Just my husband, no family at the hospital. I'm even thinking of waiting to call family until after the baby arrives! With my first, I had a very long labor, and my mom in particular drove me up the wall. Started sending me e-mail links to articles about the dangers to baby of long labor !
Just my husband And other than either my mom or DH's mom who end up getting the call to watch DD, no one will know that I'm in labor until after the baby is born. The first few hours of bonding with just the 3 of us is very important to us.
Just my husband, with in-laws and parents (if they make it on time) out in the waiting room. I'd like to keep it as calm as possible and have a little time with just the three of us before everyone comes in.
You guys, I am a FTM and have a question: is it common to have others there when you are in labor, but ask them to leave once you're about to push? As long as I feel relatively ok, I wouldn't be opposed to having others in the room until go time. Especially if I am in labor for many hours.
My husband only. I'd like to have my mom be at the hospital in case he needs anything! My MIL made a comment about coming to the hospital when I was in labor and I almost slapped her!!!!!!!!!!
My husband and I for the pushing but the entire family around during the labor stages - it will be at a birth center so more of a relaxed home atmosphere. After the birth it will be skin on skin time and feeding then getting cleaned up and all that fun stuff. After family will come in to see baby while I visit a little, eat our special dinner (for everyone) and then take a nap before going home.
Just my husband! My mom assumed she was going to be in there but I had to tell her no. She isn't very mothering and she tends to talk about whatever illnesses she is currently manifesting to the Drs. So we will leave her out in the waiting room.
Just my fiancée, although I've been struggling with inviting my mom. We haven't talked about it yet, but she can be very dramatic. I'd prefer not to have her there but am afraid she will be upset/offended.
You need to be comfortable in the delivery room. at least as comfortable as you can be. Don't out yourself in a situation where you have to worry about anyone other than you and your child in the delivery room. I made that mistake with my first and it was an awful experience. Good luck!
Husband and sister. She is going to be our photographer. Unless my mom wants to come in (which I know she won't ) everyone else is banned from the delivery room.
I am planning on having just my Mom and boyfriend in the room with me, everyone else who want to come can wait in the waiting room. If my labor is long I will allow visitors depending on how I feel but when things start getting closer and my baby is actually on her way the nurses will be told ahead of time to know it's time to clear the room. I would really love for it to be my boyfriend and I but he is so scared of anything medical and honestly my mom I am positive would be my only sanity lol I already know my boyfriend is going to either pass out or will need to step out. I can't pciture him handling the whole thing and if he does, boy will he surprise me!
Is anyone else weird about whose in the waiting room? My parents live far away and will HOPEFULLY be here when I'm in labor, If they are, I'd like my mom at the hospital just in case my husband needs anything (as I previously mentioned in my earlier post) but I'd like my dad and sister to stay at our house with our dog and then come a little bit after the baby arrives. I'd really like some time alone with just my husband and the baby. My in-laws only live about a half hour away from the hospital so I'd like to just call them and tell them when it's okay to come visit.
Is it rude of me to be pushy about who can visit and when? I understand everyone will be excited but I am the one giving birth after all.
Just DH and I. One of my friends went into labor and didn't even tell anyone until the baby was born (but she also was in labor for only four hrs, in the middle of the night). I like the idea of keeping it as low key as possible.
Is anyone else weird about whose in the waiting room? My parents live far away and will HOPEFULLY be here when I'm in labor, If they are, I'd like my mom at the hospital just in case my husband needs anything (as I previously mentioned in my earlier post) but I'd like my dad and sister to stay at our house with our dog and then come a little bit after the baby arrives. I'd really like some time alone with just my husband and the baby. My in-laws only live about a half hour away from the hospital so I'd like to just call them and tell them when it's okay to come visit.
Is it rude of me to be pushy about who can visit and when? I understand everyone will be excited but I am the one giving birth after all.
Not rude at all. I didn't want anyone there until baby was here. It would have made me uncomfortable and you are the one going through this. I went as far as to tell my pushy sister that I would show everyone her picture and tell them she was not allowed in since she told me I had no choice in the matter.
For my first, it was just my husband and I. For my second, it was my husband, mom and MIL- we thought this was going to be our last baby and wanted to share the moment with both our moms. This time, I'm not sure. Probably just my husband and I but maybe my sister if she's able to make it. All of our family lives where we are and will all wait in the waiting room
FTM and I really just want my husband there... but I was there for some of my sister's labor, and my mom was with her the ENTIRE time... not sure if I want family there. Thinking about waiting until baby is here to let them know I had the baby. :-S
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Hubby & my mom! The two of them and my sister were there for all of my babies. With my oldest they were in the room & it was time to push & they stayed and it wasn't even a second thought the next 2 times! My sister lives out of state now so she'll miss it this time
As I said before, my husband will be the only one with me for delivery. My in-laws live 12 hours away. We've discussed asking them to wait to come down until Thanksgiving. (I'm due Oct 29). Is that rude? I just think we will need time to adjust. This is the first grandbaby on both sides so I know they will be excited. We haven't told them yet. We are doing the big reveal on mothers day. I'm not sure what to expect as far as their wishes. I really want to respect everyone's wishes including my own!
Husband is only one allowed. Period. My best friend works in the hospital I plan to deliver at and she can come visit, but not for the big moment. Everyone else can wait. My sister didn't allow anyone to see her or the baby for about an hour. Just sent out my BIL after 15 min to say everything went fine and he totally let some embarrassing factiods slip about the delivery. Lol Sounds like a plan to me.
I'm planning on having my husband and doula in the room during transition/pushing-- and maybe my Mom. She lives a few states away though so it'll depend on timing. Because all of our family is at least a 4 hour flight away we don't know who will be around. Anyone who happens to be here is welcome during early labor and then relegated to the comfy living room area at the birth center.
I haven't fully decided bur right now I'm thinking just my fiancé. I'll want my mom there for laboring but when it comes time to push and the initial time after he is born I just want my fiancé there.
@taralohse this is our third and we throw the lock down on hospital visits: no one. I think our parents were offended with the first but I reallllllly didn't want anyone there, not even in the lobby. So dh updates everyone throughout and we send pictures once the baby is born but no one is allowed to visit the hospital.
Also- let your nurses know you don't want anyone. They are great security guards.
Nobody. I've had it all different ways and after accidentally having just my SO there i realized i felt better over all about how i needed to act to get the baby out.
@MirandaC1984 We have the same idea! Due Oct. 30, this is our first and relatives live far away, we'd prefer to have a visit around Thanksgiving also. We haven't discussed this with anyone yet so we'll see how it goes. My in-laws have 3 grandkids already and flew across country for one of the births, so I'm worried they might not want to wait. But the absolute soonest I could do would be 2 weeks, I know I'll need time to adjust. I'm going to let hubby do the talking/explaining that we'd like some alone time first, better to set boundaries now I think! Good luck!!!
Husband only. My parents and in laws will know we're headed to the hospital but I wanna have only time with our little family before all the chaos of family.
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My husband and mama!
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My best friend works in the hospital I plan to deliver at and she can come visit, but not for the big moment.
Everyone else can wait. My sister didn't allow anyone to see her or the baby for about an hour. Just sent out my BIL after 15 min to say everything went fine and he totally let some embarrassing factiods slip about the delivery. Lol
Sounds like a plan to me.
Because all of our family is at least a 4 hour flight away we don't know who will be around. Anyone who happens to be here is welcome during early labor and then relegated to the comfy living room area at the birth center.
Also- let your nurses know you don't want anyone. They are great security guards.