There have been a few questions recently where I am thinking to myself 'have you READ a pregnancy book?'
I wouldn't even go that far... How about "do you have any common sense?!"
Or heard of google? Ask freaking Siri! She'll look it up for you so you don't have to type. Maybe it's because I'm cranky, but I swear some of these threads are started so one of us can say, "check/post on the symptom board," or "ask your doctor." I realize that we're all approaching the end, but common sense does not have to go out the window as our babies increase in size. Wait...maybe there's some correlation here that no one has studied yet.
My in laws will be visiting for the first time once baby is here. I understand they couldn't afford the tickets out here, but I can't help but feel pissed off. We've lived in Missouri for five years, and they've never bothered to even try to visit. I understand I'm hormonal, but they actually told my mom that they didn't want to spend money on tickets "just to see us" (DH and I). I want to say something, but I know I can't.. Just wanted to get it out. Thank you ladies!
Relatedly, as we are in fact heading into the home stretch... Why so many newbies? What is even the point of joining this late?
I don't think most new posters (or really most in general, all along) think of it as "joining" anything. That's why so many post and never answer any follow up questions or come back to even check the responses they got. I think most people really see this as a pregnancy-focused Yahoo Answers. Which might partially explain why there's so much butt hurt when we say "ask your doctor" or "use the search bar," really. Huh.
So I know I previously whined on the Mothers Day thread about spending tomorrow with FIs entire extended family. FI just told me that he now has to work tomorrow so not only will we not be going to the family get together, I will be spending the day alone. I am the first to admit I'm a brat but I was actually starting to look forward to just getting out of the house tomorrow- I bought a new dress and painted my nails, and bought a hostess gift for his brother's MIL.... MEH
Posted a rant yesterday about the coworker bringing her sick kid to work. Kid has stomach bug with 103 fever. Just vomited and had diarrhea. Really praying for her sake that it's something I ate today & not a stomach bug...
Raven isn't a too common name, but I can name ten I've met over the years. my cousin and I share the name. He's ten years younger and has a wild spelling (Rayvin), which makes no sense to me, but it's cool. no name is unique, that doesn't mean you can't love it. I've noticed the name DH and I picked being used more, which is great. it's a cool name. We love it, that's what matters.
I'm more focused on baby's health and if I have everything ready. I don't, I'm no where near ready. I also have this feeling he'll arrive sooner than I'd like. oh well, not like schedules matter to LO anyway right, ha?
I have a Mother's day rant. Being a mom to a fur baby is not even close to the same thing as having a child. It pisses me off to no end when I see "fur baby mom's are moms too!" I have pets, and I have been devastated when they passed but it is not the same. At all. Not even kinda close, and I don't care how much you love you Mr. Fluffybottom. I could go on forever but I think the difference is this: losing a pet is painful and hard. I can't even imagine the pain of losing a child, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy and to even think about the possibility of losing DS... I can't even go there.
I also wish there was a way I could hug all of the moms who suffered a miscarriage today. Even if you lost your baby before they took a breath, you are still a mom and my heart hurts for you.
My rant is Mother's Day related too... Probably being too sensitive but DH put a thoughtful fb post directed at his mom and completely forgot to mention me... So I am feeling slighted and then infuriated by it... He went out and got me flowers and breakfast with DS but I got so annoyed reading his fb post that makes his mom look like "mom of the year" (she's definitely not)... And like I don't exist.... Ugh put it here so I didn't bring down the Mother's Day post....
This is perhaps more of a FFFC or UO, but I do not feel this is my first Mother's Day in any way. No judgment as I understand why others believe it is appropriate for a pregnant person to be called a mother. For me, I will be a mother when my baby is outside the womb.
I could punch my FIL in the face. He makes a huge deal about being a family (acted like a complete jerk on Christmas morning because we didn't get to their house at 7 am-the fact that I had a migraine didn't matter) and every year on father's day we go out to eat and he is all about himself. Easter we spent with my MIL's family and it also happened to be his birthday, he fell asleep in a recliner at her sister's house and whined the whole time he wanted to go home and nap. Today rolls around and we won't get to see my mom as they live 2 hours away so I think we definitely should go spend time with MIL because no one ever does anything nice for her regardless of the fact that she goes above and beyond for everyone else. She decided that she would like to cook out and we have been telling him for days we wanted to grill after church and he never responded. Now DH gets off the phone with his mom and apparently FIL is going to be at church all day long and never bothered to tell anyone. So now we're going over there to see her and getting $5 Little Ceasars pizza. I wish I felt like cooking her a huge meal because I tired of her getting the shaft. I'm really pissed. And did DH or his sister even mention doing anything for her? No,I was the one that even suggested we do something. Grrrrr
Sitting on the beach watching this idiot family basically torture their dog. She's whining and is clearly in distress and keeps licking the sand (probably because she's thirsty) and the brat kids just keep laughing when she coughs. It's actually hurting my heart not to go over and offer the dog water. Ruining my day.
Edit: Not to mention in my town dogs are not allowed on the beach May 1-October 1.
Sitting on the beach watching this idiot family basically torture their dog. She's whining and is clearly in distress and keeps licking the sand (probably because she's thirsty) and the brat kids just keep laughing when she coughs. It's actually hurting my heart not to go over and offer the dog water. Ruining my day.
Edit: Not to mention in my town dogs are not allowed on the beach May 1-October 1.
Poor dog. I'd go offer the dog some water and tell them off if they gave me crap about it. Take care of your dog or don't fucking have a dog. X(
Sitting on the beach watching this idiot family basically torture their dog. She's whining and is clearly in distress and keeps licking the sand (probably because she's thirsty) and the brat kids just keep laughing when she coughs. It's actually hurting my heart not to go over and offer the dog water. Ruining my day.
Edit: Not to mention in my town dogs are not allowed on the beach May 1-October 1.
I'd also go give the dog some water. If they give you the side eye, tell them your choice was to give the poor, dehydrated dog some water, or tell off to the authorities that they have a dog on beach when its not allowed (so that they can thusly take the dog home, where it can gave some water). They can choose which action you take.
I feel like a total brat posting this, but I need to vent! Today we spent the day with DH's grandma. She's an incredibly sweet lady, but sometimes she makes comments that just get under my skin. The basic thing is she seems to think her experiences are the only ones - like everyone's life will work out exactly like hers. She asked me today if I plan to get an epidural. I told her that I plan to if I feel like I need one (so most likely yes) but I'm going to try to go natural as long as I can. She rolled her eyes and said, "well, trust me, when you have a 54 hour labor, you're going to wish you had!" 1) who says I'll have a 54 hour labor?! And 2) if it lasts that long, there will be PLENTY of time for me to ask. She also informed me that she expects me to be at the family 4th of July party - which I genuinely would like to go to, but I'm concerned about germs and if I'll even be feeling up to it, since if LO arrives late she could be barely 2 weeks old. I nicely explained to her that I hope to come, but I'm leaving it to my doctor's discretion and if they advise against it we're going to have to miss. She again blew me off and started talking about how she went back to a normal routine right away, blah blah blah - and then said it that when she got a hemorrhage because of it, it wasn't THAT bad, and she'd do it again! What?!
Again, she's a really nice lady... But I had SUCH hard time biting my tongue today. I think DH noticed, because when we left he made a comment about how he thinks she's losing her filter. Um, ya think?!
@karaelaine1991 LOL!! From the outside, I can laugh at the silliness of Grandma, but I'm sure it's way less funny in person. Sympathies!
Ugh, can we just not with photos of symptoms and anything body related? Bumps and babies are all I can stand. I know I will need to be less squeamish when LO arrives but dealing with my baby's and my own body stuff is a bit different than an Internet stranger's, no?!
One of my best friends, who has a 10 month old, gave me hibiscus tea last week. I have had 2.5 cups over the course of the week, and assumed she knew it was safe for pregnancy. I have been sooo careful about which teas I drink. Was sipping on it tonight and thought I'd better Google it. Yep. Not recommended. "MAY be linked to miscarriage." I am not going to worry, what's done is done, but ugh...
@amark11 haha, yeah, I've just been telling myself she's probably getting senile and doesn't realize that some of the stuff she's saying is unwelcome/just plain crazy... but it does get old! And yeah, those pictures were a bit much!
'At least we aren't getting mucus plug pictures... I've been lurking around on the May board and there's been at least 3 different ladies posting them. What is the matter with people!?!
Its a small gripe but yesterday at my work party I was making my way to the food table (the catering had just been delivered, it smelled awesome!) and I get waylaid by a gentleman who I had seen in the bar a bunch of times, mostly recently the last 2 days I worked back to back when I was dying sick. He asks how I'm doing, remembering I was sick, and I tell him I'm better than I was but still fighting this thing, its made me pretty tired, I'm just gonna get some food and sit down and rest. And he proceeds to launch into a spiel about he didn't know I was pregnant (truly, my work shirt did a good job of making the bump look like not a bump) and then proceeds to detail to me the experience he had attending a rehearsal dinner, and then a wedding the next day, while his wife is in labor. Going to the hospital after the wedding, seeing his wife, seeing the baby, going back to the reception... And on and on.
And all I could think was - you've just learned I'm 8m pregnant. You remember me being deathly sick. I've just told you I'm still sick. I've also just told you I'm beat tired from being still sick. I've also just told you I wanted to get my food and sit down to rest. And you're standing here, not letting me go, telling me a long story about you basically attending a wedding, making me stand here with you. 1) get a clue and 2) let me at the food! and 3) what the hell is wrong with you that you as a genial old timer won't shoo a pregnant lady to a seat asap? [-(
ETA I saved the daily symptoms thread for last, and the comments above make me nervous. Here we go...
Sitting on the beach watching this idiot family basically torture their dog. She's whining and is clearly in distress and keeps licking the sand (probably because she's thirsty) and the brat kids just keep laughing when she coughs. It's actually hurting my heart not to go over and offer the dog water. Ruining my day.
Edit: Not to mention in my town dogs are not allowed on the beach May 1-October 1.
I'd also go give the dog some water. If they give you the side eye, tell them your choice was to give the poor, dehydrated dog some water, or tell off to the authorities that they have a dog on beach when its not allowed (so that they can thusly take the dog home, where it can gave some water). They can choose which action you take.
They ended up leaving about five minutes later and the dog happily gulped down water from the spigot by the boardwalk. My son will absolutely learn early on that animals deserve respect and rely on us to care for them when they can't do for themselves!!
I have been lurking in May as well (since my original dd was in May). I can tell a lot of them are getting anxious and nervous and just genuinely want to talk to somebody, anybody, that has any kind of comforting words as they are about to give birth. I understand that. BUT... My complaint is that a lot of there questions are being asked to death here just because they are not getting the answer they want anywhere else. I would almost bet they have googled, binged, yahooed, the Internet to death with am I in labor, when is labor questions and all of the sites are saying the exact same thing. Ten signs labor is close but everyone is different so it will come when it's time. And then they blow up the forum "is my labor starting!!!!" Ugh. Sorry I know that will be me in about three weeks but still.
I was lurking May and realized that soon (its probably already started) July and August and September will be lurking us. And I got a little indignant that we wouldn't have ourselves to ourselves anymore. Of course its a public forum and it never was in ANY way private - but you know what I mean?
I have something coming up in the next few weeks that I will need help from my in laws. DH and I asked them a few months ago if they could commit to helping me with my boys. Even a month ago, I asked them for help on a specific day. They always say yes but I know I shouldn't count on them. Tonight they were making plans with SIL (their favorite) for the day that I asked for help. I'm so upset. They go out of their way to help SIL all the time but it's like pulling teeth for them to help us. The do this with my other SIL (their oldest daughter) and it has affected their relationship. I feel like they have it in their minds that they are the best grandparents and are always there for the grandkids and completely ignore the fact that's it's because I put the effort into making sure that relationship happens. I'm the one who visits them and takes the boys, or I'm the one who makes the plans. They rarely come to our house to visit (we live 20 min away).
My parents live out of state and when I talked to them they committed to helping me out so I don't have to rely on my ILs. I guess it's just hard bc I grew up with the example that you would do anything for a friend or family member.
My gripe for the night is that its past midnight and I'm awake with a stomach bug. My husband cooked dinner and I have no idea what it was, but something made both of us sick. But of course lucky me got it much worse than he did. So I gave up on trying to sleep and decided to go downstairs and relax. Yay! *rolls eyes*
Ugh my family keeps asking me if my due date has changed. Hasn't changed since the last time they asked and not the time before that and so on. And baby boy will make his appearance when he pleases. It's getting annoying. I'm now ignoring all texts and call from my side of the family. They may not even get a text that the baby is born until after we are home and settled. Hormones? Probably. Will I follow through with above plan if they don't stop? You betcha!
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
That is disgusting!!! I hope you complained to a manager!
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
That is disgusting!!! I hope you complained to a manager!
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
That is disgusting!!! I hope you complained to a manager!
Ewwwwwww how terrible and disgusting!!!!
It was too late to go back by the time I noticed. Totally tweeted the picture and emailed the complaints inbox though. Bleh!
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
That is disgusting!!! I hope you complained to a manager!
Ewwwwwww how terrible and disgusting!!!!
It was too late to go back by the time I noticed. Totally tweeted the picture and emailed the complaints inbox though. Bleh!
How in the world is it too late to go back and complain!!!!? It's blood. It's not your blood...potentially spreading Infectious diseases has no time limit in my eyes when it comes to food service?? Do you not realize you might have ingested someone's blood?! I would be a crazy mad pregnant lady in the middle of Mickey D's right now!! And then off to the doc to make darn sure I haven't been in contact with hep C, HIV, anything!!!
I am very aware of what occurred and the potential risks. I am also aware that there are other methods of complaint aside from heading back to the restaurant and being the 'crazy mad pregnant lady in the middle of Mickey D's.' I filed a complaint with their head office, and brought attention to the occurrence via social media (facebook and twitter are powerful tools of complaint). By the time I noticed I was parked, on the bus and on my way to work - no turning back to have a temper tantrum in the middle of a fast food restaurant. I am sure that my method of complaint will be just as productive as yours would have been.
You are more reserved than I!! Mad kudos to you for sure. No flame towards you or how you reacted but the mention of blood and not being my own put me in a bit of a panic for you. I would have been an embarrassment to women everywhere though if it were me. Oh how I do love a good old fashioned meltdown:)
Doesn't have much to do with pregnancy, other than being emotional, but my fur baby I'm afraid will be making his way to heaven before too long. I got him in February off of Facebook from a girl I went to high school with claiming she had to rehome him due to moving and her landlord not allowing pets. He was a little skinny when I got him but otherwise happy and healthy. I live in the south and being so hot and humid and with the mosquito population almost unbearable, I took him to the vet for a heartworm test after I started hearing him coughing a lot. Low and behold he is so infected I can not only NOT have him treated for fear he'd die, I can't use prevention to at least kill the immature worms bc it will kill him as well. The vet says its day to day. I have to shove antibiotics and steroids and tranquilizer a down his throat to keep him calm and make him rest. It's physically and emotionally exhausting. I love this dog so much I could punch this girl in the uterus for not giving him the proper care he deserved. I now have to consider euthanizing him, which is breaking my heart. All dogs die, I get it. He's barely two. And he's the best dog I've ever had. I'm so furious I hope I never see her again. I guess that's what I get for not having him checked out right away.
It's summer drink days at Mcdonalds!! So this morning I head through the drive-thru on my way to work and buy a small coffee frappe. I drink about 1/2 of it before I turn it around and happen to look at the label. BAM blood was smeared all over the cup, and not my blood! If there is blood on the cup how can we be sure there was no blood *in* the cup. *shudder* soo gross!
Doesn't have much to do with pregnancy, other than being emotional, but my fur baby I'm afraid will be making his way to heaven before too long. I got him in February off of Facebook from a girl I went to high school with claiming she had to rehome him due to moving and her landlord not allowing pets. He was a little skinny when I got him but otherwise happy and healthy. I live in the south and being so hot and humid and with the mosquito population almost unbearable, I took him to the vet for a heartworm test after I started hearing him coughing a lot. Low and behold he is so infected I can not only NOT have him treated for fear he'd die, I can't use prevention to at least kill the immature worms bc it will kill him as well. The vet says its day to day. I have to shove antibiotics and steroids and tranquilizer a down his throat to keep him calm and make him rest. It's physically and emotionally exhausting. I love this dog so much I could punch this girl in the uterus for not giving him the proper care he deserved. I now have to consider euthanizing him, which is breaking my heart. All dogs die, I get it. He's barely two. And he's the best dog I've ever had. I'm so furious I hope I never see her again. I guess that's what I get for not having him checked out right away.
This is a real shame. Totally a preventable thing. This is 100% on your friend for not doing her duty as a pet parent. I hope you discuss this with her so at the very least, next time she owns a dog she does the right thing.
My sorrows for what you are going g thru. Bless your heart for giving him a loving home and making sure he has what he needs to be comfortable until the end. ❤
@mellymar I have considered talking to her about it. I just can't do it right now. I'm supposed to check in with his vet in the morning and see if he's progressing any to at least put him on heartgard. The steroids he's on right now are causing him to lose control of his bladder and he just looks at me so sad. He perks up when he sees me so i know he's not completely gone yet but if I'm so upset with this woman I could explode. With a baby coming in 5 weeks, I'm so exhausted and I feel so guilty for even thinking of euthanizing him. It will have to DH's call because I certainly cannot bear to be a part of it.
Re: Gripes and complaints
We've lived in Missouri for five years, and they've never bothered to even try to visit. I understand I'm hormonal, but they actually told my mom that they didn't want to spend money on tickets "just to see us" (DH and I).
I want to say something, but I know I can't.. Just wanted to get it out.
Thank you ladies!
Raven isn't a too common name, but I can name ten I've met over the years. my cousin and I share the name. He's ten years younger and has a wild spelling (Rayvin), which makes no sense to me, but it's cool. no name is unique, that doesn't mean you can't love it. I've noticed the name DH and I picked being used more, which is great. it's a cool name. We love it, that's what matters.
I'm more focused on baby's health and if I have everything ready. I don't, I'm no where near ready. I also have this feeling he'll arrive sooner than I'd like. oh well, not like schedules matter to LO anyway right, ha?
I also wish there was a way I could hug all of the moms who suffered a miscarriage today. Even if you lost your baby before they took a breath, you are still a mom and my heart hurts for you.
This question sums up my view of people in general. I cannot believe some of the things I hear people say and do. Is common sense really that hard???
Edit: Not to mention in my town dogs are not allowed on the beach May 1-October 1.
Poor dog. I'd go offer the dog some water and tell them off if they gave me crap about it. Take care of your dog or don't fucking have a dog. X(
Again, she's a really nice lady... But I had SUCH hard time biting my tongue today. I think DH noticed, because when we left he made a comment about how he thinks she's losing her filter. Um, ya think?!
Ugh, can we just not with photos of symptoms and anything body related? Bumps and babies are all I can stand. I know I will need to be less squeamish when LO arrives but dealing with my baby's and my own body stuff is a bit different than an Internet stranger's, no?!
And all I could think was - you've just learned I'm 8m pregnant. You remember me being deathly sick. I've just told you I'm still sick. I've also just told you I'm beat tired from being still sick. I've also just told you I wanted to get my food and sit down to rest. And you're standing here, not letting me go, telling me a long story about you basically attending a wedding, making me stand here with you. 1) get a clue and 2) let me at the food! and 3) what the hell is wrong with you that you as a genial old timer won't shoo a pregnant lady to a seat asap? [-(
ETA I saved the daily symptoms thread for last, and the comments above make me nervous. Here we go...
My parents live out of state and when I talked to them they committed to helping me out so I don't have to rely on my ILs. I guess it's just hard bc I grew up with the example that you would do anything for a friend or family member.
Thank goodness DH has sane family close by!
My sorrows for what you are going g thru. Bless your heart for giving him a loving home and making sure he has what he needs to be comfortable until the end. ❤