I'm planning to eat sushi through my entire pregnancy. I did a shit-load of research and feel comfortable with eating at my neighbourhood sushi restaurant, where I've never gotten sick and everything is really fresh.
The midwife i worked with did so much research on this...it is perfectly fine to eat sushi. I did with many of my kids. Not one problem. Eat away mama!!!
My UO... I hate the snark.. I watched snark go way to far and cross the lines in the Oct 2014 group.. to the point where this wasn't really a community about to-be-mom topics.. instead it turned into many nasty threads where mean girls and victims alike posted over and over and over again... people calling other's bumps "fat" or "bloat".. and that was the not so bad stuff... It's like a road rage mentality.. people feel like they can be awful and hide behind anonymity... I thought steering clear of the drama myself would make it ok... but.... it was just irritating and me and 90% of the group checked out..
I like these boards to be more civilized than that... If someone what's to be an uglier version of themselves bc they are pregnant-- target that to your friends and family-- not other expecting moms that look like easy targets.
oh and referring to your own husband as another child really, really annoys me and makes me feel sorry for you.
I don't call my husband a child per se. But he wants the same amount of atthention and to be treated like our son. He is a little boy at heart. And I love that about him. He is an amazing, successful, driven man and still has that little one who loves to be taken care of. It's nothing to feel sorry for. It makes me love him more. And no I don't call him my 2nd child nor do I call him a little boy. That's annoying.
taking care of your husband =/= treating him like a child. acting as if your husband is incapable of doing anything, he is an inconvenience to you and only adds to the problem is ridiculous. I'm a sahm and get majority of the housework done because when H is home I don't want to spend time cleaning with him, i'd rather do fun stuff in that time frame. But that doesn't mean I'm his maid and pick up after him 24/7.
Another uo- my husband and our marriage comes first, above our children and will always be #1.
Omg...i always catch hell for this but here i what i feel about this...my man comes first. My children get love and attention and everything they need and some of what they want. My children will grow up...they will move on and in the meantime i havw to make sure our relationship is solid. He will be all i have one day and i don't want to be sitting across from him wondering who he is and where all the time went. Now don't get me wrong...i do and do for my kids. But this is somethong very important to me and i am always told what a bad mom i am for even speaking such filth....
My UO... I hate the snark.. I watched snark go way to far and cross the lines in the Oct 2014 group.. to the point where this wasn't really a community about to-be-mom topics.. instead it turned into many nasty threads where mean girls and victims alike posted over and over and over again... people calling other's bumps "fat" or "bloat".. and that was the not so bad stuff... It's like a road rage mentality.. people feel like they can be awful and hide behind anonymity... I thought steering clear of the drama myself would make it ok... but.... it was just irritating and me and 90% of the group checked out..
I like these boards to be more civilized than that... If someone what's to be an uglier version of themselves bc they are pregnant-- target that to your friends and family-- not other expecting moms that look like easy targets.
That's my UO
I think there's a difference between being an asshole and snark Calling someone fat is just plain immature and mean.
I am new here .. but thought I would come out with a bang - my UO is when people refer to their children with their first and middle name! It is called a "first name" for a reason, and unless you are hoping your child aspires to work the pole - 2 names is not necessary.
Another UO I have is that I find it very obnoxious that people with smart phones can be so stupid! Why are you going to ask me a question when you have Google on your phone and you can look it up? If you were asking for an opinion then that's different, but a simple question that can be googled is another. Use your brains people!
Agreed, but I guess my UO is that I just don't care that much. I don't mean that to sound terrible, but I'm taking the "things are going to go the way they go even if I don't see the baby every week" approach. I don't need to see it, I don't need to hear it. I have confirmation that it's in there and that's about all I need. I'm living day to day, my life isn't only about being pregnant, and I'm not about to live in a little bubble focused only on bringing this child into the world. If I start bleeding or cramping or have any other indication that something might be wrong, obviously I'll do what any pregnant mom would do ... but until then, I honestly don't concern myself at all about when my next appointment is going to be.
@ bostonbaby1 - When that happens to me IRL, I say, "if only there was a way that we could find an answer to that question?" It's usually for a question like, "what was the name of that actor?" Sometimes I have to use the line on myself...
UO: I think people use their cell phones too much. I feel like I rarely see a younger person (under age 40) out in public alone and they aren't looking at their phone.
@ bostonbaby1 - When that happens to me IRL, I say, "if only there was a way that we could find an answer to that question?" It's usually for a question like, "what was the name of that actor?" Sometimes I have to use the line on myself...
Lol! I do stuff like that all the time too. I was more thinking about some of the posts that have been on this board and the fact that some people don't know that we are not Google;-)
I hate the words preggers and prego. It sounds junior high-ish. I also hate when people refer to a boyfriend as "hubby". If you aren't married you haven't earned that right and it isn't even close to the same thing - even if you've lived together for years.
I CAN'T STAND it when people use words like "wen" "cuz" and such. It makes me twitch!! And let's be honest, it doesn't take that much longer to spell out "when" with an "h". I get it that it's more of a younger culture thing, and I just cant jump on that bandwagon!! Now "lol" and "haha" are things that I do on the "reg".
I will be a smart ass and add something silly to a word like "googlez" when I am feeling spunky.
Ugh, as a teacher, this drives me crazy. I always assume the poster is A) under 18 years old or uneducated and not able to spell. But I'm old and a dork. When I text, I write out all the words. I'm probably in a minority, lol
My UO is when people breathe or eat loudly. I immediately go crazy and if I could my face would get red, fire and smoke would come out of my ears, and daggers out of my eyes. It is so painful for me. All I can do is focus on the sound and then my body starts mirroring the speed and intensity in some weird obsessive way.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
Another UO: I think they should require people who turn 60 get another driver's test...And every 5 years after that.
Funny...I did a speech on this back in high school. We had to persuade the teacher on something and this was the topic that I chose.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
MY UO: I'm tired of reading of how repetitive some posts are getting. Paradoxically that becomes repetitive in itself. If you get annoyed at a title of a post, then don't read it or respond. Someone usually posts a response anyway so they are getting some kind of support. I feel like we're not going to be able to change this and it'll get worse in the next few months (16 week appt, genders, anatomy scans, glucose test, nurseries, strollers, bla bla bla), so there's no use complaining about it. People will end up posting anyway.
My UO is when people breathe or eat loudly. I immediately go crazy and if I could my face would get red, fire and smoke would come out of my ears, and daggers out of my eyes. It is so painful for me. All I can do is focus on the sound and then my body starts mirroring the speed and intensity in some weird obsessive way.
Oh you would hate me then!!! Lol I'm one of those people that chews and breathes loudly! I really try not to but I can't help it. It's because I'm deaf in one ear and I can't tell that I'm doing it. It's a big insecurity of mine.
Going along with the pot discussion, I wish they would either make it legal in all states or illegal in all states. I don't, nor have I ever used pot so I could care less either way, but since it became legalized in Colorado there have been so many people moving here. There's traffic everywhere and commute times have at least doubled in the city. It pisses me of and it's so frustrating!
I have a UO that will probably make some people throw flaming arrows at me BUT... I can't stand when people have an excessive amount of children and are pregnant yet again! I work in the medical field so perhaps this is why but, only have the number of kids you can honestly handle! This is not the time to be having 15+ children. Birth control was made for a reason!
Also, my hubby is very important to me And I can't stand loud chewers or crinkly granola bar/chip bag wrappers!!!
PS: I thoroughly enjoyed reading all the posts today because I am exceptionally grouchy. I don't agree with all of you but I have loved the free venting
My UO is when people breathe or eat loudly. I immediately go crazy and if I could my face would get red, fire and smoke would come out of my ears, and daggers out of my eyes. It is so painful for me. All I can do is focus on the sound and then my body starts mirroring the speed and intensity in some weird obsessive way.
Oh you would hate me then!!! Lol I'm one of those people that chews and breathes loudly! I really try not to but I can't help it. It's because I'm deaf in one ear and I can't tell that I'm doing it. It's a big insecurity of mine.
I know it makes me a horrible person!! I know people can't help it. There are reasons why it happens, but it is like nails on a chalkboard for me.
My poor DH. He gets a look from me everytime he drinks out of a soda can. He does this thing when he gets to the end and there are a few sips left and he lowers and raises the can three times with progressively longer and louder sips until it is all gone.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
My UO is when people breathe or eat loudly. I immediately go crazy and if I could my face would get red, fire and smoke would come out of my ears, and daggers out of my eyes. It is so painful for me. All I can do is focus on the sound and then my body starts mirroring the speed and intensity in some weird obsessive way.
Oh you would hate me then!!! Lol I'm one of those people that chews and breathes loudly! I really try not to but I can't help it. It's because I'm deaf in one ear and I can't tell that I'm doing it. It's a big insecurity of mine.
I know it makes me a horrible person!! I know people can't help it. There are reasons why it happens, but it is like nails on a chalkboard for me.
My poor DH. He gets a look from me everytime he drinks out of a soda can. He does this thing when he gets to the end and there are a few sips left and he lowers and raises the can three times with progressively longer and louder sips until it is all gone.
Hahahah!! I feel for you!! I bet if I could hear that shit I'd go totally crazy too! I have hearing aids but I just cannot make myself wear them because I can't stand all the extra noises that I'm not used to. Like the air conditioning, the clicking in the fridge or whatever annoying noises you all normal hearing people have to put up with. LOL!
I can't STAND the people that post vague statuses on Facebook to get attention...and then all the people that respond like "oh honey, what's wrong??" UGH!! SHUT UP!!
Oh man that reminds me of my DH! I feel bad for him too, because lately I've gotten so aggravated with him for the way he eats. If he's eating something messy like a burrito or ramen I can hear him "slurping" his food. It makes me want to pull my hair!! I didn't notice it until this pregnancy when I started having severe MS.
I have a few! Maybe it's because I work at a women's clinic but I can't freaking stand when want to justify that they are pregnant when they aren't. You had a negative at home pregnant test. You had a quantitative hcg, negative. You demanded a sono, no baby. But pleeeaasseeee, by all means, continue to argue in the boards and with your healthcare provider that the sore boobs, "morning sickness," and bloating are because you're pregnant. Gah! Or when people are barely pregnant and swear they felt the baby move. Honey, it's the size of a damn blueberry. That's a fart you felt rolling on through, not a baby. And the freaking acronyms. You had the time to come here to post, you have the time to spell things. Lastly, the "use the search function :-)" passive aggressive comments. If they cared they would have used it in the first place. Save your breath, babe. Rant over lol. That actually felt pretty good. :-) Hopefully I don't sound like Ann Perkins at the Whine and Cheese Club lol.
I can't STAND the people that post vague statuses on Facebook to get attention...and then all the people that respond like "oh honey, what's wrong??" UGH!! SHUT UP!!
OMG this X 100!! I can't stand it! Statuses like:
"FML"
"Noooooo"
"Why me?!"
"I hate you"
It makes me sick! I mean I can understand if it's once. But not more than once. Just put Facebook down ffs!
Oh AND why do people already have to name their kid at 7wk pregnant? I'm all for getting excited about names and considering an assortment but there is no way I have named my kid only a couple weeks after finding out I was pregnant. Mull it over a little!
Some people have names picked out way before they get pregnant. We have had a boy name picked out since I was pregnant with our daughter. If we have a boy, that will be his name. For a girl, I've got no idea.
I have another one. I can't stand when someone has to be friends with everyone. I know this girl, she's super sweet, but wants everyone to love her. And she tries super hard to fit into a "mom's club" around here. (It's not a club, just a group of friends) And she wants me to hang w them. But personally, I don't think they care for me and I don't care to kiss ass. I tell her that and she totally doesn't get it. Yea, I don't have many friends around here. But I can't stand working sooo hard to get someone to like me. How exhausting!
When you want to be my friend, I am loyal, I wear my heart on my sleeve, and would do anything for you. But I'm not going out of my way if you aren't for me.
I have another one. I can't stand when someone has to be friends with everyone. I know this girl, she's super sweet, but wants everyone to love her. And she tries super hard to fit into a "mom's club" around here. (It's not a club, just a group of friends) And she wants me to hang w them. But personally, I don't think they care for me and I don't care to kiss ass. I tell her that and she totally doesn't get it. Yea, I don't have many friends around here. But I can't stand working sooo hard to get someone to like me. How exhausting!
When you want to be my friend, I am loyal, I wear my heart on my sleeve, and would do anything for you. But I'm not going out of my way if you aren't for me.
This is more of a personal thing and I honestly see why some people do it ... But I get really annoyed when people post that they heard the heartbeat at 8-10 weeks. Not only does it make me personally anxious because I still can't hear my baby's heartbeat on a Doppler but I see that it also makes everyone else anxious. Women start freaking out that they didn't hear it on a doctors Doppler at 11 weeks, even though the doctor isnt concerned. It is an exception to the rule to hear it that early!! It's great you can hear it super early, but keep it to yourself if you can! Especially when someone is stressing out about it and people post things like "well I heard mine at 8 weeks 1 day so not sure what's going on with you..." You aren't helping anyone!
I kinda wish it was like the old days and you went until 20 weeks without seeing anything. I'm a worry wart but sometimes all this new technology just gives you more to worry about!
Just to preface... I am a stay at home mom of two.
My UO is that I hate when other stay at home moms say the ever popular, "being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world." Seriously? If staying at home is hard, you shouldn't be doing it. If you're not having fun and feeling fulfilled, your kids can probably feel your resentment. Some moms go to work for 12 hour shifts then come home to the same mess that you had all of nap time to clean up. Yes, it can be emotionally difficult to spend every waking moment with a two year old, but it is by no means the hardest job!
This is more of a personal thing and I honestly see why some people do it ... But I get really annoyed when people post that they heard the heartbeat at 8-10 weeks. Not only does it make me personally anxious because I still can't hear my baby's heartbeat on a Doppler but I see that it also makes everyone else anxious. Women start freaking out that they didn't hear it on a doctors Doppler at 11 weeks, even though the doctor isnt concerned. It is an exception to the rule to hear it that early!! It's great you can hear it super early, but keep it to yourself if you can! Especially when someone is stressing out about it and people post things like "well I heard mine at 8 weeks 1 day so not sure what's going on with you..." You aren't helping anyone!
I kinda wish it was like the old days and you went until 20 weeks without seeing anything. I'm a worry wart but sometimes all this new technology just gives you more to worry about!
Ok end rant
I don't understand why someone should keep their excitement at hearing their baby's heartbeat for the first time to themselves just because it may make someone else nervous. Every mom has the right to be excited about that and not have to keep it to themselves. Unless they are jumping in your face about it and taunting you (which I doubt), it's natural to be excited and want to share that.
Going along with the pot discussion, I wish they would either make it legal in all states or illegal in all states. I don't, nor have I ever used pot so I could care less either way, but since it became legalized in Colorado there have been so many people moving here. There's traffic everywhere and commute times have at least doubled in the city. It pisses me of and it's so frustrating!
Okay… So it may not be a UO, maybe more of just a fact that I am a hypocrite. I believe in the legalization of marijuana but there is no way that I want dispensaries anywhere near my neighborhood or near any of my commercial properties.
I also hate how repetitive some of the posts have become... For example, the use the search function post. It is annoying because if people would take the time to read through what the responses are as to why it is a good idea to use the search button then they wouldn't have to ask yet again... There are some things in life that there are just no avoiding. My UO is that if you don't like reading that post then don't read it. And if you don't like reading people posting please try the search button, then ignore it.
Re: UO??
My UO... I hate the snark.. I watched snark go way to far and cross the lines in the Oct 2014 group.. to the point where this wasn't really a community about to-be-mom topics.. instead it turned into many nasty threads where mean girls and victims alike posted over and over and over again... people calling other's bumps "fat" or "bloat".. and that was the not so bad stuff... It's like a road rage mentality.. people feel like they can be awful and hide behind anonymity... I thought steering clear of the drama myself would make it ok... but.... it was just irritating and me and 90% of the group checked out..
I like these boards to be more civilized than that... If someone what's to be an uglier version of themselves bc they are pregnant-- target that to your friends and family-- not other expecting moms that look like easy targets.
That's my UO
Calling someone fat is just plain immature and mean.
Oh and Camel Toes should be illegal!
ANOTHER UO: I think that they should lower the age at which you can drink to 18 and raise the age at which you can drive to 21
I think they should require people who turn 60 get another driver's test...And every 5 years after that.
I'm digging all the UO today!
My UO is when people breathe or eat loudly. I immediately go crazy and if I could my face would get red, fire and smoke would come out of my ears, and daggers out of my eyes. It is so painful for me. All I can do is focus on the sound and then my body starts mirroring the speed and intensity in some weird obsessive way.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
Funny...I did a speech on this back in high school. We had to persuade the teacher on something and this was the topic that I chose.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
Also, my hubby is very important to me And I can't stand loud chewers or crinkly granola bar/chip bag wrappers!!!
I know it makes me a horrible person!! I know people can't help it. There are reasons why it happens, but it is like nails on a chalkboard for me.
My poor DH. He gets a look from me everytime he drinks out of a soda can. He does this thing when he gets to the end and there are a few sips left and he lowers and raises the can three times with progressively longer and louder sips until it is all gone.
Married - 10/10/2009
DS - Due 11/3/2012 born 9/28/2012 due to Severe Preeclampsia and HELLP Syndrome
DD - EDD 12/30/15
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou|| [url=http;//www.fertilityfriend.com]Ovulation Chart[/url|| <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com" style="font-size:smaller;" >Ovulation Chart</
Me:34 DH:41 1 son: 6 2 step sons: 18, 12
BFP: 4/24/08 - Missed Miscarriage found 5/29/08
BFP: 11/21/08 - DS born 7/13/09
BFP:5/8/14 - Chemical pregnancy
BFP: 4/11/15....stick baby stick!!!
Oh man that reminds me of my DH! I feel bad for him too, because lately I've gotten so aggravated with him for the way he eats. If he's eating something messy like a burrito or ramen I can hear him "slurping" his food. It makes me want to pull my hair!! I didn't notice it until this pregnancy when I started having severe MS.
"FML"
"Noooooo"
"Why me?!"
"I hate you"
It makes me sick! I mean I can understand if it's once. But not more than once. Just put Facebook down ffs!
Jamie
Yea, I don't have many friends around here. But I can't stand working sooo hard to get someone to like me. How exhausting!
When you want to be my friend, I am loyal, I wear my heart on my sleeve, and would do anything for you. But I'm not going out of my way if you aren't for me.
Jamie
Jamie
I kinda wish it was like the old days and you went until 20 weeks without seeing anything. I'm a worry wart but sometimes all this new technology just gives you more to worry about!
Ok end rant
My UO is that I hate when other stay at home moms say the ever popular, "being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world." Seriously? If staying at home is hard, you shouldn't be doing it. If you're not having fun and feeling fulfilled, your kids can probably feel your resentment. Some moms go to work for 12 hour shifts then come home to the same mess that you had all of nap time to clean up. Yes, it can be emotionally difficult to spend every waking moment with a two year old, but it is by no means the hardest job!
Jamie
I also hate how repetitive some of the posts have become... For example, the use the search function post. It is annoying because if people would take the time to read through what the responses are as to why it is a good idea to use the search button then they wouldn't have to ask yet again... There are some things in life that there are just no avoiding. My UO is that if you don't like reading that post then don't read it. And if you don't like reading people posting please try the search button, then ignore it.