We are still naming our baby Charlotte, after my hubby's grandfather that passed away suddenly (Charlie) and I just don't understand what's wrong with a popular name? Or why people would totally change what they've been planning to name their child just because someone you don't even know named their baby that? I guess my thought is if you liked it enough to choose it why would you think of changing it?
I would just like to avoid a bunch of other kids in the same class / grade with the same name, is all. This family I know, their daughter is in school with FOUR other girls who all have the same name. And they all hang out, too. I don't need it to be unique, but I'd like to be able to call out for my kid at the park and not have half the kids in the park turn around at my holler. Also, my compromise boys name has been being used by some parents assigning it to girls, so I don't want a precedent to be set and have my potential boy go into school a year behind a girl with that name and get made fun of for 'having a girls name' because the kids don't know better, that the girl actually had a boys name.
We know that our names, Jack and Cora, are popular...doesn't phase me. My husband has a standard common name and he doesn't seem too traumatized by it
That's my big thing... Isabella is #5 (even though we're using Isabelle) which bothers me but it was the only name my husband and I both REALLY liked. I'm a Caitlyn (fairly common despite the less traditional spelling) and he's a Michael. We figured we never really got that annoyed when going to school with other people with our names so why would our daughter? After my husband presented that logic to me, i felt much better about using a more popular name. Doesn't make sense to pick a name we like less just to be more unique.
People tend to get really freaked out about this idea that there are going to be three other kids with the same name in their class at school. That is so unlikely, no matter what the name, even if it's number 1. Say there are 24 kids in the class and half are girls. That's 12, so if there are 4 girls with the same name that's 25%. No names are that popular. That's broad statistics, though. Is it possible that it freakishly happens anyway? Probably, but it could happen with a name that isn't all that popular, either. Because it would be a freak coincidence! So, @hoodoll82, if you were happy before, just stick with it. Evelyn's been growing in popularity for the past 10 years or so - it's not like it just came out of nowhere. Obviously just my opinion!
I just think the pearl-clutching at another child having the same name as yours just plays into that whole SS mentality right now. Do you think a child will be sitting in therapy 20 years from now saying..."I could've been an astronaut if only there wasn't another Jennifer in my class holding me back.."?
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I just think the pearl-clutching at another child having the same name as yours just plays into that whole SS mentality right now. Do you think a child will be sitting in therapy 20 years from now saying..."I could've been an astronaut if only there wasn't another Jennifer in my class holding me back.."?
Ha! For sure! I was born in '76, and I'm an Amy. Um, hello, most popular name then. There were 3 Amy's in my kinder class, and prob over 50 in my graduating class. Not a big deal. I survived.
Ha. Since you guys were mentioning names...... The name we are probably choosing is our neighbors dogs name.... Which I just now realized. Oh well. It's not a common name... Weird.
Here's my gripe. I drove 2 hrs to my gparents town for a mother daughter dinner banquet at my gmas church and my mom drove here from Kansas. I'm exhausted from driving and reflux and just soooo uncomfortable from where this kids head is up by my ribs & stomach. My mom just recently had weight loss surgery and is a psycho with how much energy she has..... She basically told me to suck it up and were going shopping right when she gets here in 15 min..... Ffffffffrrrick. Good for you that you weigh half of what you did but I weigh double ! And I'm f ing tired...... And I don't actually want to go anywhere esp with her perky self!!!!!!
Oh and also yesterday a friend who is due June 7 kept saying she was jealous of me and wished she was this "small" ........ Even pregnant ppl say the stupidest stuff to you......... Duh your due 3 weeks before me dear friend!
Watching Ellen right now it's all pregnant ftm In the audience! And I want to watch but the freaking audience won't stop shrieking!!!! I'm glad you got a momaroo but no more middle school little girl shriek! Annoying!
It really bugs me when people comment on how small I am and haven't really popped yet and I'm 32 weeks. Baby is measuring small and I'm having to go to extra appointments and ultrasounds. They all comment this stuff and act like it's such an amazing thing and I'm so lucky I'm not huge. Actually I'd love to be bigger just to know baby is doing ok.
5-10 people at work every single day ask when I'm due. They see me in the hall, and that is the first and only thing they want to ask me. Often the same people ask and then forget and ask a few days later. My due date is not that interesting! Please talk with me about ANYTHING else. I wouldn't mind a more original or insightful question about the baby. But it's mostly just asking about my due date and then gawking at my belly. Social skills, people! I don't think most non pregnant people realize that you don't HAVE to talk with a pregnant woman about being pregnant. We are a person first, not a pregnancy. It doesn't score them any points with me to ask dumb questions about it. But I'm afraid I was the same way before I got pregnant--I thought it showed concern in a good way and thought the pregnant woman would appreciate being asked. Nope!
Also, it drives me crazy when I open the window at work to get some fresh air, and someone is smoking right outside it. They use a lot of cleaning products at my workplace and on Fridays they do a hair salon and manicure services for the residents, and I try my best to get away from the chemical fumes. I'm super paranoid about inhaling any of those chemicals. I wish I could have nothing but pure air and sparkling clean water for my LO. It's not really the smokers' fault because their designated smoking areas are positioned relatively close to the windows of the rooms I am typically working in. But I still briefly want to kill them when I'm enjoying the fresh air and they suddenly light up. Also want to yell at the janitors when they bring their bleach soaked rags to wipe the tables while I'm eating or working, or when they mop or wax the floors anywhere nearby. I don't know what effect those smelly products have on a fetus and I'm terrified to find out. I hold it in and just leave the area as soon as I can because I know they're just doing their job, but inwardly I want to scream. I know a lot of nurses have healthy babies, right? So being around institutional settings with these cleaning products can't be that bad, right? I'm trying to reassure myself...
My FFFC is that I'm really disappointed that people didn't start noticing I was pregnant until 35 weeks. I like the attention but I only have a few weeks to enjoy it. Probably childish and AW...but...
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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My FFFC is that in really disappointed that people didn't start noticing I was pregnant until 35 weeks. I like the attention but I only have a few weeks to enjoy it. Probably childish and AW...but...
Sometimes I still think people just think I must be chunky
DH decided this would be a great time install a dishwasher. Csection scheduled for June 1, daughter #1 was 3 weeks early which means #2 could be arriving at any moment. Long story short- have had no kitchen sink all week and won't have one until the week of the 20th, pantry is torn apart and house is a disaster. A sure sign that #2 will be early! Arrrr!
Where to start? I've had coworkers calling in for the past two weeks & expecting everyone to pick up the slack for them. So today, after calling in yesterday, without a sub, a coworker does the only thing WORSE. She brings her kid to work with a 101-103 fever!!!!!! When I left this crazy day I was looking forward to my prenatal massage & facial I booked especially for today (after a crazy week at school & before crazy appointments & showers this month) & when I get there... THE LADY DIDNT PUT MY APPOINTMENT IN THE COMPUTER. & they're booked up next week. So I had a preggo meltdown today.
This morning, after coming in "under" on a kick count and noticing generally less movement over the past couple days, my husband and I went to the maternity unit of our local hospital. While there, the nurse very kindly tells me - AT THIRTY THREE WEEKS!!! - that I have an anterior placenta and that is probably why I have not been feeling quite as much movement. Apparently this was in my chart/files as of my mid-pregnancy ultrasound in January but I wasn't told.
The positive - baby's heart beat is fine and I have felt movement since. I was discharged from the hospital within 90 minutes.
The (to me) negative - why was I not told that my placenta was positioned this way until NOW? It doesn't change anything - still going to go to hospital if I "fail" my kick count, as I am instructed. However, I feel that knowing that information would have made life less stressful when I noticed less movement at certain points....
Anyway, this seemed like an appropriate thread to complain about that
Thanks for the perspective on names, all! I think I'm most bothered by the fact that we spent a lot of time on the name, and by happenstance what we choose with no outside influence is something in the top 20... Just ironic is all. And yeah, I was one of four "hoodoll82's" in a single high school course once... So while I didn't need something Yooneek for the sake of it, it was something I was trying to avoid. As a PP said, I guess it's not our fault we have good taste! And as another PP said, as a FTM I don't know the trends
This just in...... My mother suggested that I looked "peaked." And that I "could stand to wear some makeup more often." Ummm yah that makeup should restore the iron in my bloodstream that the baby is currently taking. Love you mom. Bah.
On the topic of popular v. unpopular names- my name (Kara) was pretty unique, at least when I was in elementary school, though it's become more popular now, and I always wished I had a more common name. To me, it always felt like the Rachels, Ashleys, Jessicas, Katies, etc. were in this little twin names club that I never got to be a part of. DH and I chose the name Olivia for LO because we genuinely adore it, but I feel zero guilt about it being in the top 5. Hopefully she won't mind but if does, oh well - no way for me to predict it.
And @klkonwi, with the neighbor's dog thing - my aunt gave her daughter the same name as her mom/my grandma's cat. The cat had been around for 2 years prior to my cousin's birth, AND the name is a boy's name. Poor kid.
Oh, and my other grandma, who is getting senile, told me at my baby shower that I have a fat face. Gotta love her! Lol
On the topic of popular v. unpopular names- my name (Kara) was pretty unique, at least when I was in elementary school, though it's become more popular now, and I always wished I had a more common name. To me, it always felt like the Rachels, Ashleys, Jessicas, Katies, etc. were in this little twin names club that I never got to be a part of. DH and I chose the name Olivia for LO because we genuinely adore it, but I feel zero guilt about it being in the top 5. Hopefully she won't mind but if does, oh well - no way for me to predict it.
And @klkonwi, with the neighbor's dog thing - my aunt gave her daughter the same name as her mom/my grandma's cat. The cat had been around for 2 years prior to my cousin's birth, AND the name is a boy's name. Poor kid.
Oh, and my other grandma, who is getting senile, told me at my baby shower that I have a fat face. Gotta love her! Lol
My sister's name is Kara, there were no others with her name. It always bothered her that she could never find key chains with her name and to this day people try to spell it with a C. I think it's a great name
On the topic of popular v. unpopular names- my name (Kara) was pretty unique, at least when I was in elementary school, though it's become more popular now, and I always wished I had a more common name. To me, it always felt like the Rachels, Ashleys, Jessicas, Katies, etc. were in this little twin names club that I never got to be a part of. DH and I chose the name Olivia for LO because we genuinely adore it, but I feel zero guilt about it being in the top 5. Hopefully she won't mind but if does, oh well - no way for me to predict it.
And @klkonwi, with the neighbor's dog thing - my aunt gave her daughter the same name as her mom/my grandma's cat. The cat had been around for 2 years prior to my cousin's birth, AND the name is a boy's name. Poor kid.
Oh, and my other grandma, who is getting senile, told me at my baby shower that I have a fat face. Gotta love her! Lol
My sister's name is Kara, there were no others with her name. It always bothered her that she could never find key chains with her name and to this day people try to spell it with a C. I think it's a great name
Yes!!! I still get excited on the rare occasion when I find something with my name on it, lol. And at my baby shower with DH's side of the family, one of his cousins spelled my name "Carra" - I was like, "really?!" sigh... As far as the name itself goes, I wouldn't say it's my favorite by any means, but at this point in my life I'm more comfortable with it. I can't imagine being named anything else, so I guess I like it? But as a kid I really didn't at all.
Dh and I both have super popular names. Upside always coud get the cool license plates trinkets with our names in a store. Lo is going to be named vivian, was in the top 300 last year. We like it, and I don't care if there are 8 others. My biggest complaint is probably that my dh always takes on a project of something that is in no way time sensitive to put off the project that he actually should do. Drives me insane, stop saying how you accomplished all this shit that you know damn well doesn't matter and do the shit that actually needs to be done. I'm also so over all the contractions, I got it body you are preparing but we got plenty of time for you to do that crap at work and not at 2am, the baby is sleeping in there how about you stop squeezing the crap out of me for no reason. i would really really love a day off to do nothing.
Loooove Vivian!! And Evelyn, @hoodoll82 And personally never once liked or wanted anything with my name on it, even though my name is common enough to always be available.
My husband is such a moron. We have a surprise bday party for one of my best friends husbands tonight. My husband really likes the guy but they aren't close friends. Last night he said to me that he didn't think he could go to the party because we had " stuff to do" around the house- like fold laundry. He is so OCD it makes me fucking mentallll!!!!! Dude!! Enjoy your life, the laundry can wait... So can the dishes. Every weekend he had these lists of things in his head that need to get done and he already works 80 hours a week- it seriously is effecting me that this guy can't just relax and enjoy himself.
My husbands been the same, wants to do all this shit thats not important and all I want to do is hang out with him as much as possible whilst its just the 2 of us. Maybe the nesting has skipped us and got them?
My husband is such a moron. We have a surprise bday party for one of my best friends husbands tonight. My husband really likes the guy but they aren't close friends. Last night he said to me that he didn't think he could go to the party because we had " stuff to do" around the house- like fold laundry. He is so OCD it makes me fucking mentallll!!!!! Dude!! Enjoy your life, the laundry can wait... So can the dishes. Every weekend he had these lists of things in his head that need to get done and he already works 80 hours a week- it seriously is effecting me that this guy can't just relax and enjoy himself.
On the topic of popular v. unpopular names- my name (Kara) was pretty unique, at least when I was in elementary school, though it's become more popular now, and I always wished I had a more common name. To me, it always felt like the Rachels, Ashleys, Jessicas, Katies, etc. were in this little twin names club that I never got to be a part of. DH and I chose the name Olivia for LO because we genuinely adore it, but I feel zero guilt about it being in the top 5. Hopefully she won't mind but if does, oh well - no way for me to predict it.
And @klkonwi, with the neighbor's dog thing - my aunt gave her daughter the same name as her mom/my grandma's cat. The cat had been around for 2 years prior to my cousin's birth, AND the name is a boy's name. Poor kid.
Oh, and my other grandma, who is getting senile, told me at my baby shower that I have a fat face. Gotta love her! Lol
My sister's name is Kara, there were no others with her name. It always bothered her that she could never find key chains with her name and to this day people try to spell it with a C. I think it's a great name
Yes!!! I still get excited on the rare occasion when I find something with my name on it, lol. And at my baby shower with DH's side of the family, one of his cousins spelled my name "Carra" - I was like, "really?!" sigh... As far as the name itself goes, I wouldn't say it's my favorite by any means, but at this point in my life I'm more comfortable with it. I can't imagine being named anything else, so I guess I like it? But as a kid I really didn't at all.
We're twins and our mom named me and our dad named her. I think it may have bothered her that I was named after 4 people and she was named after no one but it suits her and I like that our names flow together but don't rhyme like some people feel is necessary with twins. Anna and Kara has just always sounded right to me
Both my mom and dad called me within ten minutes of each other this morning 2 hours after I got in bed. Apparently to ask what office supplies we need (WTF). And they know I am working this weekend. Maybe I'll call them at 2am incessantly about some bullshit to see how they like it.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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Both my mom and dad called me within ten minutes of each other this morning 2 hours after I got in bed. Apparently to ask what office supplies we need (WTF). And they know I am working this weekend. Maybe I'll call them at 2am incessantly about some bullshit to see how they like it.
I put a post on facebook when I start nights letting everyone know not to contact me until 6pm unless urgent.. If someone calls me and wakes me up I politely return the call on my lunch break which is 3am. They only ever forget once.
I'm so sick of being bombarded via social media with pictures of really freaking ugly babies. I get it, you love your little angel and he/she is the most beautiful child you've ever seen, blah blah blah, but really that kid is hideous and I'm tired of his/her pictures clogging up my feed. Ugh.
And I'm also tired of holding in my thoughts on the matter. I feel like I'm about to blow!
Both my mom and dad called me within ten minutes of each other this morning 2 hours after I got in bed. Apparently to ask what office supplies we need (WTF). And they know I am working this weekend. Maybe I'll call them at 2am incessantly about some bullshit to see how they like it.
I put a post on facebook when I start nights letting everyone know not to contact me until 6pm unless urgent.. If someone calls me and wakes me up I politely return the call on my lunch break which is 3am. They only ever forget once.
If you have an iPhone, the Do Not Disturb setting is a lifesaver. Am six hours ahead of my family, so I set it automatically for 11 pm - 7 am daily. The group texts at 2 am no longer wake me up, and I don't have to ask my family to stop texting and calling so late. Win-win.
ETA: this setting silences your phone and also it does not vibrate or light up. So it is only when you actively go into your phone when you wake up (or are out of a meeting) that you see your missed calls and texts. You can also add numbers that always go through, or set it so that if the same number tries like twice in a row, the call goes through.
@dancegurl1118 I feel your pain. My sister and mom KNOW when I worked nights and called anyways. Lol If you've never worked nights you just don't get it. My DH always says, " hey I know what it's like I used to work 4pm to 12 am" Nope....... Not the same as 12 hr nights buddy! Good try tho.
My gripe today is I noticed that my belly is no longer getting bigger...... Only my thighs and ass. love you pregnancy.
@NotISaidtheCat I get what you mean about ppl that post every dang day a pic of their kid. I just deactivated my Facebook actually yesterday so I could avoid being one of those people!...... Im sure it's tempting when you think your kid is the cutest !
@dancegurl1118 I feel your pain. My sister and mom KNOW when I worked nights and called anyways. Lol If you've never worked nights you just don't get it. My DH always says, " hey I know what it's like I used to work 4pm to 12 am" Nope....... Not the same as 12 hr nights buddy! Good try tho. My gripe today is I noticed that my belly is no longer getting bigger...... Only my thighs and ass. love you pregnancy.
How infuriating is it when people try to discuss nightshifts with you and they are out of here by midnight. You work the afternoon. Thats what you work. not night shift. You have a day off, a sleep in and work in the same day. You are not 37 weeks pregnant awake at 3am trying to survive you idiot your asleep. in bed. where its nice and warm.
Ok, I discovered what annoys me more than questions on here that can only be answered by a medical professional: questions on here despite having already discussed the answer with a medical professional!!!
Seriously, how do you expect a public freaking forum to provide more informed advice about your body than your own freaking doctor? I know ladies worry, but have some freaking sense, no???!
@amark11 it's so annoying. I am pretty nice about simple things that even I as a nurse can answer and u could google but the other shit........
Like I really blew up on the 2nd induction thread where she said her doctor suggested it and didn't elaborate and ppl were just so eager to find out the situation. NO. Stupid. How do we know you are even saying what your doc is really concerned about....... It's an online forum. Yep we should tell you whether u should get induced or not........ Because we are qualified ! No!!!!! Bahhhhh
Re: Gripes and complaints
Also, my compromise boys name has been being used by some parents assigning it to girls, so I don't want a precedent to be set and have my potential boy go into school a year behind a girl with that name and get made fun of for 'having a girls name' because the kids don't know better, that the girl actually had a boys name.
Here's my gripe. I drove 2 hrs to my gparents town for a mother daughter dinner banquet at my gmas church and my mom drove here from Kansas. I'm exhausted from driving and reflux and just soooo uncomfortable from where this kids head is up by my ribs & stomach. My mom just recently had weight loss surgery and is a psycho with how much energy she has..... She basically told me to suck it up and were going shopping right when she gets here in 15 min..... Ffffffffrrrick. Good for you that you weigh half of what you did but I weigh double ! And I'm f ing tired...... And I don't actually want to go anywhere esp with her perky self!!!!!!
Also, it drives me crazy when I open the window at work to get some fresh air, and someone is smoking right outside it. They use a lot of cleaning products at my workplace and on Fridays they do a hair salon and manicure services for the residents, and I try my best to get away from the chemical fumes. I'm super paranoid about inhaling any of those chemicals. I wish I could have nothing but pure air and sparkling clean water for my LO. It's not really the smokers' fault because their designated smoking areas are positioned relatively close to the windows of the rooms I am typically working in. But I still briefly want to kill them when I'm enjoying the fresh air and they suddenly light up. Also want to yell at the janitors when they bring their bleach soaked rags to wipe the tables while I'm eating or working, or when they mop or wax the floors anywhere nearby. I don't know what effect those smelly products have on a fetus and I'm terrified to find out. I hold it in and just leave the area as soon as I can because I know they're just doing their job, but inwardly I want to scream.
I know a lot of nurses have healthy babies, right? So being around institutional settings with these cleaning products can't be that bad, right? I'm trying to reassure myself...
Sometimes I still think people just think I must be chunky
I've had coworkers calling in for the past two weeks & expecting everyone to pick up the slack for them.
So today, after calling in yesterday, without a sub, a coworker does the only thing WORSE. She brings her kid to work with a 101-103 fever!!!!!!
When I left this crazy day I was looking forward to my prenatal massage & facial I booked especially for today (after a crazy week at school & before crazy appointments & showers this month) & when I get there... THE LADY DIDNT PUT MY APPOINTMENT IN THE COMPUTER. & they're booked up next week.
So I had a preggo meltdown today.
And @klkonwi, with the neighbor's dog thing - my aunt gave her daughter the same name as her mom/my grandma's cat. The cat had been around for 2 years prior to my cousin's birth, AND the name is a boy's name. Poor kid.
Oh, and my other grandma, who is getting senile, told me at my baby shower that I have a fat face. Gotta love her! Lol
Too bad that we named her for Emma Watson. Ah well. C'est la vie.
My husbands been the same, wants to do all this shit thats not important and all I want to do is hang out with him as much as possible whilst its just the 2 of us. Maybe the nesting has skipped us and got them?
And I'm also tired of holding in my thoughts on the matter. I feel like I'm about to blow!
If you have an iPhone, the Do Not Disturb setting is a lifesaver. Am six hours ahead of my family, so I set it automatically for 11 pm - 7 am daily. The group texts at 2 am no longer wake me up, and I don't have to ask my family to stop texting and calling so late. Win-win.
ETA: this setting silences your phone and also it does not vibrate or light up. So it is only when you actively go into your phone when you wake up (or are out of a meeting) that you see your missed calls and texts. You can also add numbers that always go through, or set it so that if the same number tries like twice in a row, the call goes through.
If you've never worked nights you just don't get it. My DH always says, " hey I know what it's like I used to work 4pm to 12 am" Nope....... Not the same as 12 hr nights buddy! Good try tho.
My gripe today is I noticed that my belly is no longer getting bigger...... Only my thighs and ass.
Seriously, how do you expect a public freaking forum to provide more informed advice about your body than your own freaking doctor? I know ladies worry, but have some freaking sense, no???!
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Like I really blew up on the 2nd induction thread where she said her doctor suggested it and didn't elaborate and ppl were just so eager to find out the situation. NO. Stupid. How do we know you are even saying what your doc is really concerned about....... It's an online forum. Yep we should tell you whether u should get induced or not........ Because we are qualified ! No!!!!! Bahhhhh