My weekly UO is that these are rarely UO's but more like vent threads. Spice it up, ladies!
Oh I've got one for you. I am all for maternal leave rights and benefits and think the US does a shitty job taking care of parents and babies in regard BUT when I drove away from my screaming newborn at 3.5 weeks to go back to work it was all I could do not to lean my head out the window and let a good "FREEDOM!" rip. I love my kids, they are the most important thing in my life but I'm a better parent when I am working and get to leave them with someone else for periods of time. I don't have any family that helps so I can only take this time by working. I read all these threads with people taking about whether 12 weeks will be enough bonding at home and I feel guilty knowing I'll be back at work 20-30 hours a week pretty quickly. I work evenings and am as creative as possible about it so I can be there for everyone. This surprise 2nd baby is the greatest blessing I can imagine but I am still excited for that first day when I get to drive away and go be with adults. Flame away.
PS - I will continue to fight with all I have for maternal rights in the US. I am not a jerk, just a bad mom
My weekly UO is that these are rarely UO's but more like vent threads. Spice it up, ladies!
I really did think that I was in the minority about the elective ultrasounds. It seemed like so many people were getting them, and excited to get them, I thought I was weird. I fully expected to get flamed, or at a minimum - 'how could you NOT want to see your precious all the time! Squee!'
I roll my eyes a bit at the elective ultrasounds, but I'm basically a big fat hypocrite as I did technically have one - one of DHs coworkers at his last job is an ultrasonographer and when they couldn't tell the sex at our anatomy scan, she offered to take a quick peek for us. But if that opportunity hadn't been there then I wouldn't have gone out of my way to arrange another scan - whilst I wanted to know, it really wasn't a big deal if I had to wait until he was born.
My UO is I hate my sister in law. (DH brothers wife). She hijacked my wedding 2 yrs ago and got a dress off the rack And married in 4 months just to get married before us...... and now she's due 9 days after me. Can I get a break here? She's so annoying with her endless viewpoints on cloth diapering, how many books she's read on pregnancy and how she's such an artist she's drawing every pic for her nursery......... I just wanna be done with her. She's like a pinterest nightmare and yes I've done the right thing and always attended all her shit (showers etc...) but sometimes it's exhausting and I want to say...... I have my own shit going on. Hmm so I believe I'm unpopular here in that ppl will say it's just a 'coincidence' that everything keeps happening at the same time for us ....
I have the same SIL... Kind of scared to say too much because I wouldn't put it past her to somehow find this post and use it to throw herself a pity party. Let's just say she likes attention and doesn't like for other women family members to have any... Let's also say she had an engagement party, 3 bridal showers and a bachelorette party and expected hers to be the only wedding to happen for the next 5 years. She sobbed when she found out I was pregnant before her. An actual tantrum was thrown. So no you aren't alone. Oh and did I mention she is due in September? :-?
@henrytviii in don't think you're a bad mom. I think your parenting style is just different. FWIW - I probably would do the same thing. I'm honestly afraid of being home with baby days upon days upon days. I'm a person who likes to be solitary, or at least get away from the same old, same old. I would definitely consider work a break. I'm afraid of being a SAHM.
My weekly UO is that these are rarely UO's but more like vent threads. Spice it up, ladies!
I really did think that I was in the minority about the elective ultrasounds. It seemed like so many people were getting them, and excited to get them, I thought I was weird. I fully expected to get flamed, or at a minimum - 'how could you NOT want to see your precious all the time! Squee!'
I just can't wrap my head around wanting a painfully full bladder for an ultrasound that's not medically needed. Maybe I just over drank water but to me that was the worst torture imaginable. And then the tech was like poking at it with the wand... Oh God. [-(
Alright @amark11 challenge accepted. Possible UO: I don't think it's mean to pierce a baby's ears. My mom did it at the earliest she possibly could and I've always loved my pierced ears. As a little girl I loved that I had jewelry like my mom and will probably do the same for LO.
while i dont care either way.. i just really suggest you get it done at an actual piercing shop. not just a claire's or other boutique that uses the gun.
There's a plastic surgeon in my area that does them but not until 1 years old.
Wow. A plastic surgeon?!
I should probably clarify and add plastic surgeon's office...so who knows if the actual MD does them.
I think mine is actually gonna be an UO. Please be nice, my feelings hurt easily :-SS
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
ETA: I like the idea of not telling anyone you had your baby until you're ready for visitors (if that alone time is so important to you) but telling people and then being like "but you can't visit" just seems cruel to me. I remember just about jumping out of my skin waiting to meet my nephew, I would've been devastated if my sister was like "NOPE, you can't".
I think mine is actually gonna be an UO. Please be nice, my feelings hurt easily :-SS
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
i understand both sides tbh. im a total introvert, and big groups of people are a nightmare. i like to be left alone to do my own thing and in a way i find it annoying when people make a big deal out of things i find unecessary (like the typical "omg you look so thin" or whatever) so while i dont think i want any visitors at the hospital, i dont think i have a choice based on my conscience.
adding: there is a difference between wanting to share joy and being overwhelming, especially based on the event that just occured. my MIL is hella clingy so i know she will probably be quite annoying and i can see her overstaying her welcome in the room. ill have to get DH to mediate for me "she is tired, lets let her and baby sleep"
I think mine is actually gonna be an UO. Please be nice, my feelings hurt easily :-SS
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
i understand both sides tbh. im a total introvert, and big groups of people are a nightmare. i like to be left alone to do my own thing and in a way i find it annoying when people make a big deal out of things i find unecessary (like the typical "omg you look so thin" or whatever) so while i dont think i want any visitors at the hospital, i dont think i have a choice based on my conscience.
adding: there is a difference between wanting to share joy and being overwhelming, especially based on the event that just occured. my MIL is hella clingy so i know she will probably be quite annoying and i can see her overstaying her welcome in the room. ill have to get DH to mediate for me "she is tired, lets let her and baby sleep"
I totally get that. I don't mean like, pop the baby out and welcome the town parade into your room. I just think some people take it too far, that's all.
I'm am probably the minority here, but my UO is the "going home outfit". I don't get it. With DS I just picked something from his closet. I'll do the same with this one too. Does it really matter what he/she has on for the car ride home??????? :-/
I don't see a problem with "stealing" a name. I also don't think a name can be stolen, it's not a corporate trademark. Every parent should be able to give their kid whatever name they like, yes even if your cousin named her kid that last year.
Maybe not the most UO ever but I'm just going to say it...do we really need to have a board split up into time categories? Babies don't come on their EDDs, hense the 'E'. Not to mention we have a symptoms thread every day. Maybe I'm being bitter because I don't have DD twin, but still, must we?
when is your due date? cant tell if i missed it in one of those more specific or if you just havent shared it :S
I think mine is actually gonna be an UO. Please be nice, my feelings hurt easily :-SS
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
ETA: I like the idea of not telling anyone you had your baby until you're ready for visitors (if that alone time is so important to you) but telling people and then being like "but you can't visit" just seems cruel to me. I remember just about jumping out of my skin waiting to meet my nephew, I would've been devastated if my sister was like "NOPE, you can't".
Love this. And I want to add those people who demand people produce vaccinations records for a visit ( it's one thing to request a caregiver to be updated but every single visitor give me a break!)
I don't see a problem with "stealing" a name. I also don't think a name can be stolen, it's not a corporate trademark. Every parent should be able to give their kid whatever name they like, yes even if your cousin named her kid that last year.
I agree you can't steal a name. You're right on all your points. But, it would annoy me all right if I shared my name about and someone used it when they were initially not talking about using it, it wasn't even on their radar.
Anyone else appreciating the irony of the ultrasounds thread?!
Why why why?!?!?! A 4th one?! Seriously?! I almost replied but couldn't in fear Id be kicked out lol
I was annoyed when they made me go back a second time because they missed a few pictures during my anatomy scan! And that was medically indicated! Who would request additional ones I don't get it?!!
Anyone else appreciating the irony of the ultrasounds thread?!
Why why why?!?!?! A 4th one?! Seriously?! I almost replied but couldn't in fear Id be kicked out lol
I was annoyed when they made me go back a second time because they missed a few pictures during my anatomy scan! And that was medically indicated! Who would request additional ones I don't get it?!!
Exactly! I had to get one at 28 weeks to check growth since she measured me smaller and yeah I was a little excited to see baby again but then when we got out doctor mentioned the tech didn't get a look at the placenta which she wanted too and I had to go back in and get a vaginal one done. Ugh I was so over it! It was awesome to see how much she had changed since 18 weeks but It wouldn't have killed me to wait until the birth to see her again
Alright @amark11 challenge accepted. Possible UO: I don't think it's mean to pierce a baby's ears. My mom did it at the earliest she possibly could and I've always loved my pierced ears. As a little girl I loved that I had jewelry like my mom and will probably do the same for LO.
while i dont care either way.. i just really suggest you get it done at an actual piercing shop. not just a claire's or other boutique that uses the gun.
As a woman with several piercings and tattoos, I consider piercing guns a big no-no as well.
Maybe not the most UO ever but I'm just going to say it...do we really need to have a board split up into time categories? Babies don't come on their EDDs, hense the 'E'. Not to mention we have a symptoms thread every day. Maybe I'm being bitter because I don't have DD twin, but still, must we?
when is your due date? cant tell if i missed it in one of those more specific or if you just havent shared it :S
Due on the 7th of June if all goes well. If LO doesn't show improvement in growth, I will deliver at 38 weeks which is the last week of May, I think.
I think mine is actually gonna be an UO. Please be nice, my feelings hurt easily :-SS
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
ETA: I like the idea of not telling anyone you had your baby until you're ready for visitors (if that alone time is so important to you) but telling people and then being like "but you can't visit" just seems cruel to me. I remember just about jumping out of my skin waiting to meet my nephew, I would've been devastated if my sister was like "NOPE, you can't".
I was more the merrier with my twins! I even had my little nephews and nieces visit, during December! My boys were fine. It was a little overwhelming having a room full of people already in my room when they carted me in from recovery. Just a few things I would want to do differently this time but I still want lots of visitors! Honestly, I would get too bored with no visitors. But I'm also a c-section Mom and will be in the hospital for 4/5 days.
Alright @amark11 challenge accepted. Possible UO: I don't think it's mean to pierce a baby's ears. My mom did it at the earliest she possibly could and I've always loved my pierced ears. As a little girl I loved that I had jewelry like my mom and will probably do the same for LO.
while i dont care either way.. i just really suggest you get it done at an actual piercing shop. not just a claire's or other boutique that uses the gun.
As a woman with several piercings and tattoos, I consider piercing guns a big no-no as well.
i had my 1st holes done by guns at 2 years old, now i cant wear certain ear jewelry (i have stretched ears) due to the angle of them
Alright @amark11 challenge accepted. Possible UO: I don't think it's mean to pierce a baby's ears. My mom did it at the earliest she possibly could and I've always loved my pierced ears. As a little girl I loved that I had jewelry like my mom and will probably do the same for LO.
while i dont care either way.. i just really suggest you get it done at an actual piercing shop. not just a claire's or other boutique that uses the gun.
As a woman with several piercings and tattoos, I consider piercing guns a big no-no as well.
i had my 1st holes done by guns at 2 years old, now i cant wear certain ear jewelry (i have stretched ears) due to the angle of them
and yay! another tattooed/pierced mama!
I have my first hole stretched to a 12g (I have multiple piercings in my ears so that's all of the room I have), one of my ears had issues taking the stretch because of volcanoing from a gun too. Not fun at all, I think piercing guns shouldn't be a thing.
Also...I love seeing tatted/pierced moms and moms-to-be. Although, I totally get the side eye from people at the store...
Alright @amark11 challenge accepted. Possible UO: I don't think it's mean to pierce a baby's ears. My mom did it at the earliest she possibly could and I've always loved my pierced ears. As a little girl I loved that I had jewelry like my mom and will probably do the same for LO.
while i dont care either way.. i just really suggest you get it done at an actual piercing shop. not just a claire's or other boutique that uses the gun.
As a woman with several piercings and tattoos, I consider piercing guns a big no-no as well.
i had my 1st holes done by guns at 2 years old, now i cant wear certain ear jewelry (i have stretched ears) due to the angle of them
and yay! another tattooed/pierced mama!
Another tattooed mama here, too. I was actually working on finding an artist here for my next tattoo(s) when I had to cancel that mission because I found out the BFP. No tattoos while preggers :-<
Mellymar said: Another tattooed mama here, too. I was actually working on finding an artist here for my next tattoo(s) when I had to cancel that mission because I found out the BFP. No tattoos while preggers :-<
Same thing happened to me. I had my drawing complete and deposit down a week later I found out I was pregnant. Good news is I hear you can get them even if you're breast feeding. I may wait a couple of months first to lose some weight first. So excited to get it done. It's a cover up piece. The new piece has so much more meaning and is being done by a far more talented artist. Getting all twitterpated just talking about it.
Anyone else appreciating the irony of the ultrasounds thread?!
Why why why?!?!?! A 4th one?! Seriously?! I almost replied but couldn't in fear Id be kicked out lol
I was annoyed when they made me go back a second time because they missed a few pictures during my anatomy scan! And that was medically indicated! Who would request additional ones I don't get it?!!
Exactly! I had to get one at 28 weeks to check growth since she measured me smaller and yeah I was a little excited to see baby again but then when we got out doctor mentioned the tech didn't get a look at the placenta which she wanted too and I had to go back in and get a vaginal one done. Ugh I was so over it! It was awesome to see how much she had changed since 18 weeks but It wouldn't have killed me to wait until the birth to see her again
I have ultrasounds every single week and the past few times I have fallen asleep. I hate the cold gel and the not so friendly technicians that I try so hard to talk to.
Mellymar said: Another tattooed mama here, too. I was actually working on finding an artist here for my next tattoo(s) when I had to cancel that mission because I found out the BFP. No tattoos while preggers :-<
Same thing happened to me. I had my drawing complete and deposit down a week later I found out I was pregnant. Good news is I hear you can get them even if you're breast feeding. I may wait a couple of months first to lose some weight first. So excited to get it done. It's a cover up piece. The new piece has so much more meaning and is being done by a far more talented artist. Getting all twitterpated just talking about it.
Edited bc of quote failure.
yes. this. ive been getting 1 tattoo every summer since i turned 17, (got 3 last summer) and i already have my next ones planned, just need to lose a bit and get the money
My UO is I hate my sister in law. (DH brothers wife). She hijacked my wedding 2 yrs ago and got a dress off the rack And married in 4 months just to get married before us...... and now she's due 9 days after me. Can I get a break here? She's so annoying with her endless viewpoints on cloth diapering, how many books she's read on pregnancy and how she's such an artist she's drawing every pic for her nursery......... I just wanna be done with her. She's like a pinterest nightmare and yes I've done the right thing and always attended all her shit (showers etc...) but sometimes it's exhausting and I want to say...... I have my own shit going on. Hmm so I believe I'm unpopular here in that ppl will say it's just a 'coincidence' that everything keeps happening at the same time for us ....
That is annoying. It may be true that it's just happening at the same time, but annoying. Validated.
Re: Unpopular Opinion (U/O) Thursday!
PS - I will continue to fight with all I have for maternal rights in the US. I am not a jerk, just a bad mom
[-(
People are so mean about family seeing their new born baby. Like I get that you want time with your new baby and its YOUR new addition, but stop hating family members and friends for wanting to join in on your joy!!! I've read things like people making their family wait hours in the waiting room after delivery just because they want time alone with their baby. Okay, yes, get cleaned up, have you skin to skin. But stop being so rude about having visitors. I'm sure they could be anywhere else, doing anything else yet they chose to be in a hospital waiting to share your joy.
ETA: I like the idea of not telling anyone you had your baby until you're ready for visitors (if that alone time is so important to you) but telling people and then being like "but you can't visit" just seems cruel to me. I remember just about jumping out of my skin waiting to meet my nephew, I would've been devastated if my sister was like "NOPE, you can't".
adding: there is a difference between wanting to share joy and being overwhelming, especially based on the event that just occured.
my MIL is hella clingy so i know she will probably be quite annoying and i can see her overstaying her welcome in the room. ill have to get DH to mediate for me "she is tired, lets let her and baby sleep"
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
and yay! another tattooed/pierced mama!
Also...I love seeing tatted/pierced moms and moms-to-be. Although, I totally get the side eye from people at the store...
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Same thing happened to me. I had my drawing complete and deposit down a week later I found out I was pregnant. Good news is I hear you can get them even if you're breast feeding. I may wait a couple of months first to lose some weight first. So excited to get it done. It's a cover up piece. The new piece has so much more meaning and is being done by a far more talented artist. Getting all twitterpated just talking about it.
Edited bc of quote failure.
Edited bc of quote failure.
yes. this. ive been getting 1 tattoo every summer since i turned 17, (got 3 last summer) and i already have my next ones planned, just need to lose a bit and get the money