Rant please

ALITAYLOR23

i know everyone has their own issues but I have to rant somewhere to someone since I have no one to talk to in my personal life. My mother and fiancé hate each other. Absolutely hate each other. Which makes it so hard for me. They also have complete different opinions on everything.

My mom means a lot to me and her opinion does too but it is his baby. He wants one name and I don't mind it but I don't like it but my mom hates it. My mom wants a different name which I really like but he doesn't at all. So the name is a huge issue right now.

Next issue, circumcision. He says no I say yes my mom says yes but my mom snapped on him about it which makes him say no even more because he knows my mom wants us too.

I am going crazy out of my mind with these two fighting constantly I just want to say I'm doing whatever the eff I want and they Cuba either like it or get the eff out. There's no exact response I'm looking for just needed to go on about how annoying they're both being for me and should keep their comments to themselves because I'm exhausted taking care of our 18 mo old and being this pregnant.

TheEA

It sucks when two people you love don't get along. However, I do have to say that your mom should have no say what so ever in naming your baby. Nor should she have a say in whether or not he gets circumsized. These decisions are up to you and the father.
If you aren't crazy about the name he likes and he doesn't like your favorite then they should both be off the table. Once you settle on a name maybe keep it a secret until the birth. As far as deciding on circumcision, you need to have a private conversation with your fiancé on the subject. Do research to find out the pros and cons. Make the final decision with your fiancé. If your mom doesn't like it then it's her problem and she'll have to get over it. This isn't her baby. This is just my opinion on the matter, you know what is best for you and your family.
Good luck! Try not to stress!

bean8213

TheEA said:

It sucks when two people you love don't get along. However, I do have to say that your mom should have no say what so ever in naming your baby. Nor should she have a say in whether or not he gets circumsized. These decisions are up to you and the father.
If you aren't crazy about the name he likes and he doesn't like your favorite then they should both be off the table. Once you settle on a name maybe keep it a secret until the birth. As far as deciding on circumcision, you need to have a private conversation with your fiancé on the subject. Do research to find out the pros and cons. Make the final decision with your fiancé. If your mom doesn't like it then it's her problem and she'll have to get over it. This isn't her baby. This is just my opinion on the matter, you know what is best for you and your family.
Good luck! Try not to stress!

Yes to ALL of the above.

justkeeptrying

Agreed with PP. My DH does not want our baby circumcised and I know my mom has a different opinion. But it's not her decision, it's ours.

We haven't shared our names with anyone as we know somebody will love it and somebody else will hate it. People are less likely to tell you they don't like a name after you've already given it to your child. Anyone who does that is just a big jerk. Again, this is a decision for you and your SO to make together. Nobody else can decide this for you.

trishadobel

I totally agree with what was the poster above said. You and your fiancé need to be the two deciding on names and curcumcision. I know my husband is stubborn enough that he would dig his feet in on something like that just because, whether he agreed or not. I am very close with my mom and have found myself a few times telling her it was time to back off. I wish you luck, this can be hard!!!

ALITAYLOR23

In the end it will be up to me and my fiancé just sucks my mom isn't being more supportive and they're both just nagging and nagging about each other and I'm going crazy!

rosannewild

^^what she said^^ having two people you care about have a tug-of-war over these issues is just wrong. It is between you and the baby's father. You may love your mom, but she needs to butt out on these issues. It will just bring more tension to an already bad situation.

robynjeannette

I find it's so much easier if my husband and I just keep things to ourselves and don't tell people. We aren't revealing the name before birth, exactly to avoid the issues you're describing. So just a suggestion, decide things privately with your fiance before telling your mom anything.

scubakate

Unless your mom was in bed with you guys when conception occurred, she has zero say in name or circumcision.