Well then!

SIXS&SEVENS · April 2015

I'm reading so many rude and snide comments from some ladies on here. We're all on here asking questions! Some questions may be similar to others, however every woman is different. What's the big deal, if you have something impolite to say just save it! My goodness. Makes me afraid to even post a new discussion, I might get in trouble for simply asking a question.

bean8213 · April 2015

Yes, you might. Depends if the question is stupid, repetitive, or should be asked of your doctor instead of a group of random women.

marms1987 · April 2015

Feels like January all over again, we have some very irritated ladies determined on taking it out on everybody on here for no reason! Some people never learn!

marthaudani · April 2015

Just like some people don't learn to use the search bar before starting a new thread?

marms1987 · April 2015

Not my job to scold them for it, I would just scroll down and not respond. When they don't get their answers they will be motivated to do their research. As easy as that!

LadyBlood · April 2015

I feel like just like you all have the right to ask the same question 5 times in a row, we have the right to be irritated by it and say something. I don't see anyone truly being rude. Yea some people are clearly becoming impatient with the repetitiveness but no one is really being rude.

cpage2211 · April 2015

marms1987 said:
Feels like January all over again, we have some very irritated ladies determined on taking it out on everybody on here for no reason! Some people never learn!

This isn't ANYTHING like January!! If those ladies were still here it would be a completely different place. Gifs and name calling (I think their favorite was Cunt) would be happening. So, no.

trishadobel · April 2015

Ya, I have to agree. Nothing like January, I don't think anyone minds the questions, but this thread is in fact turning into a repeat of the PSA thread. Having multiple threads of the same topic on the same page is the repetitiveness that people are finding annoying. That and asking questions that only a medical professional is fit to answer.

marms1987 · April 2015

It sure is making people think hard before posting anything. It used to be about showers and gifts and now it's about labor signs and common discomforts! I sure hope we don't get to the same point where we would call people names, although we could if people keep getting irritated and irritate other posters with snarky comments. I am not saying I would ever engage in that, I am just saying it could!

TBsquared · April 2015

It's rude to waste our damn time asking a question that is already on the main feed!! Scroll down for God sakes!! Or hey better yet try search!

SIXS&SEVENS · April 2015

It's rude to ask a question? My god ladies. Some of us are first time moms here, perhaps some of us are just using this app for the first time and don't know how to search a discussion. And like I said before too, not everything is the exact same and maybe some women ask the question again because they didn't get their answer in the first dicussion posted. I'm not sure about this whole January thing - I'm just seeing some comments like "maybe if you open your eyes" or "if you would have just LOOKED" like holy crap. Why are you even wasting your time replying and being rude to other women. We're all on here for the same reason, to get answers and to ask questions. There shouldn't be any rudeness involved. I might even delete this app because I don't want to get cornered for asking a question that may or may have not been asked already! And yeah we can ask our doctors questions and everything else too, but I like this app because we're all going through the same thing! We're pregnant! We're hormonal, we should be here for each other, not being rude and being smart asses about a simple question. If you think it's silly, or repetitive, keep scrolling, don't answer. It's pretty simple ladies, let's keep it kind ✋

SIXS&SEVENS · April 2015

bean8213 said:
Yes, you might. Depends if the question is stupid, repetitive, or should be asked of your doctor instead of a group of random women.

Yes I might be attacked for asking a simple question? Wow! Good to know. And like I said in my comment above, we're going through similar things & even if we've talked to a doctor, some of us might just want to know if it's happened to another lady? It's just silly to be rude for no reason at all. Makes some of us feel stupid and like I said, afraid to post a question!

saric83 · April 2015

For me, it's not about being rude. It's about helping people who might be newer to the board to understand basic courtesy on a site like this. Search or at the very least take a two-second glance at recent posts before posting a duplicate thing.

If there is someone with a question or situation that we can help with (not a question you should be asking your doctor NOT the internet!!!), that poor lady is now being bumped towards the bottom of the posts, and frankly, it pisses me off, and I consider that rude. Someone thinking they shouldn't have to be bothered to use the basic functionality of the board is extremely rude to me.

I typically ignore most of those posts, but I also sure as hell don't expect other ladies to fill any response with rainbows and sunshine just because we're all "pregnant and should be here for each other".

In the same way that you suggest people just ignore the questions and don't respond, perhaps you could do the same for things you deem rude. Ignore it, and it will go away instead of flaming it and bumping it to the top.

LadyBlood · April 2015

SIXS&SEVENS said:

bean8213 said:
Yes, you might. Depends if the question is stupid, repetitive, or should be asked of your doctor instead of a group of random women.
Yes I might be attacked for asking a simple question? Wow! Good to know. And like I said in my comment above, we're going through similar things & even if we've talked to a doctor, some of us might just want to know if it's happened to another lady? It's just silly to be rude for no reason at all. Makes some of us feel stupid and like I said, afraid to post a question!

I still don't understand this argument. If there are 5 other posts about the same thing, then it clearly happened to other women and multiple women have already responded with their experience on 5 other posts. I just don't get how hard it is to go read the other posts, you'll still get other women's experiences. That's what I do!!

marthaudani · April 2015

If people are unfamiliar with the boards then they need to read the second post "the Bump Guidelines". It has all the information you could need for finding the answers you are looking for.

Look, lady, we are all intelligent women who are capable of navigating a discussion board. The fact that we are "pregnant and hormonal" has nothing to do with the fact that newer users don't take the time to familiarize themselves with the forum and sometimes succeed in irritating others who have been here for a while and answered all those questions before.

No one is being rude or even snarky. We're just saying it like it is. If this offends you then maybe you can take your own advice and keep scrolling.

SIXS&SEVENS · April 2015

This is exactly what I mean. Ask a question or post a thought and people are jumping down your throat. It's totally fine, sorry that I even posted how I feel. I'll just be deleting this app and asking somewhere else if I have a question. And I didn't say fill anyone's response with rainbows and sunshine... That's the snide comments I'm talking about. Thanks I will take my own advice and I'll leave this app because clearly I don't know how to use it and God forbid I've asked a question that's already been asked. Goodbye & good riddance!

kat0217 · April 2015

SIXS&SEVENS said:
This is exactly what I mean. Ask a question or post a thought and people are jumping down your throat. It's totally fine, sorry that I even posted how I feel. I'll just be deleting this app and asking somewhere else if I have a question. And I didn't say fill anyone's response with rainbows and sunshine... That's the snide comments I'm talking about. Thanks I will take my own advice and I'll leave this app because clearly I don't know how to use it and God forbid I've asked a question that's already been asked. Goodbye & good riddance!

Okay....bye.

Also, being a FTM is not a valid excuse. For anything. Learn about your body and pregnancy. And how to use search features. Don't hide behind being "new" to the game. I'm a FTM and have taken the time to educate myself so I don't have to ask strangers every single little detail about what my body is doing.

saric83 · April 2015

That's the beauty of the internet, chica. Not everyone has to agree with you. So if you post a thought, it's completely understandable that other people will post their thoughts too. And the world keeps spinning and cute babies keep on arriving. All is still good in the world.

Take care and good luck with everything with your little human (and I do mean that completely sincerely even though you so sweetly ended your post with good riddance - now who's rude?)

kaynix21 · April 2015

You should have seen it a few months ago.

laurenbrnwed · April 2015

:-h

lola2bee · April 2015

Wow I'm sorry you had that experience. I totally missed the rude posts. Most of what I have seen is very benign and helpful.

khaleesi123 · April 2015

It's the internet... Of course you are not going to have people that agree with you, of course you are going to have people tell you an honest opinion.. You can't control peoples opinions and that is why posting this thread is a waste of time like the rest of us begging people to read previous posts instead of posting the same question is a waste of time. If you think what people have been posting is rude then you are one sensitive person. Even the mods don't find anything offensive in what has been posted lately because I can assure you anything offensive they see they do something about it.

MissRissx3 · April 2015

This is unnecessary.. nobody is being rude. We're here to request that you check other topics that relate to your a before posting. How is that rude? I've seen so many "did my water break?!!!!!" Posts in the last few days. So many "is this my mucus plug??" And one even had a picture! Thank goodness she warned us in the subject area! It's ridiculous.

jackieblair33 · April 2015

If it is such a waste of your "damn time" to go through a feed that may have repeat questions, maybe you should not be spending your time on this site. Some people do use the app and it does not give you a option to search. People just need to chill. Either way we are all in the same boat.

mrscimino914 · April 2015

Yea I don't see what's rude about sharing how you feel. Unless I missed some discussions, I never see anyone say anything completely out of line. Like how it used to be...

I'm not annoyed with the fact there are 7 of the same discussions being posted everyday, what annoys me is that some of these women are seriously concerned and I don't feel going to the Internet is going to help. If something is scaring you or your concerned you should always call the doctor. You should never be afraid to annoy them, that's what they are there for. We aren't there with them, we are not doctors!! Being a FTM myself it's confusing and difficult because it's all new, but some things should be asked to a doctor and not on here.

Also a lot of things are repetitive on here. It doesn't take much to look and see what other people post because there are always the same discussions on here. And if your talking about that "PSA" discussion that was made earlier. That women was sharing her feelings and others agreed with it. So it's kind of hypocritical to say that's not ok, but the 7 "am I in labor?" Discussions a day are ok and the one or two people that say there are other posts about that and sharing how they feel is rude, just makes no sense. We are all pregnant hormonal women, we all have our own different opinions. they are entitled to there opinion and what they post, like how you are to share your post!!!

LadyBlood · April 2015

jackieblair33 said:
If it is such a waste of your "damn time" to go through a feed that may have repeat questions, maybe you should not be spending your time on this site. Some people do use the app and it does not give you a option to search. People just need to chill. Either way we are all in the same boat.

I exclusively use the app on my phone and there is a search a bar at the bottom of the screen. Just fyi

twodreamers · April 2015

"Benign" is a perfect way to describe the responses in the majority of the posts here. Seriously, a few months ago I was being called a "c" word (among other awful things) for something I added to a post and was a wreck over the opinion of some seriously vile women. This board turned a major corner and has been nothing short of amazing ever since. I'm sorry your experience has been less than amazing.

mrswynn2014 · April 2015

Those of us who were here in January have a very different feel on what rude is. Back then you COULD NOT post anything or you seriously my cry because the responses you got. I don't think people are as rude now. But even if you don't use the search bar, at least check the first few pages. Seriously there were like 3 questions about the mucus plug and bloody show on the first few pages of this board. Next thing you know someone says "Is this normal?" Obviously you don't follow the board very closely if you haven't seen the other posts. We are on here to support each other but if you only get on here to ask your questions and leave, your not using this board to its full advantage, and the questions take up space on the first pages, which push the get to know you threads to the bottom. Just my 2 cents.

ali0608 · April 2015

I think some people are confusing two words: Honest vs. rude.

I have seen some very honest posts. Don't ask for people's opinions and then get mad at their responses.

Also, a few times I have said look at this post so I don't have to type my long answer again. I took a lot of time to explain my induction story but I'm not going to type it out 5 times. That's honest and trying to save time. Not rude.

trishadobel · April 2015

I did want to add one more thing, to anyone who is afraid of bothering their doctor with questions, don't be!!! You are paying them to be bothered, and paying quite a bit I might add. If they didn't want that type of constant questions they should have probably considered that when they were deciding on a medical specialty. I would think that most doctors would understand that dealing with hormonal women on a daily basis would come with lots of questions. Don't ever be afraid to call and ask questions, you are basically the customer in the situation!!

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