Did I do something wrong?!

madwhalen124 · May 2015

So last night my fiancé and I were watching the Rangers game. And I turn to him and say "can we name our kid Henrik (the Rangers goalie), even if it's a girl?!" Obviously joking. But he FLIPPED OUT. He ignored me for like a half an hour until he finally burst out that, all you care about is hockey and that f***ing goalie. That isn't something to joke about and that I shouldn't joke about our child in any way at all. Should I be the one apologizing? I can't seem to figure out what I did wrong in that situation):

DjinnaG · May 2015

Your only mistake was choosing the wrong goalie. We're both joking about naming ours after Blaze Riordan (Albany lacrosse goalie, scored a goal during the quarterfinals last weekend). It's incredibly common to come up with joke names for a baby, and is a fun thing for most couples while they're waiting to know enough to work on real names. It helps give something to call the kid before a real name presents itself, and helps take the mind off some of the many worries inherent in pregnancy. There's probably something else going on that's bothering him. Unless you have more pictures of Henrik up all over the place than a tweenage girl and her favorite boy band.

somewhereinafrica · May 2015

I don't think it has anything to do wth blame. You clearly didn't have bad intentions but he clearly has something he is upset about.

So maybe think of it like its not the words you sad in that moment that upset him but it just triggered something inside. So instead of trying to figure out who was in the wrong maybe try and address what seems like a jealousy or insecurity issue on his part and where that is coming from.

So maybe not a sorry for what you said but a sorry your feeling so frustrated what's going on?

I think us ladies get a lot of slack from our partners formal the new feelings we feel and we have hormones to point fingers at but just the very reality of babies is also adding so many emotions to the table. Guys feel them too but often can't or don't know how to express them.

I think his out burst was probably a sign that something is wrong for him under the surface!

WinchestertoPittsburgh · May 2015

I agree with the PP.... sounds like he is holding something in that he's upset about and just so happened to explode over that particular scenario. Give it time and i'm sure it'll come out. Too much prodding will only make him close up more and not want to talk about whatever it is thats going on. It's a difficult transition time for us, but also for the men in our lives as well

gmp450 · May 2015

I think we often don't think about how bit of an emotional rollercoaster this is for our partners. Think about all of the things going through our heads right now. The same things are going through theirs, but women have a better multitasking brain, where men will let something eat away at them for hours until they figure it out.

carlyhammond · May 2015

I've heard of the SO getting some of our hormones. Like we have crazy out of wack moments, maybe that was his moment?
But as PP's said before, maybe something is bothering him.

danasphillips · May 2015

I don't care if he's getting a legitimate period, flipping out about something so trivial is not cool. Ask him if something else is bothering him and tell him to quit being a d!ck. Sorry to be frank, but I've seen too many women get walked all over and it will only get worse when the baby arrives if you condone that kind of behavior by excusing it with things like "pregnancy is hard on our partners too."

aporcelainface · May 2015

I think my boyfriend would die and go to heaven if I told him we were naming our child Henrik, ad it's his favorite team in the entire world. In fact, his first baby purchase was a Micky mouse stuffed animal in a rangers jersey, that comes with a rangers fleece blanket. HA.

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