I broke my ankle at 25w which required surgery. I'm 38w now, and still can't walk on my foot. While at the store the other day, I had to wait for one of the motorized scooters so I hobbled- with my walker- over to a bench to sit and wait. A 'lovely' younger lady who was taking up the whole bench points and says "that doesn't look like fun", while she continues to sit and I'm standing.
I was questioning whether or not my water may be leaking, and I texted my SO to let him know what was going on. He calls and asks how its going and says his coworker (male) said "Oh you'll know when it breaks. It hasn't broken yet then if you aren't sure."
Yeah, everywhere I GI, people go "you gotta be close!" When I say I'm past due, they say some shit like "well that sucks" or "get induced!"
Today, while grocery shopping with my 3 year old boy, an old gentleman said "adding another one huh? Must be hard lugging that beach ball around with a little boy." Not really a rude comment I guess, but I was irritated by it instantly. Yeah, I'm highly uncomfortable, and yes, this "beach ball" is hard to lug around, but I don't need reminders how big I am... After all, I haven't seen my vagina in months.
I'm also very sick of people who keep saying "omg you don't look 39 weeks, you're so small"...first off, you think hearing that I'm "too" small makes me feel good? I've been worried that I'm too small and then you go and announce it like its a good thing? Thank god for my OB who says I'm growing on point! But what if I wasn't? What if there were problems? I've come to realize, do we ever hear that our tummies are the "right size"?? We're either too big, or too small, carrying multiples or a really tiny baby! Has any pregnant woman ever heard they are the perfect size?!?! It's so frustrating that even pregnant you start to question and have body image issues! From here on out, I will always make sure that every pregnant woman I meet feels perfect! You all are perfect!!
I endure most good-natured advice/comments well. The constant calls asking about the status of my cervix and telling me to "get on it" are irritating. My poor husband has it worse than me--his coworkers treat it like a personal failure on his part that I'm overdue. (Sex is the answer to everything.)
My personal favorite question I've been asked (in person): "No baby yet?"
I smile and say I haven't, but what I want to say ranges from : "Do I look like I've had the baby?" to "Yes, we left him at home."
The barista at Starbucks this morning (who is a man by the way) after I ordered my small cup of coffee, decided to inform me that caffeine is bad and "you know whatever you eat goes to the baby, right?" I literally started laughing as I am due in 5 days and said "REALLY?! IS THAT HOW IT WORKS? I HAD NO IDEA ALL OF THIS TIME." He rolled his eyes, gave me my coffee and said, "well good luck with that." I emailed customer service and should be getting my free drink coupons any day now LOL what stupid stuff have people said to you this week?!?
So I just got bombarded by two cashiers in my local Wal-Mart.
One of them asked me how much longer I had, and I said a little over two weeks. The look on her face was priceless, and I knew it was coming, but she then proceeded to tell me how tiny I am, point it out to another cashier, and they got really chatty about it. The other cashier went, "You know, since your so tiny that just means the baby is going to be big."
Yes. Because my weight determines the baby's weight. By that time I started to walk away and told myself I needed to just get out of there and away from people.
But the cashier followed me toward the door. The next thing I knew, and completely threw me by surprise, she tapped me and went, "So how much do you weigh now?"
....WHAT?!
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It's always been bizarre to me how pregnancy becomes an open invitation for everyone (including strangers) to comment on a woman's body. You would never walk up to a non pregnant woman and say things like "gosh you're huge!" or "look how big you are" or even "but you're so tiny, you should be eating more" or my personal favorite "you don't even look pregnant from behind!". But somehow pregnancy throws all common courtesy out the window and people think they can comment, stare, and TOUCH us without invitation. The next person who touches me without permission or comments on my size is going to be spit on.
MIL just came over unannounced (but she brought chick-fil-a so all is forgiven.) We have a pile of boxes from all the stuff we've ordered that we need to break down and throw away, and it's taking up a whole room. MIL offered to come back another day and break them down for us, and I told her I'll probably have them broken down by the end of the day. She freaked out and said "You can't use a box cutter! You're pregnant!" So pregnancy apparently makes you unable to wield a knife???
I love this thread. I think we've all experienced with most of these!
My least favorite thing that is happening constantly now that my due date is so close -- endless texts & calls that ask if baby is here YET. You would know if baby was here! A friend of mine actually texted me & said that SHE was tired of waiting... Stop texting me! Gah!
End of Rant.
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Married: March 2014 Baby #1 (Isaac): May 2015 Baby #2: January 2017
"You're still here?" (People at work) "You look like you're about to pop" "You look huge" <-- got this one today and it's my personal fav. Just what every woman wants to hear. "Are you still pregnant?" I've found myself avoiding people at all costs lately because I cannot handle these corny lines any more.
I overheard a little girl who was 4 or 5 say "mommy, what's wrong with that lady?" While she was pointing at me. It made me laugh. The mom was a little embarrassed and quickly told her daughter that I was pregnant, which means I have a baby growing in my belly.
ETA I don't think what the little girl was stupid... Just kinda funny.
On Monday I had a store clerk ask how many more months til the baby was due. I laughed and said its due Wednesday. Her jaw nearly hit the floor.
My DH said I should have thanked her. I have certainly not been considered small during my pregnancy (I've gained 60 lbs). I just laughed at the comment. Thank goodness I don't still have months to go!!!
DH and I went to lunch the other day and the valet grabs DH's arm, points to me, and goes "was that your shot?" DH says yes, and the valet gave him a high five. Glad he got some of the weird attention for once, lol!
The barista at Starbucks this morning (who is a man by the way) after I ordered my small cup of coffee, decided to inform me that caffeine is bad and "you know whatever you eat goes to the baby, right?" I literally started laughing as I am due in 5 days and said "REALLY?! IS THAT HOW IT WORKS? I HAD NO IDEA ALL OF THIS TIME." He rolled his eyes, gave me my coffee and said, "well good luck with that." I emailed customer service and should be getting my free drink coupons any day now LOL what stupid stuff have people said to you this week?!?
I had a lady in line at Starbucks say "you know drinking coffee is bad for your baby" I politely replied "you know speaking to me is bad for your health" The baristas cracked up.
I get so many "are you SURE you are not carrying twins" after mentioning I'm expecting a girl at the end of the month.
Yes, I'm sure. Do you think it makes me feel good that I have edema and feel huge?
"You haven't had the baby yet?" Does it look like I did, Einstein?!
Some people insist that I'm having a boy- which is impossible because it was confirmed via bloodwork and the ultrasound. I say no, but they are persistent.
I don't like random belly rubs.
There's this idiot dad at my birthing class that is constantly making comments about my size and it's annoying and hurts my feelings. His wife is really nice and quiet though so I just try to let it go. He also mocks her by waddling behind her. Jerk. I feel bad for her.
Omg! I love this feed... I have been so annoyed with constant texts "how's baby", "when are you going to give birth"... And in person the "you look so tired! (When I feel great), "you must be so uncomfortable" (actually I am not), "why are you still working" (I have bills just like everyone else), "you don't look very pregnant at all" (I'm 2 days from D day with a small baby that I'm worried about but thanks)... And my MIL keeps trying to comfort me with her "I've been reading online and I don't think it's anything to worry about" ( after I was never concerned before but now I sure am!) also my MIL keeps rubbing my belly and sticking her face down to talk to baby girl while I'm trying to have conversations with other coworkers (yes we work together ) and to top it all off she tried to give me the talk about what I need postpartum for recovery in front of my coworkers!!!!! eMbarrasing!!!!! Oh! And my SIL keeps telling me not to forget that I can get pregnant while breastfeeding (I've been with my husband 9 years and this is our first baby... I think I know what I'm doing but thanks...)
Re: Stupid s%#t people still say...
I was questioning whether or not my water may be leaking, and I texted my SO to let him know what was going on. He calls and asks how its going and says his coworker (male) said "Oh you'll know when it breaks. It hasn't broken yet then if you aren't sure."
Thank God no one has heckeled me about my caffeine intake. A latté actually has less caffeine than a cup of coffee, so back off! https://www.caffeineinformer.com/the-complete-guide-to-starbucks-caffeine
Today, while grocery shopping with my 3 year old boy, an old gentleman said "adding another one huh? Must be hard lugging that beach ball around with a little boy." Not really a rude comment I guess, but I was irritated by it instantly. Yeah, I'm highly uncomfortable, and yes, this "beach ball" is hard to lug around, but I don't need reminders how big I am... After all, I haven't seen my vagina in months.
My personal favorite question I've been asked (in person): "No baby yet?"
I smile and say I haven't, but what I want to say ranges from : "Do I look like I've had the baby?" to "Yes, we left him at home."
But the cashier followed me toward the door. The next thing I knew, and completely threw me by surprise, she tapped me and went, "So how much do you weigh now?"
Baby #1 (Isaac): May 2015
Baby #2: January 2017
"You look like you're about to pop"
"You look huge" <-- got this one today and it's my personal fav. Just what every woman wants to hear.
"Are you still pregnant?"
I've found myself avoiding people at all costs lately because I cannot handle these corny lines any more.
ETA I don't think what the little girl was stupid... Just kinda funny.
My DH said I should have thanked her. I have certainly not been considered small during my pregnancy (I've gained 60 lbs). I just laughed at the comment. Thank goodness I don't still have months to go!!!
I politely replied "you know speaking to me is bad for your health"
The baristas cracked up.