promise." Well guess what, I haven't gotten sick once. And then random people start telling me about their nephews cousins baby that was just born and in the nicu about to die and I'm like I'm sorry that's so sad but please don't tell me about it cause now I'm freaking out about my child.
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    @audreyb12 There is defiantly nothing worse than other people telling YOU how YOU will feel. Everyone in my church keeps telling me that I'll be roasting all the time (I am notorious for always being cold) when I told them I really don't think so, they all literally laughed at me. I'm sweating all the time now but that's just hormones and I'm still freezing my tail off! Part of me wonders how petty it would be to come back after having baby and be like I WAS ALWAYS FREEZING, SO THERE! :P
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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    I feel so much more equipped to deal with this horrible pregnancy "symptom" now that I'm a STM. When I was a FTM, I knew that I was doing everything that aligned with my doctor's recommendations, but I still felt like I was unarmed with experience. As a STM, most people believe that I have a handle on things, but I definitely still get comments.

    I was rollerblading at 16 weeks or so and my IL's neighbors were walking around the town and I stopped near them. The man said, "You really shouldn't be doing that with the baby." Like I was holding an infant over a bridge deck or something...With DD, my midwife and OB both agreed that I didn't have to stop rollerblading until my belly was pretty big. I am still good to go on skates, and I was generally annoyed by the comment mainly because of what you mentioned: I am not intentionally putting my child at risk. Thank you.

    I have a male colleague who has four children, and he's a volunteer firefighter for the town, so he's even delivered a few babies. This leads him to believe he has a handle on everything pregnancy-related. He always has something to say about what I'm eating/drinking/doing, and I just smile and tell him that "I assure you, I will not put my unborn child or DD at risk with my choices" and those choices have been thoroughly discussed with my doctor. I try not to let it bother me this time, but I know as a FTM I felt like no one gave me any credit for having had discussions with my doctor and having done my own research. 
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    @LiveNLove44 RIGHT!? You just want to shake those people and say "Thank you for caring so much more about unborn child than I do, you probably just saved his life!" I teach horseback riding lessons so I'm getting these comments all the time because I do occasionally have to get on a horse. I showed my OB a video of a typical ride for me and she loved it! Said it was like all the best exercise rolled into one. That being said, I'm just riding the same horses that I put 6yo children on to keep them in shape. It's not like I'm jumping or riding bucking broncos but everyone hears that you are still doing your sport and think you might as well be punching your baby in the gut.
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    Do it @arwestover3 ! For all of us, DO IT!
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  • Kerryb93Kerryb93 member
    My worst symptom is heartburn everything i eat i get heartburn straight away its the worst ever!! :((
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  • moonseeds92moonseeds92 member
    Kerryb93 said:

    My worst symptom is heartburn everything i eat i get heartburn straight away its the worst ever!! :((

    I'm going through tums like tic tacs. It's really annoying.
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  • mkross123mkross123 member
    edited May 2015
     I HATE everyone telling me how I feel now, how I am going to feel, and how my entire life is going to be. If I hear "Just you wait and see..." one more time I am going to lose it.

      I also was talking to a secretary in the school I work at. I am in charge of a lot of graduation events the week of finals and will have subs most of the week. Graduation night I have to chaperone an overnight trip where we get back to the school at 7 am the next morning, they offer me a sub that next day.  I was telling the secretary that since I only have one two hour test to administer that day and I am already up until 7 I am just going to go in until 9:30 so I can get grading done while the kids take their test (grades are due the next day and I will have 150 tests to grade from being out most of the week!) and then go home and sleep at 9:30 so I won't be as stressed the final day.

     Her response? "You know...you are pregnant..." with pursed lips. I wanted to be like "OH MY GOD, I AM?!?!?!?! I HAD NO IDEA!" Or say, "Yes, and I have decided to be the worst mother in the history of mothers and I am starting now by staying up an extra two hours." UGHHHHH.
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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    @mkross123, way to go! I don't even want to stay up late enough to chaperone a dance that is over at midnight right now. I did the senior class trip which was an overnight plus 11 hours on the bus with the kids while pregnant with DD, and that was enough for me! It's interesting to me that the secretary would make that comment, but no one is jumping to take your spot on the overnight trip to spare you the sleep deprivation! Geez. Is graduation this week at your school? You're almost there! Ours is this coming week and my seniors are more than ready to walk!!
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  • chaz15chaz15 member
    Same here, 19 weeks on and sooooo sick, can't even get a chance to enjoy this pregnancy! /:)
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    Where do they get this crap? :-O
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  • DeeGreerDeeGreer member
    One coworker (who has 4 kids btw) told me I need to stop eating so much citrus every day because the baby will come out with dry skin? Oh..okay...
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  • mkross123mkross123 member
    @LiveNLearn44 We still have three weeks...I live in New England, so we always get out late! I am the senior class advisor and have been the class' advisor for all four years of high school, so I honestly wouldn't give up going on the trip unless I fell ill or something. The only tough part is staying up all night. It's a harbor cruise in Boston so an hour bus ride and then my main job as a chaperone is to sit at a table and eat delicious food while the kids dance all night. I think baby and I can hang :-) I will be SO happy when the week is done though and I am so happy graduation lines up with the actual last week of school...SUMMERRRR! Which means dealing with my house I have given up on since March when I began getting morning sick, preparing plans and sub plans for the fall, and busting out a nursery and baby prep all summer long :-)
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  • SrhbgrSrhbgr member
    @RainbowMama7 I know right? I lost a very dear friend in a car accident this last year. It was devistating, but did I drive to the funeral? Uh yeah!
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