So my lovely MIL has always had issues with me. Unfortunately I have to see her every Wednesday and Sunday at church. Yesterday morning at church my husbands grandmother and nieces were in from out of town. The girls are so sweet and always rub my belly and speak to me. His mother and grandmother however pretend I do not exist. I am already sensitive about it bc I feel it's ridiculous. His mother is upset with me bc we want two hours after my scheduled csection to bond and nurse our baby. She find this selfish and unecessary. We haven't spoken since February. She said we would "regret" hurting her this way. Anyways, me and my husband run the sound for church service. We sit in a secluded sound box behind the sanctuary. After service his grandmother came into the small room and directly told him goodbye. IGNORING ME. Then he proceeded to tell me about a tradition his family has where they take his grandmother to shoneys early in the morning on Mother's Day. In my livid state I asked him if he was actually going to go. He said yes. I said well you'll be going alone. Why would I want to be around people who go out of their way to make me feel so unwanted and uncomfortable?? Mind you I have never been disrespectful or rude. These people are hateful. I'm disgusted. He claims he doesn't care what his mother thinks bc she's always done this to her kids. If she doesn't like something they do she ignores them and treats them badly. He says he makes it a point to be pleasant to her just to piss her off. I'm thinking FML right now. I want to say " don't even think you will be around my daughter once she's born." She's done this to me so many times. I so badly want to be immature!!!! Sorry so long.
This happens IN CHURCH?! Jeebus.
Can you enlist your minister or preacher or whatever to be a mediator for you all to talk this through? Isn't that what they're there for?
Had nearly $200 in merch credit on a GC from babies r us... Tried to use it last night... No money. Turns out it was "used a month ago in California". I'm in Texas. Obviously it was stolen virtually or something. It's being investigated but I am so upset. Ladies beware!
Oh no! So they wouldn't honor it at all?! That's terrible. I know my grandmother is getting me a large GC from babiesrus. Makes me a little nervous.
Fml. Settled into a comfy recline on the couch, lunch pleasant in my tummy. Fell asleep. Have not had any good sleep since I officially became sick 4 days ago. Got maybe 30 minutes of nap, then jolted awake by my own sudden hacking / trying to choke on whatever yuck I was coughing up. :-<
So my lovely MIL has always had issues with me. Unfortunately I have to see her every Wednesday and Sunday at church. Yesterday morning at church my husbands grandmother and nieces were in from out of town. The girls are so sweet and always rub my belly and speak to me. His mother and grandmother however pretend I do not exist. I am already sensitive about it bc I feel it's ridiculous. His mother is upset with me bc we want two hours after my scheduled csection to bond and nurse our baby. She find this selfish and unecessary. We haven't spoken since February. She said we would "regret" hurting her this way. Anyways, me and my husband run the sound for church service. We sit in a secluded sound box behind the sanctuary. After service his grandmother came into the small room and directly told him goodbye. IGNORING ME. Then he proceeded to tell me about a tradition his family has where they take his grandmother to shoneys early in the morning on Mother's Day. In my livid state I asked him if he was actually going to go. He said yes. I said well you'll be going alone. Why would I want to be around people who go out of their way to make me feel so unwanted and uncomfortable?? Mind you I have never been disrespectful or rude. These people are hateful. I'm disgusted. He claims he doesn't care what his mother thinks bc she's always done this to her kids. If she doesn't like something they do she ignores them and treats them badly. He says he makes it a point to be pleasant to her just to piss her off. I'm thinking FML right now. I want to say " don't even think you will be around my daughter once she's born." She's done this to me so many times. I so badly want to be immature!!!! Sorry so long.
This happens IN CHURCH?! Jeebus.
Can you enlist your minister or preacher or whatever to be a mediator for you all to talk this through? Isn't that what they're there for?
Wow. Sorry, lady.
She did this whenever we got engaged and stopped even coming to our church. Then when she finally came back, she made a public apology to me and everything was fine for about two months until this. I'm almost afraid to involve my pastor. She held a grudge against everyone who supported us when we got married, including him and his wife.
I am so frustrated with people asking me baby's name!! We said from the beginning we weren't tell anyone because honestly we don't want to hear others opinions. Everytime I see my FIL he constantly asks me. "So what is it? Not even a letter?" And for some reason he has it stuck in his head we have decided on Sarah (which we haven't). He tries to get it out of DH all of the time. My SIL just had a baby and never told anyone... And my FIL didn't say a peep to her. Agh 6.5 more weeks I suppose!
I feel your pain. We told our name but still get asked frequently and lots of opinions (BIL wants to call her Alex instead....) .I feel like there's no winning with some people.
Granted the same people have asked me my due date 500 times like it's a magical number or something.
We chose Carter Alan for our boy for a number of reasons, one of them being that we THOUGHT it was impossible to make any stupid nicknames out of it. My best friend has taken to referring to the baby as "Carty" trying to be cute and it actually drives me insane. I don't know how to tell him to stop!!
We chose Carter Alan for our boy for a number of reasons, one of them being that we THOUGHT it was impossible to make any stupid nicknames out of it. My best friend has taken to referring to the baby as "Carty" trying to be cute and it actually drives me insane. I don't know how to tell him to stop!!
Ugh. So annoying. Our LO is going to be Henry James and people keep calling him Hank.
We chose Carter Alan for our boy for a number of reasons, one of them being that we THOUGHT it was impossible to make any stupid nicknames out of it. My best friend has taken to referring to the baby as "Carty" trying to be cute and it actually drives me insane. I don't know how to tell him to stop!!
Ugh. So annoying. Our LO is going to be Henry James and people keep calling him Hank.
That's when you just say if he's gonna have a nickname it's gonna be "Indiana"!
We chose Carter Alan for our boy for a number of reasons, one of them being that we THOUGHT it was impossible to make any stupid nicknames out of it. My best friend has taken to referring to the baby as "Carty" trying to be cute and it actually drives me insane. I don't know how to tell him to stop!!
Just nip it in the bud! We named our daughter Elisabeth specifically to avoid NN Lizzy, but some people still tried pinning it to her in the beginning. Just tell people Carty isn't baby's name, Carter is. This is your kid - until he can decide on his own what he wants to be called it's up to you, other opinions be damned!
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Can you enlist your minister or preacher or whatever to be a mediator for you all to talk this through? Isn't that what they're there for?
Wow. Sorry, lady.
She did this whenever we got engaged and stopped even coming to our church. Then when she finally came back, she made a public apology to me and everything was fine for about two months until this. I'm almost afraid to involve my pastor. She held a grudge against everyone who supported us when we got married, including him and his wife.
Granted the same people have asked me my due date 500 times like it's a magical number or something.