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No baby shower?

nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
in October 2015 Moms
I am pregnant with my first. I live far way from family and because of my work wouldn't be able to get away for a shower in my home town. I have few friends where I live now, but nobody had brought up the subject of baby shower. I really want a shower to celebrate the baby but I guess I won't have one... It is making me sad.
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Re: No baby shower?

  • wassuphoeswassuphoes member
    dirty lurker here.

    It's normal to want a shower and normal to be a little disappointed that no one seems to be planning one. But it's still pretty early, so someone might surprise you.

    If no one does, it's okay. Plenty of women have gone without showers and hlstill have babies loved by their friends and family. If you want to celebrate baby, host a sip n see once you are comfortable having guests around baby. Then they actually get to meet the little one.
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  • deanna1313deanna1313 member
    It is VERY early! If someone is going to plan one they probably wouldn't even bring it up at this point.
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  • FrozenMommyFrozenMommy member
    Where I live, it's pretty common for mothers to throw the showers. I can't imagine any of my friends stepping up and doing it, we all have way too much going on with kids and jobs to throw each other parties. 
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  • MirandaC1984MirandaC1984 member
    I feel you! Although I do have several friends here many of them have just had babies or are expecting themselves so for obvious reasons they have not offered to host a shower. My mother and I are not close (she has substance abuse issues). So I am worried that I won't get one either. I don't feel comfortable throwing myself a shower so I guess we will just have to wait and see if anyone offers to host. It makes me really anxious. I dont' want to buy everything and then someone offer but I don't want to wait expecting that I will get a shower and end up having to buy everything all at once. 
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    I'm sorry this is happening to you. Honestly I don't think it's too early, I'm due on the 1st so I'm 5 months and you typically want it about 2 months before so my family and friends are Def already planning. I hope someone offers soon because I would be really bummed if no one had offered.
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  • michellelynn6michellelynn6 member
    You could throw one for yourself? I know that's not correct "etiquette-wise" but I'm throwing my own shower because I like planning things like that. :) 
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  • jennylynn103jennylynn103 member
    Please don't throw one for yourself. I totally understand how not having someone throw you a shower would be disappointing and maybe even hurtful, but breaking etiquette (i.e. being rude) is not the way to cope with it. I'm sure you will receive a lot of presents from people wanting to celebrate the birth of your baby, whether or not there is an official shower.
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  • steiner1992steiner1992 member
    I was worried about this too my husband is military... dont worry im sure it will work out. Do you have any close friends... maybe bring it up to them just mention your disappointed that you wont be with family to have one.. maybe they dont know?
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