if you guys read my statement it did say " certain ppl should not be allowed on certain boards" and then i go on to mention towards the end "specially on this board" i apologize if i did not word this correctly but i got a warning from the BG lol and i feel its uncalled for as i did not call out any one. i left it as a general statement.....IF THE SHOE FITS THEN WEAR IT!!!
I find it sad that you got called out on an unpopular opinion board! Sorry someone "told on" you! It takes the fun out of the point of the board.
if you guys read my statement it did say " certain ppl should not be allowed on certain boards" and then i go on to mention towards the end "specially on this board" i apologize if i did not word this correctly but i got a warning from the BG lol and i feel its uncalled for as i did not call out any one. i left it as a general statement.....IF THE SHOE FITS THEN WEAR IT!!!
I find it sad that you got called out on an unpopular opinion board! Sorry someone "told on" you! It takes the fun out of the point of the board.
see it happens because people hide behind internet muscles and they get report happy...its alryte at the end of the day it shows I hit a nerve w someone ...like i said if the shoe fits then wear it ! Ryte! ...but I should have made my statement a lot clearer for those that feel the need to have things crystal clear for them ..u know those special ones!...wait I might get reported again watch out now!
UO: It really irks me when people who prefer an unmedicated L&D say "women have been giving birth for millenia without pain meds so we should too". Because I bet if you said to those women of yore "hey, I know you're in excruciating pain but what if I told you there's something that took that pain away," they'd be all over it.
It makes more sense to me to say you don't want meds or epi because you didn't react well last time or you are morally against it or it just freaks you out. But justifying your choice by saying the above sounds like you're mommy-shaming those of us who do want an epidural.
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
That you're "not allowed" by some people based on their own personal opinions to use the term gender when referring to your baby being a girl or boy. And that they have to go to every thread on here to tell you so. And that some of them aren't even expecting in October (or not at all).
Unpopular opinion: I dislike the fact that hospitals are so emphatic about breastfeeding. It is fine ti formula feed but the lactation consultants make you feel like a monster for saying yout don't want to (and sometimes other moms do it too )
UO: The "you're not finding out?" comments. We will find out...in October. It's not like we won't be looking down there! I also get just as annoyed when people say "but don't you want it to be a surprise?" It'll be a surprise either way, just a matter of when.
Probably a VERY unpopular opinion but I hate when women blast moms who don't breastfeed. I didn't breastfeed either one of my girls and won't this time either simply because I didn't want to. My kids RARELY ever get sick and I can assure you I'm not an less bonded to them because they bottle fed. More power to the moms who want to breastfeed but its not for everybody and I hate getting judged for choosing otherwise.
UO: It really irks me when people who prefer an unmedicated L&D say "women have been giving birth for millenia without pain meds so we should too". Because I bet if you said to those women of yore "hey, I know you're in excruciating pain but what if I told you there's something that took that pain away," they'd be all over it.
It makes more sense to me to say you don't want meds or epi because you didn't react well last time or you are morally against it or it just freaks you out. But justifying your choice by saying the above sounds like you're mommy-shaming those of us who do want an epidural.
@Birdee212, I just had this conversation with some women at lunch today. One mother of three commented, "I don't go to the dentist and say no thanks to the numbing options just because my great grandparents didn't have it!" Obviously we talked about how different the circumstances are, but she had a point! I don't like it when women imply that other women aren't "tough enough" for certain parts of this pregnancy/parenting gig just because they choose to do it differently. I appreciate it when women support one another in making the decision that is best for them and best for their family!
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
Just to clarify my UO: if you don't want to nurse or can't I have no problem with it! It is women who make up an excuse why they couldn't that bothers me.
UO #1: mom asks for advice on going natural and all the responses are horror stories or people telling her to have an open mind.
UO#2: Women who act confidently about their choices but then turn around and play the victim if anybody points out a differing (valid) opinion or experience.
I hate it when people try to pretend "tone" doesn't exist in writing. It's a thing, and people do convey tone in writing even when they claim they weren't meaning anything by how they said what they said. It is our responsibility as the "sender" to craft our words in a way that conveys the message we intend and stop blaming the "receiver" all the time. Interpersonal communication, even in writing, involves two people and a lot of dynamics.
Probably a VERY unpopular opinion but I hate when women blast moms who don't breastfeed. I didn't breastfeed either one of my girls and won't this time either simply because I didn't want to. My kids RARELY ever get sick and I can assure you I'm not an less bonded to them because they bottle fed. More power to the moms who want to breastfeed but its not for everybody and I hate getting judged for choosing otherwise.
I agree.. We are still feeding out babies. I for one was made to feel bad by my dr recently. I told her I didn't think I wanted to this time or to just exclusively pump and she was just like oh well you have to at least try. Umm I did with my first and just hated it and resorted to pumping only until I dried up.
I hate it when people try to pretend "tone" doesn't exist in writing. It's a thing, and people do convey tone in writing even when they claim they weren't meaning anything by how they said what they said. It is our responsibility as the "sender" to craft our words in a way that conveys the message we intend and stop blaming the "receiver" all the time. Interpersonal communication, even in writing, involves two people and a lot of dynamics.
This so much. I hate sneaky bitchiness. Own that crap or stfu. And women who use pregnancy as an excuse to be rotten. We definitely get a few get out of jail free cards,but some people take it too far.
I hate it when people try to pretend "tone" doesn't exist in writing. It's a thing, and people do convey tone in writing even when they claim they weren't meaning anything by how they said what they said. It is our responsibility as the "sender" to craft our words in a way that conveys the message we intend and stop blaming the "receiver" all the time. Interpersonal communication, even in writing, involves two people and a lot of dynamics.
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
Just to clarify my UO: if you don't want to nurse or can't I have no problem with it! It is women who make up an excuse why they couldn't that bothers me.
I have had to fight the good fight every time to breastfeed, so really any excuse makes me mad. Own it. You should not have to use your body to do anything you don't want to do, but don't hide behind excuses or seek validation for quitting. I get that there is pressure to do it. And that is because it is optimal, but it isn't anybody else's choice to make.
Idk if this has been added but I'm finding I can't stand when a friend with a kid says "this is what you have to look forward to" when the kid is acting up. I know they think they are being funny or whatever but it annoys the crap out of me! Sorry your child is misbehaved?
UO: when people at work (especially customers) ask me if I'm okay multiple times after I say I'm fine. Would you rather me tell you I wake up every three hours at night, can't get comfortable, feel huge, my back hurts and I spent the morning hearing my toddler niece screaming and crying?!
Idk if this has been added but I'm finding I can't stand when a friend with a kid says "this is what you have to look forward to" when the kid is acting up. I know they think they are being funny or whatever but it annoys the crap out of me! Sorry your child is misbehaved?
Idk if this has been added but I'm finding I can't stand when a friend with a kid says "this is what you have to look forward to" when the kid is acting up. I know they think they are being funny or whatever but it annoys the crap out of me! Sorry your child is misbehaved?
I know right ! But they never tell you the good parts ! Yea there's gonna be rough times, that's parenting it has good and bad (: !
I'm tired of these daily negative/vent topics (Monday Moan, WTF Wed., UO Thurs., Fri. Rant. Etc). It'd be nice is we had some balance or positive ones appearing daily too. I'm guessing I'm not the only one who comes here in the hopes of being uplifted and encouraged instead of just angered/provoked.
@LiveNLove44 This times a million! I actually think I encounter this a lot less on October than the tri boards. I'll add, then they try to make you feel like a crazy person by saying honesty =/= rude!!!
I agree with it being strange that people who are not expecting are on here. It's almost seems like they seek out the drama threads.
That's cause some of the drama threads are better than daytime TV. 170 new comments? Yep. That's a drama thread. "This week on Drama Thread! Who will have their intelligence called into question? Who will be told they lack maturity? Will a 'dirty lurker' from another's birth month's board be banned? Tune in to Drama Thread and find out!" "Viewer discretion is advised. Not all content may be suitable for hormonal women. "
I'm tired of these daily negative/vent topics (Monday Moan, WTF Wed., UO Thurs., Fri. Rant. Etc). It'd be nice is we had some balance or positive ones appearing daily too. I'm guessing I'm not the only one who comes here in the hopes of being uplifted and encouraged instead of just angered/provoked.
I'm tired of these daily negative/vent topics (Monday Moan, WTF Wed., UO Thurs., Fri. Rant. Etc). It'd be nice is we had some balance or positive ones appearing daily too. I'm guessing I'm not the only one who comes here in the hopes of being uplifted and encouraged instead of just angered/provoked.
I agree. It seems like we have a nag and complain post every day and other posts get attacked with negativity. I just posted a Thankful Thursday thread so maybe we can all share in a little positive posting.
My opinion is not unpopular so much as non committal? I LOVE bitch and moan threads! But I also love let's be happy threads I like when people keep em separated so you can read and contribute to the thread that works for you and avoid the one that doesn't. Like if I'm in a bad mood, I don't want your icky old happiness rubbing off on my rant and rave! I'm mad and I wanna be mad/sad/grumpy! But even more so, if I'm happy or its a nice positive thread I HATE someone swooping in all bitter Betty and bringing the whole place down. I am happy- don't burst my bubble! Let the haters hate in one thread and the love fest roll on uninterrupted in another- this is my non committal opinion
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
I can't dislike this more. There are plenty of reasons out there that women may not be able to produce enough. I think you've misconstrued exactly how plausible it is for some women not to be able to produce enough for their growing child. It's not like these women probably thought "oh well I tried, I give up".
It really irks me when people like you act like breastfeeding is a walk in the park and its most likely a lazy person giving up. Sometime breastfeeding isn't for them, but I commend them for at least trying.
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
Just to clarify my UO: if you don't want to nurse or can't I have no problem with it! It is women who make up an excuse why they couldn't that bothers me.
Who says they're making an excuse? Do you know them all personally? I tried BFing my daughter for months. I spent many many days with the lactation consultants and I just did not have enough milk. I even continued to pump the tiny bit that I did have to give her 1 small bottle of it a day because that's all I could get. I don't understand why it would make YOU upset. I bet I was more upset about the whole situation that you could even imagine.
I'm sorry but women make excuses. Nobody ever says they just hated it or couldn't make it work. Ime with women is always made out to be catastrophic even though it's just lack of support or not wanting to figure it out. And giving it up is valid. It's your body and it's hard for a lot of us and any breastmilk helps, so it's not the end of the world.
I didn't breastfeed my first daughter fota mix of reasons but it boiled down to, it was hard,i bought into the bs that i would be happier if i quit and i had no support.but I swore to everyone that it was low supply. I was so sad and even angry at mothers who promoted bfing for years. But reason won out. It is best if possible to do it.
With my second i knew i would do whatever it took because it mattered to me. I couldn't take more "failure" in this area. Well, tough birth, extra blood loss, milk came in late and my daughter had the most severe tongue tie that went undiagnosed for a year, but i breastfed her for two years because everything was different. I had help and support and good resources. And it mattered to me so much. My bfing story for her would more than likely scare women out of it, but imo it shows that many things are surmountable. And while it isn't easy for all of us, nearly none of us initially, being honest about your experiences can help bring bfing back into the light as something women teach and learn from each other.
I don't want to be rude but I find it strange that there are women on here that aren't expecting.
no no be rude ....its called the bump..I find it should not be allowed on certain boards its a total invasion for all we know they could be ppl trying to see who their next victims are! And if you are a chick specially on this board w.o kids or expecting you should be ashamed of being on here..n please spare me the its the internet b.s I'm free to do w.e ...YOUR A WEIRDO!!!!
I get why there would be women who aren't expecting currently on the loss boards, but a BMB? No. If you were a previous O '15 member and had a loss, why would you want to stick around? I know after my m/c the last thing I wanted is a constant reminder. But women not expecting at all and just lurking, yep that's creepy.
UO: I get really irritated when women say they couldn't breatsfeed because of supply issues. The number of women who can't produce enough milk is incredibly low. Most likely they rceived poor information or had a lack of help or didn't really want to but had to give it a try for someone else. The reason it bothers me is because I think it makes other women think it is a common problem and they give up when really it isn't the problem.
Just to clarify my UO: if you don't want to nurse or can't I have no problem with it! It is women who make up an excuse why they couldn't that bothers me.
Who says they're making an excuse? Do you know them all personally? I tried BFing my daughter for months. I spent many many days with the lactation consultants and I just did not have enough milk. I even continued to pump the tiny bit that I did have to give her 1 small bottle of it a day because that's all I could get. I don't understand why it would make YOU upset. I bet I was more upset about the whole situation that you could even imagine.
Was your child ever checked for a tie? Tues can inhibit supply because the baby never gets that good vacuum seal/pull. I had my third daughters tie cut and it was an amazing difference. My midwives have begun checking for them and referring their clients to bfing clinic for revisions. I could never pump out anything that made it worth the time,so i supplemented once i returned to work.
People who feel the need to constantly correct your sentences or misuse of words.
I get SO NERVOUS when I respond. I am very busy at work, and I drop in just to catch up with you guys. Sometimes I'm so busy I have a typo and I FREAK OUT. I've seen entire threads derailed and posters completely eviscerated because of a typo or autocorrect. I think some people have this urge to "win" every discussion and if they can't sway your viewpoint, they stoop to picking apart your typing. So silly and pointless!
I know exactly how you feel. English isnt my first language and with people jumping on any error you make.. it can be nerve wrecking to respond to posts for sure. I used to be proud of my English skills, but these days thats just watering down to being barely OK with them. Ugh, oh well, learning more every day I suppose.
UO: It really irks me when people who prefer an unmedicated L&D say "women have been giving birth for millenia without pain meds so we should too". Because I bet if you said to those women of yore "hey, I know you're in excruciating pain but what if I told you there's something that took that pain away," they'd be all over it.
It makes more sense to me to say you don't want meds or epi because you didn't react well last time or you are morally against it or it just freaks you out. But justifying your choice by saying the above sounds like you're mommy-shaming those of us who do want an epidural.
I agree!!!! Even if you want to have an unmedicated birth because it makes you feel more badass, that's fine. But would you have a root canal or get a filling without anesthesia just because back in the day people had to get their teeth pulled with no drugs?
UO #1: mom asks for advice on going natural and all the responses are horror stories or people telling her to have an open mind.
UO#2: Women who act confidently about their choices but then turn around and play the victim if anybody points out a differing (valid) opinion or experience.
Can you clarify this? I get the horror stories part-that's obvious. But what about the open mind part bothers you?
It gets on my nerves a bit that on almost every thread where someone mentions finding out the sex of their baby, someone or another has to chime in, "it doesn't matter what parts your child pees with!"
Well, it matters to me. While I will be delighted to learn at my anatomy scan next week that my baby is in fact healthy and growing like he/she should be, and my "preference" for a girl won't mean I'll be devastated to have another son, it matters . . .
It matters because my child's sex affects what colors I decorate the nursery with, what clothes I dress him I her in until he or she is old enough to pick out his/her own wardrobe, and what gender I assume my child will identify with till he/she is old enough to tell me otherwise.
Bitching daily about money problems and then spending your weekends dining out and getting tattoos is a great way to get a big eye roll from me. Pardon me for not donating to your GoFundMe.
Re: Unpopular Opinion
see it happens because people hide behind internet muscles and they get report happy...its alryte at the end of the day it shows I hit a nerve w someone ...like i said if the shoe fits then wear it ! Ryte! ...but I should have made my statement a lot clearer for those that feel the need to have things crystal clear for them ..u know those special ones!...wait I might get reported again watch out now!
It makes more sense to me to say you don't want meds or epi because you didn't react well last time or you are morally against it or it just freaks you out. But justifying your choice by saying the above sounds like you're mommy-shaming those of us who do want an epidural.
Yeah! Adults wanna live too! Lol
UO#2:
Women who act confidently about their choices but then turn around and play the victim if anybody points out a differing (valid) opinion or experience.
I for one was made to feel bad by my dr recently. I told her I didn't think I wanted to this time or to just exclusively pump and she was just like oh well you have to at least try. Umm I did with my first and just hated it and resorted to pumping only until I dried up.
I know right ! But they never tell you the good parts ! Yea there's gonna be rough times, that's parenting it has good and bad (: !
"This week on Drama Thread! Who will have their intelligence called into question? Who will be told they lack maturity? Will a 'dirty lurker' from another's birth month's board be banned? Tune in to Drama Thread and find out!"
"Viewer discretion is advised. Not all content may be suitable for hormonal women. "
It really irks me when people like you act like breastfeeding is a walk in the park and its most likely a lazy person giving up. Sometime breastfeeding isn't for them, but I commend them for at least trying.
I didn't breastfeed my first daughter fota mix of reasons but it boiled down to, it was hard,i bought into the bs that i would be happier if i quit and i had no support.but I swore to everyone that it was low supply. I was so sad and even angry at mothers who promoted bfing for years. But reason won out. It is best if possible to do it.
With my second i knew i would do whatever it took because it mattered to me. I couldn't take more "failure" in this area. Well, tough birth, extra blood loss, milk came in late and my daughter had the most severe tongue tie that went undiagnosed for a year, but i breastfed her for two years because everything was different. I had help and support and good resources. And it mattered to me so much. My bfing story for her would more than likely scare women out of it, but imo it shows that many things are surmountable. And while it isn't easy for all of us, nearly none of us initially, being honest about your experiences can help bring bfing back into the light as something women teach and learn from each other.
I get why there would be women who aren't expecting currently on the loss boards, but a BMB? No. If you were a previous O '15 member and had a loss, why would you want to stick around? I know after my m/c the last thing I wanted is a constant reminder. But women not expecting at all and just lurking, yep that's creepy.
I agree!!!! Even if you want to have an unmedicated birth because it makes you feel more badass, that's fine. But would you have a root canal or get a filling without anesthesia just because back in the day people had to get their teeth pulled with no drugs?
It gets on my nerves a bit that on almost every thread where someone mentions finding out the sex of their baby, someone or another has to chime in, "it doesn't matter what parts your child pees with!"
Well, it matters to me. While I will be delighted to learn at my anatomy scan next week that my baby is in fact healthy and growing like he/she should be, and my "preference" for a girl won't mean I'll be devastated to have another son, it matters . . .
It matters because my child's sex affects what colors I decorate the nursery with, what clothes I dress him I her in until he or she is old enough to pick out his/her own wardrobe, and what gender I assume my child will identify with till he/she is old enough to tell me otherwise.
Anyway. Carry on.