My DH didn't want to have sex this morning because he knows my fertile window is approaching and he said,"lets save it for then since I know you'll want to do it everyday" I tried again later and got turned down again. He's afraid if we do it now he won't be able to do his thing when I'm ovulating. We never had any problems in this department until we started TTC. I'm trying to not add pressure and that's part of the reason I'm encouraging sex when it's not to make a baby. I failed and he's already worried about this next try.. :-S
Re: Seriously?? DH turned me down!
Perhaps you could have him search info about sperm. Assuming there are not fertility issues, or low sperm count, etc., it doesn't actually make sense to "save up" sperm. It can also be good to release old sperm (for some couples!)
I, too, put some pressure on my H and last cycle he felt like it was a job. we have never had any performance issues ever until last month. So, I've let that go and we've had no baby-making discussions or talks about having sex for purpose. Instead we just hump all the time now. I've got my thermometer and OPKs, and he's got his clueless, gorgeous ass.
I turned off the TTC and turned on the sexy, and it has helped me a lot in the bedroom!
I think this is true for most couples TTC. I have anxiety about it too! I just keep it to myself more. And, of course, share with all of you lovely ladies on TB.
And who would have ever thought our men would turn us down? I thought that was a right reserved only for the wives!
Hopefully his anxiety will calm down and you can just go back to normal, with you being the only one "in the know" when it comes to your FW!
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Just don't make it a chore. It should be about your relationship and because you both want sex. Make each other and you wanting each other because you love each other the priority.
Married: Sept. 2012
Began TTC #1: Jan. 2015
BFP #1: July 2015, EDD 3/7/2016, Blighted Ovum, D&C at 12 weeks
BFP #2: December 2015, EDD 8/27/2016, Blighted Ovum, D&C at 7 weeks
BFP #3: August 2016, EDD 4/23/2017, Missed MC, D&C at 8 weeks
BFP #4: January 2017, EDD 9/26/2017
My Chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5a0da2
TTC: April 2015
Age: 30,DH35
Married: 2013
**Triggers**
Me: 32 DH: 35 Married 10/4/14
TTC #1 May 2015 BFP: July 21, 2015 Stillborn January 8, 2016
TTC #2 April 2016 BFP: June 17, 2016
Baby Girl Shih-Tzu and Baby Boy Boston are my furbabies
PS- I'm exaggerating, I'm not really like this but the idea is so comical! Lol
My ex HATED that it held him back so much. We maintain a great friendship and I've recently noticed his hair thinning a ton. I suspect he and his DW either hate the lowered drive or are TTC. I wish them, and you guys, the best in getting through this!