So, this is baby #4. I don't need anything major (have all of it from previous babies), but my family and DH's family are of the mindset that "every baby needs a shower". I absolutely refuse to have a shower. My sister came up with the idea of having a small family only dinner once the baby has arrived. My problem is I don't want the baby around too many people until she is atleast a month old. My family's issue with this is that they think we should have a party the weekend AFTER we get home from the hospital and that it should be friends and family and whoever the hell else they want to invite. I don't want to be rude, but apparently "That's not going to work for me" isn't getting thru. My mother (MIL) has asked why I registered for stuff if I didn't want a shower/party (I registered for new sheets, blankets, and a few outfits). She doesn't seem to understand that I just really want the 15% discount that Target offers!
Please help! How do I make them understand without hurting their feelings? Is there a compromise possible that I haven't thought of yet?
Edit: She only knows about the registry because she was nosey and snooping on my phone one day while we had them over for supper. I have it set up so that it cannot be searched for, to avoid this exact question!!
Cody Lane - 4/22/2004
Colten James - 9/9/2005
Isabella Ann - 7/20/2012
SURPRISE!!! Emma Leigh - due 8/27/2015 (c-section date 8/7/2015)