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lovethatcolosun · May 2015

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Mommaswizz · May 2015

This is less of a legit question and more something i just ponder about. When I'm hoping LO will move around a bit so DH can feel her move, I kind of move my bump around or poke around to see if she'll get rolling or kicking. I always wonder how much am I pissing her off? If i were cozy in there and all of a sudden the roof of my little pod was caving in, I'd be freaked out and pretty mad. Poor lady.

mjschenk · May 2015

People always say not worry early on about a breech baby then can turn at the last minute, why wouldn't they have the same tendency to turn from head down to breech?

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

Mommaswizz said:
This is less of a legit question and more something i just ponder about. When I'm hoping LO will move around a bit so DH can feel her move, I kind of move my bump around or poke around to see if she'll get rolling or kicking. I always wonder how much am I pissing her off? If i were cozy in there and all of a sudden the roof of my little pod was caving in, I'd be freaked out and pretty mad. Poor lady.

I'm not sure, but I totally do that, too. I like to think we're bonding

OnWayto3 · May 2015

mjschenk said:
People always say not worry early on about a breech baby then can turn at the last minute, why wouldn't they have the same tendency to turn from head down to breech?

Until recently, I wondered the same thing... The reason they flip head down is because it's more comfortable; they're quickly running out of space and moving upside down gives them more room to move their little bodies. Consequently, flipping right side up (or even sideways) would limit their space again and make it more uncomfortable. If you have a long torso or a lot of room in there, it's more likely they'll be cozy without going head down...

OnWayto3 · May 2015

I've been here long enough (it seems) to have figured this out-- and it has nothing to do with pregnancy-- but, alas, I have not, so hopeful this easy explanation will come via you lovely gals.

When I want to highlight someone's name, as in reference them, or talk to them directly how do I do so? I've done it, but only by copying and pasting someone else's highlight. Er, not sure this makes sense.

Serenamarr · May 2015

I have one. When I was asking one of my Drs under what circumstances would they do an emergency c section, he said if the cord was wrapped around the baby's neck. My question is how the heck do they know that? With no U/S since week 20, how do they know if everything is ok in there? I would much rather have another U/S at week 38 or 39 and be able to see "oh yes there is a problem, we will need to do a C section" than be in labor for 12 hours, start pushing, have the baby go into distress, and then end up with a C because that was the only way to find out the cord was wrapped.

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

OnWayto3 said:
I've been here long enough (it seems) to have figured this out-- and it has nothing to do with pregnancy-- but, alas, I have not, so hopeful this easy explanation will come via you lovely gals.

When I want to highlight someone's name, as in reference them, or talk to them directly how do I do so? I've done it, but only by copying and pasting someone else's highlight. Er, not sure this makes sense.

I'm going to try to answer this but I'm not totally sure that I'm understanding the question. If you want to address the person as I'm addressing you right now, with their comment included in yours, you just click the quote button at the bottom of their post and type away. If you just want to tag them in your comment, you simply type their name with the @ sign before it - so, in your case, @OnWayto3. I hope I'm understanding you correctly and that this helps!

aliciac2008 · May 2015

Is it possible to feel your cervix dialating?

Mommaswizz · May 2015

Serenamarr said:
I have one. When I was asking one of my Drs under what circumstances would they do an emergency c section, he said if the cord was wrapped around the baby's neck. My question is how the heck do they know that? With no U/S since week 20, how do they know if everything is ok in there? I would much rather have another U/S at week 38 or 39 and be able to see "oh yes there is a problem, we will need to do a C section" than be in labor for 12 hours, start pushing, have the baby go into distress, and then end up with a C because that was the only way to find out the cord was wrapped.

I've been wondering the exact same thing! I feel like they think i'm just being an over-eager ultrasound whore but i really just wanna see that everything looks good in there. I need to ask this on monday at my 32 week check up

OnWayto3 · May 2015

karaelaine1991 you are my hero today-- thank you!

Tagging someone is the exact thing I was looking for. Thank you so much!

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

@OnWayto3 you're welcome! I'm glad I could help!

mjschenk · May 2015

@OnWayto3

I have no torso which I never realized till pregnant probably why his head has been down for so long

but thanks a ton

cbrtncanadian · May 2015

How does one go about deleting a comment.. I was trying to post with a picture but it didn't upload and I can't figure out how to get rid of the original post...

knwilliams01 · May 2015

@Serenamarr @Mommaswizz

Sometimes a nuchal cord can be seen on ultrasound - sometimes it is missed. Depends on baby's position, movement, amount of amniotic fluid, etc. Cord around the neck in utero is not necessarily dangerous because it is not like baby is breathing in oxygen. When it becomes a problem is if you have low amniotic fluid or your water has broken, there is less cushioning. This makes it easier for the cord to become compressed, cutting off blood to baby - this is problem whether the cord is around baby's neck or not. Hence why some women who get c sections for fetal distress do not have a nuchal cord. My high risk doctor explained all of this to me since I have very low amniotic fluid levels.

When they hook you up to the monitor in L&D, part of what they are monitoring is the timing of contractions in relation to changes in babies heart rate. There is a certain pattern that indicates that baby's cord is most likely around his or her neck and that he or she is not tolerating it well.

aj1327 · May 2015

On the flipping question, my friends baby was head down and did flip back about a week before she was scheduled to be induced. Everyone was shocked. Luckily, she flipped back so she didn't have to have a c section. Mine was head down at 32 weeks and I've been lecturing him to stay that way.

Can they really hear sound in there? If so, my son might not be able to hear. He doesn't respond to sound at all! I'm thinking it could be because I'm a teacher so it is noisy most of our day, but I'm still curious. Do your babies respond to sound?

Mommaswizz · May 2015

knwilliams01 I appreciate this info! That makes much more sense to me and will save me much unnecessary worries now!

FloGirl82 · May 2015

Ok, I've seen it asked and answered before but I'm still confused for some dumb reason...what should the baby sleep in during the night clothes-wise? We'll have her in the rock n play in our bedroom for the first few months then will be transitioning her to the crib in her room. I'm assuming the house the will be anywhere from 68-72 degrees (with or without the ac on-we'll have ceiling fans going without the ac on, but when it gets too hot we will turn the ac on). I'm just at a loss still!!!

If anyone has any advice on what they suggest she wears at night, that'd be great. We have the standard onesies, some long sleeved/long legged pj's, swaddle wraps and blankets, etc.

I just can't figure it out.

Serenamarr · May 2015

I was gifted a bunch of cotton and muslin Halo sleep sacks at my shower. They are very light but allow baby to be covered and still move freely

bbnmama2012 · May 2015

Can I still take a bath after a giant booger (mucus plug, maybe?) was found in toilet? Or am I stuck with showers only? It's the only way to get the weight of baby off my hips.

ETA: I should've checked past threads, but was afraid I'd find pictures. (Gross).

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

karaelaine1991 said:

Mommaswizz said:
This is less of a legit question and more something i just ponder about. When I'm hoping LO will move around a bit so DH can feel her move, I kind of move my bump around or poke around to see if she'll get rolling or kicking. I always wonder how much am I pissing her off? If i were cozy in there and all of a sudden the roof of my little pod was caving in, I'd be freaked out and pretty mad. Poor lady.
I'm not sure, but I totally do that, too. I like to think we're bonding

I like to think that I am preparing them for a life of being embarrassed by me and starting that whiny 'Mooommmm! Quit it!' + eyeroll attitude early

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

And @amccoy129 I honestly haven't tried a specific instance to get them to respond to sound, so I don't know. It seems like mine is usually moving around on a routine, and I've never really correlated it with sound or lack of

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

amccoy129 said:
On the flipping question, my friends baby was head down and did flip back about a week before she was scheduled to be induced. Everyone was shocked. Luckily, she flipped back so she didn't have to have a c section. Mine was head down at 32 weeks and I've been lecturing him to stay that way.

Can they really hear sound in there? If so, my son might not be able to hear. He doesn't respond to sound at all! I'm thinking it could be because I'm a teacher so it is noisy most of our day, but I'm still curious. Do your babies respond to sound?

I really believe mine can hear what's going on around her. I'm sure it's muffled, but she kicks any time my husband speaks near my belly, or when certain songs come on the radio when I'm driving. Also, not sure how far along you are (I can't see tickers on mobile), but at week 34 (I think that's when it was?), the app says baby can hear music. So, if you trust that, then yep, she can!

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

christinabrtn said:
How does one go about deleting a comment.. I was trying to post with a picture but it didn't upload and I can't figure out how to get rid of the original post...

Don't think you can - you can only edit it. So you can delete everything and explain why, or just put an * or whatever

mccall35 · May 2015

bbnmama2012 said:
Can I still take a bath after a giant booger (mucus plug, maybe?) was found in toilet? Or am I stuck with showers only? It's the only way to get the weight of baby off my hips.

Unless your water has broken, it's completely safe to bathe away! Your mucus plug (if that's what it was) regenerates.

sschwege · May 2015

mjschenk said:
People always say not worry early on about a breech baby then can turn at the last minute, why wouldn't they have the same tendency to turn from head down to breech?

Babies sometimes do turn the other way, though that is more unusual. The reason they turn head down and stay that way is gravity. The head is the heaviest part of the baby. They get to a certain size, turn head down and would have a heck of a time working their way back because the weight of their head keeps them in place.

klkonwi · May 2015

@Serenamarr sometimes I am genuinely concerned about the things you say your doc is telling you. Almost 50% of babies are born with a cord around the neck...... The only reason you would need an emergency cesarean is if the babies heart rate DROPPED and kept looking bad on the monitor DUE to the Nuchal (neck) cord. Your doc needs to use better terms with you. A Nuchal cord is not automatically a cesarean death sentence! Most babies have them. For @Mommaswizz too.

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

klkonwi said:
@Serenamarr sometimes I am genuinely concerned about the things you say your doc is telling you. Almost 50% of babies are born with a cord around the neck...... The only reason you would need an emergency cesarean is if the babies heart rate DROPPED and kept looking bad on the monitor DUE to the Nuchal (neck) cord. Your doc needs to use better terms with you. A Nuchal cord is not automatically a cesarean death sentence! Most babies have them. For @Mommaswizz too.

I seriously wish you were a nurse at the hospital where I'm delivering! Thank you for always explaining the medical stuff to those of us who lack your background! @knwilliams01 too, except you'd be a doctor, not a nurse haha

dancegurl1118 · May 2015

@klkonwi I was very confused about that sentiment as well. If there was a section for a nuchal our section rate would be like 70%. I'm sure my baby is wrapped up in that cord considering it's gone from breech to vertex twice already. Thank you for clarifying for others, I was way too lazy to type it out.

aliciaspinnet · May 2015

karaelaine1991 said:

amccoy129 said:
On the flipping question, my friends baby was head down and did flip back about a week before she was scheduled to be induced. Everyone was shocked. Luckily, she flipped back so she didn't have to have a c section. Mine was head down at 32 weeks and I've been lecturing him to stay that way.

Can they really hear sound in there? If so, my son might not be able to hear. He doesn't respond to sound at all! I'm thinking it could be because I'm a teacher so it is noisy most of our day, but I'm still curious. Do your babies respond to sound?
I really believe mine can hear what's going on around her. I'm sure it's muffled, but she kicks any time my husband speaks near my belly, or when certain songs come on the radio when I'm driving. Also, not sure how far along you are (I can't see tickers on mobile), but at week 34 (I think that's when it was?), the app says baby can hear music. So, if you trust that, then yep, she can!

DH and I went to see the Avengers, and baby went absolutely crazy during the action sequences - he's usually pretty active, but this was turned up to eleven! So I'm pretty sure he was reacting to sound. I think he was enjoying the explosions - takes after his daddy!

mvargas12 · May 2015

sschwege said:

mjschenk said:
People always say not worry early on about a breech baby then can turn at the last minute, why wouldn't they have the same tendency to turn from head down to breech?
Babies sometimes do turn the other way, though that is more unusual. The reason they turn head down and stay that way is gravity. The head is the heaviest part of the baby. They get to a certain size, turn head down and would have a heck of a time working their way back because the weight of their head keeps them in place.

I feel like I have a panic attack THINKING about not being able to get up. Poor babies.

Serenamarr · May 2015

klkonwi said:
@Serenamarr sometimes I am genuinely concerned about the things you say your doc is telling you. Almost 50% of babies are born with a cord around the neck...... The only reason you would need an emergency cesarean is if the babies heart rate DROPPED and kept looking bad on the monitor DUE to the Nuchal (neck) cord. Your doc needs to use better terms with you. A Nuchal cord is not automatically a cesarean death sentence! Most babies have them. For @Mommaswizz too.

I hate the OBs at my practice- (it's a mixed practice of OBs and midwives) and all the docs are idiots. All except one. I will be birthing with a midwife (God willing) but because of our limited availability I can't always make my appointments with midwives and sometimes have to just take who I can get for the time slot we have available. I have come to dread the appts with OBs because they are completely NOT on the same page as me regarding the birth experience I want and because this is our first child and we look semi young (we are 24) they assume we know nothing. I have read everything there is to read and researched everything there is to research, so when they tell me something stupid I am at least informed enough to go "hmmm that doesn't sound quite right". The Dr. that said c section for wrapped cord also said he likes using forceps (WTF) and prefers that his patients have an enema before labor because he doesn't want to get pooped on. Sorry guy I think you're in the wrong field here. If by some stretch this guy (or the "dead babies" lady) end up attending me, I will RELISH pooping on them on purpose.

laurendutch · May 2015

Serenamarr said:

klkonwi said:
@Serenamarr sometimes I am genuinely concerned about the things you say your doc is telling you. Almost 50% of babies are born with a cord around the neck...... The only reason you would need an emergency cesarean is if the babies heart rate DROPPED and kept looking bad on the monitor DUE to the Nuchal (neck) cord. Your doc needs to use better terms with you. A Nuchal cord is not automatically a cesarean death sentence! Most babies have them. For @Mommaswizz too.
I hate the OBs at my practice- (it's a mixed practice of OBs and midwives) and all the docs are idiots. All except one. I will be birthing with a midwife (God willing) but because of our limited availability I can't always make my appointments with midwives and sometimes have to just take who I can get for the time slot we have available. I have come to dread the appts with OBs because they are completely NOT on the same page as me regarding the birth experience I want and because this is our first child and we look semi young (we are 24) they assume we know nothing. I have read everything there is to read and researched everything there is to research, so when they tell me something stupid I am at least informed enough to go "hmmm that doesn't sound quite right". The Dr. that said c section for wrapped cord also said he likes using forceps (WTF) and prefers that his patients have an enema before labor because he doesn't want to get pooped on. Sorry guy I think you're in the wrong field here. If by some stretch this guy (or the "dead babies" lady) end up attending me, I will RELISH pooping on them on purpose.

What the crap! I don't think they have done enemas for decades!

klkonwi · May 2015

Yeah enemas are a thing of the past..... As in 10 yrs ago!

Serenamarr · May 2015

@klkonwi @laurendutch I know!!! Ridiculous and he also said he would rather do an episiotomy because it's easier for them to fix than a tear. Selfish asshole my labor decisions are not going to be based on making things easy or more comfortable FOR YOU! Poop on you all day.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

Serenamarr said:
Poop on you all day.

This is GREAT

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HoosOnFirst · May 2015

Gosh, I am really appreciating my dr and hospital right now. The episiotomy rate is only 3% here!

delujm0 · May 2015

klkonwi said:
Yeah enemas are a thing of the past..... As in 10 yrs ago!

My friend recently requested an enema because the idea of pooping on the table upset her so much. They'll do it if you ask for it apparently.

Edit to add: I have no idea why anyone would request it...my friend is crazy. I am not endorsing this.

ElRuby · May 2015

@Serenamarr I am so sorry you have to deal with that... Ugh... Is that practice the only game in town?

delujm0 · May 2015

I keep hearing that it's "super obvious" when what you're feeling is the baby having hiccups...we'll I guess I'm dumb then...what does it feel like? I sometimes feel consistent light pokes at regular intervals in the same spot for a few minutes at a time, rather than random movement...is that hiccups?

I'd like to know mostly bc at my 32w appointment the doctor couldn't confirm that baby was head down yet...but if what I'm feeling us hiccups she must be on her way because it's pretty low. I have a scan scheduled for 36w to check position and if she's not head down they'll schedule a C at that time.

Serenamarr · May 2015

ElRuby said:
@Serenamarr I am so sorry you have to deal with that... Ugh... Is that practice the only game in town?

My insurance is through my dad who works at the hospital I'm delivering at and this practice is the one in network. So everything is at no cost to us. But like I said I'm delivering with a midwife so I (unless emergency) only have to deal with these people for my prenatal appts. [-O<

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