I plan to breastfeed....and i commend women who are able to do it. Seriously, hats off ladies, I can only imagine it's not easy.
However...
I can't stand the self-righteous bf-ing moms out there. I have deleted many a friend on social networking sites for their antics. For instance, when in public, cover up. Yes it's natural...yes there are a sexualized ads everywhere and whatnot, but at least use a little discretion. I know at least 3 people who make it a point to try it wherever they can (bf bucket list)...and expose all, just so they can jump on their soap box when someone says something to them. Urks me to no end.
Who really cares if a breast is seen? I have friends who are very modest and friends who let it all hang out and I'm somewhere in the middle. If you're at my house, you might see a boob. If you're looking at me the entire time you will for sure see some nippleage. If you can't just look away get over it. I give no craps about a bit of boob being seen. I have no issue letting the girls out to play when it's adult fun time. And i have no problem putting them to work. They are just boobs. And everybody has nipples. Some people have three!
I care! Lol. I explain like this. Breastfeeding is totally natural and women who do it should feel absolutely no shame or stigma. BUT just like having sex or pooping (totally natural!), I don't really want to see it when I'm at Starbucks trying to drink my coffee.
I wish the push was for more nice breastfeeding rooms (like bathrooms in their frequency) instead of pushing for everyone to be able to whip it out (I don't want guys pulling out their penis to pee on the street even though it's natural lol).
This is EXACTLY how I feel! My friends and I don't care when we are home and will just whip a boob out. Does not bother me one tiny bit! BUT. If I don't know you, I don't want to see you boob. Not in an advertisement, not ever. BFing is a beautiful and natural thing, but there are plenty of other natural things that I don't want to see (peeing, pooping or sex in public). If a couple is TTC during ovulation should they have a right to go have sex on a park bench because it's natural and they are trying to conceive a child? No.
I will nurse anywhere but either do it with a cover or in a carrier/wrap so that nothing is shown. It's the moms who get on a high horse about the fact that they shouldn't have to use discretion to feed their baby. Why not? I am a very very very liberal and progressive person when it comes to health and human rights, but I do not want to see your breasts in public. Use a little discretion and I oooooh and ahhhhhhh over the beauty of someone nursing in public. Shamelessly bear all, and it makes me uncomfortable.
Bottom line. Yes, it is natural, but so are other bodily functions and they are not publicly thrown in people's faces. Be respectful and discrete and the aversions people have to seeing mother's BF in public will be much easier to overcome. Throw it in their faces with nipples, not so much.
Breastfeeding is like eating. It's not sex, its not defecation or urination. It's not some private act between lovers. It's like eating. Food. In public. can't even listen once i hear that. And it honestly makes me want to flash people.
Agree to disagree I suppose but I do like getting it out there that women feel like this too. I think sometimes this turns into a 'men don't want to see our sexual boobs being used for such an icky purpose!' or a 'this is just the man putting another obstacle in the way for moms!' Some sort of feminist argument.
I like to occasionally pipe up with a 'hey i'm a woman and I am also not really that stoked to be sitting in a restaurant and then having someone pop out a boob and it has nothing to do with how I feel about breastfeeding or how I feel about my boobs.'
You can disagree and obviously do you when it comes to your body. But it doesn't change that breastfeeding is not a sexual act or something that should be kept private. My only problem is that women sit and judge others when it boils downto their own comfort level. Look away if it's that bothersome but don't police other women's bodies. And yes, it is a feminist issue when women have to go where other people crap and pee to feed their babies. I get major rage when women are shamed into hiding to do something so basic.
I have 2 sons already and a TON of people keep saying "You need a girl since you already have two boys." Umm, I don't need a girl; I will take whatever GOD gave me. I wish people would just keep their mouths shut because their dumb comments are irritating.
I joke about what I call The Pokémon Syndrome - gotta catch em all!!! When people act like your children are a collection or a set. Well you need a boy and a girl, a blonde and a brunette...oh, oh, what about a curly red head? Do you have a curly red head yet? Gotta catch em all!
You can disagree and obviously do you when it comes to your body. But it doesn't change that breastfeeding is not a sexual act or something that should be kept private. My only problem is that women sit and judge others when it boils downto their own comfort level. Look away if it's that bothersome but don't police other women's bodies. And yes, it is a feminist issue when women have to go where other people crap and pee to feed their babies. I get major rage when women are shamed into hiding to do something so basic.
Hence my comment that I wish there was more of a push to have appropriate spaces for breastfeeding women in place rather then just say everyone should just deal with being uncomfortable. It is not telling a woman what to do with her body, its telling her, just like I would tell a man who walked in shirtless to a restaurant or who was peeing in public or a woman going topless to the park that I am uncomfortable with seeing body parts and activities that I personally feel are more intimate and not something I want to see. You say its a 'fact' that its not a sexual act (true) and that it should not be kept private (opinion, not fact). Policing a woman's body implies that I want to tell her how to use her breasts, I don't, I just don't really want to be involved with her using her breasts (sexually, nutritionally, admiringly, whatever). I don't go up to a woman who's doing it and tell them they are acting shameful, but I don't like it, and if that makes me a silent judger than I suppose I am, but we live in a society and taking other people's comfort levels into account is kind of what societal norms is all about (its why no one wants to see people having sex in public or walking around naked).
I absolutely cannot stand when the same thing gets posted over and over and over on a thread. Read back and you will see that someone already posted dang near the same exact response that you did.
You can disagree and obviously do you when it comes to your body. But it doesn't change that breastfeeding is not a sexual act or something that should be kept private. My only problem is that women sit and judge others when it boils downto their own comfort level. Look away if it's that bothersome but don't police other women's bodies. And yes, it is a feminist issue when women have to go where other people crap and pee to feed their babies. I get major rage when women are shamed into hiding to do something so basic.
I'm all for breastfeeding in public, but there is no reason to let you boob just openly hang out. There are ways of covering oneself that doesn't require you to cover your child (I have friends whose babies would freak if covered) and that is showing respect for those around you. Telling people to basically just get over it after seeing someone's (they don't know) boob bc that woman decided to just pop it out is not cool in my book. Respect goes both ways. Please feed your kid while you eat - but please don't flash your boobs at everyone while in that process and I bet you won't be judged for breastfeeding your baby.
You can disagree and obviously do you when it comes to your body. But it doesn't change that breastfeeding is not a sexual act or something that should be kept private. My only problem is that women sit and judge others when it boils downto their own comfort level. Look away if it's that bothersome but don't police other women's bodies. And yes, it is a feminist issue when women have to go where other people crap and pee to feed their babies. I get major rage when women are shamed into hiding to do something so basic.
I never said breastfeeding was anything remotely related to a sexual act. It is a natural process, a way to feed your child. That still doesn't mean that others won't feel uncomfortable by seeing someone's whole breast in the process. Breasts were created for feeding your baby, but again there are ways to do it while respecting the fact that it makes people uncomfortable to get a full on view of a breast while they are going about their day.
I also never said a woman should have to go to the bathroom, as I myself would never do that. All I said was discretion is possible and not even inconvenient. Cover for 10 seconds while you take your boob out and latch baby, then take cover off if you want. Not that much shows while a baby is actually nursing.
I guess mine is the actual UO. Lol. But id like to put money on the fact that most of us will never deal with full on breast exposure during another person's breastfeeding session.
I have quite a few times, unfortunately (meaning a stranger's boob, not my friends - which don't bother me). And it made me and everyone afround me uncomfortable.
One lady even left her boob hanging out while she burped her baby. She was clearly trying to prove a point, but all it did was deal the whole embrace public breastfeeding cause a blow because I am sure others were left feeling extremely uncomfortable as well. I was actually nursing as well, but very inconspicuously. Just no reason for it.
I have quite a few times, unfortunately (meaning a stranger's boob, not my friends - which don't bother me). And it made me and everyone afround me uncomfortable.
One lady even left her boob hanging out while she burped her baby. She was clearly trying to prove a point, but all it did was deal the whole embrace public breastfeeding cause a blow because I am sure others were left feeling extremely uncomfortable as well. I was actually nursing as well, but very inconspicuously. Just no reason for it.
That's rare,is my point though. I bet for every woman who shows all there are 1000 you didn't even know were breastfeeding. It evens out.
When my son was first born before realizing he was tongue tied, I had him on my boob. And I had my sister, her boyfriend and both my parents in the room, I must say I thought it would of been more awkward. But at that time I was tired from labor, my baby was hungry and no one really seemed to pay attention to my boob that was half exposed. I don't nessicarily agree with whipping it out in the middle of a mall or such and I also don't agree with woman having to feed in public washrooms, gross I don't even like using them.... But hey if the baby is hungry feed it and forget the people around you. (: !
I have 2 sons already and a TON of people keep saying "You need a girl since you already have two boys." Umm, I don't need a girl; I will take whatever GOD gave me. I wish people would just keep their mouths shut because their dumb comments are irritating.
I have 4 boys and hear "I'll pray for your girl." Or "I hope you get your girl." I honestly don't care if I ever have a girl and that certainly isn't why I got pregnant again! I glad to hear you won't think your life is over if you have another boy!
I guess mine is the actual UO. Lol. But id like to put money on the fact that most of us will never deal with full on breast exposure during another person's breastfeeding session.
I'm definitely more in line with your view. I don't think women should have to be all timid about breastfeeding in public. When you have a small baby and they're hungry and you need to get their mouth to your boob, the last thing you want to worry about is "am I showing too much nipple". I'm all for more private rooms so that women who don't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public can do it privately; however, I don't think that means that women should feel obligated to use them if they don't want to. If I'm out for lunch or coffee with some friends, I'm not going to go hide in a bathroom to feed my baby when I can do it just as easily at the table. If it makes other people uncomfortable, they don't have to look at it. It's not like women just sit there with their boobs hanging out (and we could argue whether this should be allowed or not but that's another subject) - maybe for a second a nipple is exposed and then it's covered with a baby's face. I have never seen a full-on breast exposure, even in my group of friends who are not at all careful to hide feeding their infants.
Someone was complaining about hearing "you don't look pregnant," because it seems like they're saying "you look fat, not pregnant." Well today someone said I don't look pregnant and I was surprised to find I WAS offended! It DID make me feel fat. I'm 17 weeks! And I feel like I DESERVE to look pregnant. Do I not have gorgeous pregnancy hair and glowing skin!?! Oh well.
I guess mine is the actual UO. Lol. But id like to put money on the fact that most of us will never deal with full on breast exposure during another person's breastfeeding session.
I'm definitely more in line with your view. I don't think women should have to be all timid about breastfeeding in public. When you have a small baby and they're hungry and you need to get their mouth to your boob, the last thing you want to worry about is "am I showing too much nipple". I'm all for more private rooms so that women who don't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public can do it privately; however, I don't think that means that women should feel obligated to use them if they don't want to. If I'm out for lunch or coffee with some friends, I'm not going to go hide in a bathroom to feed my baby when I can do it just as easily at the table. If it makes other people uncomfortable, they don't have to look at it. It's not like women just sit there with their boobs hanging out (and we could argue whether this should be allowed or not but that's another subject) - maybe for a second a nipple is exposed and then it's covered with a baby's face. I have never seen a full-on breast exposure, even in my group of friends who are not at all careful to hide feeding their infants.
Love this!! I am not going to go sit by myself in a room for the 30 minutes it will take to nurse. And I will never nurse in a bathroom. I don't ever let it all hang out just to prove a point, but I nurse without a cover up. There is very little flesh exposed and rarely does a nipple pop out! You would have to be staring hard and consistently to see anything. And IMHO then you are the weirdo!! I expose more breast when wearing a sexy dress than when nursing!
I am also so happy to see all of this stuff about tongue tie. I have never personally dealt with it but maybe it will help someone else!!
So I'm on the unpopular yet seemingly common side according to this post about BF, I think discretion is essential. I used to wait tables and although I have boobs, I've seen boobs, everyone else is eating, you whip your boob out while I'm taking your order, I'm going to be uncomfortable. I'm going to look because it was movement, your husband will be embarrassed that I looked, and you're going to be upset that I broke my gaze to look at something so "natural." I'm all for it at the table, hell, everyone else is eating, why not? But let's assess why we wear shirts. Will you let your teenage daughter sunbath topless? It's perfectly natural. But we teach our children that certain parts are private. How can we continue to say that but allow open public breastfeeding. Let me clarify, my grip isn't with the mom that lets side boob show, bikinis show more than that. It's uncovering and lingering while you get your stuff together. And if any woman pops her boob out in front of our little boy and just holds it there to feed while we're out, I will have something to say. Until I feel that my kids have a firm grasp on modest and respect, I ask that you don't contradict anything I say that's gray area. He won't understand exceptions, kids are literal.
*lurker* You could try educating your son, you know, instead of shaming a mother who's trying to feed her baby.
You can trust that if you mouth of to some mother, she might very well put you in your place (as you deserve) and what kind of example would that be for your son?
I hope I didn't imply I'd mouth off, I said I'd have something to say. Terrible that the assumption is that it would be mouthing off. You never mouth off to a mother taking care of her child the way she feels fit. And I have taught him aspects of privacy, I also taught him to not to pick his nose but toddlers don't always pick things up immediately, they need consistency and reinforcement. That's my entire point. Until I feel he understands the difference, I would appreciate limiting confusion.
Edit: Isn't this post for voicing the opinions we know the opposition for? I do not believe judgmental comments were the point as much as having an open voice directed at a subject, not person.
I hope I didn't imply I'd mouth off, I said I'd have something to say. Terrible that the assumption is that it would be mouthing off. You never mouth off to a mother taking care of her child the way she feels fit. And I have taught him aspects of privacy, I also taught him to not to pick his nose but toddlers don't always pick things up immediately, they need consistency and reinforcement. That's my entire point. Until I feel he understands the difference, I would appreciate limiting confusion.
Edit: Isn't this post for voicing the opinions we know the opposition for? I do not believe judgmental comments were the point as much as having an open voice directed at a subject, not person.
Your comment is pretty judgmental though.
My point is, who are you to say something to any mother feeding her child? There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding so why is it you would need "say something" for the benefit of your son? My two year old can comprehend that that's how mommies feed their babies.
Yea, this is apparently not an open discussion if we're comparing and pitting kids against each other. As I'm reminded why I don't have any social media accounts, I withdraw my comment.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women. Side note, seriously, it's hard to explain that he can't smack my ass after watching some guy do that to his girl in Walmart. What she feels is acceptable does not apply to everyone. That girl may not find it demeaning, maybe a sign of endearment??? but not all women do and he doesn't get that yet. So in the meantime, I'm careful, at least until he indicates that he understands why things are ok or not. He was breastfeed, his sibling will be to and I'll explain the beauty of it, but that's on our time.
For what it's worth, I do my best to be discrete in public, but sometimes slips happen briefly with a squirmy baby. I can tell you I would not take kindly to some stranger telling me how to breastfeed. If your kid can't handle it, that's on you. Your issue and your problem, not some poor mom trying to feed her baby.
Please note that I was not addressing that, as I said before its when moms uncover, and hang out for awhile. I get squirmy, I get switching positions, it's exclusively hanging out. I didn't mean to offend or make personal attacks.
Yea, this is apparently not an open discussion if we're comparing and pitting kids against each other. As I'm reminded why I don't have any social media accounts, I withdraw my comment.
@Knottie16832459 I'm certainly open to discussion, I'm just trying to understand why you think admonishing a breastfeeding mother would be an appropriate thing to do?
Eta: you were quoted and it's kind of bad form to go deleting your comments.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
I suppose this raises the question though. Is there a way to communicate that I am uncomfortable with a breastfeeding mother's level of nudity in a polite way?
It feels like it would be fine for her to tell me to shove it but there is no way too approach it if it makes you uncomfortable
Yea, this is apparently not an open discussion if we're comparing and pitting kids against each other. As I'm reminded why I don't have any social media accounts, I withdraw my comment.
@Knottie16832459 I'm certainly open to discussion, I'm just trying to understand why you think admonishing a breastfeeding mother would be an appropriate thing to do?
Eta: you were quoted and it's kind of bad form to go deleting your comments.
I understand both of your points. But I also don't think female breast during breastfeeding should be considered sexual. There is nothing sexual about feeding your baby. I could see if you and your hubby were having intercourse and the child walked in and his hands were on your boobs. That would deffinately need explaining. But my son relates to my boobies to feed the new baby, not as something sexual I told him mommys have boobies to feed babies.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
I totally agree with you. Fyi some babies refuse to be fed under a cover and pull them down. If it's between my baby being fed and not making someone uncomfortable you better bet my baby will come first and seriously it's a boob. The sole purpose of a breast is to feed your child.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
I suppose this raises the question though. Is there a way to communicate that I am uncomfortable with a breastfeeding mother's level of nudity in a polite way?
It feels like it would be fine for her to tell me to shove it but there is no way too approach it if it makes you uncomfortable
No. There is no polite way to communicate being uncomfortable in the situation. The only appropriate response is for the uncomfortable person to leave.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
I suppose this raises the question though. Is there a way to communicate that I am uncomfortable with a breastfeeding mother's level of nudity in a polite way?
It feels like it would be fine for her to tell me to shove it but there is no way too approach it if it makes you uncomfortable
I don't think there is, because in doing so, you're implying that breastfeeding is offensive or vulgar. It would also imply that you're staring at strangers in public, which is also rude.
And honestly that applies to anything that some people find to be acceptable, normal behavior and makes others uncomfortable. Unless someone is breaking the law or endangering others, who are you to tell a grown person how you think they should behave?
Kids are so freaking accepting and interested in bfing. My nephew had never seen it and i explained the process and he thought it was super cool. He'd tell me when he thought the babies were needing milk. So adorable. Kids just don't have hang ups until they are instilled and all of my girls have simulated bfing and bottle feeding and it melts my heart.
If it makes you uncomfortable i think it's best to just look away and then avoid that person in the future. My bil leaves the room if he thinks I'm going to nurse. He is not rude or judgyand has never made me feel unwelcome. He just goes away for a bit.
Kids are so freaking accepting and interested in bfing. My nephew had never seen it and i explained the process and he thought it was super cool. He'd tell me when he thought the babies were needing milk. So adorable. Kids just don't have hang ups until they are instilled and all of my girls have simulated bfing and bottle feeding and it melts my heart.
I love when my daughter pretends to BF her dolls. It's adorable.
This may not be a UO on TB, but among "lactivists" it is. I personally love "mother's rooms" that places like Babies R Us and Buy Buy Baby have. While I wouldn't want to interrupt a family dinner or outing with friends to nurse, I love the quiet space and comfy chairs.
And yes, I like the privacy, but really it's about the comfy chairs!
Even in the Victorian age women bf openly. We have really confused the whole issue and now it's coming back and i can see why it makes people squirmy. We're used to sexy boobs and beach boobs and boobs out of context, so when they are put to use it seems strange. I bet 20 years from now the opposition will be less and i bet that as its seen as more normal more women will bf with ease in public.
Even in the Victorian age women bf openly. We have really confused the whole issue and now it's coming back and i can see why it makes people squirmy. We're used to sexy boobs and beach boobs and boobs out of context, so when they are put to use it seems strange. I bet 20 years from now the opposition will be less and i bet that as its seen as more normal more women will bf with ease in public.
Depending on the context, but generally, would you mind a bit of discretion as I'm in the process of explaining respect for the human body to my child. He still gets confused thanks to all of the exposure and demeaning behavior seen everywhere towards women.
Absolutely not. I'd be telling you loudly where you can shove it if someone said that to me while I was feeding my child.
I suppose this raises the question though. Is there a way to communicate that I am uncomfortable with a breastfeeding mother's level of nudity in a polite way?
It feels like it would be fine for her to tell me to shove it but there is no way too approach it if it makes you uncomfortable
@csy2947, I thought about this for awhile, and I really don't think there is a social protocol for this. I think of things that make me uncomfortable (things that other people do in public), and I often choose to remove myself from the situation if it's something I cannot tolerate. I'm not saying that this applies to how I feel about public breastfeeding, but I'm trying to relate to asking a stranger to change their behavior due to my comfort level. To give a non-breastfeeding example, if I see people wearing things that expose them in ways that I find inappropriate, but it also isn't illegal, I've never felt morally or personally obligated to voice my concern for their choices.
PPs (@Knottie16832459, I think, and maybe others feel this way) mentioned that children seeing breastfeeding makes for a discussion that they want to have on their own terms, and while I absolutely respect this, I also think we have to remember that our children will not grow up in a vacuum. Part of learning and growing is being active in the world and exploring, and with that experience comes learning planned and unplanned lessons about people and life.
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Agree to disagree I suppose but I do like getting it out there that women feel like this too. I think sometimes this turns into a 'men don't want to see our sexual boobs being used for such an icky purpose!' or a 'this is just the man putting another obstacle in the way for moms!' Some sort of feminist argument.
I like to occasionally pipe up with a 'hey i'm a woman and I am also not really that stoked to be sitting in a restaurant and then having someone pop out a boob and it has nothing to do with how I feel about breastfeeding or how I feel about my boobs.'
You can disagree and obviously do you when it comes to your body. But it doesn't change that breastfeeding is not a sexual act or something that should be kept private. My only problem is that women sit and judge others when it boils downto their own comfort level. Look away if it's that bothersome but don't police other women's bodies. And yes, it is a feminist issue when women have to go where other people crap and pee to feed their babies. I get major rage when women are shamed into hiding to do something so basic.
Hence my comment that I wish there was more of a push to have appropriate spaces for breastfeeding women in place rather then just say everyone should just deal with being uncomfortable. It is not telling a woman what to do with her body, its telling her, just like I would tell a man who walked in shirtless to a restaurant or who was peeing in public or a woman going topless to the park that I am uncomfortable with seeing body parts and activities that I personally feel are more intimate and not something I want to see. You say its a 'fact' that its not a sexual act (true) and that it should not be kept private (opinion, not fact). Policing a woman's body implies that I want to tell her how to use her breasts, I don't, I just don't really want to be involved with her using her breasts (sexually, nutritionally, admiringly, whatever). I don't go up to a woman who's doing it and tell them they are acting shameful, but I don't like it, and if that makes me a silent judger than I suppose I am, but we live in a society and taking other people's comfort levels into account is kind of what societal norms is all about (its why no one wants to see people having sex in public or walking around naked).
I also never said a woman should have to go to the bathroom, as I myself would never do that. All I said was discretion is possible and not even inconvenient. Cover for 10 seconds while you take your boob out and latch baby, then take cover off if you want. Not that much shows while a baby is actually nursing.
One lady even left her boob hanging out while she burped her baby. She was clearly trying to prove a point, but all it did was deal the whole embrace public breastfeeding cause a blow because I am sure others were left feeling extremely uncomfortable as well. I was actually nursing as well, but very inconspicuously. Just no reason for it.
I am also so happy to see all of this stuff about tongue tie. I have never personally dealt with it but maybe it will help someone else!!
You can trust that if you mouth of to some mother, she might very well put you in your place (as you deserve) and what kind of example would that be for your son?
My point is, who are you to say something to any mother feeding her child? There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding so why is it you would need "say something" for the benefit of your son? My two year old can comprehend that that's how mommies feed their babies.
Eta: you were quoted and it's kind of bad form to go deleting your comments.
It feels like it would be fine for her to tell me to shove it but there is no way too approach it if it makes you uncomfortable
Fyi some babies refuse to be fed under a cover and pull them down. If it's between my baby being fed and not making someone uncomfortable you better bet my baby will come first and seriously it's a boob.
The sole purpose of a breast is to feed your child.
And honestly that applies to anything that some people find to be acceptable, normal behavior and makes others uncomfortable. Unless someone is breaking the law or endangering others, who are you to tell a grown person how you think they should behave?
And yes, I like the privacy, but really it's about the comfy chairs!