Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Unpopular Opinion
see it happens because people hide behind internet muscles and they get report happy...its alryte at the end of the day it shows I hit a nerve w someone ...like i said if the shoe fits then wear it ! Ryte! ...but I should have made my statement a lot clearer for those that feel the need to have things crystal clear for them ..u know those special ones!...wait I might get reported again watch out now!
It makes more sense to me to say you don't want meds or epi because you didn't react well last time or you are morally against it or it just freaks you out. But justifying your choice by saying the above sounds like you're mommy-shaming those of us who do want an epidural.
Yeah! Adults wanna live too! Lol
UO#2:
Women who act confidently about their choices but then turn around and play the victim if anybody points out a differing (valid) opinion or experience.
I for one was made to feel bad by my dr recently. I told her I didn't think I wanted to this time or to just exclusively pump and she was just like oh well you have to at least try. Umm I did with my first and just hated it and resorted to pumping only until I dried up.
I know right ! But they never tell you the good parts ! Yea there's gonna be rough times, that's parenting it has good and bad (: !
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It really irks me when people like you act like breastfeeding is a walk in the park and its most likely a lazy person giving up. Sometime breastfeeding isn't for them, but I commend them for at least trying.
I didn't breastfeed my first daughter fota mix of reasons but it boiled down to, it was hard,i bought into the bs that i would be happier if i quit and i had no support.but I swore to everyone that it was low supply. I was so sad and even angry at mothers who promoted bfing for years. But reason won out. It is best if possible to do it.
With my second i knew i would do whatever it took because it mattered to me. I couldn't take more "failure" in this area. Well, tough birth, extra blood loss, milk came in late and my daughter had the most severe tongue tie that went undiagnosed for a year, but i breastfed her for two years because everything was different. I had help and support and good resources. And it mattered to me so much. My bfing story for her would more than likely scare women out of it, but imo it shows that many things are surmountable. And while it isn't easy for all of us, nearly none of us initially, being honest about your experiences can help bring bfing back into the light as something women teach and learn from each other.
I get why there would be women who aren't expecting currently on the loss boards, but a BMB? No. If you were a previous O '15 member and had a loss, why would you want to stick around? I know after my m/c the last thing I wanted is a constant reminder. But women not expecting at all and just lurking, yep that's creepy.
I agree!!!! Even if you want to have an unmedicated birth because it makes you feel more badass, that's fine. But would you have a root canal or get a filling without anesthesia just because back in the day people had to get their teeth pulled with no drugs?
It gets on my nerves a bit that on almost every thread where someone mentions finding out the sex of their baby, someone or another has to chime in, "it doesn't matter what parts your child pees with!"
Well, it matters to me. While I will be delighted to learn at my anatomy scan next week that my baby is in fact healthy and growing like he/she should be, and my "preference" for a girl won't mean I'll be devastated to have another son, it matters . . .
It matters because my child's sex affects what colors I decorate the nursery with, what clothes I dress him I her in until he or she is old enough to pick out his/her own wardrobe, and what gender I assume my child will identify with till he/she is old enough to tell me otherwise.
Anyway. Carry on.