November 2015 Moms

Don't want to tell people I'm pregnant

Hi Everyone. I am 12 weeks and excited to start my family. I 'm 30, married and this was a planned pregnancy but for some reason I have no desire to tell friends/coworkers I am pregnant! My family knows but I don't want the fuss/attention from coworkers and don't feel a screaming desire to call all my friends and tell them either. Anyone else? I feel guilty for not wanting to scream it from the rooftops!

Re: Don't want to tell people I'm pregnant

  • Don't feel guilty. I felt the same way. I like the fact that it's private now and that people aren't feeling obligated to ask me how I'm feeling and aren't making stupid pregnancy comments. I delayed telling my mom because I knew she was going to start criticizing my eating habits and I was right. I like the privacy. At least right now. Maybe it's just us.
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  • Im a very private person too so Ive only told a handfull of people. No announcement, not even a facebook post on subject. Im only 26 but feel like everyone gave me so much crap through the years for taking so long to have a baby that I dont want to share my happiness with them. Screw them!
  • I am in the same boat. I don't have any desire to announce to any more people than our family and the close friends who now know. I even shy away when I'm asked about it. I just don't want the attention/fuss/criticism at all.
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  • bbsweetbbsweet member
    I feel the exact same way. I love my family and friends but I enjoy my privacy and it just opens up a window for all the advice, concerns, attention etc. My mom wants me to tell people so badly so I feel bad. :(
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  • Mumsy1Mumsy1 member
    I'm right there with you. While I'm excited and was trying to get pregnant, I'm nervous about the reaction I'll get at work. I'm in no rush to share the news.
  • I have no desire to tell anyone either; I'm totally dreading it. Maybe my sister and BFF but that's it. DH and I are the only ones that know.
  • Thank you ladies! Feeling better I'm not alone in this one!
  • Me too...I decided when I start showing then it will be obvious :)
  • I had an argument with my husband about this. I just dont want everyone to start fussing about it. im glad other women are feeling the same way. he was insulted because he thought I was embarrassed but I just couldn't explain the feeling
  • I'm right there with you, kind of. This is our 3rd baby, 2nd viable pregnancy. I'm just feeling much more private this time. DH wants to announce before he leaves in June, I don't want to announce at all. Our immediate family knows and our few good friends but that's it. I just don't want people up in my business
  • oooonerooooner member
    Completely agree.  I am 31 and this is my first pregnancy.  I'm 12 weeks and 1 day, and while I know I have to inform the company I work for and my boss, I am not excited about it.  I have sworn my boyfriend to secrecy as well until I am about 14 weeks.  

    I just simply do not connect with women who want to share the news immediately when they are barely even 6 weeks along.  There are so many things that can go wrong and everything is so personal, why drag the world into it so early and then have to explain everything, too??  I'm just not that much of a talker and sharer I suppose.  To each their own... not knocking it if you like to share, it's just not my thing.
  • FalchasFalchas member
    I'm with you! I'm very excited, but very private and liked just having it be between my husband and I for awhile.  I'm 14 weeks and am just starting to tell people.  We haven't even told my husbands parents yet.  No reason, just being slow about it.  And I have to say, I get very excited for friends and family no matter when they choose to tell.  But the people I know who tell as soon as they get a BFP (and I know quite a few) seem to be pregnant foreeeeeevvvvveeeeeerrrrrr!  
  • crysgxcrysgx member
    Thank you ladies for helping me ease my emotions on this subject. I also am a private person and have yet to share the news with family, I've only told a handful of close friends. If it were up to me I would wait till my due date lol. The few that do know keep asking and pressuring me on when we will tell our parents and the whole world, but I'm just in no rush. I will be at 14 weeks on Saturday and as of right now I plan to share the news in person with our parents Sunday.... If I don't change my mind until then :-@
  • I hate telling people. I feel like they get more excited about it than me and then I feel really uncomfortable. I'm sure I'll be excited once I have the baby but at the moment I'm not really enjoying the whole pregnancy experience. I wish people would just work it out on their own so I didn't have to make an announcement.
  • Ceb2015Ceb2015 member
    I feel the same way! I won't be posting on Facebook and get nervous when telling others, usually I make my husband do it lol
  • Same! I'm sort of a private person and I don't really like talking about myself. I'm definitely not doing any big Facebook announcement. Not for me. Our families and very close friends know. We will keep it that way for awhile...
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