October 2015 Moms

Might sound odd

I really want Elaine as a middle name my husband absolutely HATES it (only because my mother suggested it). IT is a tradition in my family (I was the exception) that the first born daughter has the middle name of her mother, so my grandmother, my aunt (I was suppose to but things happened with names from other family members), and my cousin all have this middle name and I just wanted to carry on that tradition, along with the fact that both my grandmothers consequentially both have Elaine as a middle name and so did my great grandmother.  I was thinking about making a compromise with him about names that if he agrees to this name he can name the next. I dunno, just trying to get thoughts rolling. Does anyone else have this problem? (Disclaimer: I respect everything he has to say. He picked the first name.)

Re: Might sound odd

  • nsaid4unsaid4u member
    I would never give the baby a name that my husband didn't like. I just don't think it's nice and if the tables were turned I would be completely uncomfortable and sick about having my baby named something that I don't care for, no matter what the reason.
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  • I'm not 100% sold on our baby's name, but I picked our sons name and our soon to be daughters middle name so I feel it was a nice compromise. I like our daughters name to be, I just had another that I liked better.
  • nsaid4u said:

    I would never give the baby a name that my husband didn't like. I just don't think it's nice and if the tables were turned I would be completely uncomfortable and sick about having my baby named something that I don't care for, no matter what the reason.

    He Was Fine With It When IOriginally Suggested It But Once My MotherSuggested It All Of The Sudden He Doesn't Like It Anymore Because My Mom Likes It. Which Is Petty In My Opinion. That's Why I Ask This.
  • I'm not 100% sold on our baby's name, but I picked our sons name and our soon to be daughters middle name so I feel it was a nice compromise. I like our daughters name to be, I just had another that I liked better.

    That's What I Think Is Nice. Even Though You're Together And Love Each Other Doesn't Mean You'll Completely Agree On A Name. It's Just Frustrating Sometimes.
  • We always compromise when giving names. Flat out ask him why the change of heart. I'm assuming he will be passing on his last name to your child so you may approach it as you want to honor your family as well by passing on a name. See what he says to that.  At the end though if my DH truly hated a name or I did that name came off the table though.  


  • It doesn't sound like he truly hates the name. It sounds like he's doing it out of spite because of whatever issue he has with your mother... Which is kinda childish & petty.
  • aah1013aah1013 member
    I'm not 100% on our first name, but my husband is. There is another name I like better, but our decision is my second choice. He has allowed me to pick the middle name which is after my mom, so I won't push things too much!
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