Ok ladies...I'm not one to hop into stuff like this generally but I feel like it's out of hand. We all have difference of opinions. We all take things differently and see things differently and feel things differently. I feel like that's what makes online boards so helpful! If you have a question, ask!! It's a scary, exciting, awesome, terrible thrill ride and you should feel comfortable posting. Even if you are the 15th person to mention that you now fart like a man
You guys actually seem quite tame compared to the N15 board. Threads like this get shut down multiple times a week and I've lost count on how many good users have been banned over there.
You guys actually seem quite tame compared to the N15 board. Threads like this get shut down multiple times a week and I've lost count on how many good users have been banned over there.
Unfortunately if we keep getting posts like this, that will happen.
I'd also like to point out that the admins thought it was a great idea to sticky a post about searching the board and using the search function, probably thinking it would lessen future drama. Just sayin.
@fiorip so now I am in a group that considers ourselves "cool kids." I don't think that that's fair for you to label me as "coming at you." You may not have intended your post to be fuel for the fire, but that was how I viewed it and I didn't appreciate your taking my comment out of context. I'm not ganging up against you on the side of anybody else, just letting you know that I had received tremendous support from @nik6499 . I'm not gaining up against her either. As a matter fact, I'm way too emotional to be put in the middle of this petty situation. I've never been called a mean girl (to my face,) and it honestly hurts my feelings, but I'm also very emotional right now. I really don't need to deal with this. I'm trying to deal with the loss of my father, the loss of a pregnancy, a MIL with Alzheimer's and a mother with cancer. I don't need to get involved in this tit for tat.
I'm seriously so amused that I just got lumped into a group of people and accused of "coming at you" because I posted my opinion on this mess.
I have posted like four times in this BMB, but uh whatever you say @fiorip
If having enough sense to not get my feelers in a tizzy over posts about using the search function makes me some sort of mean girl, then I'm cool with that. I'm also still waiting to see these specific mean posts that have been referred to but not sourced.
And for the love of freaking God, this has nothing to do with hormones (saw that one mentioned earlier...along with pregnant women needing to be treated with kiddie gloves. no no no.)
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Lets just end this post right here. Ok? Nothing is being gained by any more comments. Move on. There's no need to comment on this anymore. Be happy we all have something in common which is why we are all on the bump in the first place. Smile and relax all.
@Embuzz247 I have not insinuated anything about you, if you think I was referring to you personally that's on you, I've said before I support the search option and I understand not wanting to read the same thing over; it doesn't bother me personally to answer the same thing and everyone should be open to write what they feel.
I have respected everyone's opinion from the get go, should only expect to be treated with the same respect
I'm 29, husband is 30 Together since 2006 Married 01.17.15
Love what you said. Haven't event read he replies but completely agree. And this is coming from someone who simply replies and reads and does not start new posts. It's reassuring.
And TOTALLY FEEL YOU on the Revenge sidebar. Let's not even talk about it. Smh
@erikaalzet I read two more characters will die on the season finally now series finally AND show creator said questions will be left unanswered, so annoyed! It was such a good show, this season totally ruined it
I'm 29, husband is 30 Together since 2006 Married 01.17.15
This is in my top 3 favorite meme/gif list for sure. I used it on Facebook all the time (when I had Facebook..)
Love it. Was totally thinking the sane thing.
I love reading comments on controversial stuff on Facebook and always see this gif (and several other "regulars") pop up... I LOVE that I know how to do it now! Lol.
@nik6499@BostonBaby1@danaalex@kate08young@lovearoo@missemmawoodhouse the fact that you're all coming at me defending each other like a group of cool kids proves EXACTLY my point. Most of the others who have post here either agree or disagree with me in a respectful manner, without the need of attacking or ridiculing what I've said.
If you don't agree with someone you can say so in a respectful manner, no need to resort to name calling.
When I see someone posting a genuine concern and the first thing they write is "sorry, I swear I searched and didn't find this" or "I couldn't find anything like this that's why I'm posting" THAT is someone who felt the need to clarify they did in fact use the search function, because they've read the mean comments and are now afraid to ask something in order to avoid the punished repeat.
@missemmawoodhouse are you seriously calling me out as immature on saying someone else is being mean and taking it as "name calling" when others have openly insulted me? Ironic...
Yes, I am. "You are a quintessential mean girl" is name calling.
I was in the June14 group and i cant tell you how sweet and kind and supportive this group is compared to that. there was some serious name calling, even making an entire thread to bitch about one member. so appreciate what you've got ladies!
You have got to be kidding me. You think gentle reminders to use the search function is a form of bullying? And you think people on this board have been rude or mean?? Have you ever explored the other BMBs?
I have been a member of four different BMBs now, including the infamous N15 with my previous miscarriage. This is, by far, the tamest and kindest BMB that I have seen after all of my years on the bump.
So no, I don't feel bullied because there has been zero bullying here. I am an adult (officially...it's my 30th bday today! womp womp), and I know the difference between honesty, snark, and bullying. I really suggest that you reevaluate your definition of the word.
I think I love you! =D> I would love to know how old the OP is.... It could explain the post!
@nik6499@BostonBaby1@danaalex@kate08young@lovearoo@missemmawoodhouse the fact that you're all coming at me defending each other like a group of cool kids proves EXACTLY my point. Most of the others who have post here either agree or disagree with me in a respectful manner, without the need of attacking or ridiculing what I've said.
If you don't agree with someone you can say so in a respectful manner, no need to resort to name calling.
When I see someone posting a genuine concern and the first thing they write is "sorry, I swear I searched and didn't find this" or "I couldn't find anything like this that's why I'm posting" THAT is someone who felt the need to clarify they did in fact use the search function, because they've read the mean comments and are now afraid to ask something in order to avoid the punished repeat.
@danaalex I agreed with the reminder, but some reminders were less than gentle and harsh, just plain mean.
@BostonBaby1 sorry if you feel I used your comment as "fuel", this is not a fire, I was posting a comment and received criticism without kindness from your pal @nik6499 who's gone as far as calling me names. She might be sweet and kind to you but has been to me at all whether you care to see it or not, she took this post as if I was talking about her, maybe the hat fits.
@Kate08Young you can go ahead and read those definitions you're telling me to look at, sarcasm is sharp and ironical, there's a huge different with attacking someone in a cruel manner, sarcasm can be used to mock but the terms are not mutually inclusive at all.
@missemmawoodhouse are you seriously calling me out as immature on saying someone else is being mean and taking it as "name calling" when others have openly insulted me? Ironic...
@fiorip I wasn't trying to come at you, just pointing out why you were getting most of the responses you were. Also I never said those terms were mutually inclusive, merely that they have extremely similar definitions. Also I didn't gang up with others. I personally just don't like how you phrased some things.
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Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@Princessbcw I think it's been stablished this has gone on long enough, I expressed an opinion and you don't get to tell me what I say or don't say, don't agree with it? Fine, no need to try to ridicule me.
I stand by what I've said, no "high horse" just posted what I felt.
I have not been disrespectful to anyone here and should expect the same so let it go...
I'm 29, husband is 30 Together since 2006 Married 01.17.15
I agree with both posts I think it's a massive shame how we can't all just talk tho.. And if u don't wanna look at a post don't look. The only thing about only discussing once is I have to trawl through five pages of answers. I think it's also a shame so many of u had to post against this one person as that does come across like everyone jump on the band wagon. It's not bullying but it's quite harsh to have many against one and we are all entitled to our opinion!! I won't stop posting if I need to post and I think we should all be ourselves and do what we feel is best!! We all have common ground here ladies and none of us are more superior than any other no matter how many times we have been here before... We are supposed to enjoy this so let's start............
And I'd rather this thread stay alive if it means all the pettiness is contained to it and not elsewhere in Dec 2015. Everyone is being petty. I mean, why are folks mad they are being called petty?
Re: Does anyone else feel bullied?
I'd also like to point out that the admins thought it was a great idea to sticky a post about searching the board and using the search function, probably thinking it would lessen future drama. Just sayin.
I don't think that that's fair for you to label me as "coming at you." You may not have intended your post to be fuel for the fire, but that was how I viewed it and I didn't appreciate your taking my comment out of context. I'm not ganging up against you on the side of anybody else, just letting you know that I had received tremendous support from @nik6499 . I'm not gaining up against her either. As a matter fact, I'm way too emotional to be put in the middle of this petty situation. I've never been called a mean girl (to my face,) and it honestly hurts my feelings, but I'm also very emotional right now. I really don't need to deal with this. I'm trying to deal with the loss of my father, the loss of a pregnancy, a MIL with Alzheimer's and a mother with cancer. I don't need to get involved in this tit for tat.
I have respected everyone's opinion from the get go, should only expect to be treated with the same respect
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
And TOTALLY FEEL YOU on the Revenge sidebar. Let's not even talk about it. Smh
Love it. Was totally thinking the sane thing.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
Also I never said those terms were mutually inclusive, merely that they have extremely similar definitions.
Also I didn't gang up with others. I personally just don't like how you phrased some things.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
NONSENSE, I SAY!
I stand by what I've said, no "high horse" just posted what I felt.
I have not been disrespectful to anyone here and should expect the same so let it go...
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
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BTW I love you ladies!! This bottim gif is for you!
Why is this still going... ? OP hasn't been back in forever.
For my ladiezzz bc words are better that end in "Z"...
And I'd rather this thread stay alive if it means all the pettiness is contained to it and not elsewhere in Dec 2015. Everyone is being petty. I mean, why are folks mad they are being called petty?