So my husband's family lives half way across the country and as he puts it expects to be here for (or as close to delivery) as possible. I have a big problem with that because that means that they would be staying with us while I am recovering and DH and I are bonding with baby. I asked that they either stay at a hotel, offered for them to stay with my parents - with my parents approval, or have them stay with their daughter who lives in our same town. DH insists that they are going to be offended and that I am being unreasonable. I don't feel like I am. I want bonding time with my son before I have to entertain people. Not to mention my MIL will try to "help" me around the house and she is horrible at it....
Thoughts?
Re: bonding after delivery
For me it's not only about bonding but you're recovering, figuring out BFing (or even bottle feeding), resting and trying to get used to this new "routine".... It's not a time to entertain.
J -- 9/04
L -- 11/10
E -- 7/15
My in-laws stayed with us when our first was born and it wasn't terrible but I think I underestimated what recovery and BFing would be like. After my first I decided I wanted my mother staying with us or no one. I wanted to be able to leave out menstrual pads, tucks pads, have my nipples exposed around the clock since BFing is pretty much all you do in the beginning (if you are planning to) and cry for no good reason other than my hormones are all over the place and I just want a good cry, without having my MIL & FIL looking on. They are nice people but they aren't my parents and I just don't feel that level of comfort with them. DH wasn't thrilled to have to tell his mom they would have to go to a hotel after the baby is born but I think at this point he knows it's about what makes me most comfortable, not his parents.
Stick to your guns on this one!
My Ovulation Chart
TTC 06-01-2014
BFP 10-24-2014
EDD 07-04-2015
TTC #1 since 3/2011
DX: anovulatory and severe MFI
DH is a testicular cancer survivor
IVF#1 w/ICSI lupron, gonal f, ovidrel
ER 6/15/12 6R 6M 6F! ET 6/20/12
Beta #1: 154 Beta #2: 509 Beta #3: 7326
Baby Boy born 3/1/2013
TTC#2: 6/2014 all testing came back normal
IVF#2 (#1 for LO#2) 9/2014 - 17R 10M 10F 4 blasts frozen on day 6.
FET #1 10/15/14 - Beta #1: 216 Beta #2: 823
Baby Boy born 7/10/2015
I think you're totally right to ask for a little space especially if there's other family close by for them to stay w
ith.
Don't give in! It's your time with your son and husband. If your mil is like mine which it sounds like she is you are not going to want her there... They have to understand!!
Thank you!!!!!