Rant please

Re: Rant please

• TheEA member

  May 2015

  It sucks when two people you love don't get along. However, I do have to say that your mom should have no say what so ever in naming your baby. Nor should she have a say in whether or not he gets circumsized. These decisions are up to you and the father.
  If you aren't crazy about the name he likes and he doesn't like your favorite then they should both be off the table. Once you settle on a name maybe keep it a secret until the birth. As far as deciding on circumcision, you need to have a private conversation with your fiancé on the subject. Do research to find out the pros and cons. Make the final decision with your fiancé. If your mom doesn't like it then it's her problem and she'll have to get over it. This isn't her baby. This is just my opinion on the matter, you know what is best for you and your family.
  Good luck! Try not to stress!

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• bean8213 member

  May 2015

  TheEA said:

  It sucks when two people you love don't get along. However, I do have to say that your mom should have no say what so ever in naming your baby. Nor should she have a say in whether or not he gets circumsized. These decisions are up to you and the father.
  If you aren't crazy about the name he likes and he doesn't like your favorite then they should both be off the table. Once you settle on a name maybe keep it a secret until the birth. As far as deciding on circumcision, you need to have a private conversation with your fiancé on the subject. Do research to find out the pros and cons. Make the final decision with your fiancé. If your mom doesn't like it then it's her problem and she'll have to get over it. This isn't her baby. This is just my opinion on the matter, you know what is best for you and your family.
  Good luck! Try not to stress!

  Yes to ALL of the above.

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• justkeeptrying member

  May 2015

  Agreed with PP. My DH does not want our baby circumcised and I know my mom has a different opinion. But it's not her decision, it's ours.
  
  We haven't shared our names with anyone as we know somebody will love it and somebody else will hate it. People are less likely to tell you they don't like a name after you've already given it to your child. Anyone who does that is just a big jerk. Again, this is a decision for you and your SO to make together. Nobody else can decide this for you.

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• trishadobel member

  May 2015

  I totally agree with what was the poster above said. You and your fiancé need to be the two deciding on names and curcumcision. I know my husband is stubborn enough that he would dig his feet in on something like that just because, whether he agreed or not. I am very close with my mom and have found myself a few times telling her it was time to back off. I wish you luck, this can be hard!!!

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• ALITAYLOR23 member

  May 2015

  In the end it will be up to me and my fiancé just sucks my mom isn't being more supportive and they're both just nagging and nagging about each other and I'm going crazy!

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• rosannewild member

  May 2015

  ^^what she said^^ having two people you care about have a tug-of-war over these issues is just wrong. It is between you and the baby's father. You may love your mom, but she needs to butt out on these issues. It will just bring more tension to an already bad situation.

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• robynjeannette member

  May 2015

  I find it's so much easier if my husband and I just keep things to ourselves and don't tell people. We aren't revealing the name before birth, exactly to avoid the issues you're describing. So just a suggestion, decide things privately with your fiance before telling your mom anything.

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• scubakate member

  May 2015

  Unless your mom was in bed with you guys when conception occurred, she has zero say in name or circumcision.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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