Baby Name Trash Talkin'

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

So I decided on a name for my baby girl and I really like it. My family likes it and so does my husband. But my husbands coworkers, who are also my friends and old coworkers, told him they don't like the name at lunch and what was I thinking with that name because they just don't get it. I don't really appreciate that because they are talking about it behind my back and to my husband. It is really none of their business what I name my kid. I am really annoyed....

ktabs · April 2015

My in laws laughed And told us to make sure to sign him up for self defense classes

AmyPrieto14 · April 2015

Its really non of their business on what you want yo name your child. They should keep it to themselves if they don't like it.

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

ktabs said:
My in laws laughed And told us to make sure to sign him up for self defense classes

Some people are just unoriginal. Ignore that shit

CANTW82BMOM · April 2015

I never knew how rude people were about what other people decide to name their own kids. Smh.

irelandsangel81 · April 2015

What are you naming your LO?

I have to say that no matter what we all say everyone here has probably judged the name of a baby/child/adult at some point in time. We have all probably had a "what were they thinking moment?" That being said people should be more tactful about their reactions. But at the same time if you are picking a really "younique" name then you should be expecting it and your kid will be teased growing up. Not saying that it's right but that's just how it is.

Ckorines · April 2015

irelandsangel81 said:
What are you naming your LO?

I have to say that no matter what we all say everyone here has probably judged the name of a baby/child/adult at some point in time. We have all probably had a "what were they thinking moment?" That being said people should be more tactful about their reactions. But at the same time if you are picking a really "younique" name then you should be expecting it and your kid will be teased growing up. Not saying that it's right but that's just how it is.

I have to disagree. I don't ever expect people to make fun of my kid or tease them. I teach my kids not to be assholes and would hope that the people we surround ourselves with to do the same.

oneblessedmess · April 2015

Ckorines said:

irelandsangel81 said:
What are you naming your LO?

I have to say that no matter what we all say everyone here has probably judged the name of a baby/child/adult at some point in time. We have all probably had a "what were they thinking moment?" That being said people should be more tactful about their reactions. But at the same time if you are picking a really "younique" name then you should be expecting it and your kid will be teased growing up. Not saying that it's right but that's just how it is.
I have to disagree. I don't ever expect people to make fun of my kid or tease them. I teach my kids not to be assholes and would hope that the people we surround ourselves with to do the same.

I think expect is the wrong word. More like... Be prepared. You can teach your kid not to be an asshole all you want- Doesn't mean other people will do the same, not does it mean your child will automatically grow up to be a model citizen. Kids make mistakes and can be mean without even really intending to be.

I grew up in a city notorious for having awful drivers. Did I EXPECT to get in a car accident every time I got in a car? No. Did I prepare myself and my passengers just in case it did happen? Yep. Even though I know I am a good driver I can't expect everyone I come in contact with to be the same.

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

Do you mean "unique"? Yeah, kids can be mean and will be mean but I don't have to change what I choose to suit other people's opinions. It's an opinion and if they have issues with it they can tell me to my face, not talk behind my back about it. It is small of adults to make such a big deal about something that has absolutely nothing to do with them.

Ckorines · April 2015

@ccarrozza1 lol. I'm glad you said it. Ignore the shade. If you are happy with the name then just own it. I'm sure it's fabulous.

kyrenora · April 2015

ccarrozza1 said:
Do you mean "unique"? Yeah, kids can be mean and will be mean but I don't have to change what I choose to suit other people's opinions. It's an opinion and if they have issues with it they can tell me to my face, not talk behind my back about it. It is small of adults to make such a big deal about something that has absolutely nothing to do with them.

"younique" or "youneek" is a slang term that's seen on many pregnancy forums. It typically refers to a name that is entirely made up.

irelandsangel81 · April 2015

ccarrozza1 said:
Do you mean "unique"? Yeah, kids can be mean and will be mean but I don't have to change what I choose to suit other people's opinions. It's an opinion and if they have issues with it they can tell me to my face, not talk behind my back about it. It is small of adults to make such a big deal about something that has absolutely nothing to do with them.

No I meant younique. As PP said it's a term used for names to be made up.

And I'm sorry but I find it hard to believe you have never side eyed someone's name or name choice of their child. Even if only in ur own home and as a conversation with your family and friends. And I have to say I've been teaching for 9 years and children's names and unique spelling of names is a main topic of conversation behind closed doors.

And as I stated people definitely need to be more tactful when speaking to you about the name you choose for your child. You are correct they have no say in what you name your child. But at the same time they have a right to their opinion and you can't expect people to not talk about it behind your back of its a name that isn't usually heard or spelled in a different way.

You can raise your children to not be ass holes all you want but truth of the matter is most kids will follow a crowd and make fun of weird and unusual names. So be prepared.

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

I don't think it's weird nor is it a made up name but I understand your point. I am not concerned with what will happen or won't happen. In fact, everyone is entitled to their opinion but I think it's better to tell people to their face instead of behind their backs. I have actually had my Italian friend ask me about the name and tell me she thinks I should chose a more traditional name like Marilyn. I had no issue with that at all. We all have opinions.

beeish · April 2015

My son has a very unique name and I can care less what anyone thinks of it. I get looks every time. It doesn't matter if the the name is unique or common people will always judge. If not the persons name the way they act, dress etc.

crf4 · April 2015

Sometimes in life all we have is our name on a piece of paper (think resume) for a first impression. Don't be naive to think that every "Neveah" isn't going to get at the very least an eye roll from the person hiring. I have never understood the thought process behind "special" names.

abbymessina · April 2015

@crf4. Well thanks! We were thinking of naming our daughter Nevaeh

aerod19 · April 2015

Who. Cares. Name em what you want and move on. My MIL hates our baby name, which makes me love it even more.

babydoll1008 · April 2015

A lot of people were hoping we would have a boy because they hated our girl name choice. It got on my nerves because it just really isn't their business. After awhile, they would say they didn't like it and I would say, "good thing your opinion doesn't really matter." Yeah, it's harsh but good grief! They need to think about what they are saying to the sacred vessel who is gaining weight, losing sleep, having trouble breathing, deals with 24/7 indigestion etc before opening their mouth like what they say matters

So tell your old co workers to suck it lol!

AmommyB · April 2015

We have received very hot and cold responses on our name choice. I do have to say it bothers me when people ask the name and then talk shit. If I volunteer the name, sure. I can understand then that I may be opening myself up for criticism but I think if you ask someone what they are naming their baby be tactful for God's sake. Just because you hate it doesn't mean you have to share your opinion. That's the problem these days. Everyone feels the need to weigh in on every decision regardless of how important. Honestly how hard is it to just say "that's nice." To someone?

My two cents at least. Good luck!

oneblessedmess · April 2015

This is part of the reason why we haven't told anyone LO's name. My co-workers keep asking and I just say we haven't decided yet, even though we're pretty much down to just two names. And they aren't weird names at all (Gianna and Naomi, middle name Marie) but I learned that even the most normal names can get negative comments. In the beginning we were considering Charlotte and I casually mentioned it to my mom, whose first comments were "That's a white people name!" and "Reminds me of harlot." Sooo yeah. Don't sweat it OP!

crf4 · April 2015

abbymessina said:
@crf4. Well thanks! We were thinking of naming our daughter Nevaeh

You're joking right? Because taking a word and spelling it backwards doesn't make you or your child look educated. It's not cute, it's embarrassing.

abbymessina · April 2015

You are the type of person which people are referring to who don't know how to keep their opinions of someone else's child's name choice to themselves.

Ckorines · April 2015

We named our first daughter Kallista and call her Kalli. People said things like, "great name. she sounds like a cat." I would usually respond with something like, "great advice. you sound like an asshole."

Truth is. We loved the name and no one could make us change it. No ignorant comment would have us sway our decision. Find a name you like, and own it. Everyone else can piss off.

princesslockness · April 2015

Ckorines said:
We named our first daughter Kallista and call her Kalli. People said things like, "great name. she sounds like a cat." I would usually respond with something like, "great advice. you sound like an asshole."

Truth is. We loved the name and no one could make us change it. No ignorant comment would have us sway our decision. Find a name you like, and own it. Everyone else can piss off.

Naming a child is a personal choice, telling future bosses to 'piss off' because it's something that you like is not very good for your child.
Now I don't know what name you have picked, but if it is out there be prepared to have them laughed at when they submit a resume. In the real world names that are spelled differently or made up cause employers to either laugh or just toss that application.

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

Kate08Young said:

Ckorines said:
We named our first daughter Kallista and call her Kalli. People said things like, "great name. she sounds like a cat." I would usually respond with something like, "great advice. you sound like an asshole."

Truth is. We loved the name and no one could make us change it. No ignorant comment would have us sway our decision. Find a name you like, and own it. Everyone else can piss off.
Naming a child is a personal choice, telling future bosses to 'piss off' because it's something that you like is not very good for your child.
Now I don't know what name you have picked, but if it is out there be prepared to have them laughed at when they submit a resume. In the real world names that are spelled differently or made up cause employers to either laugh or just toss that application.

She just said what name she picked and there is nothing strange about it. Why are you all being so negative? Surely there are more pressing issues in the world....

AmommyB · April 2015

The whole resume argument is stupid. If an employer is going to throw out my resume specifically because of my name and won't consider my credentials then they are probably a massive dick that i wouldn't want to work for anyway. And besides, you don't have to nessesarily put your birth certificate given name on your resume. A lot of people go by their middle names or even a nickname. There's no rules that you have to follow. I've also done my share of hiring and while yes, some names are strange I'm not shallow where I would judge a person by their name. A decent employer will want someone with good qualifications and won't hold a name against an applicant.

Ckorines · April 2015

@Kate08Young after giving birth to my daughter, someone told me that if you ever want to see the truest reflection of yourself-to look at your child. My daughter is the kindest and most accepting person I know. And do you know why? Because My husband and I made her that way. She is in a preschool class with kids who have "different" names and she does not judge them. Because she doesn't know they are different. Because her father and I don't make them seem different.

Any adult who doesn't do the same is not someone who I would want her working for anyway.

(For the record, I made no mention of an employer so I'm not sure where you are getting this from. I hope you don't hire people because your emphasis is on the wrong details. You may miss a great candidate by focusing on the minutiae.)

smellman8 · April 2015

When we finally settled on the boys name, everyone turned their attention on me and started tearing apart his name. We chose to name him Reyden Lee after both DH's brother and my brother. They started getting after me about why we didn't name him Jr when it was DH'S pick. It really broke my heart because with all 4 of my sister in laws pregnancies I have been nothing but supportive of their choices and for them to just NEGATIVELY put their 2 cents in. I can take constructive criticism but when it came to our decision of naming our son I went to the bathroom to cry and as of right now I hate my in laws. I know once Reyden comes he'll be showered with love but right now it just stings.

stormyyautumn · April 2015

I have to agree with the fact that kids will be kids and no matter how well you raise your child there are ALWAYS going to be bullies in the school systems with the parents who don't raise them right. You really have to think of your kid in these situations because at the end of the day, they are the ones who have to deal with it. It's fine if you don't give a shit about what others think, but you're the adult and not the one who has to go to school every day with mean little assholes that make up rude and nasty nicknames.

Think of the name from all angles. At the end of the day, it is ultimately your choice but just as it was stated earlier, it's naive to think that others aren't going to talk about it behind your back because opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.

But again, if it isn't something crazy and off the wall then I wouldn't worry about it too much. This is why we aren't telling anyone our LO name until she is born. It's an uncommon and somewhat old fashioned name, and we would rather not hear everyones opinions about it.

grlplz · April 2015

I have mixed feelings about all of this. 1. It is your business and only yours on what you decide to name your child. But 2. I do laugh at babies named Apple or North or Blanket. Would I ever tell their parents what a joke it is? No, it's not my decision or place. As long as you and hubby are happy than no worries. I would encourage him to tell his co-workers that it's a name the TWO of you decided on and they are being rude making fun if you and the name in front of him. My other thoughts are my son's are named Landon and Porter (haven't decided on a name for Third Born yet) and while they are not too out there or made up they are not your Jack and John. I do worry that someone some day may decide they would rather hire someone with a typical name. Another thing I think of is spelling. I think my Porter has a better chance than a Poorder or even a Jayack. My nephew is named Jackson and she almost spelt it Jaxon or Jaxson. No offense intended but if it comes down to equal qualifications on a job and equally impressive interviews the deciding factor can come down to something as stupid as handwriting or even names.

Naming kids is getting too hard these days. You don't want something to be too common but you don't want something too out there either. It's a big deal and a big responsibility. I see people auctioning off the right to name there child and it makes me role my eyes. It's not something to be taken lightly. But it's also not anyone's place to tell you what to do. Like I said, I have a lot of mixed opinions on this.

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

Ok. So I will tell you all the name. It's Vega Sforza Lazar. Vega is the fifth brightest star in the sky. I found out there is a holiday in Japan that celebrates Vega around the time of her birth. Also, Sforza is my choice for middle name and it my grandmother's maiden name. It means force or strength. I don't think it's odd, strange or made up. My last name is Italian but I wanted something that sounded nice with my husband's last name and something that had some meaning for me.

Ckorines · April 2015

I love it! Vega is beautiful. I am Spanish and have family that has used that name!

Our first daughter is Kallista and our second daughter will be named Gabriella. We lost our second baby to a missed miscarriage, and I fell apart. Gabriella means "a message from God". I almost lost hope after losing our second child, and then suddenly received news that we were expecting again. She is our message from God. And anyone who does not like the name, can suck it.

gotdiesel2007 · April 2015

I'm certainly no poster child for normal or names spelled correctly. I gave a Dathan, a Ryen and soon an Oryn. So I'm all for doing what you want to a degree. I mean my name is Skyye, my mom is Starre and my brother is Jarryd. I love "younique" names and tell my husband all the time he should have took my last name since it's so common and we've run into three people with the same full name as him and it's caused some confusion with debt collectors and things on base.

stormyyautumn · April 2015

How do you pronounce the middle name? I feel like middle names aren't that big of a deal.. especially since they don't really get used that often. I'm going to be honest, I don't like Vega... but I also don't think it's something crazy and off the wall like Dinosaur Cowboy either (yes, a friend of a friend actually named their son that.) I would say, go for it! & I like that there is so much meaning behind the middle name.

hilarym7 · April 2015

Love the name Vega!!! So pretty!

When people share their names on here and I don't like them I just don't comment on the post. Coming up with a name is hard and to have people stomp all over it is frustrating and (at least for me) makes me second guess the name.

I think something very important to think of when naming a baby is professionalism. Why make it harder on your child to get a job? First impression is everything. It's naive to say employers wouldn't get a first impression from reading a resume from someone named "Ro'yale" and you can't blame them for that or say they're a bad company. They are just trying to keep professionalism within the company and I'm sorry but Ro'yale does not sound professional nor look professional. My job consisted of hiring for a downtown hotel. While I never discriminated over a name I have seen PLENTY of the employees get discriminated against by rude guests. "Oh Ro'yale? Let me speak with somebody else!" type of thing. I think the bigger worry here is not what the kids have to say but what the prick adults have to say when he/she gets older

With all that being said...Vega is not spelled weird, it does not sound weird, I can ABSOLUTELY see it in a professional setting! It's a really beautiful name and I see nothing wrong with it!

hilarym7 · April 2015

Btw yes, I do know someone named Ro'yale.

stormyyautumn · April 2015

hilarym7 said:
Love the name Vega!!! So pretty!

When people share their names on here and I don't like them I just don't comment on the post. Coming up with a name is hard and to have people stomp all over it is frustrating and (at least for me) makes me second guess the name.

I think something very important to think of when naming a baby is professionalism. Why make it harder on your child to get a job? First impression is everything. It's naive to say employers wouldn't get a first impression from reading a resume from someone named "Ro'yale" and you can't blame them for that or say they're a bad company. They are just trying to keep professionalism within the company and I'm sorry but Ro'yale does not sound professional nor look professional. My job consisted of hiring for a downtown hotel. While I never discriminated over a name I have seen PLENTY of the employees get discriminated against by rude guests. "Oh Ro'yale? Let me speak with somebody else!" type of thing. I think the bigger worry here is not what the kids have to say but what the prick adults have to say when he/she gets older

With all that being said...Vega is not spelled weird, it does not sound weird, I can ABSOLUTELY see it in a professional setting! It's a really beautiful name and I see nothing wrong with it!

If you can't handle honestly on a forum, then you shouldn't post on the forum. I'm going to be honest because I would expect someone to be honest with me. There's really no reason to get all sensitive over peoples opinions on the internet because at the end of the day it doesn't matter what the hell I think... and how can you say it doesn't have much to do with what the kids will say???? Who gives a shit what people say once you're an adult, you can handle it... kids are mean! & a lot of times bullying can be mentally damaging to a child. I think it's ridiculous to not take into consideration what kids will say.

daniellehoying · April 2015

I think it's easy for someone to dislike a name that doesn't have anything attached to it (in their eyes), so we are keeping our names to ourselves, bc no one is going to look at a baby & say oh wow that's an awful name!!
Plus, the beauty of it is that it's your choice, not theirs!

Thera888 · April 2015

Ok here comes opinion from somebody whose name bring occasional problems.. I'm coming from Latvia and my name is Lolita. It is old Latvian name and been used for very long time, but you see guy named Nabukov wrote a lovely book about girl named Lolita and now half of all porno industry is using it. So when it comes to finding a new job it's a little bit complicated... Several times I've received phone calls with somebody panting in other side and imagining things while talking to actual Lolita.. And then other stuff like "what your parents where thinking when they gave you this name?" I absolutely love my name but there has been "more than once" I've considered changing it, because of all this nonsense.. So when you name your baby think about his/hers future, baby naming trends are changing very often but your child will live with it for rest of his/hers life.

haayitstayy · April 2015

Everyone has been trash talking the spelling of my sons name because I want to spell it bo Instead of beau

ccarrozza1 · April 2015

Ckorines said:
I love it! Vega is beautiful. I am Spanish and have family that has used that name!

Our first daughter is Kallista and our second daughter will be named Gabriella. We lost our second baby to a missed miscarriage, and I fell apart. Gabriella means "a message from God". I almost lost hope after losing our second child, and then suddenly received news that we were expecting again. She is our message from God. And anyone who does not like the name, can suck it.

That's beautiful!

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